https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ugh-really Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Wed, 22 Apr 2026 15:15:54 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ugh-really/page/2#post-1093049 Thu, 21 Nov 2013 13:29:18 +0000 BlondeAmbition 1093049@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I admit to not liking some of the trends either, but that doesn't mean that women shouldn't wear them. &nbsp;A woman should wear whatever makes her feel good without scorn. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ugh-really/page/2#post-1092416 Wed, 20 Nov 2013 22:56:35 +0000 Mo 1092416@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It's just a silly article to me, no more no less. &nbsp;But I admit to not liking half of those trends, either lol. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ugh-really/page/2#post-1092398 Wed, 20 Nov 2013 22:33:31 +0000 Echo 1092398@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>And how many of us have married men who had no fashion sense whatsoever? Or was that just me? Regardless, my DH would be happy wearing his ratty sweatshirts and t-shirts and the same Levi's from 20 year ago if they still fit or had not fallen apart. The way he dressed obviously didn't affect how I felt about him; he even had a MULLET when we got married!</p> <p>Yes, yes, I've heard all the crap about men being "visual creatures", but I call BS. I wouldn't have married a guy who wasn't as smart as I was or who was completely wrapped up in external appearances. When I wear something he thinks is strange, he just smiles and we go on our way. He knows it's still me under those clothes. I give most men more credit than to write someone off for wearing a peplum. And if they do, then they aren't worth my time anyway. (Although in reality, peplums DO make me look pregnant...) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ugh-really/page/2#post-1092336 Wed, 20 Nov 2013 21:32:31 +0000 Gaylene 1092336@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Anna, that Slate article nailed it. Likes and dislikes are what keep us from being clones. Would you really be happy with a guy who disliked everything that made you happy? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ugh-really/page/2#post-1092328 Wed, 20 Nov 2013 21:24:26 +0000 Irene 1092328@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>LOL</p> <p>To be honest with you all, <i>I</i> don't get most of these trends either. I don't date women so I can't say "this wouldn't be a deal breaker for me", but I really don't think it would be, if I did date women. </p> <p>I don't read it as a 'this doesn't look sexy to men, why do you wear it' article, but more like a 'why are you wearing uncomfortable shoes?' questioning.</p> <p>Which is something maybe we should do. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ugh-really/page/2#post-1092307 Wed, 20 Nov 2013 21:05:00 +0000 Anonymous 1092307@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><b>QUOTE FROM LA BELLE DEMIMONDAINE: Seriously, I don't know any guy who is this picky about how a woman dresses - who isn't a fashionista himself. And the fashionista guys I know who </b><i><b>are</b></i><b> that picky... just aren't interested in me in </b><i><b>that way</b></i><b> to begin with.</b></p> <p>So true!<br /> I couldn't have said it better.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ugh-really/page/2#post-1092300 Wed, 20 Nov 2013 20:57:14 +0000 Diana 1092300@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I know this girl who used to write this type of article for a fashion/sex magazine (you know, "20 things he's really thinking about in bed" etc) and she confirmed that they totally embellished and made up quotes all the time.&nbsp; Even the "true stories" that are sent in by readers are doctored up to be more dramatic and funny.&nbsp; So, yeah, don't take it too seriously. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ugh-really/page/2#post-1092296 Wed, 20 Nov 2013 20:53:00 +0000 annagybe 1092296@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Slate had a good take down on it.</p> <p><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.slate.com/blogs/xx_factor/2013/11/20/trends_guys_hate_but_women_love_huffpo_s_listicle_is_insulting_and_false.html">http://www.slate.com/blogs/xx_.....isticle_is</a> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ugh-really/page/2#post-1092143 Wed, 20 Nov 2013 18:54:38 +0000 rae 1092143@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So.... men don't understand women's fashion trends, and what confuses them scares them, and fear makes them lash out with rude comments. <i>We knew this already</i>. How many of us lament that our SOs just. don't. get. something that is clearly super cool? Either you care about what they think or you don't, I guess. It's a choice whether to tone it down to avoid confusing them or not. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ugh-really/page/2#post-1092134 Wed, 20 Nov 2013 18:49:11 +0000 annagybe 1092134@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Cciele that was an awesome take down. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ugh-really/page/2#post-1092129 Wed, 20 Nov 2013 18:44:39 +0000 cciele 1092129@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I always find these types of articles (whether it's "men" commenting on women's clothes, women commenting on women's clothes, women commenting on men's, etc.) rather amusing. I don't take these as advice, just as a window into&nbsp;how crass/silly/clueless/judgmental people can be. And really, it's not only men that feel that way about women's clothing. Women can be worse than men sometimes.</p> <p>Refinery 29 has done one too, but the women respond as to why they should continue wearing the trends that men don't like:<br /><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.refinery29.com/fashion-trends-men-hate#slide-1">http://www.refinery29.com/fash.....te#slide-1</a> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ugh-really/page/2#post-1092120 Wed, 20 Nov 2013 18:33:05 +0000 rachylou 1092120@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Lol. </p> <p>Ok. But listen, let's be honest. I could never ever have spoken to my bf in his younger days. He was a tri-athlete - 6ft tall, so little fat you could feel his internal organs when you hugged him, and IN SPANDEX.</p> <p>I mean <i>c'mon</i>, people... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ugh-really/page/2#post-1092021 Wed, 20 Nov 2013 17:26:08 +0000 K. Period. 1092021@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'd totally blow off this article. For one thing, my husband really likes at least three of the "no" trends and is neutral on another three. For another, I'm adopting my husband's stance of rightful ire on these things: These "what women/men want/hate/love" articles are always garbage because you can't generalize without getting it wrong for many. We've all got more dimension that generalizations can capture, so just ignore them.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ugh-really#post-1091951 Wed, 20 Nov 2013 16:39:44 +0000 Anonymous 1091951@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm not gonna judge the guys as shallow because hey - they were asked! I think the right partner will appreciate your personal style or just not mind at all. So if anyone has a problem with your outfits it's just weeding out unsuitable dates anyway. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ugh-really#post-1091941 Wed, 20 Nov 2013 16:26:03 +0000 MsMary 1091941@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The thing that really struck me about this "article" was the breathtaking level of meanspiritedness in the comments (which do indeed sound made up).&nbsp; Not only the swearing and the insults, but the unspoken assumption that <i>of course </i>it is utterly appropriate for men to critique women's fashion choices and belittle them for those choices.&nbsp; Ugh.&nbsp;&nbsp;</p> <p>The topper, to me, was "Pantsuits... you're a woman, not a man."&nbsp; Women really can't seem to win!&nbsp; Grrr.... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ugh-really#post-1091929 Wed, 20 Nov 2013 16:17:49 +0000 Amy 1091929@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The article is crass.</p> <p>Some trends might make you seem more intimidating to some guys, so I'd probably keep that in mind when dressing for first dates. When meeting someone for the first time, you want to be yourself, but also approachable, right?</p> <p>FWIW, my husband likes peplums, mullet skirts and I hate to say it, but he'd probably like the side boob shirts, lol. He--and a lot of guys in Seattle--aren't crazy about a lot of makeup, wobbly shoes, etc. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ugh-really#post-1091914 Wed, 20 Nov 2013 16:05:28 +0000 Mary Beth (formerly LBD) 1091914@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Most of the quotes sound made-up, and this reads like one of an infinite number of internet articles trying to grab attention and reader-clicks to generate money from advertisers.</p> <p>Seriously, I don't know any guy who is this picky about how a woman dresses - who isn't a fashionista himself.&nbsp; &nbsp; And the fashionista guys I know who <i>are</i> that picky... just aren't interested in me in <i>that way</i> to begin with.</p> <p>Guys are guys.&nbsp; If you are reasonably attractive (i.e., got all your own teefs, and you make eye contact and aren't scowling when you do), guys are interested.&nbsp; I have been cat-called and hit on in grungy sweatpants, shapeless clothes, and with stringy hair and no makeup.&nbsp; </p> <p>Anna, you are seriously knock-out cute.&nbsp;&nbsp; I really, truly, honestly don't think that a guy is going to walk away from you because you're wearing a peplum top or wedge sneakers.&nbsp;&nbsp; Relax and be you, because you are awesome :)</p> <p>re:&nbsp; Dating foibles.&nbsp; Most guy friends I know just want to be around a girl who makes them feel relaxed, like they are not on trial or an audition as immediate husband/baby-providing fodder, and that they are desired.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ugh-really#post-1091893 Wed, 20 Nov 2013 15:55:11 +0000 Emily 1091893@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ugh is right. &nbsp;This is so subjective. &nbsp;I would like to see their research - I bet the sample size was like 8 dudes. &nbsp;But also, Ditto Aziraphale: LOL mullet skirts. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ugh-really#post-1091888 Wed, 20 Nov 2013 15:50:10 +0000 fieldmouse 1091888@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I don't even wear any of those trends, but I still want to give a big f*** you and a virtual knee to the groin to those guys who made the comments. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ugh-really#post-1091706 Wed, 20 Nov 2013 13:54:50 +0000 BlondeAmbition 1091706@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This was "written" by a woman. &nbsp;So what men is she talking about? &nbsp;No real person is being quoted here, those quotes are as good as made up. &nbsp;It's not even an article, it's a rant on what the author's preferences are on current trends. &nbsp;There's no explanation of why these trends are hated by men, there's no research done on how men actually view women's clothing or what the psychological implications of wearing lipstick are. &nbsp;The quotes are unbelieveably sexist. &nbsp;I mean who says that "her shoulders look like a linebacker" and "hooker makeup" and "her booties have a foreskin?" &nbsp;If this article was written by &nbsp;man I'd think him juvenile. &nbsp;But since it's written by a woman I think she's being misogynistic and destructive. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ugh-really#post-1091664 Wed, 20 Nov 2013 13:20:32 +0000 gryffin 1091664@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I hate the "do" and "don't" articles.&nbsp; I think we just have to say "no" to this type of bias.&nbsp; Everyone should dress their body type, their preferences, there events with appropriateness in mind.&nbsp; If we do that we will look and feel fabuous and that's what people will notice.&nbsp; At least that's what I am planning to do!!&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ugh-really#post-1091571 Wed, 20 Nov 2013 10:58:12 +0000 bella 1091571@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>One of the magazines I read regularly has a section where men comment on women's outfits. I read it because I think the comments are hilarious and reveal how clueless mean are. If the girl has high heels or a&nbsp;revealing top they will say the outfit is&nbsp;sexy even if the last time anyone wore a similar outfit was Madonna circa Material Girl!:)&nbsp;</p> <p>But, I think trendy clothes sometimes intimidate men, and dating is all about first impressions. Of course, anyone who is worth your while will get over it and ask you on a second date anyway. In any case, I don't think this is your situation Anna. I am talking in general.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ugh-really#post-1091537 Wed, 20 Nov 2013 09:28:39 +0000 Anonymous 1091537@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I agree with Nicole and Lucy. And all the guys sound shallow. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ugh-really#post-1091474 Wed, 20 Nov 2013 07:41:31 +0000 Lucy 1091474@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This silly article says nothing about you and your awesome style and everything about the terrible "journalism" of the Huff Post... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ugh-really#post-1091440 Wed, 20 Nov 2013 06:21:52 +0000 Aziraphale 1091440@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>OK, so the article is offensive and a bit stupid&nbsp;and not representative of all men, but I have to say -- "mullet skirt" -- hahahahaaaaaaa </p> <p>That's definitely how I'm going to refer to them now. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ugh-really#post-1091387 Wed, 20 Nov 2013 04:44:34 +0000 peacechick 1091387@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>There is a little truth in this, not all of it, but some. I've found that my male friends prefer subtle makeup to dramatic looks. Bright red lipstick is intimidating (and they don't want it smearing on them). Super high heels, especially the platform stilettos, are right down scary. I think the majority of men are just conservative in terms of fashion.</p> <p>While I am an advocate of dressing for ourselves, in certain circumstances, like first dates, a more conventional style probably increases accessibility. Once past the initial barriers, I think most guys embrace personal style as part of the package. If not, then well, door's that way. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ugh-really#post-1091359 Wed, 20 Nov 2013 04:09:19 +0000 minimalist 1091359@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What Nicole said: "most men don't notice style too much as long as it is genuine and the wearer owns it." </p> <p>A man who's serious about making an authentic connection will look for signs of shared values, and that can happen in ways that don't make sense to us. But mostly, he's going to be very, very flexible on things like floppy hats, peplums and footwear. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ugh-really#post-1091353 Wed, 20 Nov 2013 04:02:55 +0000 Deborah 1091353@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think this type of article is on regular rotation. IT seems every few months there is one like it.&nbsp; The guys, if they really exist, sound rather shallow. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ugh-really#post-1091273 Wed, 20 Nov 2013 02:43:11 +0000 FlorenceFearne 1091273@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This is me blowing a big raspberry to that. I mean, I agree that there's something a little sad about some poor girl trying desperately to wobble along in terribly uncomfortable shoes, but I can't imagine it would be a deal breaker. And the rest of these are ridiculous. "Don't wear hi-lo dresses/sweaters/peplums, because they add bulk and men want to see your shape... BUT WAIT... also don't wear tops that show your bra, sexy heels, or short shorts, because men hate seeing too much of&nbsp;your shape. "</p> <p>I just feel bad that there are women out there honestly torturing themselves, awash with self doubt that somehow, their obvious eye makeup is the reason they can't find a decent guy.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ugh-really#post-1091272 Wed, 20 Nov 2013 02:42:12 +0000 CocoLion 1091272@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What I don't like is the snarky superior tone, it's just not <i>funny</i>. &nbsp;And what's so wrong with revisiting the 80s? &nbsp;Or the 90s? &nbsp;Let's remember the Huff Post is famous for not paying its writers. </p>