https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-sart-just-called-me-fat-no-kidding Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Wed, 29 Apr 2026 21:21:21 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-sart-just-called-me-fat-no-kidding#post-323273 Wed, 30 Mar 2011 01:08:16 +0000 Isabel 323273@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh Arya, in my opinion, you feel so confused and attacked because the comment seems so personal. It reminds me of random, spiritual violence ( I believe in that, btw). We can hurt people in so many ways and one of the ways is to kill someone's spirit, unfortunately.</p> <p>I had to kinda chuckle to myself just now because this person said this to you and yet I was soooo offended. Talk about taking things too personally.... : ) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-sart-just-called-me-fat-no-kidding#post-323272 Wed, 30 Mar 2011 01:01:15 +0000 Isabel 323272@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Arya, you are doing a wonderful thing by turning this around and examining yourself in relation to how you ( and we ) should look at people . My mom and sister are larger women , as are all the women on my mom's side ( I am the outlier ), and I just have never made character judgements or attractiveness based on someone's size. It is a prejudice. So it really offends me when it is done.</p> <p>Just for the record, I was using the word "sart" in lower-case facetiously because it is not Scott Schuman. From everything that I have read and heard, he is a very kind man.</p> <p>Most importantly, CONGRATULATIONS for your courage and dedication in beating anorexia. Please don't let unhappy people hold you back !!!</p> <p>Lynne, yes, where I am from in Portugal, it means you are strong and vibrant and "womanly". </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-sart-just-called-me-fat-no-kidding#post-323081 Tue, 29 Mar 2011 18:27:04 +0000 Lynne 323081@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Isabel, you make a good point! In some parts of asia, 'fat' means well, and rested. "You're looking fat" is like saying "you're looking happy and relaxed". I nearly fell over when someone first said it to me :). </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-sart-just-called-me-fat-no-kidding#post-323077 Tue, 29 Mar 2011 18:21:51 +0000 Arya 323077@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Friends, thank you *so* much for your immediate and enthusiastic support. I was flabbergasted by that person's comment. I didn't want to "censor", but after much consideration have decided to delete the comment. If someone wants to offer constructive criticism related to my actual clothes in a respectful manner, that's one thing, but being rude is simply not permitted. That person's IP Address is now blocked, though as a troll s/he will probably not even remember my blog by tomorrow. Which, incidentally, is fine by me!</p> <p>Isabel, I agree with your inquiry about why "fat" is used as a derogatory comment, too. When I struggled with anorexia and weighed 90 pounds, I felt fatter than I ever do now, at about 40 pounds healthier. This comment made me feel so confused because I don't want to judge anyone based on their body size or composition, which has no reflection on them as a person. And yet, I felt attacked by this essentially anonymous commenter. Such a strange situation. It has given me a lot to think about, with regard to my own feelings about the word "fat".</p> <p>Anyway, thanks for the back-up, the reality check, and the hugs. I definitely needed them! &lt;&lt;&lt;hugs back at ya!&gt;&gt;&gt; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-sart-just-called-me-fat-no-kidding#post-323000 Tue, 29 Mar 2011 16:05:09 +0000 Sarah 323000@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Unfortunately, when we put ourselves "out there" we can be a target for cruel people like this.<br /> I have gotten several awful comments on my blog too, and I have to delete and forget because the positives far outweigh the negatives and it is so worth it for me to keep going.<br /> I hope the fact that it isn't really THE Sart makes you feel a tiny bit better? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-sart-just-called-me-fat-no-kidding#post-322966 Tue, 29 Mar 2011 14:50:30 +0000 Isabel 322966@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>OK. This is the type of thing that really sends me into orbit. WTF ? is right. Delete. Chalk it up to a really miserable human being who must be very unhappy. Really. I honestly believe, deep in my heart, that these are people hiding in the "virtual" world because they are so unhappy with their real selves and lives. Have pity. Delete. Block any further comments from said pathetic person. This is not to be mean to sart, but rather to protect yourself from toxic people...like, stay away from arsenic.</p> <p>Regarding you, wonderful beautiful Arya. You are sooooooo not fat. Let's just clear that up. We are privileged to have such beauty surround us !!!</p> <p>Now, why does "fat" have to be derogatory ? At one point in my life I was so skinny that a co-worker was concerned I was anorexic. ( I had severe endometriosis.) I'll bet the sart would find a sickly looking, skeleton HOT !!! Back to the pathetic life. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-sart-just-called-me-fat-no-kidding#post-322945 Tue, 29 Mar 2011 13:51:00 +0000 rae 322945@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ugh! That is one reason why I feel safe posting here, yet not on a blog. I hope that you delete that cruel comment and move on! Some people just can't stand to see a confident, happy person and will do anything to try and make them miserable, like they are. &lt;hugs&gt; You're gorgeous, and don't forget it! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-sart-just-called-me-fat-no-kidding#post-322940 Tue, 29 Mar 2011 13:43:46 +0000 nicoleb 322940@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I agree, delete and move on. It's not true and this is unfortunetly a big down fall to putting yourself out there on the internet. Trolls. I experienced it last year when a website featured one of my Etsy shop pieces. People who didn't like it spoke freely, which is fine not everyone has to like it but at least keep in mind there is a real person attached who has feelings just like you would in the regular world. People can be cruel and thoughtless. </p> <p>*hugs* you are beautiful! please don't let this get you down! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-sart-just-called-me-fat-no-kidding#post-322938 Tue, 29 Mar 2011 13:40:48 +0000 rute 322938@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>oh.. that was not the "Sartorialist", but someone using this nickname!<br /> I've noticed that there are so many mean people! They use false names and nicknames and have fun leaving mean comments!<br /> Forget!!! You are lovely! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-sart-just-called-me-fat-no-kidding#post-322917 Tue, 29 Mar 2011 11:49:33 +0000 Aunty 322917@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>If the cowardly devil ever contacts you again please feel free to pass them on to me, I have a couple of things to say to them!!!</p> <p>You take no notice and get on with being the beautiful person you are. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-sart-just-called-me-fat-no-kidding#post-322902 Tue, 29 Mar 2011 10:34:49 +0000 Lynne 322902@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What Steph and Stringy said.....this makes no sense on any other level. Please do delete it, the real Sartorialist author (can't think of his name) will thank you.... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-sart-just-called-me-fat-no-kidding#post-322898 Tue, 29 Mar 2011 09:48:27 +0000 Nancy 322898@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The Sart is just a troll trying to make other people as miserable as he is. Ignore him, you're not fat. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-sart-just-called-me-fat-no-kidding#post-322897 Tue, 29 Mar 2011 09:36:43 +0000 stringy 322897@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Delete it. It's not the real Sartorialist, just some sad person trying to make themselves feel more worthwhile by putting other people down. I'll bet they've done it to dozens of people today. </p> <p>Really, you're taking the high road and doing them a favour if you delete it. One day they might have better self-esteem and will regret leaving such mean comments all over the internet. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-sart-just-called-me-fat-no-kidding#post-322832 Tue, 29 Mar 2011 03:05:25 +0000 bella 322832@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Delete it and move on! You are fabulous! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-sart-just-called-me-fat-no-kidding#post-322829 Tue, 29 Mar 2011 03:01:10 +0000 RandomThoughts (Andrea) 322829@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Amazing what lows some people will go to to amuse themselves. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-sart-just-called-me-fat-no-kidding#post-322790 Tue, 29 Mar 2011 02:11:12 +0000 Marley 322790@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>First of all - the stupid person who posted that is WRONG - you are BEAUTIFUL! And second, that wasn't The Sartorialist. That was some coward who was trying to play some type of cruel joke. Just delete it. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-sart-just-called-me-fat-no-kidding#post-322776 Tue, 29 Mar 2011 02:00:59 +0000 Debora 322776@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sorry this happened to you. I agree with the others that the Sartorialist is too professional to post such a mean-spirited comment. You are beautiful, btw! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-sart-just-called-me-fat-no-kidding#post-322774 Tue, 29 Mar 2011 01:56:09 +0000 Aziraphale 322774@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>WTF? My dear, you are not fat. You have an enviable figure. You know that, but it doesn't hurt to emphasize the point. Either that was a joke, or some cowardly twit pretending to be the Sartorialist wrote something that he (or she) wouldn't dare say to your face.</p> <p>I agree with the others. Delete it. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-sart-just-called-me-fat-no-kidding#post-322766 Tue, 29 Mar 2011 01:44:13 +0000 lyn* 322766@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That person is just jealous of how fabulous you look, and of your confidence, and wants to cut you down a peg or two - don't let them! Meanie! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-sart-just-called-me-fat-no-kidding#post-322760 Tue, 29 Mar 2011 01:42:12 +0000 Steph 322760@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Arya, I'm not sure if you saw the earlier thread about the Sartorialist today, but he posted a photo of a thin and muscular woman and called her curvy, and a lot of people commented on his post saying that he was essentially calling her fat. My guess is that the person who posted on your blog did so as a "joke" and is going around and posting that on a LOT of fashion blogs today. I think he's not making fun of you at all, but rather this is a misguided attempt at making fun of the Sartorialist by posting on many women's fashion blogs who are clearly NOT fat and saying they are. Does that make sense? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-sart-just-called-me-fat-no-kidding#post-322757 Tue, 29 Mar 2011 01:38:11 +0000 Maya 322757@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The problem lies strictly with that person's brain, not with you or your body. Think about the sheer amount of issues a person has to have to take the time to write something like that... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-sart-just-called-me-fat-no-kidding#post-322753 Tue, 29 Mar 2011 01:34:03 +0000 catgirl 322753@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Arya, I doubt that's him. It's some idiot who followed up on your comment on the Sartorialist's site, most likely. Did you see there are close to 700 comments now? </p> <p>And I think I already posted that I think you are gorgeous. Ignore moronic people who post in a cowardly manner. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-sart-just-called-me-fat-no-kidding#post-322751 Tue, 29 Mar 2011 01:31:55 +0000 Shauntelle 322751@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, I just realized this was supposed to be the Sartorialist... I read his blog often and I can't really see him writing anything like that. He does express his opinions, but he has always seemed very respectful so I agree with Angie... that sounds like some troll who is trying to rain on your parade. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-sart-just-called-me-fat-no-kidding#post-322750 Tue, 29 Mar 2011 01:31:18 +0000 carrie 322750@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I thought you looked great in that outfit - you're not fat!!! Delete that jerk. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-sart-just-called-me-fat-no-kidding#post-322749 Tue, 29 Mar 2011 01:29:08 +0000 chewyspaghetti 322749@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I agree with Angie. Also- try not to take it personally. I once had a comment asking me if I owned a mirror. People use the anonymity of the web to be cruel. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-sart-just-called-me-fat-no-kidding#post-322748 Tue, 29 Mar 2011 01:26:59 +0000 Angie 322748@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Arya, you should delete that comment. </p> <p>I don't think that was "the" Sartorialist commenting on your blog. Someone probably saw your comment and is being shamefully facetious, calling themselves "the Sart". It's amazing how cowardice people are behind the anonymity of their computer screens. </p> <p>Sorry </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-sart-just-called-me-fat-no-kidding#post-322747 Tue, 29 Mar 2011 01:26:40 +0000 Shauntelle 322747@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What a rotten thing to write... I don't know who he is, but I certainly wouldn't read his blog! You look awesome in that outfit and I love the point you made with the belt; it made me rethink wearing belts which I normally avoid because of the short waist thing... please don't let his comment get to you. A person whose opinion is worth respecting will give constructive criticism to build you up. People whose only purpose is to tear down say more about who they are than give any useful input. (((Arya))) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-sart-just-called-me-fat-no-kidding#post-322742 Tue, 29 Mar 2011 01:19:32 +0000 Arya 322742@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So, I just got a comment on my blog, from "The Sart", saying "Honey, you aren't curvy, you're fat".</p> <p>WTF?</p> <p>Is he always like this? My comment on his site wasn't mean...</p> <p><a href="http://www.seattleyogini.typepad.com/style_trumps_fashion/2011/03/my-favorite-sweater-this-winterbelted.html" rel="nofollow">http://www.seattleyogini.typep.....elted.html</a> </p>