https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-terrible-work-day Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Wed, 29 Apr 2026 06:07:37 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-terrible-work-day/page/2#post-961441 Fri, 21 Jun 2013 09:11:45 +0000 lyn67 961441@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sorry Sona, you are doing a great job there, but pls. take care of yourself, too. I know, easy to say, hard to do, actually. I have had this kind of burnouts in my career-and so learned hard on my own skin what this means. And I know very well, if there is no help, and you are let alone(like you, and me), you still have to do the job-no matter what....sad but true:-(.&nbsp;I couldn't let go my company of 20 when I was preggy, neither after&nbsp;my DD was born, neither when&nbsp; I was getting daily infusions for my hearing loss, had a car accident...and so on...cuz I have no help.&nbsp;Work simply has to be done....Sorry again, and hope you can deal with all these without damaging your precious health. Big hugs:-) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-terrible-work-day/page/2#post-961303 Fri, 21 Jun 2013 02:21:03 +0000 Sveta 961303@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hugs, Sona! Life has been brutal to you and you need to take care of yourself.<br />I have my fingers crossed for you that this bump is nothing serious. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-terrible-work-day#post-961249 Fri, 21 Jun 2013 01:01:26 +0000 Sona 961249@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>very brief update: I cried all through the meeting: small, soul sucking sobs. I think they finally GOT IT that I needed more resources and needed to know who they were on a daily basis.<br /> In addition I have felt a small bump in my breast that I put off having seen until Monday because my office manager has told me in the past she "prefers' I schedule doctor appointments on the days I don't work.<br />&nbsp;I decided when I came out of every patient room only to sob in the hallway that I needed a break. I have taken tomorrow off to just relax. will go on date night with hubby Saturday, Sunday to the temple and Monday to have the breast looked at.<br />Wish me luck and fortitude! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-terrible-work-day#post-960944 Thu, 20 Jun 2013 17:21:59 +0000 rachylou 960944@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ya, I think I'd get a god complex, Sona. I wouldn't ask for help; I'd tell them what's not gonna get done without it. You poor thing.</p> <p>And actually, it's true: People think doctors are professionals, but they're treated like and lead the same lives as hourly-wage workers. My co-workers at the bakery all have two jobs. So that's 16 hours of work a day + commute + not enough money to pay for childcare for the children they don't see. Bakers don't retire; they just drop dead. Pretty brutal. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-terrible-work-day#post-960899 Thu, 20 Jun 2013 16:04:20 +0000 tarzy 960899@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm stressed out just reading this. I hope you were able to discuss the situation with management and get some help. Please let us know how things are going.</p> <p>Your patients are so lucky to have you. The story about the elderly diabetic resonated with me particularly, as my father (who lives far away) is in a similar situation. I would love to think that his physician is as caring and competent as you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-terrible-work-day#post-960879 Thu, 20 Jun 2013 15:25:07 +0000 goldenpig 960879@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sona, big hugs again and good luck at the meeting today. I hope your concerns will be heard and addressed. Wishing you strength! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-terrible-work-day#post-960872 Thu, 20 Jun 2013 15:17:10 +0000 Glory 960872@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sona how horrible! I hope you are feeling better today. It sounds like you are super professional and excellent at your job, and it is a pretty tough job, especially if you are backfiling for so many other people. Big hugs your way! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-terrible-work-day#post-960836 Thu, 20 Jun 2013 14:21:44 +0000 Anonymous 960836@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sona, I'm sending you so many good thoughts. &nbsp;The situation sounds impossible and can't continue. &nbsp;You are right to stand up for yourself. &nbsp;You are important. &nbsp;Please treat yourself as gently as you would your patients. &nbsp;Big hugs. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-terrible-work-day#post-960828 Thu, 20 Jun 2013 14:13:33 +0000 Thistle 960828@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I know next to nothing about the medical field.&nbsp; Just know that I am thinking of you and sending BIG hugs your way!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-terrible-work-day#post-960797 Thu, 20 Jun 2013 13:26:10 +0000 Transcona Shannon 960797@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That is one of the very first things I learned when I started working at the hospital - the life of a physician is not a glamorous one and the amount of hours worked is insane.</p> <p>Sona - first and foremost, you need to look after yourself. You're no good to your family or your patients if you are run ragged. I hope you are able to relay your concerns to Management and that a resolution can be found that works for all.</p> <p>In the meantime, remember you are LOVED by so many and that we are wishing the very best for you.</p> <p>xoxo </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-terrible-work-day#post-960712 Thu, 20 Jun 2013 08:51:25 +0000 Anonymous 960712@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sona, I ams so sorry about this dreadful situation you are in. You really don't need all tht stress, now or at any time. I won't pretend to know much about doctors but I sincerely hope you can sort things out at the meeting. Good luck and lots of&nbsp; ((hugs)) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-terrible-work-day#post-960708 Thu, 20 Jun 2013 08:42:26 +0000 goldenpig 960708@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh Sona, I'm so sorry you are under so much stress right now! It sounds like you handled it with all the grace and skill possible...I am amazed at how much work you did and how well you took care of all your patients. That is an insane amount of work and stress! I agree you should ask for help. Can they hire a locums to fill in? Or reschedule patients or lighten your caseload? If they don't help you out, you need to call in sick. Just because you were able to do it today doesn't mean the workload isn't taking a huge toll on you. You don't want to end up back in the hospital because of your depression so I agree you need to take care of yourself. </p> <p>I can totally see where you're coming from, I deal with a lot of the same issues. DD is also in theater camp and I'm planning to go to her performance next Friday even though I'm on call (I'll probably have to go back and stay late at the hospital to finish work). I can't really take time off if I'm sick b/c I'd have to cancel all my patients (many of whom have prepped). No matter how busy I am at work and home I just have to keep doing it because I have no choice. Next month I am on call two weeks and almost all the others in our group will be on vacation that month, and DH is going away for 10 days too so I'll have the three kids at home in the evenings and baby still gets up multiple times a night. I'm so tired, but I can't imagine having all that and having to deal with depression on top of that. So I really sympathize Sona, and wish I could give you a big hug IRL. Please be gentle with yourself and get the help you need. I know you're a strong person and a great caring doctor, but don't let the bean counting managers bully you into compromising your own health.(And I agree, doctors are not rich esp given how hard we have to work).</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-terrible-work-day#post-960674 Thu, 20 Jun 2013 05:21:14 +0000 Diana 960674@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Wow, that really is a crazy and unsustainable amount of work! While I don't have any specific advice other than "be good to yourself", know that I'm thinking of you and sending you lots of moral support. </p> <p>Also, I just want to add that it's very clear to me from what you've written that you obviously care about your patients very much, and that you take great care of them even when you are frazzled to this ridiculous point. Anyone would be lucky to have you as a doctor! (But I'm sure you'd be able to do an even more superior job if you were to have the time and support you deserve.) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-terrible-work-day#post-960659 Thu, 20 Jun 2013 05:02:40 +0000 Kristin L 960659@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I don't have any advice, but I'm sending you big hugs! I'm sorry Sona.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-terrible-work-day#post-960658 Thu, 20 Jun 2013 05:02:37 +0000 Adelfa 960658@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sona, my freshman roommate (from 36 years ago!) is a family practice doc and she has described similar situations many times. As you well know, you absolutely cannot afford this level of stress. My dear friend eventually found a situation that worked for her--working at an urgent care in an impossibly lovely beach town. She found that an urgent care is a lot easier because you don't have the medically complicated patients to follow. &nbsp;Just the situation at hand. So if management is not receptive I would really urge you to start thinking about what kind of situation would suit your particular talents, needs, and vulnerabilities. You deserve that. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-terrible-work-day#post-960656 Thu, 20 Jun 2013 05:00:04 +0000 Marley 960656@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sona, that is crazy.&nbsp; No one should be expected to function (let alone function at a high level) when their workload is what you described.&nbsp; Keep that in mind - its not you, its your job!&nbsp; And, being proactive is the best thing you can do to ward off depression.&nbsp; I hope your meeting goes well - and I'm thinking about you and sending you hugs! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-terrible-work-day#post-960650 Thu, 20 Jun 2013 04:49:57 +0000 Lyn D. 960650@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I bet now that you have written all this down you will see just how unfair this was to you and your patients!<br />I hope things improve ASAP. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-terrible-work-day#post-960636 Thu, 20 Jun 2013 04:20:35 +0000 Deborah 960636@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sona, not much advice but am offering my support and good wishes.&nbsp;&nbsp; I am wondering if our system is a little different here?&nbsp;&nbsp; What you describe sounds insane, and you have the kind of job where you need to be at your best.&nbsp; My only advice is don't be afraid to speak up as your welfare reflects on how you care for your patients. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-terrible-work-day#post-960631 Thu, 20 Jun 2013 04:10:11 +0000 Nadya 960631@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Good for you for pointing out you're part of the equation! If you're not taken care of, how can you do good work? I hope your talk with your management goes well and they come up with solutions! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-terrible-work-day#post-960624 Thu, 20 Jun 2013 03:36:41 +0000 Debbie 960624@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I hope your talk with management goes well. Pease know that I am thinking about you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-terrible-work-day#post-960611 Thu, 20 Jun 2013 03:19:52 +0000 bj1111 960611@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>THE SITUATION&nbsp;IS CRAZY...but you shouldn't make yourself crazy handling this situation.</p> <p>Come here, decompress, hug bebe. &nbsp;How did the performance go? &nbsp;How did the "talk" with the "management" go?</p> <p>work life balance is a myth...we all stumble from fire to fire. &nbsp;i have been told that successful women are good workers, wives and mothers, while really really successful women are good at only two. &nbsp;rightly or wrongly, something has to give. &nbsp;AND YOU CAN NOT AFFORD TO FEEL GUILTY.</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-terrible-work-day#post-960596 Thu, 20 Jun 2013 02:59:29 +0000 Anonymous 960596@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sona, I have no constructive advice as I am not in the medical profession and I know zilch about it, but I just wanted to offer a virtual hug and lots of luck on your talk. You will get thru this. I am sorry about bebe and you missing her show ;( </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-terrible-work-day#post-960587 Thu, 20 Jun 2013 02:48:53 +0000 Angie 960587@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, Sona. I'm sorry. (((HUGS))). </p> <p>I wish you luck with your meetings and talks with the powers that be tomorrow.&nbsp; I'm sure they will be empathetic when you state your case with compelling calm and sincerity. Please let us know how it goes and know that we support you. xo </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-terrible-work-day#post-960550 Thu, 20 Jun 2013 02:18:53 +0000 annagybe 960550@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ok I'm not a doctor. But yeah that's killer. Work life balance in health care can be so difficult. Right now I may not get to see my father for his birthday due to scheduling issues. I so feel your pain.&nbsp;<br />I can't offer any concrete advice as I'm in a hospital situation.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-terrible-work-day#post-960549 Thu, 20 Jun 2013 02:18:47 +0000 Suz 960549@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sona, no wonder you are feeling stressed. Family/ work conflicts; work/work conflicts; ridiculous work demands; tons of responsibility with little agency; little to no support, and especially no support from management.&nbsp;</p> <p>I have no real words of wisdom. I do know you&nbsp;are right to seek a better balance for yourself. And I believe that balance will come if you take it step at a time. What is one small thing you can do to help yourself in this situation in the next hour, the next day? If you focus only on that small thing, the path through this mess should&nbsp;slowly open for you.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-terrible-work-day#post-960515 Thu, 20 Jun 2013 01:43:49 +0000 missvee 960515@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so sorry to hear about your dreadful day. I think you handled things superbly given the circumstances. I also think that you have a very good handle on the workload that you can be expected to carry, and you should not hesitate to be firm with the clinic manager on this. Their mismanagement and poor scheduling have put you in an impossible position. If you continue to try to do your own work plus that of your missing colleagues you are almost certain to slip up. This is only common sense. Surely the management does not condone the provision of substandard care to its patients. Please try to stay strong and fight your corner!<br /> Btw you look lovely in your latest outfit posts. The colours of the first outfit are glorious, and I love, love, love the shoes. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-terrible-work-day#post-960508 Thu, 20 Jun 2013 01:39:00 +0000 Mia 960508@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What comes through for me is what a caring and conscientious person you are. &nbsp;I do hope that you get some much needed support soon. &nbsp;Anyone would be overwhelmed by the situation you describe. &nbsp;</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-terrible-work-day#post-960501 Thu, 20 Jun 2013 01:32:48 +0000 Classically Casual 960501@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so sorry. It always seems to be the ones that care the most, who get taken advantage of. I guess in your shoes I'd go on the offensive with management as to what the temporary staffing plans are. There's no scenario where one doc can do it all. On the positive side you looked fabulous on your other thread. Best to you... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-terrible-work-day#post-960500 Thu, 20 Jun 2013 01:32:30 +0000 lyn* 960500@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That's crazy! Do you have any reliable residents you can use to help? I have been utilized by previous attendings before when this kind of stuff happens (ie: coverage for when they need to pick up their kids, etc) and I'm glad to help out.&nbsp;</p> <p>I think it's crazy that everyone just left you to do all that stuff - you definitely need to take care of #1 (YOU, even though it doesn't feel like you're #1 right now, I'm sure). I think EVERYONE would burn out in this situation.&nbsp;</p> <p>I am unsure what the clinic policy is about overbooks, but it sounds like a crazy situation. Maybe the clinic manager will have to put their foot down and limit the # of appointments, and the sicker people will just have to go to the ER.&nbsp;</p> <p>Last time I was in family medicine clinic, we went from 9 docs down to 2 (for various reasons) and we shuttled a lot of people to the ER because we couldn't handle it anymore - we had two residents manning the phone to do "triage" - and basically med refills were all called in my our pharmacist (can your pharmacists in the US do this?) as a temporary measure until the docs could follow up. The residents also did all the follow up calls for labs. We made one of the medical students do a lot of scut (consult letters, etc). I dunno if you're at a teaching center, but it might be one of those times to call back the residents - we're usually pretty nice if you buy us dinner, even if you keep us late - well, at least I am pretty chipper about it!&nbsp;</p> <p>Wish I was closer so I could help you out. </p> <p>And yes, we do make a pittance ... it feels like you give up the best years of your life to be stuck in a hospital or a clinic or studying ... while everyone out there is moving on with their lives. But it's what we have chosen to do, and what we love. If we didn't love it, we wouldn't do it, and we'd run for the hills!</p> <p>Take some time off and get help for your clinic. It sounds crazy.&nbsp;</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-terrible-work-day#post-960497 Thu, 20 Jun 2013 01:29:57 +0000 Makrame 960497@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hi Sona,</p> <p>No advice but I was feeling overwhelmed even just&nbsp;reading your description of the workday. &nbsp;I hope you are able to reach some sort of an arrangement that does not require you to put out all the fires.</p> <p>At least you made it to the show on Friday, right? &nbsp; </p>