https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thinking-through-aging-and-youthfulness----thanks-ljp Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sun, 12 Apr 2026 16:55:57 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thinking-through-aging-and-youthfulness----thanks-ljp/page/2#post-2395829 Wed, 17 Sep 2025 17:55:35 +0000 Ket 2395829@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><b>Carol</b>, I hate when a post or reply just disappears! I would have loved to read your post.&nbsp;</p> <p> Where I live, people can judge. It’s just the way it is.</p> <p>I actually thinking living life to the fullest is very much the best thing to do for vitality. I like your suggestions for taking boho into certain directions as I age! That’s a fun way to approach it. Thank you re: my haircut! I usually take in straight hair photos. I have rarely found a curly haircut reference photo I liked. Also, a very posh, in-demand stylist once rather chastised me for my hair cut reference photos. The issue for her was that my photos were of women with <i>styled</i> hair. I was told my photos weren’t of an actual haircut and she inferred she couldn't do much using those photos as a reference. So we discussed my haircut goals, how she likes to cut hair (a heavy perimeter) and I let her chop my hair. It was an odd experience, though it was one of the best haircuts I’ve ever had, to her credit. (Should be for $150!!) Thankfully my current stylist just somehow can make my poor reference photos work (I'm being sarcastic). I don’t know how she does it really. The only tradeoff is sometimes I don’t think she remembers how she did it last time, so it's an adventure :} Anyway, I’m happy enough with my haircuts. She charges me $40 and is easy to talk with about my needs and wants. I have considered trying a new stylist just for the heck of it. But we’ll see.</p> <p><b>Karen23</b>, thank you! Usually when people are being polite they’ll call me “miss”, which I admit I handle a lot better than “ma’am.” Ha!</p> <p></p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thinking-through-aging-and-youthfulness----thanks-ljp/page/2#post-2395828 Wed, 17 Sep 2025 17:43:15 +0000 Ket 2395828@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><b>Irina</b>, very much agree about staying current. I love vintage but I absolutely agree with your assessment and opinion on it. Your example of the grandpa cardigan is a good point. I saw a woman in her 60s recently. Her hair was very modern boho. Her outfit was a current track jacket, tee, current jean silhouette (straight leg but cuffed) with very current athletic shoes. It really worked on her to dress that modern.</p> <p><b>Sal</b>, oooo!! Good point on bed hair! I know a stylist I follow is in her 50s or early 60s now. She too has said that as you age, you have to be more polished. That said, I think the opposite of someone very polished or classic evolving into a more natural, relaxed style. But still, some fixing of hair and makeup goes a long way as we age. </p> <p><b>Angie</b>, thank you so dearly!! I really love my haircut! And I love your simple but substantial wisdom. I shall continue in Boho unless the joy runs out. Your point about fun being youthful is right on!! I do notice that ease and vitality as I age. I’m sure it will only increase with more years.&nbsp;</p> <p><b>Liz</b>, how lovely of you! Thank you. It was my father’s and grandfather’s eye color. None of the grand kids got it, sadly. I was hoping it would pass on to the grandkids.</p> <p><b>Lisa</b>, very much agree about hair being healthy! I also think a current and flattering haircut goes a long way. One thing I’ve observed is that a woman with grey hair seem more youthful or current when her hair is really well cut and styled versus hanging onto a very dated haircut/style. Or I see women who kind of let their hair go. No cut, no style, no trying. That is someone’s free choice to make, but I do think there’s something to be said for a good haircut at every age and stage of life.</p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thinking-through-aging-and-youthfulness----thanks-ljp/page/2#post-2395827 Wed, 17 Sep 2025 17:42:27 +0000 Ket 2395827@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><b>Bijou</b>, thank you so dearly &lt;3 The current makeup look is very much “clean girl” but that kind of minimalism has never, ever suited me. I do feel the gradation of color with my hair is nice. You are reading my mind: I do wonder what is age appropriate. I think the idea of “age appropriate” style is somewhat outdated itself, and yet… I also think there are times when maybe we have outgrown the shorter skirts. I hope I evolve and yet, my boho hipster self holds on. We shall see what happens.</p> <p><b>Column</b>, thank you for the image search link! I’m enjoying looking at them!</p> <p><b>Staysfit</b>, thank you re: hair! I am also in the midst of updating my eyeglass frames. So hopefully that will be something helpful. What you’re sharing about adapting current trends to one’s personal style is what many here seem to do and find to work best. And that direction feels the most genuine to me as well.</p> <p><b>Cat2</b>, I love how you approached it! Menocore… you are the second or third Fabber to bring that up. How do you define Menocore? I think I know what you mean but I would love to know more. Sometime it feels like a fine line between flattering and comfortable without landing in Menocore. Yes to ignoring fashion cycles! If I love it, I’ll buy it. But I’m not adapting my whole wardrobe to it. To be fair, I’ve actually never done that. I did to some degree during the 2010s when Hipster was the rage. Aside from that, I either had no style (really), or my own very defined style. Love your idea to switch stylists every few years! That is a great idea!!!</p> <p><b>Judy</b>, oh that’s so cool we are in similar motherhood stages!!! Thank you for the haircut compliment too &lt;3 Vitality is big for me, so that’s a great point. I like Linda Wight. Linda Rodin is another one I’ve enjoyed following here and there. This is really what I was trying to say, so I love how you put it:</p> <p><i>And what a great thing to contemplate, to get more in touch with what you love to wear that gives you joy and being willing to be fluid about it, yet remaining true to yourself. </i><i></i></p> <p>&nbsp;</p> <p></p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thinking-through-aging-and-youthfulness----thanks-ljp#post-2395826 Wed, 17 Sep 2025 17:41:52 +0000 Ket 2395826@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It was a wild couple of weeks with much commuting and activities. So anyway.... sorry for a late reply!</p> <p><b>MsMary</b>, gosh, thank you!! I’m aglow with your kind compliment!</p> <p> <b>Cookie</b>, <i>“authentically you”</i> — I agree. This is exactly where my thoughts have been landing after pondering it. I have some styles that I’m mostly given up, such as short baby doll dresses. They’re wonderful but I kind of feel their time has come and gone maybe?? LOL re: <i>shapeless menopausal give-up wear</i>!! That style does exist, I just never thought of it like that. You gave me a good chuckle! Grey hair is hard. I LOVE it on so many other women, including other Fabbers. But I’m struggling to enjoy myself with it. I feel washed out. Also, my son is still fairly young, so being a mother of a 3rd grader with greying hair doesn’t feel hip and fresh. </p> <p><b>Suz</b>, thank you so dearly for the hair love!! I just love that you ice skate! That’s fabulous. And yes to authentic! I do so agree bout this. Such a good point about looking current. June Allyson wore the same styles and exact same haircut her entire life. I heard a makeup artist say he thought it made someone timeless. Honestly, I think it really aged her. *Shrugs shoulders* Ossified — now that’s a great word! I agree. Love your thoughts on signature style too. I also have a signature style, and I like your advice and experience to incorporate trends with what is already authentic to us.</p> <p><b>Dee</b>, so far, the comments are overrunning with the word <b>current</b> and <b>authentic</b>. Those seem to be the two most important things to mix in an outfit. Re: boho glam thank you! I really, really love it. It is my heart, I guess.</p> <p><b>Lisa (LJP)</b>, Anna Wintour has never inspired me either, despite loving my own versions of patterned boots and statement jewelry lol! Thank you so much! I am very happy with the hair cut. I am sorry to hear you aren’t feeling well loving your hair color. That is such a bummer! Love your thought to <i>energize my look</i>. I think that is more what I’m wondering about?? I will take your advice to push into the envelope. I’m finally coming out of illness this year. Prior to that due to the weight gain and all, I hid and played safe with my style and clothing with only a few exceptions. And now I want to really explore romantic boho.</p> <p><b>Irina</b>, such wise words! Thank you &lt;3 It is helpful to hear that boho is timeless. I guess I didn’t think of that, since trends have majorly shifted again. And yet — <i>youthful to me is having fun with fashion.</i> I love this!! Maybe it’s time for me to have more fun!!</p> <p><b>Janet</b>, I was really trying to express myself and didn't communicate&nbsp;well. You’re right: current is probably the better way of approaching it. I do see the need to keep authenticity, while still flexing a bit into current looks. You absolutely transcend age!! Your style is superb and certainly doesn’t look a certain age. It’s very fresh and you! Thank you for such kind words too!! I really love my haircut. I’m hoping she can do whatever she did again. Since I only see her every 3-4 months, sometimes I’m not sure if she remembers exactly what she did the time before. :}</p> <p><b>JAileen</b>, thank you for such kind, kind words!! I will admit, my dad’s side of the family look extremely youthful for their age. Always have. Still waiting to see if I’ve tapped into that or not. Couple months ago I was being legitimately carded. This month, people are calling me ma’am. I really do think it’s because I’ve let my greys show. Anyway… onward. PS Thanks for the AW article link! So interesting.&nbsp;</p> <p><b>Jaime</b>, thank you! I would have never guessed you are nearing 60! You have aged well. Fair point about premature worry! I am guilty of this. I supposed I’m having a big readjustment period after the 5 years of illness. It feels like a whole new world and life and yet, I’m older now. <i>If you practice wearing what feels right to you now you will develop the style sense that will carry you through the changes. </i>Taking this to heart &lt;3</p> <p><b>Sal</b>, thank you so much! Colour is tricky, I agree. I have a really lovely stylist who is phenomenal with color. I took have left some style behind, while trying some new ones. And then, I have my “zone” where I primarily live. So I very much agree!</p> <p><b>Slim cat</b>, thank you!! I so appreciate your kind words &lt;3 Ya know, that’s probably true about boho. I guess because I didn’t see it as a predominant trend I thought maybe it had faded —and would possibly fade again. But you’re right: it probably hasn’t really ever went away.</p> <p><b>Jenni</b>, you always have helpful thoughts and advice! I love hearing your perspective. That is a good point about age being relative. I think I’m also feeling older because I’ve been in public gatherings where there are all of these 20-somethings. It makes me feel old, I won’t lie! I too like the haulage. Maybe I just need a good refresh…&nbsp;</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thinking-through-aging-and-youthfulness----thanks-ljp#post-2395397 Wed, 10 Sep 2025 22:05:37 +0000 karen23 2395397@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I like your hair.&nbsp; As for the "ma'am" bit, some folks are just being polite.&nbsp; I don't read much into it other than that. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thinking-through-aging-and-youthfulness----thanks-ljp#post-2395394 Wed, 10 Sep 2025 19:58:12 +0000 Carol 2395394@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Cookie--LOL.I am also drawn to artsy/interesting clothes, but part of it is that I&nbsp; can breathe! And they actually can be good for when I get...hot...a lot, at my age.&nbsp;</p> <p>Did you see the video someone shared about that style???</p> <p><a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.google.com/search?q=forever+31+snl&amp;rlz=1CAEVJI_enUS972US972&amp;oq=forever+31&amp;gs_lcrp=EgZjaHJvbWUqBwgAEAAYgAQyBwgAEAAYgAQyBggBEEUYOTIHCAIQABiABDIHCAMQABiABDIHCAQQABiABDIHCAUQLhiABDIHCAYQABiABDIHCAcQABiABDIHCAgQABiABDIHCAkQABiABNIBCTYwMzdqMGoxNagCCLACAfEFxxyvIQBbXIDxBcccryEAW1yA&amp;sourceid=chrome&amp;ie=UTF-8#fpstate=ive&amp;vld=cid:23d830a9,vid:ABphTaZwE_w,st:0">https://www.google.com/search?.....31&#038;gs</a> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thinking-through-aging-and-youthfulness----thanks-ljp#post-2395392 Wed, 10 Sep 2025 19:40:22 +0000 Carol 2395392@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I wrote a whole thing on this post the other day, and it disappeared! It's a very interesting post.</p> <p>I am lucky to live in an area where people don't judge too much about fashion or income, so you can dress young&nbsp; if you want, and it's fine. Or go out, or whatever, and it's fine.</p> <p>I do think that no matter what age, you should be able to dance, go out late, have romance, music, whatever. There is a bit of an implication that we are supposed to stop these things, and a lot of people do. But if you think about some of these&nbsp; "younger" activities, they are really just things that are exciting. And we&nbsp; should still be able to do that.</p> <p>The appearance/health part is tricky, and something I work on everyday.&nbsp; Having worked in supplements, I know that there are compounds/chemicals etc. inside our bodies that just start depleting as we get older! And that is part of aging. So I supplement those things when I can. I also pay attention to what works for other people--like intense-moisture hair products, etc.</p> <p>Staying youthful in fashion while aging is a huge thing to think about...although aging hippie is fun, if you want to do that. You could take your boho in a more Scottish/Irish direction by adding in structure--trousers or tweed blazers/coats with what you already have. Or...you could go in more of a Grace Slick/Janis Joplin direction, which would be a little darker, more attitude. More psychedelic...more paisley, more black.&nbsp;&nbsp;</p> <p>Cool haircut! I like that you had a&nbsp; straight haircut reference. Must be a good hairdesser.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thinking-through-aging-and-youthfulness----thanks-ljp#post-2395299 Tue, 09 Sep 2025 18:51:40 +0000 Lisa 2395299@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I like your hair. Aging is a tough one, we are all going to age, so trying to fight it, sounds like a lifelong struggle to undertake. I decided years ago that I'd rather a simpler life.&nbsp;</p> <p>I grew out hair dyes and highlights years ago and my hair is sort of stuck in this looks like it is growing out phase now. When I pull it back you can see how grey it is, when it's worn loose it's sort of a mixture. It's very grey at the roots, but the strands are thin and they sort of disappear at the ends. Maybe it's just growing slowly? Maybe the non greys will eventually be replaced by greys? Who knows? I stopped worrying about my hair color, instead I try to focus on my hair health. Healthy hair always looks best to my eye regardless if it has greys or not.</p> <p>I have noticed as I age that colors are really important. Black was never my best color but now, it really does wash me out. So I'm transitioning to navy instead. These adjustments to colors help as we age (IMO anyway). </p> <p>I also notice that I have more fun with fashion than when I was younger. I am more likely to wear styles and colors and colorful combinations that I enjoy, whether it's "in style" or the "norm" in my area or not.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thinking-through-aging-and-youthfulness----thanks-ljp#post-2395290 Tue, 09 Sep 2025 18:03:48 +0000 Liz A. 2395290@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have nothing wise to add, but I wanted to say that you have gorgeous eyes! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thinking-through-aging-and-youthfulness----thanks-ljp#post-2395247 Mon, 08 Sep 2025 23:38:53 +0000 Angie 2395247@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><b>Ket,</b>&nbsp;your new 'do is GORGEOUS, and suits you beautifully!</p> <p>Continue wearing your signature looks that make you feel fab&nbsp;<i>until you want a change.&nbsp;<br /></i><br />Having <i>any</i> kind on fun - in fashion or elsewhere - is youthful! Being unaffected by what others think creates ease, honesty, and confidence that is youthful. Ironically, this ease and vitality comes with age! ;)</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thinking-through-aging-and-youthfulness----thanks-ljp#post-2395218 Mon, 08 Sep 2025 19:03:22 +0000 Sal 2395218@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>In seeing Irina’s comment above I concur. I also try to be a bit more polished. This is specific to me - I used to love “bed hair” or a very casual -I just threw this on - look.</p> <p>This doesn’t work as well for me now - I feel too unkempt.</p> <p>I can also see that it could work the opposite way for someone who was very polished or classic. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thinking-through-aging-and-youthfulness----thanks-ljp#post-2395206 Mon, 08 Sep 2025 15:04:48 +0000 Irina 2395206@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I thought about it and want to add that styling is getting more important if a wearer wants to look current. I treat vintage carefully, what might look cool on a young woman, might very well look on me like I haven’t changed my wardrobe in 40 years. A grandpa cardigan on a 20 years old and 60 years old are bound to look different. An outfit on a mature woman would benefit from modern elements, either clothing or accessories to make it intentional and youthful, whatever is the main style (classic, boho, preppy)</p> <div>AW’s dresses, accessories and shoes changed with time even if the elements of her uniform remained the same.&nbsp;</div></p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thinking-through-aging-and-youthfulness----thanks-ljp#post-2395205 Mon, 08 Sep 2025 14:49:46 +0000 judy 2395205@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have kids your age!&nbsp; And you look gorgeous in your new haircut!</p> <p>Focussing on fulfillment and vitality serves me better than how old or young I look.&nbsp; &nbsp;Though of course I still think about it!&nbsp; But we are allowed to age.&nbsp; And I take delight in the clothes I wear, for the most part.</p> <p>I sometimes take inspiration from photos of older women: (Anna Wintour is not among them :). To me, it looks like she is hiding a bit ) </p> <p>Linda Wight is one.&nbsp; It appears she feels very at home and happy in her clothes, and in her body.&nbsp; <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.instagram.com/lindavwright/">https://www.instagram.com/lindavwright/</a>. Not hiding her age and clearly having fun with her outfits.</p> <p>Just adding this:&nbsp; It sounds like you are contemplating how to evolve your fashion as you age.&nbsp; And what a great thing to contemplate, to get more in touch with what you love to wear that gives you joy and being willing to be fluid about it, yet remaining true to yourself.&nbsp; &nbsp;Perhaps the Anna Wintour controversy here (no disrespect for her achievements!) is that she is someone that appears to have not evolved ?&nbsp;</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thinking-through-aging-and-youthfulness----thanks-ljp#post-2395198 Mon, 08 Sep 2025 13:18:03 +0000 cat2 2395198@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Big topic! I think at 42 I did an assessment of what I had in my closet and what I wanted to keep or change. It was at that point that I came up with a list of things to keep and things to leave behind. It wasn’t really about aging, but more about having tried a bunch of things over the years and deciding what makes me feel confident and what isn’t really me. I ditched anything too body con, with a front slit, too modern, too Menocore or too architectural because I really don’t like those looks, decided to ignore fashion cycles that involve them, and moved on with the next chapter. But when fashion does cough up something I like, I jump on it to update my look. So I think you can keep boho as a styling preference but I would suggest accomplishing it with a wardrobe weighted towards current versions of it so you don’t get stuck in time. For example, don’t get in a rut and repeatedly buy a kimono jacket, but instead look to see what jackets are current but have your vibe. I am no longer coloring my hair, but when I was I switched stylists every few years to someone younger because many stylists get stuck in a rut, and I didn’t want to be doing an old color technique when everyone else has moved on. </p> <p>The Anna Wintour thread I find tiring. She’s an executive in a global corporation. She’s dealing with fashion industry executives as well as creative talent. If she spent too much time on her own looks she would be viewed as frivolous. Having a uniform is exactly the right choice. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thinking-through-aging-and-youthfulness----thanks-ljp#post-2395196 Mon, 08 Sep 2025 11:57:03 +0000 Staysfit 2395196@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>First, your hair looks amazing, &nbsp;Hair styles are a great way to update one’s style as are changing eyeglass frames and other accessories, although I can think of examples when that is not the case. &nbsp;For example, I do not suit large eyeglass frames so when frame styles get large, I stick with small. I do not think it ages me as the large frames look ridiculous on me. Instead the smaller frames become a signature part of my style and keep me from looking like a fashion victim, or maybe a clown. &nbsp;Second, in my experience, most of us, when young, dress both to fit in with our peers and also to distinguish ourselves from the previous generation. &nbsp;As we age, it’s one thing to stay fresh and another to try to completely adopt the styles that a younger generation is wearing to “stay youthful” because, as you identify, it would look silly. &nbsp;Instead, I have seen most on this forum develop more specific personal style parameters that feel right for them and they find ways to stick with them and adapt them to work with various fashion trends. Or, they pick and choose the trends they will adopt and those they will skip, like I did with eyeglass frames. &nbsp;I also have allowed my hair to go gray and it has not had any impact on people perceiving me as old or too mature, I suspect this is because of my personality, my energy, my physical stature, maybe the environment where I work, etc. &nbsp;<div></p> <p>It took me a long time to figure out my personal style, and once sorted, &nbsp;I haven’t changed it much, although I have sharpened my focus over time. &nbsp; I admire Anna Wintour. &nbsp;She’s obviously been very successful, influential and at times controversial. &nbsp;It doesn’t bother me that she has a uniform or that she hasn’t altered her look over time. &nbsp;Identifying what feels right and staying true to yourself comes across as confident and secure, and projects an energy and authenticity that is ageless.&nbsp;</div><div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div></div> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thinking-through-aging-and-youthfulness----thanks-ljp#post-2395193 Mon, 08 Sep 2025 10:55:26 +0000 Column 2395193@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Boho glam over 60 <a href="https://duckduckgo.com/?q=boho+glam+over+60&#038;t=iphone&#038;ia=images&#038;iax=images" rel="nofollow">https://duckduckgo.com/?q=boho.....iax=images</a> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thinking-through-aging-and-youthfulness----thanks-ljp#post-2395190 Mon, 08 Sep 2025 08:38:42 +0000 Bijou 2395190@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Your hair and make-up are always beautiful and will always give you that polished glam look which is totally authentic and not aging at all. I like how currently your hair has a natural gradation of colour. </p> <p>I can understand that being in your early 40's does cause a bit of contemplation about personal style. I know I started thinking "Is it OK for me to still wear shorter skirts?"&nbsp; "Is a red lip too bold on me?"... Wearing outfits that make you feel fabulous and authentic, such as your leopard dress, help to stop second guessing yourself.</p> <p>In terms of personal style, I really like what Jaime wrote, that style evolves with age and to just enjoy the journey. I currently have more fun with fashion now than when I was 42, as I am free to dress to please myself rather than to dress the part in whatever role I was playing - mum, career woman, daughter, friend... </p> <p>There is freedom in getting older that provides the space to evolve your style into something that is unique to you. Whether that style changes over time or whether like Anna Wintour or Queen Elizabeth it becomes fixed in time - that is up to you - both approaches can be fun! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thinking-through-aging-and-youthfulness----thanks-ljp#post-2395189 Mon, 08 Sep 2025 08:07:53 +0000 Ket 2395189@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Have to dash to a school event today. Coming back to reply when I return, everyone Such good, helpful thoughts from you all! Your thoughts are helping me a lot, my Fab Friends :)</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thinking-through-aging-and-youthfulness----thanks-ljp#post-2395187 Mon, 08 Sep 2025 03:11:36 +0000 Jenni NZ 2395187@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I don’t think I have any helpful advice. It happens throughout the life stages that how everyone seems to you, whether they seem or look young or old, depends so much on what age you are yourself at the time. Which is why at 42 you look and feel so young to many of us in our 50s or 60s. But I know in my 20s and 30s I thought people in their 50s and 60s were old. And I can tell by the way younger people act towards me that they think I am old. I have stopped resenting it, which I did for a while, especially being thought to be 65 for the first time when I was 57.<br /> The new haircut is really beautiful and suits you. I like the balayage, it’s pretty. Most of my hair decisions have related to convenience and feeling like myself, even though the styles have been similar since I was 35 the natural colour changes and texture changes have had enough differences over time to only very occasionally wish for a major change. Which I then get over! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thinking-through-aging-and-youthfulness----thanks-ljp#post-2395186 Mon, 08 Sep 2025 03:03:34 +0000 Suz 2395186@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well, Anna Wintour's style is not my own and I don't want to emulate it. But I respect her decision to evolve a distinctive uniform even though I'm not a uniform dresser myself and have no desire to be.&nbsp;</p> <p>The thing is, when she started wearing her ladylike dresses the dominant look for women in power was very different (broad shoulders, big hair) and her style spoke to the world and made people take notice. Whether you liked it or not, you knew she was talking to you with what she wore.&nbsp; Femininity and even delicacy can be powerful, her look said. It was deliberate.</p> <p>Anyway, while I don't love her uniform, and agree it comes across as quite rigid (and yes, that word "ossified" occurred to me for a reason, LOL) , I don't&nbsp; think it <b>ages</b> her, or not exactly.&nbsp;</p> <p>The only thing I've ever considered aging on a person is extremely harsh makeup in the absence of a personal style that deliberately embraces that level of harshness.(Like on some artists or musicians, for example).&nbsp;</p> <p>Or colours that are entirely wrong for the person, worn next to the person's face.&nbsp;</p> <p>Even then, I'm not sure I consider it "aging" so much as just plain unflattering. Because a person who looks their age but looks good and most importantly, feels good and is dressed authentically for them, to my eye looks wonderful -- grey hair, crow's feet, laugh lines, and all!&nbsp;</p> <p>Ultimately, iwe probably feel the most "aged" by our own clothes when we are under the weather and / or injured or dealing with major life stresses. That is the time when we hope our clothes might give us a bit of a lift, and if we have chosen well, they can and do. I like what <b>Irina</b> said -- "youthful to me is having fun with fashion."&nbsp; That will mean something different to each of us -- whether it be experimenting with a new-to-us style or colours or digging in our heels and going for broke on our own uniform.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thinking-through-aging-and-youthfulness----thanks-ljp#post-2395183 Mon, 08 Sep 2025 01:22:04 +0000 slim cat 2395183@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Your hair look great and your make up is always fabulous! The Boho style is trending again ( not sure it ever went away completely ).&nbsp;</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thinking-through-aging-and-youthfulness----thanks-ljp#post-2395180 Mon, 08 Sep 2025 01:06:17 +0000 Sal 2395180@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I like your hair a lot. Colour is tricky and I<br /> constantly changing mine to make it lighter or darker - sometimes it lasts longer and other times it fades quickly. And add a bit of grey to the mix it changes again. </p> <p>I know for me there are some styles I have left behind and others I happily wear at 55. My style has changed in some ways but in a lot of ways it hasn’t changed that much. I think confidence in what you wear goes a long way. And getting the fit and colour right. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thinking-through-aging-and-youthfulness----thanks-ljp#post-2395178 Mon, 08 Sep 2025 00:28:46 +0000 Jaime 2395178@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>First off your hair looks great. <br />For me - I turn 60 next year and have mentally already put myself there - 42 sounds so young . I think it is premature to worry that your current style might not age well. Style evolves with age and experience and you don't have to decide now what you will want to wear in 10 or 20 or more years. A lot of things can change. If you practice wearing what feels right to you now you will develop the style sense that will carry you through the changes. At least that is what I like to believe!</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thinking-through-aging-and-youthfulness----thanks-ljp#post-2395175 Mon, 08 Sep 2025 00:17:13 +0000 JAileen 2395175@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I’m a lot older than you, and you not only look youthful to me, you look gorgeous. &nbsp;I look at pictures of me in my 40s and now I think wow, did I ever look young then! &nbsp;<div><br /></div><div><div>BTW, I heard Anna Wintour interviewed this morning on NPR. &nbsp;I never really liked her before, but I did in this interview. &nbsp;She did talk about why she has had the same haircut forever.</p> <p><a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.wnycstudios.org/podcasts/tnyradiohour/articles/66921f6ba564b37699eb7823">https://www.wnycstudios.org/po.....7699eb7823</a><br /></div><div></div></div> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thinking-through-aging-and-youthfulness----thanks-ljp#post-2395172 Sun, 07 Sep 2025 23:09:20 +0000 Janet 2395172@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, and it looks like I cross posted a bit. But I agree with Lisa about AW — yes, she has a distinct style, but I do think she looks a little ossified (great term, Suz!). *ducking* Sorry, just how I see it! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thinking-through-aging-and-youthfulness----thanks-ljp#post-2395171 Sun, 07 Sep 2025 23:07:13 +0000 Janet 2395171@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Interesting topic. I’m 18 years older than you are, but as I reflect on the topic, I realize I don’t think at all about “youthfulness” when shopping or dressing — other than sometimes acknowledging that a style feels too young for me. Instead, I try to keep an eye on what’s current and what feels like me. I think “current” can go a long way towards “youthful” but authenticity must balance it out. That authenticity plus curiosity and open-mindedness are, to me, a big component of what might be termed “staying youthful.” </p> <p>I look my age — I really can’t deny it anymore since letting my grey hair grow out. My skin shows it too. But I have a preferred style and vibe in how I like to dress that I feel transcends age. At least I hope so. A younger friend recently called me “vibrant,” which I found interesting. I think that may mean letting one’s personality come through via style and presentation. Keeping current but staying true to oneself. It’s a balance — I can tell when my outfit is too *something* and doesn’t feel right for me, and I can usually quickly pivot. </p> <p>I think you look great! You have a style that to me transcends age, and your hair and makeup are always amazing. I like this cut on you. My hair is not as curly as it used to be, but I know all too well how challenging it can be to find a stylist who gets how to work with curly hair. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thinking-through-aging-and-youthfulness----thanks-ljp#post-2395170 Sun, 07 Sep 2025 23:02:59 +0000 Irina 2395170@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think boho is timeless. You might want to adjust fit or colors as you age but only if you feel like it. Boho has this certain vintage feel that looks romantic and a bit nostalgic. It suits you perfectly - the silhouettes, textures look organic with your makeup and hair.<br />I had a variety of styles in my life and I don’t want to repeat previous versions although fashion is circular. Trying new styles, colors, proportions is an adventure to me. Youthful to me is having fun with fashion.&nbsp;</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thinking-through-aging-and-youthfulness----thanks-ljp#post-2395169 Sun, 07 Sep 2025 23:01:37 +0000 LJP 2395169@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well, not to be argumentative, but the idea that a look can be aging - or not- is a matter of opinion and I disagree that it's inaccurate. &nbsp;My comment had to do with how I view myself, not how I view anyone else.<br />I also think Anna Wintour does look a bit staid - she wears the SAME THING in every photo and has for years: &nbsp;printed dress, patterned boots, statement jewellery and the bob. &nbsp;I get the idea of a uniform and all, but I find her look very uninspiring and very uninteresting. But then again, she's not dressing for me ! &nbsp;Hahaha!</p> <p>Anyways - your hair is fabulous at this length - I think it's super flattering. &nbsp;Colour is a whole other issue - and I never feel I have a good handle on it myself. I had my hair cut and coloured Friday and I <b>hate</b> it- so I've got my own problems, LOL. &nbsp;</p> <p>Back to the issue at hand of staying authentic to one's style and maturing /getting older........I've been having those same thoughts. &nbsp;Which is also why I took a dive into the deep end of some artsy-er/indie fashion &nbsp;pieces ......energizing my look, so to speak . I think you might have fun exploring more into the romantic boho looks and pushing the envelope a little. &nbsp;Can't hurt! &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thinking-through-aging-and-youthfulness----thanks-ljp#post-2395168 Sun, 07 Sep 2025 22:36:07 +0000 Dee 2395168@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Honestly, I can't say that I really worry too much about being youthful per say but I do want to keep current and select the right items that make me feel good, and that suit both my body proportions and my personal style.</p> <p>Boho Glam looks fab on you, Ket<br /> I dont think you can go too far wrong when you stay authentic to what you enjoy and feel best in, no matter what your age. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thinking-through-aging-and-youthfulness----thanks-ljp#post-2395167 Sun, 07 Sep 2025 22:10:31 +0000 Suz 2395167@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am with <b>MsMary</b> -- love love love your hair!&nbsp;</p> <p>Also, I have several decades on you, and I <b>still</b> squirm when salespeople call me ma'am. :)&nbsp; I'm in my 60s and while I'm not out roller skating with the kids, I would do it, if I had a pair of roller skates. I do still ice skate.&nbsp;</p> <p>I think what <b>Cookie</b> says is true. It's when we feel uncomfortable in our clothes that questions of age-inappropriateness come up. If we feel authentic wearing it, it's probably appropriate for us, even if it might look or feel "off" on our same age best friend.&nbsp;</p> <p>As for what styles "age" a wearer, I think that is an easy shorthand term, but it's not especially accurate. </p> <p>It's not that a wearer looks <b>older</b>, wearing this, that, or the other style. It's that a wearer can look less <b>current</b> or <b>aware</b> if she, for exaple, wears the exact same (and I mean <b>exact</b> same) outfit as she might have worn 20 years ago. With the exact same makeup and exact same haircut/ colour. A wearer can look a bit ossified if she does that.&nbsp;</p> <p>Or not! Because, you know, Anna Wintour has worn the same style of dress and exact same haircut for decades and she's a fashion maven! And while she's perhaps an extreme example, most of us have a signature style that includes items that we probably loved in our 20s and still love now (e.g. for me...chelsea boots, shorter jackets, lots of blue, denim mixed with silk or more luxe fabrics, etc.)&nbsp;</p> <p>For some of us, embracing and&nbsp; incorporating trends is key to feeling and looking like our current selves. For others, cleaving even more powerfully to our personal signature items is a way to feel authentically ourselves at any age. And for most of us, it's probably a little of both!&nbsp;</p> <p> </p>