https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-lipstick Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Thu, 23 Apr 2026 04:17:32 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-lipstick/page/2#post-1793261 Fri, 31 Mar 2017 06:32:24 +0000 Lisa Rayes 1793261@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Cool.<br />You are looking fab.<br />Great choice. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-lipstick/page/2#post-1792434 Wed, 29 Mar 2017 00:35:36 +0000 SarahTheWhite 1792434@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I so enjoyed what you wrote and can identify with how hair, clothing and makeup can change so much! Also, I love those photos! You look absolutely amazing and I feel like I can really see YOU - which is, in my opinion, exactly what it's all about! Thank you so much for sharing! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-lipstick/page/2#post-1792417 Tue, 28 Mar 2017 22:55:10 +0000 MovingFashionForward 1792417@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Spectacular photos -- I love your aesthetic. You look phenomenal.</p> <p>Sarah </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-lipstick/page/2#post-1792158 Tue, 28 Mar 2017 12:16:47 +0000 approprio 1792158@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Guys, I'm so sorry it took me so long to get back to this thread. I'm having some technical issues here, but in reality there's so much interesting stuff here that I barely know where to begin.&nbsp;</p> <p><b>Xtabay:</b> thank you so much for that beautiful picture. I love opera and The Magic Flute is one of my absolute favourites. You could find no better inspiration than the Queen of the Night for a gorgeous black sequin jacket.</p> <p><b>Staysfit:</b>&nbsp;thanks for weighing in with your professional insight. I'm very interested in trait theory, but I'd always missed the "state" aspect of it. Makes much more sense that way. I will keep this in mind and look into it when I next visit the topic.&nbsp;</p> <p><b>Angie:</b> I'm taking your comment on t-shirts on board. They've always been an easy fix for me given my problems finding good fit and flattery on the upper body. I'll give that some thought.</p> <p><b>Everyone else</b>....Janet, Gigi, Echo, Bonnie, UmmLila, bonnie, Penny, viva, smittie, Sisi, Suz, Aquamarine, kkards, lpr, KG/Sally, and anyone I may have missed - Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences. I wish I could condense them all into a paragraph, but I'd never do them justice. You all continue to amaze me.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-lipstick/page/2#post-1791836 Mon, 27 Mar 2017 14:42:21 +0000 Janet 1791836@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I enjoyed this post too. I'd never heard that term before, but the concept is all too familiar to me, as another who made a transition from working in an office to self-employment, and consequently fell into the trap of working in pajamas way too often. </p> <p>My magic doesn't come from lipstick (I don't wear bold shades well), but from a balance of flattering shapes and a bit of edge. My blue leather moto, great stompy boots, etc. Outfits that make me look longer and leaner. A bit of sexy along with some modern edge really helps me feel more like a badass. </p> <p>You look amazing in these photos, so it's easy to see how empowered you feel. Rock on! I love your musings and your style. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-lipstick/page/2#post-1791788 Mon, 27 Mar 2017 09:07:34 +0000 Sisi 1791788@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm happy to know that you are feeling good&nbsp;in your outfits, and well, you&nbsp;look fab. I totally agree that the right clothes and the right makeup can do miracles on our mood. Ah, the power of a pink lipstick! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-lipstick/page/2#post-1791774 Mon, 27 Mar 2017 06:04:11 +0000 Gigi 1791774@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I've noticed that what I wear often makes a huge difference in how I feel. I work at home, and on some days when I'm feeling depressed, if I take the time to examine my outfit and make changes, I find that my mood lifts significantly. As another commenter said, dressing is kind of a form of therapy in and of itself. I try not to overspend on clothing, but I am also aware that it's OK if I treat myself now and then, because the emotional boost I get from a "happy" outfit is so life giving.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-lipstick/page/2#post-1791746 Mon, 27 Mar 2017 02:56:11 +0000 Echo 1791746@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Liz, you look magnificent. I fully embrace the idea of clothed cognition. However, I do want to add that your comments are always equally enlightening and expansive, regardless of how you are dressed when you post them. The real YOU comes through in your posts, and you are always intellectual and challenging others to think; this is part of the reason I always appreciate your posts. </p> <p>I'm sorry you feel in a funk right now. It certainly doesn't show from the outside.&nbsp;</p> <p>As for ACTUAL cognition, yes, I find that clothing matters. When I go to conferences all decked out, I feel confident about what I have learned and ready to teach it to others. When I am dressed more casually, I often feel iffy about the material and ready to defer to others. The clothing does't necessarily make the man or the woman, but it certainly doesn't hurt. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-lipstick/page/2#post-1791717 Mon, 27 Mar 2017 01:04:18 +0000 UmmLila (Lisa) 1791717@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>As to enclothed cognition, I have been working from home for a bit more than 18 years. My daughter is now almost 18. I am a lawyer and it was a major transition for me going from the all suits look to the nursing mom and then mom of small child look. I had a couple of years where not having spit up on me was a good look, and not having crying or barking in the background was an achievement for conference calls. However, I did settle in to a relatively casual but more dressy than my rural New England environment look for the long haul. I just cannot work in pajamas or athletic clothes. I have to be showered, wearing something nice, and have some makeup on. My major concession to casual is wearing driving shoes because we don't wear outside shoes in the house. I will never give up my love of dressy jackets and blazers because I get that powerful feel from them. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-lipstick/page/2#post-1791705 Mon, 27 Mar 2017 00:26:42 +0000 Penny 1791705@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Love this post, and you look sensational. As a petite blond attorney, I feel much more powerful in heels with a blazer and lipstick, and am glad that dressing the part has both internal and external effects. At the same time, I feel best when these pieces are true to me - the fun and challenge of curating and updating a professional wardrobe! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-lipstick/page/2#post-1791688 Sun, 26 Mar 2017 22:08:28 +0000 Bonnie 1791688@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This is such an interesting post, and your photos are wonderful. I love reading you - you write things that really resonate with me. When I was young, I felt strongly that the way women were expected to act and dress was a way of controlling them. I did not conform to expectations and would not wear heels, revealing necklines, makeup, or fitted dresses. Now that I'm older I've found to my great surprise, that I'm becoming interested in fashion. I'm still a bit unconventional but I've found that I enjoy trying new ideas. They often don't work but it's fun. I don't worry too much about what other people think and I now love to wear lipstick, funky shoes, and interesting tops.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-lipstick/page/2#post-1791670 Sun, 26 Mar 2017 21:05:41 +0000 Aquamarine 1791670@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You look fantastic and powerful...like you're ready to slay dragons.</p> <p>I don't have a power piece exactly, but I do need my hair to look it's best and some lipstick helps, too. I work from home 85% of the time, and I can sink into lethargy pretty quickly if I don't feel like I look good, even if no one will see me. Lately I've been wearing perfume at home alone, and it energizes me when I catch a whiff. Radical, I know :-)</p> <p>Love Suz's comment. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-lipstick/page/2#post-1791660 Sun, 26 Mar 2017 20:27:07 +0000 Sal 1791660@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Wonderful pics Approprio. &nbsp;You look stunning, and authentic and interesting. &nbsp;In dark and difficult times, these small acts can signify a positive step towards feeling stronger and lighter and more empowered.</p> <p>I agree with Jenni, there is a balance to be had between adornment, and authenticity, and it sits at different places for all of us. &nbsp;Some people take great pride in their natural look, others a much more constructed look (Linda McCartney compared to &nbsp;Madonna).</p> <p>I am pleased the new shoes are proving such a success, excellent purchase! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-lipstick/page/2#post-1791624 Sun, 26 Mar 2017 18:06:50 +0000 Angie 1791624@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Killer</p> <p>I enjoy your musings as always, Liz. BIG FAT YES TO ENCLOTHED COGNITION. It's why I have a business and feel so <b>very </b>passionate about it. I'm always going on about how we need to LISTEN TO OUR EMOTIONS when it comes to our outfits. I'm glad you did, Liz - and reaped the reward.&nbsp;</p> <p>Go Team Comfy Fab Footwear, Pretty Undies, Fun Haircut, Mascara and Lipstick.&nbsp; </p> <p>And I am sooo with Smittie. I believe you're taken more seriously when you're dressed up. I believe you get better care as a caregiver when you're dressed up. And I DEFINITELY am happier when I'm dressed up. It's why I never wear T-shirts unless I am sleeping or in loungewear after my evening shower.&nbsp;</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-lipstick/page/2#post-1791619 Sun, 26 Mar 2017 17:53:57 +0000 Anonymous 1791619@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Really enjoying this thread!&nbsp; You always jump-start my brain, approprio.<b><br /></b><br />BTW, s<b></b>ince you asked -- here are a few things I've bought lately that help me realize what enclothed cognition is all about:<br />- A black leather Veda jacket.&nbsp; I really feel like a bada** when I put that on.&nbsp; Good for days when I'm lacking in moxie and self-confidence.<br />- Several pairs of Eileen Fisher pants.&nbsp; They were crazy-expensive (for me), but they fit like they were made for me and I feel both chic and comfortable when I'm wearing them.<br />- A black sequined Alice &amp; Olivia jacket.&nbsp; I looked at several less-expensive ones, but this one fit like a dream and just sort of melted onto my body in a very effortless way.&nbsp; I feel like the Queen of the Night when I wear it.&nbsp; </p> <p>All worn with my favorite MAC lipstick, of course!</p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-lipstick/page/2#post-1791618 Sun, 26 Mar 2017 17:53:52 +0000 lpr200 1791618@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You look totally fantastic and all those things...why not? Apart from pure function, isn't that why we wear clothes and adornment? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-lipstick/page/2#post-1791614 Sun, 26 Mar 2017 17:28:47 +0000 Suz 1791614@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You look absolutely sensational. And lipstick, amazing shoes, fabulous specs, and a new haircut may not be cheap, but they're no more expensive than therapy. Love you in the crop pants outfit -- you may feel you are struggling but it looks sensational.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-lipstick/page/2#post-1791578 Sun, 26 Mar 2017 14:46:05 +0000 kkards 1791578@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>i too, am a firm believer in the power of a great outfit. &nbsp;sometimes its the outfit itself, but more often than not, its the power of the thought and intention that i put into the outfit. its about getting my head around how i want to look instead of how i feel.&nbsp;<br />anyway, love the red hair, and the shape and cut, add the glasses, and you get a fab look that say, yes, i am everything i think i am and more. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-lipstick/page/2#post-1791577 Sun, 26 Mar 2017 14:45:58 +0000 Staysfit 1791577@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think the concept of enclothed cognition is fascinating. I haven't heard that terminology used before, but I have dealt with state trait behavior, because it is a primary concept in my work. The many nuances of using the concept have taken me years to master when working with children. I do think there is some power in the effect an outfit can have on ones mood. I know that when I am not feeling well, either because of a headache, viral illness, or poor sleep, I take extra care to wear my more flattering clothes and to take more time with my makeup. Looking good during the day, helps me feel better, even though I do not. If I stay in my lounge wear and do not put on makeup, I typically feel sluggish and notice more physical symptoms. There may be no difference between my symptoms in either scenario. </p> <p>Each of your choices is associated with a cognition. We know it is helpful to take actions that support positive cognitions which then support positive moods when someone is in a funk. It really can be as simple as picking a beautiful red lippie, or a great outfit to wear instead of something that is sloppy or less flattering. So when I'm tired, I pick colors that give me energy, when I have a headache I pick items that make me feel unstressed and balanced, etc. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-lipstick#post-1791570 Sun, 26 Mar 2017 14:11:53 +0000 viva 1791570@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>To smittie's point about "other people" .... I started working from home when my daughters were young, still in grade school. My look quickly slackened, and I often worked in pajamas, reveling in the casualness of it all. And I distinctly remember my very bold younger daughter, probably about 11 or 12, suggesting that I get myself more "pulled together," like I used to when I went to work in an office. (In some ways, she was entirely right. In most cases (and unlike smittie) I take myself more seriously when I am fully dressed, too.) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-lipstick#post-1791549 Sun, 26 Mar 2017 12:54:33 +0000 Anonymous 1791549@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I definitely think other people take you more seriously when you dress up, and so it stands to reason that you take yourself more seriously.</p> <p>I don't know though. I seem to work equally well in sweatpants and dress-up clothes, and makeup/no makeup..This might explain why I feel ambivalent about makeup and hairstyles: they just don't make that much of a difference to me in terms of work ethic. </p> <p>One thing I have noticed though: I am able to focus much much better if I have a pencil in my hand and a pad of paper in from on me. So maybe our specific objects make our brains shift. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-lipstick#post-1791548 Sun, 26 Mar 2017 12:52:32 +0000 approprio 1791548@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><b>viva</b>: thanks for the compliment and the correction. Sorry for misleading you: it is indeed a turtleneck in the picture. The Breton was part of a different outfit, and yes, it's a classic long sleeved stripy tee. Armor Lux make the best ones. Can't "find" one to show you just now.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-lipstick#post-1791545 Sun, 26 Mar 2017 12:39:52 +0000 viva 1791545@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I don't know the concept of "enclothed cognition" but I do know the experience of dressing and feeling changed. So, yes.</p> <p>I love these pictures, your hair (that color is always so amazing, so fiery and energetic), and the outfit. Your top (is that a Breton? Why do I always think a Breton is a long striped tee?) is one of my favorite classic shapes - but I call it a short-sleeved fitted turtleneck (which sounds so boringly American). Anyway, I love it. Super flattering with the wide pants and short hair. Perfect choice. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-lipstick#post-1791536 Sun, 26 Mar 2017 11:42:11 +0000 approprio 1791536@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ladies, I can't thank you enough for your wonderful feedback - not just for your compliments, but for thinking along with me. I always come here for a rich discussion, and I'm never disappointed.</p> <p><b>Xtabay:&nbsp;</b>no shame in cautioning me on the shoes. I'd probably have said the same if the situation were reversed. It was very wise advice which I needed to hear, I considered it along with all the rest and if they hadn't been wearable, they'd have gone straight back.</p> <p>Now, regarding the subject at hand, I want to know: what did you buy and why? How do you use them in practice? And where does&nbsp;<b>tulle's</b>&nbsp;costume and role play fit in?<b><br /></b><br />Do we need a thread on power pieces?</p> <p><b>JenniNZ</b>: please don't apologise! I totally agree with you. In fact, I should be thanking you for calling out a tired cliche in a hurried piece of writing.&nbsp;We're all walking a fine line between the need for personal empowerment and how advertising manipulates us with empty promises. See <b>shevia's</b> insightful comment.</p> <p><b>Barbara Diane:</b> oh so hard to find the right specs! I'm very glad I held out for these and didn't settle. And that foundation garment is so, so important. (I air them between wears and wash them in a bag on the delicate cycle. Much simpler.)</p> <p><b>Bijou:</b> that's fascinating! I was never much good in exams as a youngster - I bet you aced them all!<br /><b><br />cindysmith</b>, I love your description of "grumpy clothes"! Takes the idea to a whole different level, and if I may say so, perfectly channels your bold, assertive style.&nbsp;</p> <p><b>shevia</b>, I always need to see vintage Margiela. A friend recently scored the most amazing trench coat dress from the glory days. I wish I had more from the brand myself. And yes, the old loves... as <b>lyn67</b> points out, their approval is so much the sweeter when we know we don't need it any more. That book looks fascinating!</p> <p>And <b>everyone else</b>...thank you for your support! Ultimately, finding our best selves is what our clothes are really for. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-lipstick#post-1791534 Sun, 26 Mar 2017 10:43:51 +0000 harmonica 1791534@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You look amazing! Empowered and authentic. Thanks for your post. Life is full of challenges that take its toll. Keep up with what's good for you. I know a lippie, haircut and the right pieces can impact your selfhood. Thanks for your wonderful spirit and motivation in your post. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-lipstick#post-1791528 Sun, 26 Mar 2017 10:09:13 +0000 Style Fan 1791528@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You look incredible.&nbsp; I love reading your posts.&nbsp; So timely.&nbsp; I will keep it short but I have also realized how much the way I dress and whether I wear make up impacts my mood.<br />Those shoes are so right for you.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-lipstick#post-1791488 Sun, 26 Mar 2017 02:56:28 +0000 Jenni NZ 1791488@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Liz, I'm really sorry. I didn't mean to hijack your post. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-lipstick#post-1791484 Sun, 26 Mar 2017 02:48:03 +0000 Jaime 1791484@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I hope I don't go on too long.<br />1. You look amazing.<br />2. Oh that facebook like hit home. A few years ago I ran into an old heartbreak in a supermarket (quite shocking since our relationship was in New York). Although I was in the process of growing out my dyed hair and therefore had a huge skunk stripe on my head, he is the one who spotted me and told me that I looked exactly the same. I was there shopping for my family. He was there shopping with his mother. I am pretty sure my emotion was similar to yours with that like.<br />3. Yes, of course how we dress affects our thinking. Everything apparently affects our thinking. I am reading a book on marketing (<a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.amazon.com/Pre-Suasion-Revolutionary-Way-Influence-Persuade-ebook/dp/B01C36E2YS/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&amp;ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1490496124&amp;sr=1-1&amp;keywords=presusasion">Pre-suasion</a>, highly recommended). Customers that see fluffy clouds on the landing page of a sofa store value comfort over value for money. Customers that see dollar signs (or something like that even less blatant), the reverse. By a shocking margin.<br />4. My most powerful sartorial weapon turns to be a leather jacket. Vintage Margiela and you probably don't remember but I owe you a picture.<br />5. I have done my own experiments. The world treats you differently if you wear lipstick. I understood none of this when I was younger and have gained new appreciation for conventional wisdom in my older age.<br />6. I knew I would go on too long. Love your post. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-lipstick#post-1791469 Sun, 26 Mar 2017 01:26:47 +0000 elpgal 1791469@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Rock on, lady!</p> <p>In a similar situation myself and don't want to hijack your post but I couldn't agree more. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-lipstick#post-1791465 Sun, 26 Mar 2017 01:10:10 +0000 cindysmith 1791465@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You look freaking amazing! </p> <p>And you're definitely on to something. What I'm wearing can absolutely affect my attitude and outlook. Some things make me feel powerful, other things make me feel sort of lazy and luxurious, and then there's the stuff that makes me grumpy (which is what I out on when I have something grossly dirty to deal with). </p> <p>It's not always something that's at the forefront of my mind. Sometimes it's just a little niggling bit of vague discomfort that I can't find words for. </p>