https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-looks Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sat, 09 May 2026 21:55:22 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-looks/page/2#post-77774 Thu, 09 Jul 2009 17:18:42 +0000 Ariadne 77774@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Chewy, good point! My list of things I personally wouldn't wear is much longer than the list of things that outright disturb me on others (purposely bared thong, and I personally hate seeing guys with bare chests in public except at the beach). I would never PERSONALLY wear:<br /> any facial piercings other than my nose ring<br /> ear stretchers<br /> anything midriff-baring<br /> anything shorter than just above the knee<br /> anything that shows any cleavage unless it's after dark and the occasion involves no work acquaintances or family other than my husband<br /> spike heels<br /> big hair<br /> long nails<br /> vinyl clothing<br /> I could go on and on and on...!<br /> On the flip side, I won't wear sweats or yoga wear or gear in public any more, unless it's to do some activity! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-looks/page/2#post-77545 Wed, 08 Jul 2009 22:51:44 +0000 JewelryGirl 77545@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This thread cracks me up! My personal rule, if I'm doing shorts (5" inseam) NO heels. But, if I'm doing Bremuda shorts I LOVE wearing heels. Oh, LOL saw this this weekend &#38; totally validated what I thought of the person anyway &#38; had several people comment to me about it - loose jeans, short top, dirty dancing with the bright colored thong hanging out &#38; showing while a couple of guys were commenting about it being a rip cord - total trash! I know, I'm completely judging here. Sorry if that offends anyone...you asked for 'those looks'. I also think 'those actions' combined with 'those looks' make a huge difference! Some people can pull off 'those looks' &#38; you think none the less of them. Interesting topic! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-looks/page/2#post-77435 Wed, 08 Jul 2009 13:04:31 +0000 chewyspaghetti 77435@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Maybe I wasn't clear in my original post, but I never meant this to be about judging other people, but what items you yourself wouldn't wear because of associations. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-looks/page/2#post-77408 Wed, 08 Jul 2009 06:42:26 +0000 Maya 77408@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You know, this is kind of funny. I was just thinking today that we are all talking about passing judgment on girls with tattoos, piercings, dreads, showing lots of skin, wearing too tight clothing, etc. I don't tend to judge these girls at all. I'm pretty used to seeing everything above. Showing lots of skin or trying too hard does give me bad vibes, but the other stuff is as normal as seeing someone with brown eyes. </p> <p>Actually, in my case, the people I tend to pass judgment on are those who are frumpy, conservative, or totally lacking in effort. When I see women in sweats and other gear, my reaction is always the same: "She is lazy." Even though I know intellectually that it might not be true (lots of women dress like slobs because they're NOT lazy--they're overworked)...but it just goes to show you that presentation is important. Or maybe it goes to show that I'm just shallow...but I don't think so. It's very human to judge by appearance, and no amount of good intentions will change that. You can also be lazy in one area, even if you're not in another--so it is possible to be a lazy dresser even when you're hardworking in every other respect. And compared to other responsibilities and obligations, dressing a little nicer is easy as pie. Just swap out the sweats for jeans and a knit top and you're already off to a much better start.</p> <p>Then there are women who think they look great and clearly made an effort but missed the mark by a long shot. I just feel bad in those cases. </p> <p>Another group I tend to judge are the black rut women, for whom I also feel bad when I see. I often find a black rut is caused by insecurity, so I tend to judge these women as such.</p> <p>The one type I find myself noticing most are older women who are SO TERRIFIED of looking "too young" that they end up dressing in the schlumpiest manner imaginable. It kills me. That's why I'm always fascinated by the fact that dressing "too young" is always a bigger concern for most women than dressing "too old," which I think is so much worse! An overly young style can usually easily be adjusted and tweaked to be more appropriate while still maintaining the basic elements and personality, but it's darn well near impossible to adjust a dumpy old lady outfit the same way. It tells me that as a society, we are very quick to shame and snicker at women who might have misplaced their youthfulness, but we're perfectly accepting of older women throwing in the towel and being dowdy. How sad. End of rant. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-looks/page/2#post-77355 Wed, 08 Jul 2009 02:32:14 +0000 devin 77355@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This thread is tickling me, but it just shows how different we all are in our perceptions. I guess it is a combination of things that leads us to these opinions, such as: environment, family values, friends, community, etc.</p> <p>I am pretty tolerant of just about all things and try not to judge, especially in the industry that I am in. I have done makeup on a prostitute before who had no problem telling me that bit of information. </p> <p>I try to appreciate each individual for their own style and realize that although it may not be what I would have chosen for myself, it still works for that person. Besides, the world would be pretty boring if we were all carbon copies of one another, we wouldn't even get to have this interesting discussion...lol! </p> <p>Only when I see women who are in clothes five times too small, with everything hanging out from top to bottom do I usually give "those looks". I mean come on, just because they make it in your size does not mean you need to wear it, you look a hot mess! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-looks/page/2#post-77254 Tue, 07 Jul 2009 16:50:09 +0000 Ariadne 77254@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Eww, Angie, really? I've never ever been in the presence of dreads I could actually smell (and there are tons of dreads in Vancouver, particularly in the Commercial Drive area). Most of the truly scary ones I see are on homeless people who of course are exempt from any and all style discussions. I do see too many ratty-LOOKING heads o' dreads on dirty hippie types (as opposed to clean hippie types, who I quite enjoy, LOL). None I've ever had the unpleasant experience of actually noticing the smell of, though. Gross, you have my sympathies.</p> <p>One thing I think is a simple fact is that dreads tend to work and look better on people of African heritage. Their hair takes to the style naturally and tends to lock up much more tightly, cleanly and neatly than Asian, Caucasian or other ethnic hair types. Many black people can even rock dreads in business formal environments (Sisterlocks and similar styles especially.) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-looks/page/2#post-77250 Tue, 07 Jul 2009 16:38:40 +0000 Angie 77250@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Brianna, thanks for making me laugh this morning! I appreciate your candor. You crack me up. I guess we cracked you up too. </p> <p>I have no doubt that your dreadlocks were sweet smelling and well cared for. But in my perception 99% of the people that sport natural dreadlocks worldwide are in the unhygienic camp. There is just no getting away from that fact because generally people don't care for their dreadlocks like they ought to. I see and smell it daily here in Capital Hill (very edgy and alternative part of Seattle). The same goes for Paris, London and Amsterdam where loads of people wear dreadlocks too. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-looks/page/2#post-77237 Tue, 07 Jul 2009 15:55:17 +0000 Ariadne 77237@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You guys! Properly created and cared-for dreadlocks are NOT dirty, smelly and unhygienic. That's a myth. I had dreads for a stretch (quite recently in fact) and they were extremely clean--literally squeaky clean. And they smelled like mint Hair knots or "locks" better when it has as little oil on it as possible, so cleaner hair = better, tighter dreads. Of course there are dreadies out there with nasty, smelly hair but they're either just nasty, smelly people in general or they've been given bad information about dreadlock care. </p> <p>No one can convince me that Lauryn Hill, for example<br /> <a href="http://images.google.com/images?hl=en&#038;q=lauryn+hill&#038;btnG=Search+Images&#038;gbv=2&#038;aq=f&#038;oq=" rel="nofollow">http://images.google.com/image.....f&#038;oq=</a></p> <p>Or this girl<br /> <a href="http://img407.imageshack.us/img407/6220/iug2cs2.jpg" rel="nofollow">http://img407.imageshack.us/im.....ug2cs2.jpg</a></p> <p>Or this one<br /> <a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/rarebutterfly/" rel="nofollow">http://www.flickr.com/photos/rarebutterfly/</a></p> <p>Look dirty or smelly.</p> <p>I have a nose ring that I love--facial piercings in general don't bother me and they're as common as rain here, although I have a hard time not making assumptions about what tongue rings imply.</p> <p>Purposely visible thongs are my pet peeve when it comes to "those" looks. Oh, and really long fake nails. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-looks/page/2#post-77208 Tue, 07 Jul 2009 14:02:20 +0000 Melody 77208@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>First thing, so many people have piercings and tattoos that it's really not that edgy anymore. I like to watch the tattoo shows and hear the stories behind why people choose their particular tattoos. Some of those tattoo artists are super talented!</p> <p>I think everyone makes judgements based on other people's looks. When seeing someone for the first time and not having prior knowledge about that person, we tend to process their appearance and reference it to our own personal experiences, good or bad. I think it's only a problem if you're close-minded and don't make an attempt to find out what the person is really all about beyond their appearance.</p> <p>Most of the time, people are aware of and even actively trying to pursue the impression they're giving off so they shouldn't be surprised when they are judged by their appearance. A woman throwing her cleavage out for everyone to see clearly wants the attention and shouldn't be offended when men can't look her in the eye! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-looks/page/2#post-77183 Tue, 07 Jul 2009 11:07:46 +0000 hanna 77183@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>the only thing that really puts me off is too much skin, really, but i don't know how much of that is a byproduct of having grown up in a pretty conservative, semi-religious background. after having traveled around and being in america for a few years (somewhat less conservative, shall we say...;)), i have to say my tolerance for everything else people have mentioned has grown by leaps and bounds! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-looks/page/2#post-77175 Tue, 07 Jul 2009 10:05:06 +0000 Ele 77175@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Just found this thread, so funny! I don't really have anything to add, but I've said this before and I stand by it: I think making judgements about people based on the way they look/dress says more about the judgER than the judgEE. </p> <p>Not that I'm a saint- ha! I can be very harsh sometimes but it's something I actively try to avoid and censor in myself. I am definitely NOT a prude, though- I can appreciate a whole slew of looks on others that I wouldn't choose to sport myself. </p> <p>That said, I agree with a those who've said that it's the combination of elements that can take a look from interesting/edgy to poor taste. Either short skirt OR cleavage, crazy spiky heels OR a loud tattoo and body piercings, but not all at once! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-looks/page/2#post-77173 Tue, 07 Jul 2009 09:54:00 +0000 yublocka 77173@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Maya I really like the pic of your straight fringe. And the facial piercing looks good to me too! How long ago did you take it out??</p> <p>I have a nose and tragus piercing. I do wonder when/if I should take them out, esp. now that I'm a "responsible" doctor. I have had one elderly patient tell me that if I was his granddaughter he would pull my nosering out of my nose. Then again I've also had patients propose to me, cry when they see me or yell at me, so you learn to take things with a grain of salt! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-looks/page/2#post-77132 Tue, 07 Jul 2009 02:45:00 +0000 Maya 77132@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>While nothing really gives me bad vibes (I went to art school and saw it all), I think like Dawn, certain combined items put me off. It reminds me of this picture on the Sartorialist:</p> <p><a href="http://www.thesartorialist.com/photos/62209AfterPrada194Web.jpg" rel="nofollow">http://www.thesartorialist.com.....194Web.jpg</a></p> <p>As usual, everyone is gushing and making pretentious comments on how great it is, and I just don't see it. It's too much leg, too much cleavage, too tight, too much black, and too much heel height and toe cleavage. Sure it looks lovely in a beautiful photograph with great lighting and shadows, but honestly...if I saw this woman walking down the street like this, I would just think "desperate for attention."</p> <p>Of course, there is another school of thought that says she is confident and bold and comfortable with her body, etc. I suppose it depends on your perspective. I just happen to think you can be confident, bold, and comfortable without giving EVERYTHING away. That gal obviously has a great body and beautiful tanned skin. I just don't think all of that exposure is necessary.</p> <p>I guess I'm a prude like you Angie! But also like you, I'm pretty liberal about these things. I agree that dreads are pretty gross and that's just a hygiene issue, but I'm okay with tats and piercings. I would not get a tattoo myself, and aesthetically I don't like them much, but that is subjective. I would not judge anyone a certain way for having them. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-looks#post-77130 Tue, 07 Jul 2009 02:31:03 +0000 Laura 77130@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This is a really tough question. Really, really short dresses/skirts/shorts are the only items I can think of that give off this vibe in and of themselves. The other items listed above seem like they would have to be combined with other things as well. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-looks#post-77128 Tue, 07 Jul 2009 02:25:08 +0000 Angie 77128@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This thread cracks me up even though there are judgments at play. I guess I’m really just against showing too much skin at any age. This is a bad message and I’m a modest prude. But then, what constitutes too much skin? A topic for another day. </p> <p>Dreadlocks are just unhygienic and smelly and I can’t condone any form of germ and dirt festering grossness. But as for the rest, if you live in an edgy part of town like I do, you get very accepting and appreciative of certain looks. While I would never get a tattoo or body piercing, it *can* look tasteful because style is a package deal. Blue steaked hair can be fab too. The devil is in the detail! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-looks#post-77106 Tue, 07 Jul 2009 00:47:25 +0000 Vani 77106@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have learnt to not judge anyone on the basis of certain "looks". I have/had friends who have tattoos, body piercings etc. One of my colleagues routinely dresses to showcase her bust. She is not in the least trashy, a dedicated mother and wife and a wonderful friend with an amazing outlook in life. At first, I was a bit taken aback by her constant cleavage display but she is of the notion "if you have it, flaunt it". I'm sure in a different workplace, setting this would not be acceptable, but like I said before, our workplace is VERY laid back. We do not interface with clients on a face-to-face basis unless you're upper management. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-looks#post-77095 Mon, 06 Jul 2009 23:19:37 +0000 chewyspaghetti 77095@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I've had my nose pierced, but it has since closed up and I can't wear anything in it. I may get it re-done at some point. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-looks#post-77080 Mon, 06 Jul 2009 22:01:19 +0000 Dawn 77080@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Personally I've only seen one girl get away with an eyebrow piercing and a lot of other girls with eyebrow piercings that detract from their looks. In fairness though, these were girls who were between the ages of 18 and 20, probably doing their university rebellion thing. In terms of things you'll regret when you're older, an eyebrow piercing isn't the worst! However I do think there is an certain age after which facial piercings should be taken out- when one enters a professional job, etc. Does anyone here have a facial piercing? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-looks#post-77076 Mon, 06 Jul 2009 21:32:33 +0000 shiny 77076@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sihaya, my DH can't stand the words-on-the-butt thing either! He always says why would any woman want words on her butt, it just makes it look bigger. It doesn't bother me all that much - except to say I don't like obvious logos in general. </p> <p>What I find interesting about this thread is that there are many styles that when they first came out, seemed trashy but once they went mainstream, not so much anymore. Like the round heel example. LOL. I guess tongue piercings may someday fall into this category... but I still think they look silly. Tassajara, I am surprised you find eyebrow piercings tacky - I find that on the right person, they can look quite adorable and "right." (They'd look stupid on me... but oh well). </p> <p>Regarding the LBT (I prefer that term to tramp stamp), I simply don't care for tattoos of any sort. I do not find them trashy, but I do scratch my head when someone as beautiful as Angelina Jolie would mar her body with them. I know we discussed this on YLF before. It's my personal preference and I would not hold it against anyone who has one, wants to get one, etc. It's just that I had a beloved great uncle who was in the navy and covered with tattoos - and it wasn't a pretty sight when he was 80, 90 years old! It's hard for me to shake that vision when I see an attractive young man or woman with a tattoo. Really, folks, they may be pretty when you are young with firm skin, but when you get old, they become quite hideous. </p> <p>As I tell my teenage girls, fashion should be reversible. Because trends come and go. If you like the look of a tattoo, get a fake one. Most piercings are generally reversible but plugs are not. Etc. </p> <p>... then again, I *also* tell them, "But in the end, it's your body, your choice." Once they are out of the house and self-supporting, they can do what they want and I will zip my lip! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-looks#post-77075 Mon, 06 Jul 2009 21:30:24 +0000 taylor 77075@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Michelle,<br /> I love the way you *see* things. Perhaps we should look at people through your eyes To feel and hear a person's vibe gives a much better idea of who they are:) Rather than how they look:)</p> <p>I am very tolerant of how people look , partly beacause I work w/ younger people in the hair biz...covered in tatt's and piercings of all kinds...and CRAZY hair....takes alot for me to be put off by a person, or draw any conclusion:) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-looks#post-77066 Mon, 06 Jul 2009 21:00:34 +0000 Sihaya 77066@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have to agree with many of you - none of the things I pointed out, are necessary associated with "those" looks - since it really depends on the personality/age/venue/full package deal of the person who's presenting themselves. </p> <p>thank you for the explanation of tramp stamps - I actually like those - again if they're tastefully done. </p> <p>Dreadlocks - the thing I don't like about them is when they're really dirty - I realize they're created in different ways, the ones I don't like are those that have tons of dirt encrusted/caked in them. I know someone who has these. </p> <p>One more thing I would add, when I see people (usually teenage girls, OK who knows what my judgement was like in those years?) with certain things printed across their breasts or butts - such as "juicy" or "b***h". </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-looks#post-77050 Mon, 06 Jul 2009 19:04:44 +0000 Dawn 77050@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This is an interesting topic for me because as a young woman, I'm constantly playing the trashy vs classy game when buying clothes. Basically anytime I buy something, I ask myself the questions 'what message does this send out about me? and 'what situations is this appropriate for'. However as a feminist, I don't really buy into this idea of certain clothes or looks marking someone as a bad girl according to the norms of society. I think you can see why this is such an interesting topic for me. </p> <p>While I personally can't identify specific items of clothes that I would define as trashy, there is something in the combination of certain items of clothes- short skirt, lots of cleavage, etc. It's not the clothes that are particularly trashy but the often inappropriateness of the outfit in terms of trying to be sexy somewhere that is not appropriate. </p> <p>There also is the other argument that you can dress in a classy fashion and send out the completely wrong message by your behaviour, and I really see this on nights out with my female friends. The best example I can think of a friend on a night out complaining about guys hitting on her despite her clothes being conservative, following her around and making certain assumptions about her. While the guys shouldn't be doing this at all (!!), she wasn't helping matters by continuously flirting with them and worse (much much worse). </p> <p>But anyway, Chewy asked for a list so I will provide one of items that I find can be tacky when used incorrectly- (note: coming from a young university background)</p> <p>- piercings- tongue and eyebrow are absolutely tacky, others are fine as long as they are discreet (silver rather than neon bars and rings)</p> <p>- short skirts when combined with heels and cleavage</p> <p>- brightly coloured hair- can look stunning on some people but only with a certain well-kept look but on most people </p> <p>Again, all these can look stunning on the right person with the right combination of clothes. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-looks#post-77045 Mon, 06 Jul 2009 18:07:09 +0000 chewyspaghetti 77045@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm considering getting a tramp stamp when I get to goal weight. Nobody would ever see it but my husband, and he likes the idea LOL </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-looks#post-77031 Mon, 06 Jul 2009 17:24:27 +0000 Anonymous 77031@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I must say too that I know a few women with a tramp stamp, they even call it that, who are not tramps. They are happily married women. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-looks#post-77025 Mon, 06 Jul 2009 17:02:22 +0000 marianne 77025@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Aside from the thong thing, which is ultimate bad taste, I don't find any specific feature unconditionally trashy. For me, it's more about the whole package. I've seen many people who were dressed flawlessly, and yet their mannerisms spoke very loudly. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-looks#post-77013 Mon, 06 Jul 2009 15:58:53 +0000 crwilson 77013@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ouch - I guess I have a tramp stamp! Since my lower back never shows, neither does my stamp. I got it when I was 18.</p> <p>I think that I have different associations - I don't find any particular piercings trashy, necessarily, although they can be, nor do I find toe rings indicative of a certain kind of "look." I think that, for me, it has to do with a bunch of things combined, not just one thing. Although, I have to say that I find Hooters shirts troubling, on a fashion level as well as a number of other levels. Platforms often rub me the wrong way, even if they're really tasteful. </p> <p>Ultimately, though, I think that this kind of thing is so subjective and so tied to one's generation and age, as well as geographical region. What looks risque in the rural Midwest does not in a major urban area. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-looks#post-77008 Mon, 06 Jul 2009 15:31:37 +0000 Michelle 77008@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh Shiny, I have no doubt the tongue-ring looks absolutely terrible. I was just saying that my association is different because it's based on one individual rather than the way the look is worn in general. My friend who wore it was quirky and alternative, but definitely not trashy (in terms of her sensibilities, personality etc). She was a fashion train-wreck, though, and probably got the tongue-piercing thinking it was fun and not realizing for a second that others would see it as one of "those looks." </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-looks#post-77006 Mon, 06 Jul 2009 15:28:07 +0000 Melody 77006@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Women who deliberately show their undies outside their clothes ... especially thongs. Skirts up to their yoo-hoo. Too too tight clothing. Cheap platforms that look like stripper shoes. Bad bleach jobs with dark roots. Women who wear bikinis to places other than the beach ... buy a cute coverup! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-looks#post-77005 Mon, 06 Jul 2009 15:26:29 +0000 chewyspaghetti 77005@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The large ear hole aparatus are called 'plugs'. I just think of them as silly- as in when you're 50 and your ear lobes are touching your shoulders, you may regret that . </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/those-looks#post-77003 Mon, 06 Jul 2009 15:20:24 +0000 Sarah 77003@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Showing too much skin is a big one to me. I also try to be careful not to wear higher heeled shoes with my shorter skirts (most are knee length, but I do have a few that are a bit higher hemmed that are for flat sandals only).<br /> I grew up in a very conservative home, so most things that you all have mentioned definitely make my list, although I'm not sure if it's because it is just what I'm used to or not. </p>