https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tips-on-how-to-break-up-with-your-hairstylist Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Thu, 23 Apr 2026 18:42:29 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tips-on-how-to-break-up-with-your-hairstylist/page/2#post-1662867 Tue, 17 May 2016 18:46:20 +0000 minimalist 1662867@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I hate appointments, too. Perhaps not as much as you do, but certainly a whole lot!</p> <p>When I've had "free" correction services, I've tipped. This resolves my sense of obligation. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tips-on-how-to-break-up-with-your-hairstylist/page/2#post-1662860 Tue, 17 May 2016 18:21:16 +0000 Aziraphale 1662860@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Jill -- yeah...I guess you're right. I will still <i>feel</i> an obligation, though, even though I shouldn't. ;-)</p> <p>Plus I'm feeling a bit lazy and rebellious today. It annoys me that I have to make yet another appointment. Does anyone else hate appointments as much as I do? The only appointments I used to sort of like were hair appointments, but since I'm irritated with my stylist at the moment, even those are no fun! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tips-on-how-to-break-up-with-your-hairstylist/page/2#post-1662822 Tue, 17 May 2016 16:56:27 +0000 jill58 1662822@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>If you don't like your highlights I think you should definitely ask her to fix them and I don't think it obligates you to go back in the future. In fact, I wouldn't even think about that right now, Get your highlights fixed. Then try another stylist. If the new stylist works out, you can tell the old one that you loved the way she cut your hair but that scheduling was becoming a problem &nbsp;-- &nbsp;or, as Gaylene mentioned, that you needed someone closer to home. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tips-on-how-to-break-up-with-your-hairstylist/page/2#post-1662805 Tue, 17 May 2016 16:29:37 +0000 Aziraphale 1662805@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks a lot, guys. I'm still trying to decide what to do. I'm hesitant to completely burn that bridge until I know I have another stylist who "gets" how to cut wavy/curly hair (not all of them do, and although I have another stylist lined up, she hasn't cut my hair before. You never really know until you try). I also want to avoid any bad feeling. But there's no question that it's time to move on to a new stylist.</p> <p>One thing I'm still waffling on: I'm not sure if I should go back to this stylist and get her to fix my ginger hair. I know she'll do it for free (she has offered), but then I will feel obliged to go back to her next time. If I just live with it for a couple months, let it grow out a bit, then start from scratch with someone different, I won't feel any obligation. (I think I can live with it. It's not the best, and it's not what I wanted -- but then again, it's not like I haven't had all kinds of crazy hair colours in the past!).</p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tips-on-how-to-break-up-with-your-hairstylist/page/2#post-1662786 Tue, 17 May 2016 15:39:37 +0000 rebekahphoto 1662786@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>ugh. as someone who has had the same stylist for almost 30 years (yes my high school friend turned stylist who is amazing) I understand the relationship well.</p> <p>I would just stop scheduling with her and make an appointment elsewhere and move on. Nothing is worse than someone cancelling appointments or being unreliable, in any business. There are so many amazing stylists and advances in color technology, there are great opportunities for you to find someone who really gets what you want! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tips-on-how-to-break-up-with-your-hairstylist/page/2#post-1662783 Tue, 17 May 2016 15:30:46 +0000 LaPed 1662783@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well, I was going to say move outta town , but it looks like she beat you to it. That's really all the opening you need. I'd just stop calling and find someone new, but if you feel you need to give her a reason, tell her the scheduling is too much of an inconvenience. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tips-on-how-to-break-up-with-your-hairstylist#post-1662776 Tue, 17 May 2016 14:52:20 +0000 BlondeAmbition 1662776@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This happens quite often in the music industry and when someone acts unprofessionally I just don't call them anymore. &nbsp;If they ask me why I am upfront and I tell them the xyz reasons of why I had to move on to someone else but I don't go out of my way to lecture people on how to do their jobs. &nbsp;That's quite literally their own business so I just quietly move on. &nbsp;I'd do the same thing here. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tips-on-how-to-break-up-with-your-hairstylist#post-1662774 Tue, 17 May 2016 14:47:02 +0000 texstyle 1662774@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>If I wasn't a true "friend" of the stylist, I think I'd just stop making appointments and leave it at that. If I felt we were friends, I'd explain the circumstance that it has simply become too difficult to schedule and that creates stress, which is just never a good thing before a haircut. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tips-on-how-to-break-up-with-your-hairstylist#post-1662596 Tue, 17 May 2016 09:19:19 +0000 Sally 1662596@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Diito what others have said...I&nbsp;just wouldn't book again with her.&nbsp; I have stopped going to stylists because it was inconvenient and they are ok with that.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tips-on-how-to-break-up-with-your-hairstylist#post-1662594 Tue, 17 May 2016 09:14:58 +0000 Louise 1662594@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm a bit of a confrontational wimp so I would text her before my next appointment to cancel claiming illness or such like and say I'll text to rearrange when I'm better then accidentally on purpose not rearrange </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tips-on-how-to-break-up-with-your-hairstylist#post-1662571 Tue, 17 May 2016 07:52:05 +0000 Ledonna N. 1662571@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You don't have to say a word. Just don't come back. If she sends you a text asking where you've been just say. I've decided to go in anoth creative flow. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tips-on-how-to-break-up-with-your-hairstylist#post-1662549 Tue, 17 May 2016 06:51:22 +0000 MsMary 1662549@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think just failing to make another appointment would be fine in this circumstance.</p> <p>I will say that a few years ago I broke up with my stylist and it was super awkward because I moved to another stylist in the same salon. I was totally tied up in knots about the whole thing, and at the end of the day the lesson I took away was that it was far more upsetting for me than it was for him. Stylists lost clients all the time for a variety of reasons, and they move on and it's not a huge deal. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tips-on-how-to-break-up-with-your-hairstylist#post-1662542 Tue, 17 May 2016 06:08:31 +0000 Jane 1662542@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am sorry to hear of your recent experiences. Having hair cuts and colour is time consuming and ££.</p> <p>I am worried for you! I think it is all too much hassle. </p> <p>I wonder if your hairdresser feels it's time you both moved on? Subconsciously moving appointments and all that isn't very loyal on her part. </p> <p>I also think that sometimes relationships just run their course and it becomes time to move on and may be this is one of those moments? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tips-on-how-to-break-up-with-your-hairstylist#post-1662516 Tue, 17 May 2016 03:40:47 +0000 Gigi 1662516@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I agree with Gaylene. It sounds to me like you feel in your heart that you want to communicate this to her personally. Sometimes the easiest thing to do (stop making appointments) isn't the best thing to do. I think that if you are able to politely tell her why you have to move on, you will have a lot of peace about it afterward.</p> <p>If it were me, I would probably go back to have my color fixed, and after the appointment, I would say something like: "I need to talk to you about something that is kind of awkward." And then just explain to her how the frequent cancellations have been difficult for you and that you need to go to a different stylist, etc. That way she will know that it is just the cancellations that are the problem and that you were not dissatisfied with her services.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tips-on-how-to-break-up-with-your-hairstylist#post-1662513 Tue, 17 May 2016 03:29:06 +0000 Suz 1662513@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm of the view that, given your long relationship,&nbsp;<i>ideally</i> you'd tell her...but given her disappearance and frequent cancellations, it's a fuzzier situation.&nbsp;</p> <p>Said by the woman who is actually two-timing on her beloved stylist because said stylist moved to the other side of town without warning and I am feeling a bit miffed by it. I am pretty sure I'm going to go back to her (or go to her at her new location) for the next cut, and if I decide not to, I'll let her know why (I really don't want to go across town...) but....I really am not much of a positive example here. ;)&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tips-on-how-to-break-up-with-your-hairstylist#post-1662507 Tue, 17 May 2016 03:16:06 +0000 Aziraphale 1662507@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Gaylene and Sally, I kind of agree with you. Since I've had this same stylist for about seven years, I feel weird about just "disappearing" with no explanation or even comment. :-)</p> <p>On the other hand...just saying nothing would be so easy. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tips-on-how-to-break-up-with-your-hairstylist#post-1662502 Tue, 17 May 2016 03:03:04 +0000 rachylou 1662502@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I like to just not book another appointment. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tips-on-how-to-break-up-with-your-hairstylist#post-1662497 Tue, 17 May 2016 02:48:39 +0000 Sal 1662497@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have done both these approaches when changing a stylist - the polite phone call to advise, and the not making appointments any more.</p> <p>I would tend to say what Gaylene said, and maybe add that the schedule is not working for you anymore. &nbsp;It sounds like it is a time for a change - and that can happen.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tips-on-how-to-break-up-with-your-hairstylist#post-1662494 Tue, 17 May 2016 02:37:53 +0000 Gaylene 1662494@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well, I'm going to be a spanner here because I'm assuming you have some mixed feelings about just stopping making appointments. </p> <p>My Ms. Manners alter ego says this situation just requires you to gracefully communicate your decision: "Clare, I've enjoyed having you as a stylist but I've decided to look for someone closer to home." </p> <p>That's it--no explaining, apologizing, skulking around--just a polite, civilized communication about your decision. If she asks for a reason, I'd just restate "I've decided to find someone closer to home". I'd send the message using the same method you used to book your appointments. </p> <p>As a bonus, you get to demonstrate to your kids how grown ups behave when they have to communicate unpleasant news. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tips-on-how-to-break-up-with-your-hairstylist#post-1662432 Tue, 17 May 2016 01:05:14 +0000 K. Period. 1662432@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I don't think you have any obligation to continue to go to your stylist, even if you do like her personally, and I don't think you are obligated to communicate with her why you are moving on unless there is a possibility of resolving the issue so you don't have to. &nbsp;</p> <p>If you would continue booking with her if she was reliable and you don't think it will result in a blow up, you could invest in telling her why you are considering going elsewhere. &nbsp;I'd start by telling her that this isn't easy for you to do, but you like and respect her too much to move on without trying to fix this situation, which isn't working for you.</p> <p>I'd only bother with talking it through with her if you feel like her long term plans involve her maintaining her business in Canada as well as the US. If she seems to be&nbsp;keeping her Canadian business as her safety net, then you should move along without qualms. &nbsp;&nbsp;</p> <p>And for what it is worth, if your highlights are ginger instead of blonde, then I suspect they are "brassy" as the result of under processing. &nbsp;That's a mistake that should be corrected. &nbsp;(Full disclosure: I'm not a stylist, but I've been a bleached blonde forever and that's the entire extent of my qualifications on this! ) &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tips-on-how-to-break-up-with-your-hairstylist#post-1662431 Tue, 17 May 2016 01:04:42 +0000 minimalist 1662431@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Avoid avoid avoid! Since she's not living in town any more, it's not too likely you'll run into her, is it? </p> <p>No need to explain, unless she contacts you to ask why. It would be impolite of her to put you on the spot, so then you're within bounds of graciousness to state things clearly. Personally, I wouldn't even tell the mutual acquaintance that you're switching definitively; that's really none of their business, and any information you share would put them in the awkward position of go-between.</p> <p>I also like to leave things unsaid in order to leave a door open, in case circumstances change. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tips-on-how-to-break-up-with-your-hairstylist#post-1662428 Tue, 17 May 2016 01:02:25 +0000 JAileen 1662428@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I had to break up with my long time dentist. At my last appointment he wasn't even there, only the hygienist. I didn't tell him why I didn't come back. He never told me why he wasn't there. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tips-on-how-to-break-up-with-your-hairstylist#post-1662427 Tue, 17 May 2016 00:59:11 +0000 Aziraphale 1662427@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Vix -- an "open relationship" with your stylist -- lol (I can't do that; I am monogamous!) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tips-on-how-to-break-up-with-your-hairstylist#post-1662425 Tue, 17 May 2016 00:57:44 +0000 Aziraphale 1662425@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Colette, yes, I do have another stylist lined up -- I've been anticipating a switch anyway, because I thought mine might eventually stop commuting up here.&nbsp;</p> <p>Lisa, I broke up with a previous stylist for the same reason -- she had two kids and went down to one day a week -- and she totally understood. I just couldn't make her schedule work anymore. :-)</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tips-on-how-to-break-up-with-your-hairstylist#post-1662423 Tue, 17 May 2016 00:55:01 +0000 Vix 1662423@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You have many great reasons to ditch, not that anyone needs one! I'd debate letting her fix your color for free then tell her via text or just stop making appointments. </p> <p>[Good luck with the correction, BTW. Similar situation is how I met the stylist below!]</p> <p>Me, I like my long-term stylist, her cuts are great for the price, she'll often squeeze me on fast notice, and she was supportive of my quitting color. I refer people to her for cuts or help weaning off color.</p> <p>But her location isn't great and she hasn't gotten the ongoing training in curly hair that other spendier and more convenient stylists have. </p> <p>So we now have an open relationship. It's a little awkward, but she'd rather have some of my money than none of it! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tips-on-how-to-break-up-with-your-hairstylist#post-1662419 Tue, 17 May 2016 00:48:54 +0000 Anonymous 1662419@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>As the others have said. I'm so unafraid of being direct it often gets me into trouble, but I had this happen with my long-time stylist who is also one of my closest friends (happened at the same time). &nbsp;She got too busy, too booked up in advance, and started to work fewer or shorter days because of her 3 young kids. &nbsp;I can't book 4 weeks in advance for a haircut, and I finally told her so. &nbsp;I went to another stylist right in the same salon, and was totally honest and upfront with both. It worked out just fine. My friend/original stylist - I teasingly scolded her for having too many clients, but i meant it. And she got it . &nbsp;At the end of the day, you are the one paying for the service. &nbsp;You get to do what ever you want - and you will handle it politely and diplomatically !&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tips-on-how-to-break-up-with-your-hairstylist#post-1662416 Tue, 17 May 2016 00:46:03 +0000 Colette 1662416@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm sorry to hear your hair didn't turn out as you hoped. It does sound like it's time to move on. Unless you plan on going to the same salon or have a personal relationship with her I don't think you need to do anything but stop making appointments. But if you feel you need to tell her why you certainly have good reasons with her limited schedule and frequent cancellations.</p> <p>Hopefully you already found another stylist.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tips-on-how-to-break-up-with-your-hairstylist#post-1662412 Tue, 17 May 2016 00:43:36 +0000 Aziraphale 1662412@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Just read everyone else's responses. You all make good points. Just to be clear, I don't feel any guilt at all about moving on to a new stylist -- I just wanted to know if there's a polite way to do it! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tips-on-how-to-break-up-with-your-hairstylist#post-1662411 Tue, 17 May 2016 00:41:20 +0000 Aziraphale 1662411@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hahahaaaaa Suz, your text actually made me laugh out loud. To be fair, I don't think she was <i>trying</i> to make me look ridiculous. (My kids think orange hair is pretty darned funny, though!). But yeah, she'll notice if I stop going to her -- she has been cutting my hair for at least seven years. But thank you for the suggestions.</p> <p>Lol Una, I just read your comment and laughed out loud again! You make good points too. I don't think she's exactly walking all over me -- we have a mutual acquaintance, so I know she's had some geniune health trouble (reproductive system issues) over the past few years. I think the cancellations were legit. I've given her the benefit of the doubt. But now I'm moving on, and was wondering if it would be rude to simply stop booking appointments (which is by far the easiest thing to do). </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/tips-on-how-to-break-up-with-your-hairstylist#post-1662410 Tue, 17 May 2016 00:40:59 +0000 Helena 1662410@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Az, maybe I am cold hearted, but I change stylists all the time and don't give it a second thought. I wouldn't worry ... If she follows up with you, you can explain. But I would just schedule elsewhere if I was you </p>