https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-painful-lesson-of-not-buying-the-right-thing-straight-away Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sat, 11 Apr 2026 13:14:36 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-painful-lesson-of-not-buying-the-right-thing-straight-away/page/2#post-880286 Sun, 17 Mar 2013 19:14:51 +0000 jayne 880286@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ Are you sure I cannot take a look for you? &nbsp;Yes we do have Mexx and there is at least one I can pop by tomorrow on my way to take the train to BF. &nbsp;Send me a PM with the picture if you want. &nbsp;I will leave about 4pm for the train and have an hour to browse a decent mall. https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-painful-lesson-of-not-buying-the-right-thing-straight-away/page/2#post-880001 Sun, 17 Mar 2013 08:28:15 +0000 Ornella 880001@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That's a good idea Jayne, I will. I am still learning about stores and brands, so it's very useful info.</p> <p>The trench was not on my wish or need list, I just fell in love with this one. The more I pondered it, the more I was realising it was perfect. And so were other women, obviously. It's by MEXX, btw, I think it's available in Norway. The beige version is still available in almost all sizes, so you may check the quality if you walks pass the store.</p> <p>And Una makes such brilliant point of buying substitutes when we realise our mistakes or regrets, that we may end up with more regrets. I am careful not to fall in that trap. I've checked a few stores around here for their merchandise and there are so many trenches of offer, even red ones, but I see faults with all of them. Because they are not *that one*. I'm really so angry at myself, but I try to be philosophical about it to get over it </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-painful-lesson-of-not-buying-the-right-thing-straight-away#post-879997 Sun, 17 Mar 2013 08:14:58 +0000 jayne 879997@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Just a thought, I saw a gorgeous red trench in the Guess section of a department store that I almost bought right then and there since the color as perfect and the style was gorgeous and so cool. However, I own enough trenches and had to resist it. Can you check that out? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-painful-lesson-of-not-buying-the-right-thing-straight-away#post-879729 Sat, 16 Mar 2013 22:31:42 +0000 Ornella 879729@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm bringing this thread up as I've just pointed Mona here to read some of your wisdom, but also to say thanks for the latest contributions which are too useful not to be shared with others.</p> <p>Una :: have you been in my head?? I'be been stalking that website several times every day since my sad realization I was too late with deciding to get the red piped trench and noticed they had another spring coat in the new collection.</p> <p>Same fabric, same color, similar style. And guess what, I didn't think twice but ordered it straight away for the exact reason you mentioned - fear of not missing on that one too. Sort of "I'm much cleverer now" attitude. The new one has been sold out in two days, it is no longer showing on-line, so I guess there are a lot of very disappointed souls out there as well who were thinking way too long about snapping the first one, so are making the consolation purchases.</p> <p>All the while I have a feeling this second one won't work, it will be to ordinary and thus meh in comparison to the one I missed out on. How's that for carbon footprint, ordering something expecting it'll go back...</p> <p>You are right, so many ways to go wrong.</p> <p>Denise :: yes, I plan to be on ebay (I already am ). As for returns, UK had some shops with good return policies and things in Germany seem to be pretty decent, but from what I've figured out from the forum nothing compares to US stores' return policies. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-painful-lesson-of-not-buying-the-right-thing-straight-away#post-878100 Thu, 14 Mar 2013 19:56:49 +0000 CocoLion 878100@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My advice is to check eBay in 6 months.</p> <p>I think we've all been there Ornella. Last year I started pinning my fantasy acquisitions, then I went back 6 months later to review, and my conclusion was -- there are some things that are worth getting early at full price. BUT IT IS IMPOSSIBLE TO KNOW WHICH ONES! Some things reflect a look I get sick of, while others are of a style that I grow to love more, hence should have acquired. You just don't know, forgive yourself. Although a possible lesson is to buy something when it really sings to you and buy from a place with generous returns so you can change your mind. (I have no idea if there's a place like Nordstrom or Macy's in Europe with 6 months return privilege.) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-painful-lesson-of-not-buying-the-right-thing-straight-away#post-878096 Thu, 14 Mar 2013 19:52:34 +0000 Anonymous 878096@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I was going to add the "buy around the item phase" ,which I totally hate, but Una just covered it. </p> <p>I'm sorry! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-painful-lesson-of-not-buying-the-right-thing-straight-away#post-878089 Thu, 14 Mar 2013 19:48:39 +0000 catgirl 878089@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Heh, There is this and then there is the buying of many substitute items in the regret phase. Ugh. Or the snap up the next lovestruch impulse purchase out of fear that it will be another one that got away, only to realize it's NOT what you wanted. So many ways to go wrong! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-painful-lesson-of-not-buying-the-right-thing-straight-away#post-876846 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 15:25:13 +0000 danysedai 876846@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think that's happened to all of us. </p> <p>I'm still tracking down a Banana Republic burgundy trench, single breasted (which can be hard to find), mid thigh, perfect in a word, that I missed out on while on a trip to Vancouver. The SA told me there was 1 left on my size at another location in Vancouver but I didn't know if I would have time to go to another store. Next day, while sightseeing I saw the other store, went inside to check, but to my chagrin it was sold out. Still checking on Ebay...</p> <p>Same with a pair of super expensive gorgeous green Tracey Neuls shoes that went on sale but still too rich for my blood, when I decided that I couldn't live without them they were sold. The worst part is they are handmade and only a few pairs are made for each size so my chances of finding another pair are almost zero.</p> <p>Right now I have ebay and craigslist searches for those items that got away, I recently bought a pair of Fluevog Chinoa boots that I couldn't get the first time, and they were wayy cheaper so sometimes things do work out </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-painful-lesson-of-not-buying-the-right-thing-straight-away#post-876737 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 13:56:57 +0000 Lisa 876737@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I've also made the mistake to wait for an item only to find it "gone" when I was ready to buy. Well at least if the right item comes along again, you'll feel better about the purchase even if it is out of season right? And eventually items do come back around. I'm sure your trench is out there. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-painful-lesson-of-not-buying-the-right-thing-straight-away#post-876711 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 13:42:21 +0000 Suz 876711@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, Ornella. Hugs!!! </p> <p>I, too, find it difficult to buy very early before the weather has begun to change. Sigh.....</p> <p>Crossing fingers it comes back.... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-painful-lesson-of-not-buying-the-right-thing-straight-away#post-876625 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 12:09:24 +0000 lyn67 876625@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So sorry, Ornella. I have had this happened to me, too:-((.<br /> Still, I hope you will find one of these, or another one even more beautiful!<br /> Colour is so you, indeed- and love the piping.<br /> Snif snif. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-painful-lesson-of-not-buying-the-right-thing-straight-away#post-876563 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 09:21:50 +0000 Ornella 876563@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Joy, I am really losing every hope of recovering from this one </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-painful-lesson-of-not-buying-the-right-thing-straight-away#post-876443 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 03:17:02 +0000 Anonymous 876443@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, Ornella, I really hope the coat turns up. I've still not gotten over the blue jacket that I was in too much of a hurry to buy and then it was gone, and that was a couple of years ago. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-painful-lesson-of-not-buying-the-right-thing-straight-away#post-876428 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 03:02:25 +0000 Isabel 876428@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am sorry Ornella. I think that this is a sign of becoming more focused and knowledgeable of our style. But it still stinks.</p> <p>Coincidentally, my big regret happened this year too. I have wanted a cranberry color trench for years. While in CA in Oct. with the Fabbers, I found one and I love it ! But I didn't want to lug it home in my suitcase. Well, when I got home ( 2 days later ) it was sold out online and in all the local stores. I desperately called the California store, but alas, it was too late. Our two trenches are probably hanging in the same lucky closet somewhere. I hope that they are happy, because I am not. : ( </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-painful-lesson-of-not-buying-the-right-thing-straight-away#post-876286 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 01:31:04 +0000 Thistle 876286@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well, it wasn't on your list, right? You have other wardrobe holes, right? And it might come back in . . Keep stalking it, might even get it through eBay! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-painful-lesson-of-not-buying-the-right-thing-straight-away#post-876264 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 01:08:34 +0000 Ornella 876264@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Mochi, you are so kind, thank you. It's European brand and I fear that with shipping and import duties it would make it a bit OTT even for a trench like this. But, thank you, your kindness is really touching.</p> <p>My hope is that some tall German fashionista will let this one go unnoticed in her closet for a season, then sell it on ebay, yes.</p> <p>Lyn, that's clever, to make it a homepage! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-painful-lesson-of-not-buying-the-right-thing-straight-away#post-876211 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 00:23:37 +0000 Debora 876211@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This has happened to me before, too. I'm hoping that it comes back into stock for you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-painful-lesson-of-not-buying-the-right-thing-straight-away#post-876210 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 00:23:10 +0000 Mochi 876210@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well, you've learned from this and taught us a lesson as well. </p> <p>I was going to suggest that it may not help, but couldn't hurt to plug in some keywords to get notifications from eBay either. And if you think it's an item more easily found in the US, let me know the specs and I'll search it for you if that simplifies things. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-painful-lesson-of-not-buying-the-right-thing-straight-away#post-876206 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 00:20:54 +0000 lyn* 876206@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have something like this I am stalking too - make the page your home page; that way whenever you open your browser, you can take a look and see if it's been returned I have a certain dotty dress that is my home page! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-painful-lesson-of-not-buying-the-right-thing-straight-away#post-876201 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 00:19:03 +0000 Anonymous 876201@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, that is SO sad, I hope you get a red-trench miracle and one in your size gets returned. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-painful-lesson-of-not-buying-the-right-thing-straight-away#post-876192 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 00:10:39 +0000 Day Vies 876192@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am sure there is something out there just as "you" waiting to come live in your closet. I think sometimes we have to strike while the iron is hot unless the item is really REALLY impractical. (feather skirt, hairy jacket or some other such passing fancy). </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-painful-lesson-of-not-buying-the-right-thing-straight-away#post-876166 Tue, 12 Mar 2013 23:53:01 +0000 Ornella 876166@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ah, so you've all decided to make this even harder for me, LOL</p> <p>Shannon, why... who knows, maybe so we can learn. At last. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-painful-lesson-of-not-buying-the-right-thing-straight-away#post-876133 Tue, 12 Mar 2013 23:38:49 +0000 Transcona Shannon 876133@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh poop! That just stinks Ornella - but something better WILL come along (or this one will reappear). Why does the lesson of BBQ need to be so darned painful??? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-painful-lesson-of-not-buying-the-right-thing-straight-away#post-876127 Tue, 12 Mar 2013 23:36:37 +0000 Angie 876127@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh noooo! That is SUCH an "Ornella" trench coat. I really hope that something else comes up chop-chop. xo </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-painful-lesson-of-not-buying-the-right-thing-straight-away#post-876084 Tue, 12 Mar 2013 22:43:42 +0000 Raisin 876084@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh no! I hate that feeling! It sucks to miss out on something, and only realize it later. I really hope you can find it or an even better one! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-painful-lesson-of-not-buying-the-right-thing-straight-away#post-876082 Tue, 12 Mar 2013 22:42:06 +0000 Ingunn 876082@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm very sorry for your bad luck, Ornella. I hope the odd piece gets returned, in your size of course. It is a fabulous trench, and I follow you all the way in wanting a RED trench. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-painful-lesson-of-not-buying-the-right-thing-straight-away#post-876077 Tue, 12 Mar 2013 22:34:04 +0000 pil 876077@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ornella, before getting to the bottom of your post I *thought* this would be red! I hope you're able to find one - it's beautiful. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-painful-lesson-of-not-buying-the-right-thing-straight-away#post-876049 Tue, 12 Mar 2013 21:40:48 +0000 unfrumped 876049@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think we must all do that to some extent, because the opposite is buying too much/too quick. So while you can resolve to be quicker out of the gate and all that, this'll happen again. </p> <p>It's especially hard to think ahead of season. So many times I'd pass up dressy evening clothes in the late summer early fall--not in the mood--and then panic at holiday party time. Now the perfect velvet top is sold out in my size. </p> <p>When something is actually in a store IRL, I am trying to do better about stopping to try it on. Sort of like Angie's shopping more often. Frequently, it won't fit right and so it's an easy out and I never have to wonder. Of course if it looks fab, then I have to go through checking PPP, budget, priority list and so on! On-line is harder since there's so much stuff you could find something to order nearly every day or week and then it may "take root". </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-painful-lesson-of-not-buying-the-right-thing-straight-away#post-876017 Tue, 12 Mar 2013 21:22:38 +0000 Kalli 876017@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Cheer up, something will come along. Maybe it's my sensibility of it's not the end of the world outlook that makes me shop later on in the season. However, I don't get attached to things quickly either so it makes it that much harder to buy stuff. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-painful-lesson-of-not-buying-the-right-thing-straight-away#post-876009 Tue, 12 Mar 2013 21:15:21 +0000 Astrid 876009@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This is too bad. I'm one of these wait for later shopping types too. Not a good strategy. I hope you'll get one of the last ones or find one similar to this. Good luck! </p>