https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tired-of-thinking-about-it Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Wed, 22 Apr 2026 22:33:49 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tired-of-thinking-about-it/page/2#post-1090617 Tue, 19 Nov 2013 19:25:36 +0000 Tricia 1090617@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh boy, can I EVER relate to this. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tired-of-thinking-about-it/page/2#post-1090599 Tue, 19 Nov 2013 19:15:34 +0000 Marley 1090599@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>IK - you are so right!&nbsp; (Although, I am one that would never be accused of over-analyzing anything - on the contrary, I allow my right brain to run the show too much of the time - so, I'll take a step towards analyzing my wardrobe/outfits and you take a step back, OK?) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tired-of-thinking-about-it/page/2#post-1090598 Tue, 19 Nov 2013 19:15:16 +0000 catgirl 1090598@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Also remember this is a forum where some of us come to solve fashion issues collectively... And that doesn't mean we are focusing on the negative per se. It's all fun an distracting compared to all the other issues we may face. Agonizing over PPL or blue hair is far more entertaining. I will do my best to keep it on the sunny side though. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tired-of-thinking-about-it/page/2#post-1090592 Tue, 19 Nov 2013 19:12:59 +0000 ironkurtin 1090592@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>@Suz - I didn't say I didn't like to think... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tired-of-thinking-about-it/page/2#post-1090578 Tue, 19 Nov 2013 19:05:00 +0000 Suz 1090578@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Denise, I say you should feel like a success because you love your clothes and always look fantastic, current, and ahead of the curve. IK you should love yours because you luxuriate in their quality and they look great on your fit self.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tired-of-thinking-about-it/page/2#post-1090568 Tue, 19 Nov 2013 19:02:37 +0000 CocoLion 1090568@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think complicating fashion is still less stressful than tackling the really complicated issues of life. &nbsp;At my age, it's my aging parent, the state of our small business, and some other issues I don't even want to share on this forum.</p> <p>What you said "so what if there are things I don't wear" resonated with me. &nbsp;I have a maximal closet, and once a year when we close our restaurant for a few months so I have time to&nbsp;cull and sell on eBay. &nbsp;But I do sometimes feel like a failure here because my wardrobe is not minimal, not very neatly organized, and there are plenty of orphans. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tired-of-thinking-about-it/page/2#post-1090539 Tue, 19 Nov 2013 18:49:35 +0000 judy 1090539@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>IK, yes, it's a huge relief to let go of the struggle! &nbsp;</p> <p>We probably all have so many stories of how things came to us in those moments where we are finally forced to give up in sheer exhaustion! &nbsp;</p> <p>I've also noticed that sometimes I have liked&nbsp;the struggle :). &nbsp;It was a habitual way to "feel alive". &nbsp;Letting it all be easier is a learning, isn't it? &nbsp;A new habit!</p> <p>And isn't fashion a great playground to discover the energy dynamic between obsessing and letting go? &nbsp;And a fairly benign one, really! &nbsp;</p> <p>Sorry if this is too philosophical!…the stories would be too long winded, &nbsp;probably. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tired-of-thinking-about-it/page/2#post-1090501 Tue, 19 Nov 2013 18:17:13 +0000 Suz 1090501@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well, I love the discipline because it lets me enjoy the clothes. The discipline and analysis in the back end is what frees me for fun in the front end. But to each her own. If you don't like to think, don't think. And definitely don't worry about a peek of pink underwear!&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tired-of-thinking-about-it/page/2#post-1090490 Tue, 19 Nov 2013 18:06:40 +0000 Anonymous 1090490@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Maybe it's better to say: Think it through, but don't overthink it. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tired-of-thinking-about-it/page/2#post-1090461 Tue, 19 Nov 2013 17:41:37 +0000 rae 1090461@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I do hear you - that's why I hem and haw so much nowadays over returns... there is so much else to stress about in the day that I just want the clothes to work and let me enjoy them. This also helps negative feedback roll off of me much more easily - it's hard enough to please myself, let alone the entire forum. Some things are not for everyone. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tired-of-thinking-about-it#post-1090449 Tue, 19 Nov 2013 17:33:54 +0000 Karie 1090449@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>A positive approach is the only way to go. I think my roller coaster philosophy applies (I LOVE roller coasters):<br />"There will be ups and downs, but the journey is short so ENJOY THE RIDE" </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tired-of-thinking-about-it#post-1090402 Tue, 19 Nov 2013 17:07:19 +0000 milehighstyle (Linda) 1090402@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I totally agree - I have about 3 hours in the evening to get everything done (dinner, make lunches for the next day, get outfit ready for the next day, walk or run with&nbsp;the pups, help son w/homework, shower, etc) and spending too much time obsessing about an outfit is going to suck time out of the other things.&nbsp; Better to trust that your wardrobe has been carefully curated and your pieces will work well together than to try on an endless array of items until you get perfection (whatever that means).&nbsp; So what if I didn't select exactly the right necklace or it would have looked better with a scarf?&nbsp; As Deborah said, we're probably still knocking it out of the park on a less than stellar day. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tired-of-thinking-about-it#post-1090308 Tue, 19 Nov 2013 16:21:30 +0000 catgirl 1090308@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm with Zap - I go through phases of enjoying the over-analysis and phases of needing&nbsp;a break.&nbsp; I'm probably one of those you feel are too hard on themselves, but really, it's only one small part of my multi-faceted life... I'm well aware it's a first world problem as well as a reason to step back until I feel more sunshine and roses about it!&nbsp; The positive nature of the forum is always a fashion life preserver. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tired-of-thinking-about-it#post-1090302 Tue, 19 Nov 2013 16:16:44 +0000 Anonymous 1090302@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You had me all worried, Dana, about all these things I was supposed to be worrying about but clueless and hadn't considered. Hot pink underwear flash? As long as it isn't down to a butt-cheek, I think you are fine! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tired-of-thinking-about-it#post-1090299 Tue, 19 Nov 2013 16:12:34 +0000 Jenava 1090299@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Love the spirit! &nbsp;Totally agree. &nbsp;I am going to make an effort to have a good attitude about EVERYTHING today, not just fashion. &nbsp;Life is too short to worry. &nbsp;Thanks for the reminder. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tired-of-thinking-about-it#post-1090294 Tue, 19 Nov 2013 16:11:06 +0000 Anonymous 1090294@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>IK, I overanalyze everything. As far as my clothes, well, I take a step back when I get to that "compare and despair" point. If you are hitting buy after seeing anything and everything posted here or if you are just spending endless hours trying to "figure stuff up", I think a breather is a good thing. Love hot pink underwear! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tired-of-thinking-about-it#post-1090291 Tue, 19 Nov 2013 16:08:31 +0000 Glory 1090291@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>IK waving at my hot pink undie twin!!!!&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tired-of-thinking-about-it#post-1090286 Tue, 19 Nov 2013 16:03:38 +0000 Angie 1090286@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>YES. Worry less and live longer. Life is too short. End of story.&nbsp;</p> <p>I love pretty underwear - and pink. I wouldn't loose sleep over exposing a little of it either. At least you are wearing underwear.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tired-of-thinking-about-it#post-1090279 Tue, 19 Nov 2013 15:58:52 +0000 ironkurtin 1090279@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Angie, I love your positive approach!</p> <p>I think many of us are really hard on ourselves. We should worry less and live longer.</p> <p>Today I am wearing HOT pink underwear and it is entirely possible someone might see the top if my sweater hikes up. I am not going to worry about this. I am going to keep an eye out for the right belt, instead. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tired-of-thinking-about-it#post-1090233 Tue, 19 Nov 2013 15:19:48 +0000 Angie 1090233@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm with you on the dangers of analysis paralysis. Leave things you can't find until they come your way. Forget about them and enjoy what you have.&nbsp;Our wardrobes are there to enjoy, and getting dressed should be a good&nbsp;part of the day. I can't stress THAT enough. Getting there&nbsp;does involve <i>some </i>discipline, and a little discipline in how you go about creating and maintaining your style&nbsp;is a&nbsp;good thing. In fact, the&nbsp;discipline itself is a fun process. At least, that's how I see it.&nbsp;</p> <p>Am I nauseating you with my overly positive approach?&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tired-of-thinking-about-it#post-1090232 Tue, 19 Nov 2013 15:19:34 +0000 Von 1090232@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>In our daily life, how many of us have someone (besides immediate family) who will come up to us and say "those shoes REALLY don't go with those pants" or "you know...your body type isn't made for flowy tops".&nbsp; I think not very many of us.&nbsp; Most of those thoughts are self imposed.&nbsp; </p> <p>The fact of the matter is, we (people in general) are all so into ourselves that I doubt we can recall what anyone wore yesterday besides us.&nbsp; Someone told me once that if anyone has the guts to tell you to your face what they <i>really</i> think about your outfit, then you have the right to tell them to their face what you think about them in return :). </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tired-of-thinking-about-it#post-1090212 Tue, 19 Nov 2013 15:01:15 +0000 Peri 1090212@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You're not leaving, are you? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tired-of-thinking-about-it#post-1090181 Tue, 19 Nov 2013 14:35:27 +0000 Anonymous 1090181@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Your wardrobe should never be a source of stress and worry. You're right to decide not to obsess about it. That said, I believe attention to detail results can result in having flattering clothing that you're happy wearing. That's why I participate in the YLF forum. Hope this helps! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tired-of-thinking-about-it#post-1090175 Tue, 19 Nov 2013 14:26:42 +0000 E 1090175@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I agree that your clothes should be fun, not a source of worry! But for me I overanalyse all of my interests and get perverse pleasure out of it.&nbsp;;) My overanalysing is more descriptive than prescriptive though, probably because I spend so much time at home with an outfit audience of one. Much less pressure that way! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tired-of-thinking-about-it#post-1090154 Tue, 19 Nov 2013 13:46:13 +0000 ironkurtin 1090154@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sorty if this was opaque. I just wonder if we don't over think, over analyze, over obsess about our clothing sometimes. My wardrobe should be something I enjoy - it should not be yet another place possibly fraught with errors and mistakes. I love clothes, but I don't want them running my life. So if that means I flunk PPP or have things I don't wear, well, so be it! Onward! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tired-of-thinking-about-it#post-1090083 Tue, 19 Nov 2013 12:02:41 +0000 Anonymous 1090083@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Guys, I think it is about dressing. IK chose the dressing category on her post. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tired-of-thinking-about-it#post-1090002 Tue, 19 Nov 2013 05:50:07 +0000 Deborah 1090002@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>If you are talking about dressing and style, I get you, but I don't think you would be here if it didn't matter to you &nbsp;It is very easy to obsess, and important to find a level of balance. &nbsp;And you know, even when we fabbers have a bad day, it would still rate as a 10 where I live:) &nbsp;Enjoy it and make it fun:) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tired-of-thinking-about-it#post-1089979 Tue, 19 Nov 2013 04:59:36 +0000 Neel 1089979@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Since its in the dressing category, I assume its about dressing! Oh well, sometimes I do feel that way! But I try to get things right for my own happiness. When you start doing it for others, you are bound to feel stressed. If dressing up is stressing you then not worth it IMO. I have seen a lot of fashion bloggers go through this phase too! Pretty normal I would say but annoying nevertheless. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tired-of-thinking-about-it#post-1089935 Tue, 19 Nov 2013 04:05:04 +0000 Marley 1089935@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>??? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tired-of-thinking-about-it#post-1089931 Tue, 19 Nov 2013 04:02:22 +0000 minimalist 1089931@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Do let us know.</p> <p>Sounds like my method for soufflé. </p>