https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trying-to-be-braveseeking-your-opinion Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sun, 26 Apr 2026 15:23:56 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trying-to-be-braveseeking-your-opinion/page/2#post-1682938 Tue, 21 Jun 2016 23:30:27 +0000 Gaylene 1682938@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You probably don't need another "You look great in that dress, Manny!", but I'll add to the chorus. </p> <p>I think Janet has nailed it. A knockout dress isn't an everyday dress, but it sure is fun to pull from the closet when you are in the right frame of mind </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trying-to-be-braveseeking-your-opinion/page/2#post-1682784 Tue, 21 Jun 2016 17:53:07 +0000 Kate 1682784@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You look beautiful in that dress, Manny. It flatters your curvy hourglass figure, and I think the side profile looks just fine--no need for shapewear. Wear &amp; enjoy. Love the shortened linen dress too. You have great legs! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trying-to-be-braveseeking-your-opinion/page/2#post-1682747 Tue, 21 Jun 2016 16:48:25 +0000 Maneera 1682747@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks a lot for your wisdom, ladies. I can't thank you all enough. </p> <p>You're all right in your own way. Janet's comment really comes closest to how I actually feel --- a dress like this is a good dress for "better body image day", as she puts it. And I do have quite a few of those. </p> <p>I also whole-heartedly agree with what many of you have pointed out - I need to FEEL GOOD when I wear it, or I won't look good....no matter how fantastic the print. </p> <p>I am determined to experiment a bit with it. Wear it on days I'm feeling 'pretty damn good' about myself and see how the bright colors make me feel &amp; look. I'll report back! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trying-to-be-braveseeking-your-opinion/page/2#post-1682721 Tue, 21 Jun 2016 16:02:51 +0000 Laura (rhubarbgirl) 1682721@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I agree with everyone, you look great and the colors and shape are fab on you. Everyone's environmental norms and comfort with more bodycon looks will vary, but for me a dress like that would be a date night/going out sort of thing, probably not a day dress or something I'd wear to work. </p> <p>I will say that on me at least, I have found ruching around the midsection is less than ideal. It's supposed to be more flattering and 'hide imperfections' but in my experience it just emphasizes the area and adds bulk. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trying-to-be-braveseeking-your-opinion/page/2#post-1682685 Tue, 21 Jun 2016 14:43:56 +0000 celia 1682685@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You look amazing in that dress , I like the color and shape on you. Nothing absolutely whatsoever wrong with any part of your body.<br /> However this is a statement dress in the sense that you as a woman you won't go unnoticed in it.<br /> It is up to you to know that leaves you empowered or if you rather don't . </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trying-to-be-braveseeking-your-opinion/page/2#post-1682668 Tue, 21 Jun 2016 14:25:54 +0000 JAileen 1682668@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You have a stunning figure. No ifs, ands or buts about it. But if the dress makes you feel uncomfortable, you shouldn't wear it. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trying-to-be-braveseeking-your-opinion/page/2#post-1682662 Tue, 21 Jun 2016 14:23:21 +0000 Thirkellgirl 1682662@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think you look hot. You have the kind of figure I used to have and of which I now say "what in the world did I think was wrong with me back then?!" You look lovely and not immodest at all. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trying-to-be-braveseeking-your-opinion/page/2#post-1682654 Tue, 21 Jun 2016 14:15:16 +0000 Angie 1682654@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I echo those who say you look fab in that form fitting frock, Maneera. <b>You really do.</b> It accentuates your shape just beautifully.&nbsp;</p> <p>That said, I am a huge proponent of assessing how you FEEL in an outfit. So if you don't feel fabulous over and over again when you reach for this dress - don't wear it.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trying-to-be-braveseeking-your-opinion/page/2#post-1682652 Tue, 21 Jun 2016 14:14:36 +0000 jill58 1682652@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Manny, you look great in that dress. And, by the way, I think you look wonderful in the second dress. I am not one to wear body con clothing, almost ever, but I applaud those who are comfortable doing so, in, as has been mentioned, the right venue. <br />I like what <b>Janet</b> said, "....challenging ourselves with items that are not immediately emotionally comfortable can be a good thing that helps us accept our bodies more." I also share her "flat tummy gene" and issues with hips and thighs. I am tired of feeling this way and always dressing to de-emphasize that area. YLF has helped me see that we don't always have to dress in what we have been led to believe is the most traditionally flattering way, i.e. hiding any feature that we feel somehow doesn't conform to the ideal. Whose ideal?&nbsp;</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trying-to-be-braveseeking-your-opinion/page/2#post-1682648 Tue, 21 Jun 2016 14:10:17 +0000 Style Fan 1682648@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You look amazing in that dress.&nbsp; Just WOW.&nbsp; I don't see any need for shapewear but I don't do shapewear.&nbsp; OUCH.&nbsp; Bodycon is a great look but for those who feel comfortable in it.&nbsp; I have a bodycon dress that I wear on occasion.&nbsp; It has to be the right place.</p> <p>And for TMI I also spend a lot of time in the bathroom.&nbsp; I am sure I have broken records.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trying-to-be-braveseeking-your-opinion/page/2#post-1682623 Tue, 21 Jun 2016 13:31:16 +0000 Elizabeth P 1682623@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>If I saw a stranger on the street wearing this dress, I'd think "wow, she looks great" "there's a woman who embraces her curves" "that woman has confidence".&nbsp; In fact, there's a woman I work with who wears dresses that fit her similarly and that's what I DO think!&nbsp; All good.</p> <p>However... I'm not sure I would wear it.&nbsp; My curves (or lack thereof) aren't as "womanly" as yours, and I would feel self conscious.&nbsp; I don't have a poor body image, body con just isn't part of my style.</p> <p>I think the key is how YOU feel in it.&nbsp; If body con is you, if you do that that confidence that the dress says you have, then please wear it and and enjoy it.&nbsp; I think you nailed it when you said you had to give it a shot and see how you feel when you see yourself in the mirror.&nbsp; </p> <p>And NO to shapewear!!&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trying-to-be-braveseeking-your-opinion/page/2#post-1682620 Tue, 21 Jun 2016 13:22:33 +0000 Bonnie 1682620@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I really, really like the dress and how it fits you but I also understand feeling uncomfortable about wearing something form fitting and the attention that it garners. I wouldn't wear it if I felt uncomfortable, I think we should feel confident about what we wear.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trying-to-be-braveseeking-your-opinion/page/2#post-1682617 Tue, 21 Jun 2016 13:19:55 +0000 Janet 1682617@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>OK, first of all, I have to agree with everyone and say the dress is terrific, and you look great in it! And don't bother with shape wear. It's too hot where you are to think of that! You don't need it! </p> <p>Now, I will tell you I understand how you are feeling, but from a different angle (heh, literally and figuratively). What you describe about your tummy is the same way I feel about my hips/thighs. Through some weird genetic quirk, I managed to get the flat tummy gene but also the big hip/thigh one. (However, menopause is starting to challenge that flat tummy, but that's a story for another day.) So I've always been happier with my side view than my front or back view. </p> <p>Sometimes I just embrace the fact that this is how my body looks. That's when I wear things like a bodycon dress or those ruched tube skirts -- they do not really minimize my hips, but sometimes I'm OK with that. Those items are not the totally easy throw-on-anytime and feel amazing items -- they're a little more fickle and seem to require me to be having a bit better body image day, but that's OK. I have other options to wear when I'm feeling a bit more self-conscious. </p> <p>Does that make sense? I hope it does because your post illustrates exactly what I'm talking about. Your second dress is more in your comfort zone and doesn't require you to challenge yourself. I might argue that challenging ourselves with items that are not immediately emotionally comfortable can be a good thing that helps us accept our bodies more. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trying-to-be-braveseeking-your-opinion/page/2#post-1682614 Tue, 21 Jun 2016 13:11:47 +0000 Suz 1682614@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><b>Manny</b>, you look gorgeous in the dress and I see no reason for concern, but it is as others said...you have to feel confident in it. And perhaps it's about where or when you choose to wear it? </p> <p>&nbsp;I think with these body con dresses there is always that slight concern...is it the right venue, and so on. I have (and wear) a couple of body con sheaths. I actually love them. But for me they are my "date night" dresses. I did wear one to a work party once and felt fine in it, but these were really close colleagues and &nbsp;we were in "relax" mode.&nbsp;</p> <p>Anyway, my point is, for me, the body con dress draws attention to my body in a way I don't really want except (mostly) on date night. So I wear those kinds of dresses with pleasure on those occasions and for my more casual day dresses tend to go for something like your linen dress (also cute). That's just what feels right to me.&nbsp;</p> <p>I <b>do</b> however wear my body con tube skirts for super casual occasions. They are midis, which sort of mitigates the "sexy" vibe a little bit, but also, I tend to wear them with more voluminous tops, to "de-bombshell." Not that I am a bombshell by any means, LOL!!&nbsp;</p> <p>So, for this dress, I would be wearing it on casual date nights with hubby or for at home dates. Or for nights with close friends when you go out or eat in but want to dress a bit festively.&nbsp;</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trying-to-be-braveseeking-your-opinion/page/2#post-1682610 Tue, 21 Jun 2016 13:06:18 +0000 Chris987 1682610@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think your friend is spot on. The color and print are terrific, and it is very flattering on your body.&nbsp;Like so many of us (myself included) your eye and mind are focusing on one detail of how your body is shaped instead of the bigger picture. You look really healthy too. Shapewear would be up to you but I can't imagine doing it often in your climate. I see a knockout dress on a stunning&nbsp;woman! </p> <p>Who the heck made up this rule that says tummies are supposed to be flat???? And why do we give that unnamed person so much power over us??? Rhetorical questions. I know the answers, just saying maybe we should try to give less attention to&nbsp;some of these arbitrary rules that don't do us any good...</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trying-to-be-braveseeking-your-opinion/page/2#post-1682607 Tue, 21 Jun 2016 12:59:00 +0000 Windchime 1682607@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh yay, we get to see that fab dress again! The last time you posted it, I thought you looked amazing in it, and my opinion hasn't changed one bit.<br /> Wear it and know you are a beautiful woman! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trying-to-be-braveseeking-your-opinion/page/2#post-1682605 Tue, 21 Jun 2016 12:56:00 +0000 Nishaa 1682605@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I didn't even realise something was of concern until I read the whole thing.. I think you look gorgeous.<br /> I had a situation at office with someone wearing a body con dress at office party and the vp congratulated her On being pregnant. For a minute you could have heard the pin drop.. She wasn't even married.. Then my senior colleague laughed the situation away.. She was told not to bother but she never wore that again.. I guess if someone has once commented on you however ignorantly.. You'd only remember that ... We all had complimented her on it but that was easily forgotten I guess ..<br /> So don't bother with all the tummy/thigh talks.. You look fantastic in that dress. Easier said .. I know </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trying-to-be-braveseeking-your-opinion/page/2#post-1682599 Tue, 21 Jun 2016 12:42:02 +0000 Anonymous 1682599@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Totally agreeing with everyone. You look superbe! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trying-to-be-braveseeking-your-opinion#post-1682594 Tue, 21 Jun 2016 12:30:22 +0000 Gail 1682594@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I really like the dress and think it looks very nice on you. I think that the style and the pattern works great. I too have a rounded stomach and have come to peace somewhat with it. There are certain clothes I won't wear, such as &nbsp;tight stretchy knits but I even before three kids I don't think I could have done it either lol.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trying-to-be-braveseeking-your-opinion#post-1682592 Tue, 21 Jun 2016 12:28:35 +0000 El Cee 1682592@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Maneera -- You look stunning in that dress -- from side view as well as front view. And I do not think you need shape wear to make this work. &nbsp;You have a lovely figure with soft, feminine curves. I really think this particular dress is well suited to an hourglassy gal.&nbsp;A lot of us ladies (including myself) just have a natural roundedness in the belly area -- even when very fit and toned. Hey -- look at statues of Greek and Roman goddesses or classical art that shows the female form. Those gorgeous women all have the belly curve going on. So I say "embrace your curves" and continue to rock that fabulous dress! By the way -- the linen dress is cute and perfect for the summer heat. Looks terrific paired with the slip on sneakers.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trying-to-be-braveseeking-your-opinion#post-1682587 Tue, 21 Jun 2016 12:23:24 +0000 Tanya 1682587@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Manny, the dress is really pretty and you are a knockout in it - a very beautiful female hourglass shape.&nbsp; I would wear the dress proudly and enjoy it.&nbsp; Especially since you like it a lot.<br />I am very slim yet I have similarly rounded tummy, which is more obvious at some times than others.&nbsp; I think it comes with having an hourglass figure ( I have a huge waist/hip difference of almost 12") so I always say to myself that should appreciate having a nice waist and leave my tummy be.&nbsp; It has never stopped me from wearing a body-con dress, which are still my favorites for going out, not that I have had much of a social life lately.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trying-to-be-braveseeking-your-opinion#post-1682581 Tue, 21 Jun 2016 12:13:04 +0000 viva 1682581@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Manny, alI I can tell you is what I see, which is really, just a fabulous woman in a dress. You have curves but they all seem in proportion and beautiful. It's a gift to have a body that curves in such a natural way. I am speaking as a woman without natural curves, so I look at you with some envy. (Body con looks all wrong on me. My stomach -- which is not flat -- also has a curve, but it does not look natural like this .... but that is another story altogether). What I am saying is that your shape looks really great to me in this dress.</p> <p>Plus, you seem to love this dress so much -- high happiness factor and all. It's up to you, of course; your call, but I vote to keep and wear!</p> <p>PS That linen shift? I could wear that one. It's fantastic!!!</p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trying-to-be-braveseeking-your-opinion#post-1682580 Tue, 21 Jun 2016 12:08:45 +0000 Brooklyn 1682580@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Manny, you look totally gorgeous in that dress. Knockout. If you like wearing it, you should wear it. (And the other dress is a lovely little casual summer number.) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trying-to-be-braveseeking-your-opinion#post-1682577 Tue, 21 Jun 2016 12:02:31 +0000 Maneera 1682577@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks BC. Such wisdom in those words </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trying-to-be-braveseeking-your-opinion#post-1682573 Tue, 21 Jun 2016 11:59:30 +0000 Anonymous 1682573@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Your dress looks really nice. :)</p> <p>I, too, am conscious of my curves after having 4 babies--3 of which were c-section deliveries. I feel like my body looks best when viewed from the front. That said, I try not to worry about it. It is, after all, the female form. It's just not the flat-as-a-board stomach I had before, and I have to come to terms with it.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trying-to-be-braveseeking-your-opinion#post-1682567 Tue, 21 Jun 2016 11:50:31 +0000 Maneera 1682567@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Isabelle - I agree with you 100%. That kind of confidence does come from within. But sometimes, a little reassurance goes a long way, especially when you're not sure of something. </p> <p>I have nothing against my curves. I accepted them long back. I also am no prude. But I can be conscious of my curves sometimes. </p> <p>Also, bodycon dresses are not appropriate in all kinds of settings, especially in India. I will never be wearing this dress while walking on the streets.....only in casual settings where I meet friends in our home or theirs, and I'm not usually uncomfortable in form-fitting clothes then. </p> <p>But you have touched the all-important point. Am I comfortable in THIS dress? I think it's time to put it to test. I won't know until I wear it and see how i feel in it everytime I pass by a mirror. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trying-to-be-braveseeking-your-opinion#post-1682549 Tue, 21 Jun 2016 11:06:48 +0000 skylurker 1682549@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I see 2 distinctive issues with a body con dress :<br /> Not willing to show your body because you don't like it<br /> Not willing to show your body even if you like it, because you're prudish</p> <p>Issue n°1 : I don't think there's anything wrong with your curves Maneera, but it doesn't matter what I think really, that kind of confidence comes from within.</p> <p>Issue n°2 : I would personally cringe in a body con dress, I have no problem with my body, no curves to show or hide, but I feel vulnerable in that kind of show-off feminity.</p> <p>So...it's all personal and complicated, just do as you feel. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trying-to-be-braveseeking-your-opinion#post-1682541 Tue, 21 Jun 2016 10:49:48 +0000 Maneera 1682541@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You all are simply fabulous, ladies! </p> <p>Lyn - thanks for your honest feedback. We have discussed these issues before and I know just how you feel. I have to keep correcting my posture too! A lightweight cardi/jacket looks good over the dress, but it's too hot for one now. </p> <p>Sally - thanks. I agree. I anyways don't wear short dresses with heels at all I actually like to de-bombshell this dress with slip on sneakers! But flat sandals are the other option. </p> <p>Sterling - I believe you. You're a true friend and I do think you try to be as honest as can possibly be You make a good point - focus on what I love about the dress; not the side profile. For me - a big reason I bought it was the ruching. I rarely find clothes with Ruched detailing...ever. </p> <p>Thanks Momo. You're very kind </p> <p>Angie.....if you're reading this...I just have ONE thing to say ---- Who needs therapy for body image issues when you can get ALL the support you need on YLF?! </p> <p>I'm just so overwhelmed by everyone's kindness right now. And amazed that sometimes only we see our flaws. Without YLF, it would be impossible to know that they're only in our heads, right?! Thank you </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trying-to-be-braveseeking-your-opinion#post-1682536 Tue, 21 Jun 2016 10:25:59 +0000 Momo 1682536@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think your side view looks fantastic! You have a really lovely shape. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trying-to-be-braveseeking-your-opinion#post-1682532 Tue, 21 Jun 2016 10:19:07 +0000 Anonymous 1682532@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hi Maneera. &nbsp; That dress is <u>gorgeous</u>. &nbsp;I truly do not see a problem from the side view. I promise you I would tell you if I did see an issue because that is what friends do. &nbsp;</p> <p>Here is the thing. &nbsp;No matter what anyone says, you have to be comfortable wearing it. &nbsp;If something bothers you, the happiness factor does down. &nbsp;To combat this issue, I would suggest picking out some feature of this dress that you adore and start trying to focus on that. &nbsp;For example, this dress is a gorgeous print. &nbsp;The print washes over your body in a very lovely way. &nbsp;I'll bet most people would be admiring that print on your body. &nbsp;A second feature is the color. &nbsp;Those colors were made for you. &nbsp;Yay for you. &nbsp; </p>