https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/travels-trials-theories-thoughts-and-the-fine-line-between-gamine-tomboy-long Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sat, 09 May 2026 21:10:33 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/travels-trials-theories-thoughts-and-the-fine-line-between-gamine-tomboy-long/page/2#post-912480 Fri, 19 Apr 2013 19:28:53 +0000 Kiwichik 912480@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Enjoyed reading your post and yay for the style refinements you have identified and love the graphic desriptors you have used. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/travels-trials-theories-thoughts-and-the-fine-line-between-gamine-tomboy-long/page/2#post-912329 Fri, 19 Apr 2013 15:56:58 +0000 Anonymous 912329@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Una, just thread jacking to say I am totally inspired to try rock climbing -- I have heard and seen how good it is, and there is a gym in town. I am going to check it out! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/travels-trials-theories-thoughts-and-the-fine-line-between-gamine-tomboy-long/page/2#post-912321 Fri, 19 Apr 2013 15:47:15 +0000 JulieJohn 912321@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Nice post, thank you for sharing your thoughts. My hair is driving me mad too, not settled in to the shorter cut yet, badly damaged ends caused by manaical stylist. Now I wait as it grows micron by micron ... just so I can have the dorky bits cut off! (seething)<br /><br />As Kelly said, your "classic" segue is not a surprise. Classic as a rubric item is a structure, a comfort, and a good base. Simplicity is ease, grasshopper, and you are all about good lines.<br /> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/travels-trials-theories-thoughts-and-the-fine-line-between-gamine-tomboy-long/page/2#post-912293 Fri, 19 Apr 2013 15:07:16 +0000 rae 912293@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Day Vies, I <i>totally</i> hear you on hair movement! That was one thing I disliked about my long hair - it was so thick and heavy it did not move.&nbsp;<br /><br />Una, I am definitely open to suggestions. I'll look into climbing... maybe it will be less expensive than the martial arts.&nbsp;<br /><br />Ingunn, permanent flux would probably be okay, now that you mention it. As long as it's a forward-moving flux, lol.&nbsp; https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/travels-trials-theories-thoughts-and-the-fine-line-between-gamine-tomboy-long/page/2#post-912037 Fri, 19 Apr 2013 07:04:13 +0000 Ingunn 912037@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I loved reading your thoughts, Rae. I think you are very wise for being so young, and I'm impressed by how you are able to articulate your how's and why's. Your hair is beautiful every which way you wear it, you lucky, gorgeous girl. No worries there. Getting more fit is also only going to be helpful, so get on with it I love how you line out your style in a more classic direction, and I'm so looking forward to see how you will go about executing this. I'm not&nbsp;sure if it's&nbsp;helpful to hear this, but being in flux is a permanent state for me in many ways - but that works, too. https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/travels-trials-theories-thoughts-and-the-fine-line-between-gamine-tomboy-long/page/2#post-911992 Fri, 19 Apr 2013 04:38:12 +0000 catgirl 911992@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Oh, Rae.&nbsp; I totally hear you.&nbsp; Am so glad you have pinpointed where you want to go and why.&nbsp; I'm also in flux of all kinds - dealing with death, a new job - and I was going to post about whether it's okay to wear nothing but repeat FFBOs, which is all I've been doing.&nbsp; And thankful to have them.&nbsp; <br /><br />My style is also feeling out of sync lately,&nbsp;and I am going to have to re-sort it out again in light of the new job.&nbsp; I have sensed some of your discomfort with the pixie and shorter hair, and I am going to follow you closely as you find your way to this new classic-UWP-tomboy look.<br /><br />Meanwhile, can I suggest rock climbing as a possible sport?&nbsp; It builds muscle without being BORING, it involves cool gear, it makes you feel like the ULTIMATE warrior chick, and it's fun!&nbsp; You gain strength, balance, and endurance.&nbsp; Plus it engages your brain and really bonds you with your climbing partner in a most unique relationship.&nbsp; Yes, I'm an addict. :)<br /><br />XOXO - whatever you do, it's enlightening and inspiring to many of us.<em></em> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/travels-trials-theories-thoughts-and-the-fine-line-between-gamine-tomboy-long/page/2#post-911927 Fri, 19 Apr 2013 02:42:04 +0000 Day Vies 911927@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks for posting it was so interesting to read your thoughts about your hair. I think you have to go with how you feel wearing your hair. It doesn't matter if it looks good if you don't feel just as good wearing it. </p> <p>I had my own hair epiphany when I straightened my hair and curled it. I don't straighten my hair often because it's damaging and my hair is very fragile. When I do straighten my hair I notice how it's grown in the interim. Because I wear it in a ponytail most of the time my short polished look feels "boyish" to me because my hair looks short and I can't feel that it's there.<br /> So the last time I straightened it I loved the way it moved and bounced -- I felt like a pin-up in a good way; I felt more feminine. From my perspective I have felt that society always viewed long straight hair that moved was more feminine than short hair that didn't move. The last time I straightened my hair I felt closer to that ideal because of the movement (new straightening technique)-- I never realized that I felt less feminine -- less beautiful because my hair didn't move. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/travels-trials-theories-thoughts-and-the-fine-line-between-gamine-tomboy-long/page/2#post-911895 Fri, 19 Apr 2013 02:14:33 +0000 Jaime 911895@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ You sound like you have reached a new level of self awareness and it will lead you to good things. I do understand you very, very well about the hair. I have been very surprised how many compliments I have gotten about my short cut&nbsp;both here and from people physically present (because online life&nbsp;is real life too) and yet I feel it adds a strain to getting dressed that I never used to feel. Your style has been amazing and I look forward to seeing where you go! https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/travels-trials-theories-thoughts-and-the-fine-line-between-gamine-tomboy-long/page/2#post-911891 Fri, 19 Apr 2013 02:06:52 +0000 Suz 911891@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Rae, I am late here. But I wanted to say that you are amazing. And beautiful, however you wear your hair. You have been through such emotional upheaval in the past year, and so many important changes. I'm excited to think that you're seeking your inner warrior through exercise, which will energize and give you even more strength. And I'm happy to imagine you anchoring yourself with the classics. And you know, it actually doesn't surprise me a whole lot. Just think of this lengthy search for the right, iconic trench. What <b>is</b> a trench other than a classic? Maybe that search was signalling something about an even deeper need.&nbsp;<br /><br /><br />I'm so looking forward to sharing the next leg of your style journey.&nbsp; https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/travels-trials-theories-thoughts-and-the-fine-line-between-gamine-tomboy-long/page/2#post-911767 Fri, 19 Apr 2013 00:31:19 +0000 Anonymous 911767@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I got my hair cut really really short and then grew it out...that is when I found the perfect style for me. </p> <p>Sometimes we have to start over. The best part about chopping my hair off was the confidence it took to wear it short - no more hiding behind my hair! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/travels-trials-theories-thoughts-and-the-fine-line-between-gamine-tomboy-long/page/2#post-911741 Fri, 19 Apr 2013 00:12:47 +0000 Caro in Oz 911741@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ You are an amazing person rae. You ARE young yet so mature.<br /><br />Imo change always feels very bumpy while you are experiencing it but after you wouldn't have it any other way.<br /><br />Can't wait to see how your style develops. https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/travels-trials-theories-thoughts-and-the-fine-line-between-gamine-tomboy-long/page/2#post-911424 Thu, 18 Apr 2013 19:19:48 +0000 rae 911424@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Angie, yes, the tofu! I still want the same dish, just made with some classic tofu instead of exotic spicy marinated alligator meat. ;)&nbsp;<br /><br />Ramya, you are right. I was more comfy in the bob. I think if I had found the right stylist from the get-go, I'd still be in a bob, but such is life. Onward and upward!<br /><br />K, I totally relate. I swore I'd never wear pink, sheer hose, high heels, skinny jeans and so on. Now look! lol<br /><br />Ginko, I think that on WNTW, too!! And How Do I Look!<br /><br />Rachy, although I hate to admit it, you're right that I don't feel comfy dressing so young anymore. Might be mitigated if I get in shape, but the feeling is there. I never felt particularly "young" anyway, and I often feel like the&nbsp;crotchety&nbsp;old man wondering at the&nbsp;noise the kids listen to these days.&nbsp;<br /><br /><br /> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/travels-trials-theories-thoughts-and-the-fine-line-between-gamine-tomboy-long/page/2#post-911407 Thu, 18 Apr 2013 18:50:36 +0000 Anonymous 911407@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>*applause* I enjoyed your reading your epiphanic thoughts and can certainly see you adding classic elements and still staying true to your stylistic leanings. So much fun and eventually it will allow you to help others do something similar. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/travels-trials-theories-thoughts-and-the-fine-line-between-gamine-tomboy-long/page/2#post-911373 Thu, 18 Apr 2013 18:09:05 +0000 rachylou 911373@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Very thoughtful, Rae. Very thoughtful. You do wear your current hairstyle very <i>very</i> well, but I can see how it would not be you. Or not helpful to you. There maybe needs to be a little more princess in your UWP than that. I have to admit I now feel a little remiss when it comes to my own hair. It's an excellent point: we wear it every day.<br /><br />It occurs to me re. how fit you look v. your hair... "harsher hair", "softer physique." And vice versa. Anyways, just don't get all stringy like Madonna, OK? ;&gt;<br /><br />Re. going more classic: I can also see this. You have a new level of seriousness with your marriage and a new career, you're passing out of the "young woman" stage, etc. etc. I was sort of thinking that about myself, only for me at my age it's "Don't bother me with nonsense and whippersnappery, #@$#@$!!" <br /><br />I'm really going to have a long hard think about what Angie has said here on your thread about the power of classic pieces and... tofu (which is honestly the best shorthand ever). I have my serious doubts about ever being able to achieve a classic look, but there are what I'd call shared principles of being classic and growing old with dignity. Less frou and look-at-me bells, whistles, and distractions. A person gets more powerful and less forceful as time goes on, so to speak. But everybody has to do it like Bowie, i.e., start wearing suits without selling out and looking like they're wearing someone else's clothes.<br /><br />Hehe.<br /> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/travels-trials-theories-thoughts-and-the-fine-line-between-gamine-tomboy-long/page/2#post-911304 Thu, 18 Apr 2013 17:02:25 +0000 kkards 911304@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ the thing like most about hair, is how relatively easy it is to change it. in a few quick months, your hair will grow out, and you can try something new.<br />life is always moving, and we can move with it, or stand still, and let it pass us by. https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/travels-trials-theories-thoughts-and-the-fine-line-between-gamine-tomboy-long/page/2#post-911247 Thu, 18 Apr 2013 16:11:48 +0000 Kristin L 911247@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Your post is very inspiring, Rae. I'm glad you had a blast at your Dad's wedding. And I'm jealous that you've already been to a baseball game this year. :)<br /><br /><br /> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/travels-trials-theories-thoughts-and-the-fine-line-between-gamine-tomboy-long#post-911232 Thu, 18 Apr 2013 15:59:26 +0000 Ginkgo 911232@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ You've had so much going on, so much to work through, you're doing great by just keep chugging along. &nbsp;The workout classes sound physically and mentally challenging, and maybe adding some long walks to let your mind relax would be good too.<br /><br />It's funny isn't it how much a hairstyle influences out clothing style. &nbsp;I always have wondered why in WNTW they have the people go shopping before getting their haircut, because they might have chosen different styles and necklines after a shorter cut.<br /><br />You have gorgeous hair so you'll be able to wear any style, but I'll vote for your first haircut, the bob; &nbsp;it went well with steampunk.<br /><br /><br /> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/travels-trials-theories-thoughts-and-the-fine-line-between-gamine-tomboy-long#post-911226 Thu, 18 Apr 2013 15:55:06 +0000 Sona 911226@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ My dearest Rae-tastic: you have had so much on your plate. I think the biggest A-ha maybe that the pixie cut is not for you. I think the other things will fall into&nbsp;place. I am thinking of you, cheering you on, sending warm, vibrant vibes and look forward to your ongoing journey-sartorial and otherwise. https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/travels-trials-theories-thoughts-and-the-fine-line-between-gamine-tomboy-long#post-911222 Thu, 18 Apr 2013 15:52:21 +0000 K. Period. 911222@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Rae, what a great post! It is interesting to realize that your style is shifting, isn't it? Joining YLF made it really clear to me that I could admire others' styles, I could educate myself about them to understand how they work (because, like you, I love understanding style&nbsp;because it informs how I put things together), but I could do that without incorporating things that weren't me into my style. &nbsp;And as for classic, well, that happens. Even to the most dress in black of us. Who in high school swore we would never wear pink in a non-ironic way.&nbsp;<br /><br />As far as your haircut, I know exactly what you mean. It is gorgeous on you. You are gorgeous. But when you feel like you have to dress around your hair, it stops being fun. If it was a wardrobe piece, it would be the orphan that you adore, but which you have to buy a whole new capsule around. A new capsule that doesn't feel like you. (I'm looking at you, Fiorentini &amp; Baker boots!). &nbsp;I had a gorgeous shag in 1993. It was very edgy. It also made me feel uncomfortably like I had to dress around it to show that I was hip and not an early-80s left behind. Since hair is a key part of defining your style persona, it makes sense that no matter how lovely, you move away from the pixie. Good for you, seeing that! &nbsp;I can't wait to see where this change takes you. It'll be fab, I know that.&nbsp;&nbsp; https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/travels-trials-theories-thoughts-and-the-fine-line-between-gamine-tomboy-long#post-911211 Thu, 18 Apr 2013 15:43:43 +0000 Thistle 911211@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ As Angie says so often, style is a journey not a destination. I really enjoyed reading your journey so far, and yes, it does seem to be making a change. In a way, it can be fun as a well as challenging.<br /><br />Your hair really is your #1 accessory and the most important part of any outfit.&nbsp; I see what it is so important to you.<br /><br />I look forward to seeing how the classic component enters your steampunk post-apocolytpic style. If anyone can merge it in, it's you! https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/travels-trials-theories-thoughts-and-the-fine-line-between-gamine-tomboy-long#post-911206 Thu, 18 Apr 2013 15:40:47 +0000 ramya 911206@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Rae, I kinda feel that you were more comfortable with your bob than your pixie. Not sure but this is the impression I get...<br /><br />Now you had a difficult year But you rock lady!!! I love how you style yourself :D... And guess what I now want to own a distressed denim :)...<br /><br />You are awesome!!!!<br /><br /><br />xoxoxoxo https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/travels-trials-theories-thoughts-and-the-fine-line-between-gamine-tomboy-long#post-911203 Thu, 18 Apr 2013 15:36:10 +0000 Angie 911203@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ *falls off chair*<br /><br />You want to be more classic. Well. I LOVE THAT!!! It's the power of classic pieces that cannot be beat because they can be molded into any style. Just like fresh tofu takes on the flavour of the sauce it is served with. That's the most important thing to understand with classic style, and *you do* get that.<br /><br />Fantastic insights, Rae. Excercise creates endorphins and that's why it's powerful. Totally psychological first and foremost. The fitness aspect is simply a by-product. <br /><br />My hair is my most important accessory and makes my outfits. That's why it gets so much of my attention and budget. TOTALLY worth it. So grow your hair out a little, to the style that feels right, and lets get the next leg of your style journey rolling! <br /><br /><br /> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/travels-trials-theories-thoughts-and-the-fine-line-between-gamine-tomboy-long#post-911192 Thu, 18 Apr 2013 15:25:33 +0000 milehighstyle (Linda) 911192@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Great insights, Rae.&nbsp;I'm right there with you with hair and body needing to be in a certain place to feel like me. That doesn't mean that we can't tweak things and make subtle changes and experiment, but it's good to know what lines can't be crossed and what is needed to get back where you want to be.&nbsp; https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/travels-trials-theories-thoughts-and-the-fine-line-between-gamine-tomboy-long#post-911177 Thu, 18 Apr 2013 15:08:34 +0000 Beth Ann 911177@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Love your FFBO from your trip.&nbsp; The trench was a great find!<br /><br />Thanks for sharing your thoughts.&nbsp; These kind of posts take a lot of energy to get on the screen.&nbsp; I find it interesting that a haircut that's not "you" has been a catalyst for change. Perhaps you needed to make a drastic change to see things more clearly.<br /><br />How interesting that your warrior is finding its outlet in your physical activity, rather than your wardrobe!&nbsp; As someone who always deals with creeping weight, its a good reminder that we move our bodies to keep them strong, not just make them skinny!<br /><br />Look forward to seeing what comes next!<br /> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/travels-trials-theories-thoughts-and-the-fine-line-between-gamine-tomboy-long#post-911170 Thu, 18 Apr 2013 14:59:41 +0000 rae 911170@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Thank you for all your lovely comments - the best part of waking up, hands down (Folger's, eat your heart out).&nbsp;<br /><br />Denise, I SO always forget that I cannot eat the way a man eats! I suppose I used to be able to. Must post that saying up somewhere in the house. :)<br /><br />Rute, you look <i>stunning</i> in your cut! I'm so glad you did it and it matched your personality.&nbsp;<br /><br />Natalie, I'm going for chin-length first, then we'll see how it goes. I also miss being hair twins - with you and my sister both. Now that I have a good stylist, I think I could have it super long without it being so heavy, so I might go back.&nbsp;<br /><br />Diane G, it is tough to lose a friendship (I've done that recently, too) and even tougher after a shared event like a haircut. I would have wanted to cut my hair after the "break up" but would have no place to go!<br /><br />Ceit, we can do it! The tribe needs us strong!<br /><br />Rambling Ann, writing was actually my other passion (aside from fashion) years and years ago. It would be nice if I could figure out how to make some money doing one, the other, or both! lol<br /><br />Julie, thanks, passing the wishes along. :D<br /><br />Janet, thank you, and I'm sorry you went through a depression. I can safely say depression is no fun.&nbsp;I feel like it's been one thing after another for two long years. At least I got a new haircut out of it, lol. I guess I feel a bit more serious and old (soul-wise) and need the classics to reflect that? Funny tangent: reading a what-to-wear-at-any-age article on the plane, I learned I apparently have the tast of a 60-something. Hm... doesn't bother me after YLF!<br /><br />Texstyle, I admire you for striking out with DH on a business venture. Ideally, I'd love to work for myself. Really hoping that can work out one of these days!<br /><br />Dana, I want to buckle down and do it! I wish Krav Maga were not so expensive; I'd love to keep with it. Maybe it'll have to come out of (gasp, horrors)&nbsp;the clothing budget...&nbsp; https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/travels-trials-theories-thoughts-and-the-fine-line-between-gamine-tomboy-long#post-911145 Thu, 18 Apr 2013 14:09:21 +0000 ironkurtin 911145@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Working out makes you love your body.&nbsp; If you want to be more fit, you can do it!<br /> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/travels-trials-theories-thoughts-and-the-fine-line-between-gamine-tomboy-long#post-911141 Thu, 18 Apr 2013 14:04:47 +0000 texstyle 911141@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ It's refreshing to read your thoughts and to remind ourselves that we all need to look inside once in a while and maybe adjust our own map of life. No matter what age, certain experiences, events, trauma, heartache, happiness&nbsp;or even comments by others can really impact the route we choose. <br /><br />I still remember when I was very young and just starting out in a small business with my DH. An older, wiser customer was waiting for her service to be completed and was chatting with me. She must have know I didn't have much input from other business people as she was giving me unsolicited advice. She leaned in at one point and asked me "Do you want to know the real secret of success?" I said "Of course!" and she sat back and simply said "Perseverance." I've long forgotten her name, but I'll never forget the comment. https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/travels-trials-theories-thoughts-and-the-fine-line-between-gamine-tomboy-long#post-911132 Thu, 18 Apr 2013 13:54:17 +0000 sarah 911132@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Ah, baseball - it makes me so happy.<br /><br />Back to your post - great work on your part to make all of these realizations at once. Well done!<br /><br />I truly adore your "uniform", by the way, and your haircut, but you need to feel like YOU.&nbsp; https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/travels-trials-theories-thoughts-and-the-fine-line-between-gamine-tomboy-long#post-911126 Thu, 18 Apr 2013 13:50:28 +0000 Anonymous 911126@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ You're really getting clarity and insight, Rae, even though you've been through so much. &nbsp;I applaud you and admire you.&nbsp; https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/travels-trials-theories-thoughts-and-the-fine-line-between-gamine-tomboy-long#post-911106 Thu, 18 Apr 2013 13:35:41 +0000 Transcona Shannon 911106@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ This is a wonderful post Rae. You've done a lot of thinking and to arrive at such clarity is fantastic.<br /><br />The bottom line with style, which includes your hair, is you need to <b><i>BE TRUE TO YOURSELF</i></b>. You gave the pixie a whirl and it doesn't feel like you - applause for trying it out and now onward.&nbsp;<br /><br />I look forward to seeing where this desire for classic takes you and know you will ROCK it all