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YouLookFab Forum » Topic: The power of compliments... https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-compliments Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Fri, 01 May 2026 14:06:57 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 <![CDATA[Search]]> q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php texstyle on "The power of compliments..." https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-compliments/page/2#post-1334140 Mon, 18 Aug 2014 15:01:09 +0000 texstyle 1334140@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I agree that compliments are great to get and to give. I am a bit more restrained here sometimes since a couple of people have voiced some concern about being complimented on something they didn't ask about, but I try to judge it based on what I think I know about the person. I typically stick to the outfit unless they mention their new hair, new exercise routine and success, etc. Sometimes I wonder if it's okay to say someone looks tall or in really good shape, etc. It's good to know most people enjoy getting this feedback. Deb on "The power of compliments..." https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-compliments/page/2#post-1334002 Mon, 18 Aug 2014 12:36:35 +0000 Deb 1334002@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I love to compliment others in all sorts of ways. Sometimes it may be simple....something about the way they are dressed or a great new haircut or shoes. But I am far more likely to compliment others on their efforts, achievements, thoughtfulness, kindness, generosity, integrity, heroics or great behaviours like fostering a handicapped child, caring for an elderly parent, being a great mother or friend, being an outstanding professional or doing something that truly makes a makes a difference in the world. It is the attributes of character that I admire the most and I'm never shy to compliment and tell people that I admire what I've observed. gryffin on "The power of compliments..." https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-compliments/page/2#post-1333977 Mon, 18 Aug 2014 11:49:23 +0000 gryffin 1333977@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ T- YLF and the forum are very special places. I think this haven of positivity is rare and so empowering! I think it pushes us out of our reference frame and helps us see beauty in everyones style!! T on "The power of compliments..." https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-compliments/page/2#post-1333964 Mon, 18 Aug 2014 10:51:15 +0000 T 1333964@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I think a lot of women are critical of themselves anyways, seeing faults even where there are none. So when others criticize further it may at times just add fuel to the fire.  I really do think compliments have immense power to help people realize their potential. It may push someone to be more confident, take more risks and even just experiment a bit more. Here on YLF I like how positive people are. I must admit I am not so good at complimenting others, I tend to notice flaws first. But after spending some time here on YLF I have learnt to hold those a bit and realised that actually maybe that flaw in other's style is just my perception of how style should be, and I may be thinking narrow. So I do tend to hold expressing negative opinions. But if I love something, I do also push myself to express it - even if it is a simple one liner - YLF! gryffin on "The power of compliments..." https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-compliments/page/2#post-1333960 Mon, 18 Aug 2014 10:35:56 +0000 gryffin 1333960@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Lyn - thank you, that's very sweet of you to say.  Maybe it's just getting older Lyn, since I'm mid 50's, but I do feel life mirrors back what we bring to it.  Whether we look for beauty, kindness, strife, anger that's what we are going to see.  I am the farthest thing from a Pollyanna, but I kind of embrace that although none of us can control circumstances and life we have complete control on how we view them.  Reframing negatives has really helped me find the tactical advantages and beauty in many areas of life.  I feel sincere compliments are one way we bring that out into the world!! Lyn D. on "The power of compliments..." https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-compliments/page/2#post-1333915 Mon, 18 Aug 2014 05:27:39 +0000 Lyn D. 1333915@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I have found that since joining this forum it is much easier to find the positives in the outfits of others, and even to enjoy the natural beauty in the simplest of things around us. I too now like to give compliments to strangers and friends alike, and would love to see more positivity in the world! Thanks for the reminder Gryffin :) P.S You are an excellent writer, and a great asset to YLF. gardenchick on "The power of compliments..." https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-compliments/page/2#post-1333836 Mon, 18 Aug 2014 02:28:36 +0000 gardenchick 1333836@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Thanks gryffin! Appreciate your thoughtful response to our responses gryffin on "The power of compliments..." https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-compliments/page/2#post-1333255 Sun, 17 Aug 2014 13:32:56 +0000 gryffin 1333255@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Firecracker- that's an excellent point, we can learn from compliments given to others too.  After all, isn't that the great part of being able to be a YLF lemming?  I think being a lemming is the ultimate compliment!!  Some else's compliments make us copy their choice of clothing proving imitation is the sincerest form of flattery!!  Shevia - yes, giving a compliment is a great, great pleasure!!  Even a short sincere one is a true and thoughtful gift! jackiec - specific compliments are so helpful because you know you've nailed an element.  I'm someone who likes to tick off boxes on my list.  killer blazer - check, great jeans - check.  It make you feel like you are getting a handle on pieces, color, proportion - it just makes getting dressed more managable!! Suz - so agree.  Angie's greatest gift is not just her incrediblely educated eye or her exquisite taste - it's her true sensitivity, kindness, tact and warmth.  Many people can have knowledge but not many can convey it in a way that is clear, useful, specific, helpful but never hurtful.  By giving input in a positive way - "do you see how that cowl neck opens up your chest and frames your face and helps create a lovely vertical line" vs " you should try a cowl neck because that crew neckline draws attention to your neck in a less than flattering way and accentuates your bust line"  same info but one tells you why it looks bad while the other focuses on how the other makes you look good.   The first response is focused on showcasing something attractive the second is helpful but now we are trying to camouflage a negative.  What if that person never noticed the softening of her neck or thought her chest was lovely in being ample.  We've now created a negative where none may have existed or touched on a sensitivity if it had.  Marley - I do think we are thinking the same thing.  I completely agree feedback at it's best and critique is meant to change behavior or choice.  So you need information the positive and negative - what needs to be reconsidered and reviewed so we can make the best choice, otherwise the information is not as helpful.  It's how we choose to frame our negatives.  As I said above to Suz - telling someone they might want to raise the hem on their skirt because they have beautiful legs and it will hit them at the most flattering and btw on trend point vs telling them to shorten that skirt because the length is matronly are two ways of conveying the same infomation.  I always try to present negative info in a postive way.  I waqnt that person to be hearing in ther head "Wow, I have nice legs and that length is really more flattering" which is a lot nicer than hearing you inner self think "I look matronly in this skirt, if I shorten it, hum, will I look less matronly.  Maybe all my looks are matronly...."  I don't want to feel I create that type of inner monologue for anyone.  I personally can do enough of that to myself without any help!! Beth Ann - confidence brings success.  If you can work off one good thing you can often piggy back a lot more good things.  Telling people what they do well and then asking for more of that or, now that you've aced that let's try....  Great teaching empowers!! gardenchick - I love what you said.  I want to print it out and read it over and over.  Isn't the greatest give when we really take the time to "see" and appreciate each other, in every area!!  What a gorgeous insight!! Neel - that is so sad!!  I am so glad that the forum fills a tiny bit of the void being so far from you mum, but I must tell you, you are so stylish and beautiful, if I saw you in line at the supermarket, I would definitely tell you how fabulous you looked!!  I try and do that, remember to smile, hold doors, give compliments etc - those little random acts of unexpected kindness - they empower the world!!  You deserve tons of them!!  Beaming good karma your way!! crutcher - another beautiful thought.  Positive ripples spreading out until the entire lake dances with joy!!  Love it! lyn67 - what a beautiful heart you have.  Giving love and praise as a gift.  "The cistern contains, the fountain overflows."  You make the world a better place and what an example you are to your daughter,  you are truly one of the blessed!! IK - that is exactly what I am talking about.  We need to know what we did right, as well as wrong.  Specific and detailed positives are crucial to being able to understand what was good so it can be repeated.  Areas of improvement are crucial to, but they can always be phrased in a constructive and positive manner.  That's exactly it!! Traci on "The power of compliments..." https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-compliments#post-1333245 Sun, 17 Aug 2014 13:21:19 +0000 Traci 1333245@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ These threads have been really thought provoking.  My biggest take away has been that when offering any feedback, the more specificity the better.  I am keeping in mind with this that this is in an ideal world.  My reality is that sometimes I don't know why a particular look sings to me.  I think the more expert and more experienced among us may be able to pinpoint all those little details that bring a look together.  Others of us just know that we really like something when we see it.  I don't think we should throw out those "I just like it" or "I just don't like it" just because someone can't quite articulate why. I will try to think on the details of why a look appeals to me, but if I can't put my finger on it, I will still gush about how fab the poster looks. ironkurtin on "The power of compliments..." https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-compliments#post-1333230 Sun, 17 Aug 2014 12:29:08 +0000 ironkurtin 1333230@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I love giving compliments. I stopped a woman on the street the other day to tell her how much I admired her outfit. It felt kinda stalkery but I hope they knew I meant it. I also hate unfair criticism; I work in a creative field and it is easy for issues to morph into personal attacks. It happens very often and you just have to be rooted in knowledge of your strengths. However, I have also learned so much from directed feedbacks and critiques on my work. To me, critiques include praise, because directed critique is about pushing up what works and pointing out what could be stronger to match and support the rest. You assume a work has a goal and suggest possibilities to advance it. To be honest, I've had to put in more effort figuring out what went right on a story or campaign when I get a "this is great!" than when I get feedback in more structural detail. lyn67 on "The power of compliments..." https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-compliments#post-1333221 Sun, 17 Aug 2014 11:35:38 +0000 lyn67 1333221@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I may be weird, but love to compliment all the beauty it reaches my heart for a reason. Not only clothes or peers. Stragers, and anything you can imagine, too. Yes, I am that weird:-). My last compliment given to a stranger was on our holiday abroad, at the beach. There was a middle aged woman laying on the sun alone, reading and even making some notes in her notebook. Nothing uncommon, right? But then she stand up, walked to the sea, jumped in the water AND swam with such a grace and confidence that had to be noticed (DD agreed!). Then she layed back in the sun to read. Later, she stand up,  packed her things, and dressed to go. Before leaving, she then suddenly sat back in the pebble and l saw her  staring a few minutes more towards the sea. I thought she will eventually leave, but she rather stood up and suddenly  took her maxi beach dress  off  and jumped in the sea again, done a race to and back the buoys, so we were able to see her gratious ballett like swimming again-even if it  was a few minutes all. Then she came out,  rushed to towel, dress back, and wanted to leave. I just had to stop her for a moment, and ask if she was speaking English (I think she was italian, seeing after the books she have read). Given she said yes, I could compliment her swimming style. Now that was surely a strange compliment, It also surprised me, too, when it came out of my mouth, but it was all true (again, DD aproved) and  she took it with the same grace she'd swam! (I even asked her if she was a swimmer, but said no, she wasn't - then thanked for the kind words, and left). It was a great day! crutcher on "The power of compliments..." https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-compliments#post-1333206 Sun, 17 Aug 2014 10:40:37 +0000 crutcher 1333206@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Great post...Compliments sincerely given are such powerful self-esteem reinforcers..I hope this positive tool is always the first we use when we critique an outfit on YLF...Like a stone thrown in a lake, the circle is never ending... Neel on "The power of compliments..." https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-compliments#post-1333150 Sun, 17 Aug 2014 05:17:32 +0000 Neel 1333150@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Gryffin - I love your thought provoking posts - but this one has to be the best! And yes, nice to see you posting again! The only place that actually gives me compliments is this forum! Somehow in the real world, people seem to hold themselves back from saying anything good to people around them (although negativity is full and plenty!)! I missed my mum so much after I moved away from her 8 years back. She always was the one who complimented me and also was the one to suggest improvements. I think YLF filled that gap for me. I miss my mum lesser when I get dressed! That's a testimony to the power of compliments! gardenchick on "The power of compliments..." https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-compliments#post-1333149 Sun, 17 Aug 2014 05:10:55 +0000 gardenchick 1333149@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Yup! Have been thinking a lot about this in reflecting on past mentors who were particularly encouraging and supportive even while giving constructive feedback,...as compared to others who did not have the presence to notice the positives and empower me to grow in those areas. I worked with a teacher training program that taught (future) teachers to do a "child study" in which they spent some time paying attention to a particular child, and then wrote about what they observed. My takeaway was that the basis of a relationship -- between teacher and student, friends or whatever--begins with noticing and paying attention to who the person is. So I would say that the most helpful compliments indicate that the person has noticed who I am, and encourage me to continue in that direction. Beth Ann on "The power of compliments..." https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-compliments#post-1333145 Sun, 17 Aug 2014 05:02:59 +0000 Beth Ann 1333145@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Yes to Peri!  I experience the same phenomenon in teaching.  Now, there's nothing wrong with asking for a simple change.  "Can you try more crescendo in  measure 6?  Do you think it was more effective this way?," but we can guide quite well through compliments.  I don't think there's anything wrong with phrasing our posts to ask for such feedback for ourselves, particularly if we're feeling vulnerable.   Sometimes I ask people, "Which color do you like best on me?"  or "Are the blue trousers or the red more flattering?"  Marley on "The power of compliments..." https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-compliments#post-1333143 Sun, 17 Aug 2014 04:56:31 +0000 Marley 1333143@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Nothing wrong with compliments.  We all need to give and receive more compliments! In answer to your question, I am sure that positive feedback has been much more powerful a motivation for me, not only in my style journey, but in ALL areas of my life! as opposed to negative feedback - and I would venture to say that that is true for most people. But, to me negative feedback is very different from helpful critiquing of an outfit - or piece of writing, or art - or whatever!  Negative feedback does nothing to empower or motivate the "learner" - but rather focuses on what is wrong - while critiquing involves suggestions, feedback, etc. that challenge, encourage, etc. the "learner."  A huge difference I think.  And for me, critiquing has been just as meaningful to me  as positive reinforcement.  I appreciate them both - one provides validation and encouragement - the other challenges me in ways that I may have never thought of on my own. gryffin on "The power of compliments..." https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-compliments#post-1333100 Sun, 17 Aug 2014 03:27:44 +0000 gryffin 1333100@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Viva & Janet - I so agree, it's a true pleasure to give a compliment.  It's like giving someone a gift, that you hope they will really enjoy.  You've noticed something genuinely worth of praise and instead of just moving on, you choose to acknowledge it.  It's a wonderful thing!  Janet - I am so glad you were able to take your niece's and husbands compliments to heart.  Sometimes we just don't see ourselves clearly and it's can be illuminating to see ourselves through someone elses eyes!! Caro & Angie - I so agree.  I did not mean to imply compliment as "flattery."  Flattery in not only unhelpful, it's not really kind.  Perhaps the better term, as you said Angie, is positive feedback.  I think a crucial thing is understanding what you did right in an outfit, otherwise how could you hope to repeat it?  Is a particular neckline flattering; does the rise, cut and length of jeans make someone's legs look a mile long; is a stance on a jacket and cut of the hemline giving that perfect hourglass effect, etc, etc.  Sometimes you hit it out of the park, but if you don't understand why, it's hard to duplicate.  I just meant to point out that the very best feedback should include a information on what and why something is good in addition to suggestions on what could be tweaked;-) Sharon - that is the magic of the forum - kindness, warmth, acceptance.  So many marvelous and caring people.  That is so wonderful that it's been so helpful to you.  I so agree, what we think about ourselves is what truly matters but agreed that finding acceptance from others can speed our own!  So happy that it's helped you find your way to a better place!! Deborah - it's those random acts of kindness in all things, they are so powerful.  I forget who said it, but something to the effect that you have to "give love as a gift" but that could morph that to cover any act of kindness, compliment, positive feedback.  It's just a gift to tell someone what is good, nice, and positive - when it's from the heart and sincerely merited - I think those actions change the whole world for the good! Una - I absolutely agree.  I am a huge fan of helpful suggestions, but I know, at least for me, sometimes I'm just as unsure of what I did right, as what I need to improve on.  I think they are both invaluable tools especially when feedback on both are given!! Vicki - you're a sweetheart as always!!  Hugs!! Kari - that is exactly it!!  Praising what you want more of is an incredibly powerful tool!!  Having been an english major with a thesis in Shakespeare this really resonates with me on a visceral level!!  But I find in all fields I've worked in, at home, with my staff etc- telling someone what they realy did well can be amazing helpful.  As my mother likes to say, "honey catches more flies than vinegar!!" Peri - yes, yes, yes!!  You and Kari both said it so eloquently!!  Praise what you want more of!  Suz - powerful and beautiful words!!  I so agree with everything you said.  Negative feedback may make me dig my heels in and work harder to succeed - but the emotion is that I will succeed - no excel - to prove someone wrong.  It's a powerful motivator.  But I agree, true positive feedback, spurs me on even more, and it's not only more pleasant but a lot healthier!!       Suz on "The power of compliments..." https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-compliments#post-1333063 Sun, 17 Aug 2014 02:53:19 +0000 Suz 1333063@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Just wanted to add -- not surprisingly -- Angie is a past mistress at finding just the RIGHT compliment to move someone forward in her fashion journey. She will not say, for example, "That neckline A looks horrid on you." But she will say, "You wear B (different) neckline SO well!"  And suddenly the poster is prompted to take a look at her necklines over all and compare. And sure enough, Angie is right -- she looks a heck of a lot better in neckline B than in neckline A. And suddenly she does a face palm because WOW -- that was SO obvious if only she was looking the right way!! :)  jackiec on "The power of compliments..." https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-compliments#post-1333052 Sun, 17 Aug 2014 02:47:24 +0000 jackiec 1333052@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Yes! Thanks for posting this. I appreciate constructive criticism but really take a lot from specific compliments - especially since I'm often on my own. Jaime on "The power of compliments..." https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-compliments#post-1333043 Sun, 17 Aug 2014 02:43:48 +0000 Jaime 1333043@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Giving compliments, even a short "you look great!", is one of the main pleasures of this forum. I always mean it sincerely, and I do believe the affirmation and appreciation help a lot of people in some way. It certainly means a lot to me! Firecracker (Sharan) on "The power of compliments..." https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-compliments#post-1333041 Sun, 17 Aug 2014 02:42:37 +0000 Firecracker (Sharan) 1333041@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Thanks for bringing up this topic, gryffin. I learn a lot from compliments, too. So often I discover things on the forum that I wouldn't have noticed otherwise, and those things are just as often revealed in compliments (perhaps more often, since there are a lot of compliments here) as in constructive critiques on things that aren't working. And I can gain this kind of insight from any posts, not just the comments on my own outfit posts. Suz on "The power of compliments..." https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-compliments#post-1333007 Sun, 17 Aug 2014 02:15:03 +0000 Suz 1333007@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ I could not agree more, gryffin. Such an important insight. And thank you for starting this thread -- it is lovely to see you post!!  I know in my own life, I've found sincere and specific positive feedback a much more powerful spur to genuine growth than even the most well-intentioned critique.  That's true quite apart from my fashion life, as well. When someone tells me what I'm doing well in my work, for example, I'm just encouraged to do more of it -- and also probably to take risks that I might not otherwise have taken. And  to go the extra distance, put in a bit more effort. Give more.   Kari, it's so funny you mentioned your peer tutoring experience. I worked for years in a very similar position at our local university and that was our philosophy as well. :)  Also, what Viva said. It feels good to give genuine compliments!! Just as good (or even better) than it feels to get them. It's just a really nice way to go through your day. And have you ever given somebody a compliment and seen them positively glow in response? It's so great to know that you've added a bit of happiness to someone's life. Heaven knows we each deal with enough petty annoyances and major grief.  Peri on "The power of compliments..." https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-compliments#post-1333000 Sun, 17 Aug 2014 02:05:19 +0000 Peri 1333000@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Couldn't agree more.  I teach piano. If I tell a student a certain section of their piece showed beautiful dynamics and I loved what they did, pretty soon the whole piece has beautiful dynamics. If I say most of their piece is missing dynamics and could sound a whole lot better if they'd do something, pretty soon they freeze up and there is no expression anywhere. I was thinking about that during the long thread, as it seemed at times that the sentiment was that compliments were weak and ineffective. I think instead that compliments bring out the best in us.  Kari on "The power of compliments..." https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-compliments#post-1332929 Sun, 17 Aug 2014 00:29:26 +0000 Kari 1332929@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ 100% agreed. My experience is colored by my first job as what would be called a peer tutor anywhere else. Our philosophy, in contrast to other academic tutoring venues or peer reviewers where the idea is to critique a piece of writing and point out flaws, was to affirm where we saw strengths and help the student to identify strengths on their own, offer suggestions or questions to enhance those strong areas, try to break out of the mode of getting something perfect the first time with creative brainstorming strategies, and offer tools and resources to work through problems. We focused on the process and helping someone through the journey of getting to a finished piece that THEY were happy about, rather than critiquing them and putting up roadblocks along the way to direct them towards what WE wanted to see. I see YouLookFab as the closest equivalent to that environment I've seen since leaving that student job. Vicki on "The power of compliments..." https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-compliments#post-1332882 Sat, 16 Aug 2014 23:01:37 +0000 Vicki 1332882@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Gryffin, thank you for sharing your wise and powerful words here. catgirl on "The power of compliments..." https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-compliments#post-1332872 Sat, 16 Aug 2014 22:55:56 +0000 catgirl 1332872@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Very true!  Positive reinforcement is a powerful thing, especially when we are stepping outside our comfort zones.   However, I personally really appreciate constructive critique and don't think of it as "negative" feedback per se.  I think it takes a brave soul to make suggestions or critique an outfit. Deborah on "The power of compliments..." https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-compliments#post-1332867 Sat, 16 Aug 2014 22:49:03 +0000 Deborah 1332867@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Beautiful thread Gryffin:). Praising and encouraging people tends to bring out the best in them, and clearly I'm not talking just fashon:). A compliment can change a person's day. Some of you know I am a pastors wife, and I have been employed in ministry myself for 10 years before we relocated, and I now work for a humanitarian organisation...so I connect with vulnerable people in crisis and need daily...I cannot stress how powerful a positive word can be. Fashion wise, it's probably, as you say, the compliments that I have received here that helped me focus on what actually works for me. Every other fashion site I read kept telling me how over 40's shouldn't wear black!! YLF encouraged me how to get the best out of my black, through positive words and affirmation. Another example was cutting my hair short. So many of you weighed in on that thread and your warm and encouraging words meant so much to me and helped me to see myself as you see me:) So compliments...I say bring them on;) Angie on "The power of compliments..." https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-compliments#post-1332865 Sat, 16 Aug 2014 22:47:52 +0000 Angie 1332865@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Gryffin, good thread, and fab to see you post again. I have missed you a great deal. YES. I am a huge supporter of the powers of positive reinforcement. As long as the compliments are sincere, we are all in better shape after receiving them. We are only human after all. xo Janet, you crack me up. I'm SURE your niece has one head, and not two. You have come a long way with your "leg-love". Rock on. xo High five, Caro. xo Sharon on "The power of compliments..." https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-compliments#post-1332862 Sat, 16 Aug 2014 22:43:43 +0000 Sharon 1332862@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ The support and compliments I got from everyone at YLF were a big part of what empowered me to face the world and feel good about how I looked after my mastectomy. That kindness was something I could rely on when I had a less than stellar day, or when someone had said something thoughtless about my appearance IRL. It actually brought me to the realisation that how I felt about my appearance mattered more than anyone else's view. I don't think I would have got to that point of self-acceptance without the acceptance I got here. So I'm all for compliments, and I am very thankful to everyone who was generous with them through my darker days! xxx Caro in Oz on "The power of compliments..." https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-power-of-compliments#post-1332859 Sat, 16 Aug 2014 22:36:36 +0000 Caro in Oz 1332859@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Absolutely. I love to give & receive compliments. The key imo is that they are sincere  :) I LOVE all these comments too.