https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-unwelcome-comments-from-strangers Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Wed, 22 Apr 2026 21:05:41 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-unwelcome-comments-from-strangers/page/2#post-1691215 Fri, 08 Jul 2016 19:12:38 +0000 Momo 1691215@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am really sorry that happened to you .<br /> I am convinced that one of th reasons I am a bit overweight is that I had so unwelcome, rude, and downright scary experiences and comments about my body when I was younger. A little weight shielded me from that.<br /> I don't understand where men get the Idea that it is ok or even a compliment to say things like that,<br /> If my boys did that to someone I would have their heads. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-unwelcome-comments-from-strangers/page/2#post-1689953 Wed, 06 Jul 2016 00:56:46 +0000 Ledonna N. 1689953@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It is not right but it is the very rude world we live in.&nbsp; </p> <p>I am sorry this happened to you Janet.&nbsp; People are stupid and rude. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-unwelcome-comments-from-strangers/page/2#post-1689942 Wed, 06 Jul 2016 00:11:31 +0000 Gail 1689942@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Very rude and in such bad taste.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-unwelcome-comments-from-strangers/page/2#post-1689070 Mon, 04 Jul 2016 05:53:18 +0000 AJ 1689070@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ugh! I'm so sorry that happened! </p> <p>Sometimes I want to carry an air horn and give rude people an earful of that! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-unwelcome-comments-from-strangers/page/2#post-1688954 Sun, 03 Jul 2016 21:10:46 +0000 Debbie 1688954@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Janet I am so sorry. It always shocking when people comment about others appearances. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-unwelcome-comments-from-strangers/page/2#post-1688842 Sun, 03 Jul 2016 13:24:08 +0000 Colette 1688842@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yuck! I'm very sorry you had to experience such a rude comment. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-unwelcome-comments-from-strangers/page/2#post-1688538 Sat, 02 Jul 2016 14:14:36 +0000 donnat 1688538@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Such a creep! Ugh! Harrasment, sexism, male entitlement... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-unwelcome-comments-from-strangers/page/2#post-1688281 Fri, 01 Jul 2016 21:40:13 +0000 Barbara Diane 1688281@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Wow, so much shit, Janet, Angie, and many more.&nbsp;<br />So sorry.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-unwelcome-comments-from-strangers/page/2#post-1687801 Thu, 30 Jun 2016 19:35:50 +0000 Joyce B 1687801@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That was pure harassment, what a lousy jerk. You look wonderful, Janet, his comment is about him and not about you. I always thought that as I got older<br /> I would get less stupid comments but I still get some. I also have a bitchy face that can chase them away and keep me safe, it's good for those situations. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-unwelcome-comments-from-strangers/page/2#post-1687742 Thu, 30 Jun 2016 17:17:36 +0000 RobinF 1687742@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Wow, what a creep! That would totally freak me out. Not only harassment but sexism too.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-unwelcome-comments-from-strangers/page/2#post-1687711 Thu, 30 Jun 2016 16:15:46 +0000 rachylou 1687711@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Of course, y'all realise some sister along the way responded positively to this behavior...the same sister who gets dates driving 75 mph on the freeway... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-unwelcome-comments-from-strangers/page/2#post-1687697 Thu, 30 Jun 2016 15:31:13 +0000 Eliza 1687697@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sorry to read this, Janet. Wrong, wrong wrong. Where is written that women going about their business are just waiting for commentary on their appearance, etc???&nbsp;</p> <p>As always, the remarks say more about the speaker than the recipient.&nbsp;</p> <p>Boo!!!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-unwelcome-comments-from-strangers/page/2#post-1687637 Thu, 30 Jun 2016 13:50:16 +0000 Janet 1687637@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks, all. I knew I'd find sympathetic ears here.</p> <p>It's certainly not the first time I've gotten comments from men out on the street -- try going for a run around any city and it's inevitable. Maybe the form-fitting workout gear is just too hard to ignore. But there is a spectrum of behavior ranging from "acknowledging glance" to "hey, how ya doin'" to "leer and rude remark," and most of what I've encountered is closer to the benign side of that spectrum. And for crap sake, I'm a lumpy middle-aged woman! I can't help but wonder what the cute young women get thrown at them. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-unwelcome-comments-from-strangers/page/2#post-1687601 Thu, 30 Jun 2016 11:47:46 +0000 Inge 1687601@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sigh, what on earth is wrong with people! I am so sorry this happened to you, Janet-((( </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-unwelcome-comments-from-strangers/page/2#post-1687559 Thu, 30 Jun 2016 09:42:58 +0000 Sally 1687559@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That is awful. I hate that. I was telling my hairdresser I've experienced more harassment since lightening my hair....I've had an older man waggle his tongue at me, people call out "nice bum" and other things. She who is about 20 years younger than me said "that must be fun". I said "no I feel vulnerable and harrassed" </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-unwelcome-comments-from-strangers/page/2#post-1687552 Thu, 30 Jun 2016 09:23:48 +0000 Style Fan 1687552@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>How awful.&nbsp; I am so sorry it happened to you.&nbsp; Yuck. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-unwelcome-comments-from-strangers/page/2#post-1687546 Thu, 30 Jun 2016 08:19:00 +0000 Gigi 1687546@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What a slimeball! I would have reacted in the same way. It's just so shocking that you're caught off guard. How demeaning. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-unwelcome-comments-from-strangers/page/2#post-1687507 Thu, 30 Jun 2016 04:25:17 +0000 catgirl 1687507@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Blah times a billion! This kind of thing makes me sick, along with telling me to smile. Why do men do this all over the world? And you can't turn the tables because the power dynamic is one way. I just read an article about why men send women pictures of their, er, parts and it basically said that men assume everyone thinks like they do - like "I want her to send me a pic, so I'll send her one!" Ugh. So sorry yet another Fabber has been subjected to stupidity. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-unwelcome-comments-from-strangers#post-1687485 Thu, 30 Jun 2016 02:57:28 +0000 Chris987 1687485@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This rudeness and harassment is so awful. I just don't get why people think it's ok to do this. I wish there was a better way to respond than ignoring&nbsp;but I have no idea what it would be. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-unwelcome-comments-from-strangers#post-1687465 Thu, 30 Jun 2016 01:54:40 +0000 Beth Ann 1687465@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think we live in an age when every feels the right to voice an opinion to anyone about anything. &nbsp;We might have something to learn from our Grandparents, who would have practiced more formal manners. &nbsp;Now, that didn't prevent all forms of bias (horrible Jim Crow laws) or gossip, but respect would be nice! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-unwelcome-comments-from-strangers#post-1687462 Thu, 30 Jun 2016 01:43:50 +0000 Nebraskim 1687462@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This makes me so angry. I'm sorry this was said to you. There is so much commentary now on men saying inappropriate stuff to women, and how if you call them out, they get belligerent, call you a bitch or worse, continue to rant at you, tell you they were joking, follow you and yell "smile at me!," threaten to rape you or tell you that you are unf**kable, etc. etc. etc. etc. This is part of rape culture and is harassment. This is a male problem and only other men can begin to solve this by them calling out this male behavior as being wrong.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-unwelcome-comments-from-strangers#post-1687449 Thu, 30 Jun 2016 01:12:52 +0000 Jane 1687449@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Horrid. How can he think it is acceptable. Calling comments out is so uncivilised and is harrasment </p> <p> I'm sorry that this happened to you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-unwelcome-comments-from-strangers#post-1687431 Thu, 30 Jun 2016 00:28:08 +0000 Aziraphale 1687431@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Aw, Janet, I'm so sorry. What an asshat. Some people have no clue. I don't think men always "get" it -- most men don't endure the same level of judgment as women when it comes to physical attractiveness, and they have no idea that many women have a complicated relationship with their bodies. Plus, we still live in a moderately sexist society. That guy was probably trying to pay you a compliment, and doesn't realize that commenting AT ALL on a woman's body is actually a form of harassment.&nbsp;</p> <p>(And for what it's worth, you have an enviable figure).</p> <p>One time, a male teacher looked me up and down, apparently decided I was too short, and said, "What happened to you? Did you not eat your Wheaties?". I was in grade seven and I still remember it. I wish I'd told him to go f*ck himself. I'd have probably earned a week's worth of detention, or possibly a suspension, but it would have been so worth it.&nbsp;</p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-unwelcome-comments-from-strangers#post-1687424 Thu, 30 Jun 2016 00:14:59 +0000 shedev 1687424@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It's happened to me too. It's just rude. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-unwelcome-comments-from-strangers#post-1687389 Wed, 29 Jun 2016 22:57:21 +0000 Windchime 1687389@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>How awful.</p> <p>The astonishing thing about this situation is that it would never be reversed. I mean, you, I, and every woman I know would NEVER make a lewd/inappropriate comment to an unfamiliar man we encountered on the street. It's just not done in our culture. But most women have had the degrading experience of being addressed in a lewd way by a male.</p> <p>We've come a long way, but there's still a long way to go. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-unwelcome-comments-from-strangers#post-1687369 Wed, 29 Jun 2016 22:12:18 +0000 Anonymous 1687369@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm sorry that happened to you too. &nbsp;No words. What an idiot. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-unwelcome-comments-from-strangers#post-1687366 Wed, 29 Jun 2016 22:04:39 +0000 catherine 1687366@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Gross. Sorry you had to live through it. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-unwelcome-comments-from-strangers#post-1687364 Wed, 29 Jun 2016 21:57:47 +0000 AviaMariah 1687364@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Speechless. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-unwelcome-comments-from-strangers#post-1687332 Wed, 29 Jun 2016 20:46:22 +0000 Classically Casual 1687332@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so sorry Janet. Your story is giving me flashbacks to experiences I had as a very shy teenager, who looked older than my age. I dreaded comments I got from men on the city streets, as I tried to quickly reach my destination. I still don't know what the correct response is other than silence. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-unwelcome-comments-from-strangers#post-1687325 Wed, 29 Jun 2016 20:26:32 +0000 pil 1687325@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Too bad you couldn't suggest he participate in the study that caused Viva to spill her watermelon.<br /> <a href="http://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-dangers-of-working-and-eating-tmi" rel="nofollow">http://youlookfab.com/welookfa.....eating-tmi</a> </p>