https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/totally-ot Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Fri, 08 May 2026 03:44:57 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/totally-ot#post-122671 Tue, 02 Feb 2010 10:20:49 +0000 Louise 122671@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ele and michelle i totally understaand your empathy, i really am a big softy my current BF said i should just send a really nasty message to get rid of him but i'm too nice so went the polite route. I didn't want to keep in touch he was a pain to get rid of the first time round i had to ring my mobile company to turn off my voicemail cause he kept filling it with messages! He went major creepy!! x </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/totally-ot#post-122578 Tue, 02 Feb 2010 03:01:49 +0000 Jean Gray 122578@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You did the right thing. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/totally-ot#post-122537 Tue, 02 Feb 2010 01:58:24 +0000 shana 122537@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Louise, good riddance! Hopefully, he doesn't bother you again! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/totally-ot#post-122464 Mon, 01 Feb 2010 23:50:27 +0000 agrace 122464@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This is why I don't like facebook! That's not fun, so sorry! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/totally-ot#post-122452 Mon, 01 Feb 2010 23:24:38 +0000 Michelle 122452@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ele, I share your empathy... up to a point. I'm one of those people who dwells on the past and have a relationship that I've never ceased to think about or want to discuss with the guy in question... that said, I'd never, ever do what this dude is trying to pull! That's excessive and borderline harassment. You can be emotional without being imposing or just plain freaky! Banning is definitely the next step; this guy needs to get the message. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/totally-ot#post-122438 Mon, 01 Feb 2010 22:32:32 +0000 Ele 122438@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Aw, is it wrong that I feel kind of bad for him? Not that I don't think you did the right thing, Louise (some people just don't get the message!), but I feel like someone has to stand in creepy ex's corner. It might as well be me. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/totally-ot#post-122437 Mon, 01 Feb 2010 22:29:50 +0000 Dawn 122437@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>If he comes back again, ignore and block! I have very little time for people like that! While I don't have too many ex-boyfriends (started dating Alan when I was 18), I have had a couple of ex-friends do the same thing. Not a pleasant situation... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/totally-ot#post-122355 Mon, 01 Feb 2010 19:22:53 +0000 AJ 122355@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Good for you and hopefully good riddance of him!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/totally-ot#post-122343 Mon, 01 Feb 2010 18:55:51 +0000 Louise 122343@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well i ignored him and woke to 3 messages this morning asking why i was ignoring him!!!! I politely replied that the past was in the past and i had no wish to keep in touch got several respones back so i just kept copying and pasting the same message and he seems to have got the hint !!! x </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/totally-ot#post-122275 Mon, 01 Feb 2010 16:18:50 +0000 Vani 122275@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ignore, ignore, ignore! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/totally-ot#post-122099 Mon, 01 Feb 2010 03:15:09 +0000 MNsara 122099@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Definitely ignore. Any communication or acknowledgement at all would probably backfire (i.e. fuel his fire) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/totally-ot#post-122063 Mon, 01 Feb 2010 01:10:41 +0000 Angie 122063@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Urrrgh, Facebook :0(</p> <p>I'm with the gals. Ignore. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/totally-ot#post-122038 Mon, 01 Feb 2010 00:22:48 +0000 chewyspaghetti 122038@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I agree- don't reply.<br /> I don't do Facebook, either- it seems like such a pain.<br /> I have someone that keeps sending me invites to different things, etc, and I just put him in my spam folder. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/totally-ot#post-122016 Sun, 31 Jan 2010 23:03:37 +0000 Maya 122016@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I would recommend it. All FB did was keep me in touch with lots of people I barely knew or don't care much about. Anyone who I DO care about or want to keep in touch with, I can pick up the phone and call or see in person anyway (or log onto YLF and talk to!). It was kind of cool and nice when someone I lost touch with would add me, or vice versa, but after that we rarely spoke anyway. </p> <p>The new privacy upgrade was the last straw. I can't use a site that does not give me total control over my information, or that pimps me out to marketing companies. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/totally-ot#post-122015 Sun, 31 Jan 2010 23:02:57 +0000 cciele 122015@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yes, ban him! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/totally-ot#post-122013 Sun, 31 Jan 2010 22:57:43 +0000 Mamapicklejuice 122013@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Louise, it's annoying to see "x friend requests pending" - but if you don't "ignore" them (i.e. respond in the negative via FB) they are unable to make a second request.</p> <p>I would probably just ban them, as Maya suggested though...that ought to be a clear enough signal. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/totally-ot#post-122005 Sun, 31 Jan 2010 22:38:03 +0000 Louise 122005@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Maya i'm beginning to find facebook a nuisance too i might be following you soon x </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/totally-ot#post-122004 Sun, 31 Jan 2010 22:37:30 +0000 taylor 122004@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>ugh...why do people do this...ignore, he will eventually get it...hopefully </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/totally-ot#post-122002 Sun, 31 Jan 2010 22:34:49 +0000 Maya 122002@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>If you write back you're just going to open a door that you probably want to remain closed. Ignore him, and ban him if he keeps bugging you. I'm very coldhearted about these things, but I can't honestly be bothered with people like that who just don't let go. In the end I don't feel bad about it because it's probably the best thing for them too.</p> <p>I deleted my FB account and haven't been missing it as much as I thought I would. It causes too much silly drama and frustration in my life! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/totally-ot#post-122001 Sun, 31 Jan 2010 22:32:59 +0000 greenglove 122001@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ignore indefinitely! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/totally-ot#post-121998 Sun, 31 Jan 2010 22:29:15 +0000 Kristine 121998@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Blech! Keep ignoring him! If you have something constructive to say, you could tell him very briefly what went wrong and then firmly tell him you don't want to keep in touch. But I'm sure that would open the door. Probably best to keep ignoring him. Hopefully he doesn't know how to find you in real life? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/totally-ot#post-121993 Sun, 31 Jan 2010 22:24:39 +0000 Louise 121993@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What would you do? An old boyfriend has contacted me on Facebook wanting to know what went wrong (we've been split up over 10 years!!) I have no desire to keep in touch with him i have already ignored a message and 2 friend requests from him! </p>