https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trouble-on-the-home-front Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Wed, 22 Apr 2026 17:25:21 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trouble-on-the-home-front/page/2#post-1700630 Sat, 23 Jul 2016 14:56:08 +0000 Ledonna N. 1700630@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks Everyone all we can do is continue to move forward. </p> <p>Moms,Kate, Summer and Suz just disappointed. I thought we were building a solid friendship then wham.</p> <p>Sometimes I feel like this is why I don't make friends or at least this is part of the reasons why. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trouble-on-the-home-front/page/2#post-1700615 Sat, 23 Jul 2016 14:28:48 +0000 Momo 1700615@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>❤️<br /> hang in there.. What she wrote is all about her feelings, issues, fears... Not about you. It is sad. And I am sorry for her and for you having to go through this, </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trouble-on-the-home-front/page/2#post-1697888 Wed, 20 Jul 2016 00:57:53 +0000 Kate 1697888@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm glad you aren't letting the situation get you down, Ledonna. You've made a smart choice. Hugs to you! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trouble-on-the-home-front/page/2#post-1697785 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 22:16:45 +0000 Summer 1697785@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Onwards and&nbsp; upwards, Ledonna.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trouble-on-the-home-front/page/2#post-1697688 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 19:47:43 +0000 Suz 1697688@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, it is so sad.&nbsp;</p> <p>But you are making the right choice, Ledonna.&nbsp;</p> <p>Hugs to you. No matter what, it hurts.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trouble-on-the-home-front/page/2#post-1697472 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 14:47:44 +0000 Ledonna N. 1697472@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you all.&nbsp; As depressing as the reality of the situation is I do have a bright spot.&nbsp; I cannot allow negative energy into my space.&nbsp; I have to move on for me.&nbsp; I cannot dwell in the negative.&nbsp; Maybe someday she will be able to talk to me.&nbsp; At this point I don't even care.&nbsp; She went on a social media tirade and cut off all communications.&nbsp; Acting like a woman scorned when neither of us have wronged.&nbsp; In my past I am always the bridge builder reaching out when I know I should not have.&nbsp; This time I'm dropping it and moving on.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trouble-on-the-home-front/page/2#post-1697265 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 02:48:53 +0000 rachylou 1697265@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I agree. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trouble-on-the-home-front/page/2#post-1696991 Mon, 18 Jul 2016 19:36:21 +0000 Anonymous 1696991@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ditto what Kelsi just said. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trouble-on-the-home-front/page/2#post-1696970 Mon, 18 Jul 2016 18:37:45 +0000 Kelsi McMorris 1696970@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That is ridiculous and how dare she talk about your sex life with another man on social media, that is slander and this girl is EXTREMELY jealous. If she has a problem she should say it to your face behind closed doors. This is NO friend </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trouble-on-the-home-front/page/2#post-1696969 Mon, 18 Jul 2016 18:36:08 +0000 Isabel 1696969@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ledonna, then you know. &nbsp;FWIW, I think that you are making a very healthy decision. &nbsp;XXX</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trouble-on-the-home-front#post-1696903 Mon, 18 Jul 2016 16:23:14 +0000 Glory 1696903@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am so sorry to read this. It is so difficult to lose a friend, or have a friend behave this way - it really takes your breath away. It takes time to recover. But, I can see you are already doing that with love, respect and grace. The door can be left open and you can be there if you choose to be. Continue to surround yourself with joy and light! xoxo </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trouble-on-the-home-front#post-1696852 Mon, 18 Jul 2016 15:32:50 +0000 Ledonna N. 1696852@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So much wisdom and&nbsp; caring from you all.&nbsp; For that I thank you for your responses and words.&nbsp; It is not my intention to hurt or to be hurt.&nbsp; I have removed that from my life which intentionally causes me pain.&nbsp; This is not the first time Meosha has lashed out at me.&nbsp; You should have seen the row we had about what a best friend is.&nbsp; I wanted to walk away from such vitriol then.&nbsp;&nbsp; I did but a mutual friend put us back together again.&nbsp; I am very sad to say that I do not think this "friendship" can be repaired. I say this because I do not feel as If we, Tem and I have done anything wrong to Meosha.&nbsp; I love what Manreea said about friends and using the excuse of age is not an excuse at all. I think that Meosha will not reach out to Me or Tem and will just have to live with the person that she is.&nbsp; I wish her nothing but love joy and happiness.&nbsp; Her public face is amazing but, I cannot be part of the private it is to hurtful and scary.&nbsp; I had someone in my life exactly like that years ago.&nbsp; In public one way and in private totally different.&nbsp; I waited on the 1st person to my own detriment.&nbsp; Now I am not willing to do that for my own self preservation.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trouble-on-the-home-front#post-1696422 Sun, 17 Jul 2016 19:36:38 +0000 Isabel 1696422@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I should tell you that I had something similar happen, several years ago, with a friend of 25 years. &nbsp;She would have these fits every once in a while but they were outweighed by her incredible loyalty and friendship since our 20s. &nbsp;But then, it just got to be too much. &nbsp;I simply couldn't take the emotional beating up as I got older and had kids. &nbsp;And I didn't have the emotional energy to keep soothing her anymore. The final straw was when she got upset that my husband hadn't called her to tell her that I was in the ICU for 11 days. &nbsp;I was very sick and never thought to tell him and he had his hands full to with young children and my disabled sister....she wrote me a scathing email after I got home. &nbsp;She said it showed that she was not a priority : at that time, she wasn't. &nbsp;We have not spoken since. Though I wish her the happiest, most wonderful life. &nbsp;And I have wonderful, warm loving memories of her. &nbsp;That won't change. It was gift at the time. But our lives change.&nbsp;</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trouble-on-the-home-front#post-1696393 Sun, 17 Jul 2016 19:03:33 +0000 Isabel 1696393@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>First, I am so sorry. &nbsp; She is obviously not coping with a dynamic change well and is lashing out. &nbsp;This reminds me of someone I knew years ago who flipped on a friend because they went "corporate". ( " I thought we would never sell out. We would never be part of the machine...how could you do this ? ! &nbsp; You're like the rest : money is your king." ) &nbsp; I think that there is a lot of insecurity in the unknown for her. &nbsp;And your dynamic, at least for her, is unknown and scary.&nbsp;</p> <p>You have several options. &nbsp;If you really care about her and think that she is worth the wait, do just that. Or write her and tell her that the group dynamic has changed but that your friendship has not. &nbsp;But write her a card and not on FB. &nbsp; She is a kid having a hissy fit right now. &nbsp;This may be a window into her character. Only you can decide if it is an anomaly or maybe a flicker of what may come if you are to remain friends. Only you can decide what you will tolerate. &nbsp;But give it some time to mull over for yourself. &nbsp;No rash decisions....she is an example of what not to do...XXXXXX</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trouble-on-the-home-front#post-1695597 Sat, 16 Jul 2016 11:38:08 +0000 Anonymous 1695597@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am so sorry this happened to you. &nbsp;I have strong feelings about people like this. &nbsp;You certainly deserve far better and although you might not feel it yet, you are much better without a person like this in your life. &nbsp;Good riddance. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trouble-on-the-home-front#post-1695479 Sat, 16 Jul 2016 03:46:58 +0000 Suz 1695479@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That is really hard. Losing a girlfriend hurts so much and there's really no social acknowledgement of it. It's all the worse when it is someone you respect, who has such great qualities and gives so much of herself to the world.&nbsp;</p> <p>It sounds as if she's afraid you've made a poor choice in Tem. Either that, or she's wildly jealous and wants him for herself. Or she's afraid that she is losing <b>you</b>, so she lashed out before you could be the one to "leave" in favour of Tem. Which isn't what you were planning to do, but that's how some people take these things. Either way, posting that to FB instead of trying to talk it out with you is hurtful and unkind and humiliating.&nbsp;</p> <p>I hope that after some time she comes to her senses but in the meantime, hugs to you.&nbsp;</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trouble-on-the-home-front#post-1695478 Sat, 16 Jul 2016 03:45:49 +0000 Anonymous 1695478@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I interpret this in the same way as Maneera. Wrong venue to write it for sure. Sorry you are having a hard time. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trouble-on-the-home-front#post-1695473 Sat, 16 Jul 2016 03:33:09 +0000 annagybe 1695473@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Woah!!!<br />That's just intense. I read a whole bunch of jealousy. And to post it publicly? <br />I'm sorry. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trouble-on-the-home-front#post-1695469 Sat, 16 Jul 2016 03:25:43 +0000 Maneera 1695469@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Wow. I can barely believe this. Meosha wrote this??? That strong, helpful, caring woman who does so much for the society??? Well, I guess good people can do bad things! </p> <p>Donna, I'm happy to hear that you've found a companion in Tem. Life's too short to live it all alone. As for Meosha.....i'll be honest here. </p> <p>I don't think she's saying "bad" things necessarily. I mean, all she's trying to say here is that Tem isn't good enough for you. That's what I read here....a woman who's disappointed that her friend has fallen for a man who will not bring her longterm joy &amp; happiness. She's entitled to her opinion. What she isn't entitled to is writing this bullshit on FB! </p> <p>She definitely should have spoken to you about this. She should've shared her concerns with you in person, and she should've stuck around, becoming even more protective, if she honestly fears this guy might not be right for you. THAT'S what TRUE friends do. They let you make your decisions, even if they don't agree with them, and then they're there to pick up the pieces if you do fall down &amp; hurt yourself and they're still there dancing in joy if your choices turn out to be perfect for you. </p> <p>Give her some time. And don't judge her....not just yet. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trouble-on-the-home-front#post-1695255 Fri, 15 Jul 2016 21:03:21 +0000 Barbara Diane 1695255@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So very sad to hear about this. From your postings I know how much her friendship meant to you, and how much you went out of your way to help her. Sending you hugs.</p> <p>She sounds very hurt and angry. The only comforting thing I can say is that you meant/mean a lot to her, or she wouldn't be so upset.</p> <p>As for the Facebook posting, it was horrible. This should have been a private matter, discussed between adults. You might actually be able to have Facebook remove it.&nbsp;</p> <p>Sending more hugs.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trouble-on-the-home-front#post-1695111 Fri, 15 Jul 2016 18:39:13 +0000 Eliza 1695111@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sending good and calming thoughts your way. Texting and social media is often misused in service of provocation. It is a poor substitute for direct communication. I am learning that no one can have a relationship for two and not everyone can share a reciprocal, deep friendship. It hurts when things can't move forward, but it takes two to move it along.&nbsp;</p> <p>All the best with this.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trouble-on-the-home-front#post-1695062 Fri, 15 Jul 2016 16:38:47 +0000 Kate 1695062@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so sorry this happened to you, Ledonna. It's frankly appalling to me that she chose to post on Facebook rather than speak to you directly. Enjoy your developing relationship with Tem, and perhaps in time, you and Meosha can come to some understanding. Hugs! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trouble-on-the-home-front#post-1694774 Fri, 15 Jul 2016 09:40:37 +0000 Summer 1694774@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>At least <i>you </i>have dealt with this in a mature and decent way, Ledonna, reaching out to your friend despite her hateful actions.&nbsp; I hope this can be resolved, but, if not, you have done your best.</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trouble-on-the-home-front#post-1694702 Fri, 15 Jul 2016 04:04:39 +0000 Sally 1694702@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Windchime, you reminded me of one of my best friends. I was so angry with her for leaving me as she was supposed to drive home with me on an 8 hour trip. Ok I hadn't fixed my tail light and she caught a plane out of this small town as she was keen to get back to her new husband...we ended up having a screaming match and I drove back by myself. I didn't talk to her for a year but we slowly made amends and became good friends again. She got cancer and died a few years ago and I had forgotten about that argument. True friendship will often last the distance through all the dumb things we do and it is often a case of giving it time to see whether the friendship overcomes the grievances. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trouble-on-the-home-front#post-1694693 Fri, 15 Jul 2016 03:51:54 +0000 Windchime 1694693@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ouch! Those are some harsh words, and posting them on Facebook rubs salt in the wound.</p> <p>If your friendship with Meoshe goes way back, it might someday be salvaged. I had a big falling out with a very close friend many years ago. We didn't see each other for a year, but then our paths started to cross socially and we gradually picked the friendship back up--therd was enough history and commonality to do so. Now we are great friends again.</p> <p>In the meantime, take care of yourself and your new relationship with Tem. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trouble-on-the-home-front#post-1694551 Fri, 15 Jul 2016 00:16:41 +0000 Chris987 1694551@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Friends do not treat each other that way. Not unless they are really hurting themselves and unable to handle their own pain without lashing&nbsp;out at others, but even if that's the explanation it's awful.&nbsp; It must be so difficult for you. I agree with the advice to step away and get on with your life. Maybe you can try to reach out to her later on, if that's what you want to do. Trust in your own future and that things will work out one way or another. </p> <p>I'm very happy for you to have found a new relationship...it takes courage to take the risk of entering into a romantic relationship....you clearly have LOTS of courage!!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trouble-on-the-home-front#post-1694529 Thu, 14 Jul 2016 23:54:08 +0000 Ledonna N. 1694529@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you all for your kind words.&nbsp; I wanted no needed to talk and we have many mutual acquaintances.&nbsp; So this is the next best thing.&nbsp; I kind of tend to stay to myself in the real world so to branch out and seek friendships are very challenging because I am an introvert by nature.&nbsp; Working quietly by myself in the IT world.&nbsp; I would rather have 1 or 2 good friends than a whole bunch.&nbsp; But this was gut punch and I am still going through it.&nbsp; I thing or friendship is over because she won't respond to me.&nbsp; Maybe if we distance ourselves from the situation it will become clearer.&nbsp; I don't know </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trouble-on-the-home-front#post-1694490 Thu, 14 Jul 2016 23:04:46 +0000 Style Fan 1694490@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That certainly would be a blow and to do it on FB is even worse.&nbsp; We can have a glass of wine.&nbsp;&nbsp; I don't drink anymore (it causes migranes) but I will have a small one with you.&nbsp; Friendships are so precious.&nbsp; It is awful when something goes wrong.<br />It does sound wonderful with Tem.&nbsp; I hope you can enjoy&nbsp;this relationship.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trouble-on-the-home-front#post-1694417 Thu, 14 Jul 2016 21:30:34 +0000 Sally 1694417@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Your friend has the right to feel upset that things have changed but she doesn't have a right to respond in that way. But no one is perfect so I suppose she acted before thinking. Enjoy the new relationship...I hope the rift between friends heals over time if that's what you want. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/trouble-on-the-home-front#post-1694349 Thu, 14 Jul 2016 20:30:52 +0000 Jane 1694349@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So hard, heart breaking and crushing. It must be so difficult to think of the good times you've shared, and the shift that has occured. I feel for you. </p> <p>I think I would try to shift your thinking, if you can, to your future, away from the very great hurt this has caused. I don't think now is the time for what I would call 'rear view mirror' stuff. I do hope you don't mind me offering this up.</p> <p>It sounds so lovely with Tem just now, take it, believe in it, and nurture. </p>