https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-fight-back-begins Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Tue, 28 Apr 2026 03:04:12 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-fight-back-begins/page/2#post-1632799 Sun, 20 Mar 2016 20:49:05 +0000 marianna 1632799@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hi! *waves* So nice to see you back here. Much love. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-fight-back-begins/page/2#post-1632790 Sun, 20 Mar 2016 20:44:54 +0000 Debbie 1632790@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Jules-I replied earlier don't know where it went.<br /> You attitude is inspiring! I have always thought that you have the best attitude. Moving forward takes courage and you have that.<br /> I can't recommend yoga enough. It gives you a little me time while strengthening you both physically and mentally. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-fight-back-begins/page/2#post-1632788 Sun, 20 Mar 2016 20:42:22 +0000 Beth Ann 1632788@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You have had quite a basket of tough to carry, Jules, but I echo what's already been said -- the journey back begins with awareness and acknowledgment, along with a plan to move forward. &nbsp;It's tempting to apologize for taking the time and energy to build your physical, spiritual and emotional strength, but you have to tend the garden in anticipation of a great harvest!</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-fight-back-begins/page/2#post-1632665 Sun, 20 Mar 2016 17:31:20 +0000 RoseandJoan 1632665@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So much wisdom and support here, I am truly lucky to be a part of this community.</p> <p>I will need to take some time to digest all of your responses, I am overwhelmed in a positive way at present by your replies.</p> <p>Laura, thank you so much for commenting on this thread. I miss your fab posts fashion or otherwise very much.</p> <p>Shannon, I cannot imagine what you have been through, your son is so lucky to have your support. I really hope he receives the help to move on.</p> <p>Vix, thank you so much, your post echoes the words of the specialist. The grief, physical pain and disrupted nights sleep (my daughter sometimes needs support through the night) has put my body into shock. I will look into the massage. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-fight-back-begins/page/2#post-1632632 Sun, 20 Mar 2016 16:25:21 +0000 LACeleste 1632632@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Supporting you in this spring &nbsp;season of renewal. &nbsp;I remember you fondly from posts from a few years ago and was always impressed with how genuine, original, and thoughtful you are. &nbsp;Take no prisoners!!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-fight-back-begins/page/2#post-1632614 Sun, 20 Mar 2016 16:06:34 +0000 Vix 1632614@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hi RoseandJoan--</p> <p>What a tough period; I'm sorry. </p> <p>It's so easy to underestimate the physical and mental toll grief and/or chronic pain takes on us.&nbsp;</p> <p>And it can take so long to adapt to new realities in a healthy, growth-oriented way that really <i>gives</i> us energy vs taking it away from us -- glad to hear you've now got the fire to enjoy trends, style etc!</p> <p>Re the rheumatism -- Have you ever explored some of the fascinating research about how the &nbsp;brain and body process physical pain?&nbsp;</p> <p>As someone who was mis-diagnosed for 3 decades and told my pain was all in my head and/or due to stress when it was actually endometriosis (for the...win?), I'm thankful to have basically had my daily pain and emotional reactions to it lifted since surgery this time last year. But the decades of missed disease have left me with some Broken Doll issues to manage on top of general aging stuff, and of course lots to process!</p> <p>I think that's why so many are recommending yoga (I'd add swimming, too) -- trying to get the brain chemicals working so that you're less "upregulated" (hyper-responsive to pain signals) as the PT folks say. </p> <p>Finding room in the budget/schedule for regular massage may be necessary, too, to help relieve inflammation and pain from tension.</p> <p>Good luck and looking forward to seeing how you experiment with your style!</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-fight-back-begins/page/2#post-1632557 Sun, 20 Mar 2016 14:15:58 +0000 Anonymous 1632557@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Onward, roseandjoan. Glad that you are focusing on the positives in your life, and a great reminder that I should do the same. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-fight-back-begins/page/2#post-1632536 Sun, 20 Mar 2016 13:47:56 +0000 Laura 1632536@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Jules, popping in to say I am 100% behind you. Writing what you did is wise - now that it's in black and white, you will make it a reality. Angie's suggestion is fantastic. Yoga is centering and will force you to focus on yourself. Plus, it's exhilarating to feel yourself getting stronger and more capable physically. Love to you! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-fight-back-begins/page/2#post-1632511 Sun, 20 Mar 2016 12:51:09 +0000 April 1632511@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>When I read descriptions such as yours, Jules, I invariably think of this quote from Shakespeare:</p> <p>When sorrows come, they come not single spies but in battalions.</p> <p>I hope yours are in retreat for a while.</p> <p>&nbsp;So glad you're here and have some energy to think about yourself and your look. &nbsp;Let us know how we can help! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-fight-back-begins/page/2#post-1632430 Sun, 20 Mar 2016 06:40:21 +0000 Aquamarine 1632430@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>For you, one of my favorite quotes: "The only way around is through." I am sure you will persevere with the same grace and poise you always show here on this forum. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-fight-back-begins/page/2#post-1632426 Sun, 20 Mar 2016 04:51:16 +0000 Helen11 1632426@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Jules, you have a world wide cheer squad behind you! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-fight-back-begins/page/2#post-1632410 Sun, 20 Mar 2016 04:08:31 +0000 Jaime 1632410@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>We can only control our attitude, not what life throws at us. You are an inspiration. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-fight-back-begins/page/2#post-1632398 Sun, 20 Mar 2016 03:57:13 +0000 catgirl 1632398@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Your spirit and attitude is an inspiration.&nbsp; I am sorry for the hard times you've had.&nbsp; Know we are here for you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-fight-back-begins/page/2#post-1632280 Sat, 19 Mar 2016 23:54:40 +0000 Anonymous 1632280@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, what a dreich year. How heartbreaking to lose your Mum and harder still when you have your own health challenges on top of that aching loss. Your statement of strength is uplifting for those of us going through tough times; a reminder that sunshine comes after rain, but we will only find it if we stand up and open the curtains. All the best to you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-fight-back-begins/page/2#post-1632267 Sat, 19 Mar 2016 23:15:19 +0000 Transcona Shannon 1632267@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Jules - I am so incredibly sorry for all that you have been going through. Sometimes life throws so much at us, it's hard to see our way out.</p> <p>I completely relate to what you have said as I've been battling my own way back since my son's suicide attempt last year. While caring for him, I seem to have lost myself along the way and even let my own health decline. Now I'm figuring out who I want to be and even how I fit in here. I was beyond touched at my warm welcome back so I know there are so many Fabbers who are holding your hand from afar and will help you up should your legs not hold you </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-fight-back-begins/page/2#post-1632264 Sat, 19 Mar 2016 23:06:26 +0000 unfrumped 1632264@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So sorry for the tough year, but your spirit is remarkable. Wishing you all the best, and you gave me a much-needed boost&nbsp; &nbsp;that I can use in my own situations. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-fight-back-begins/page/2#post-1632255 Sat, 19 Mar 2016 22:50:01 +0000 Angie 1632255@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Jules, I'm honoured, and it's a pleasure to support you.&nbsp;</p> <p>Karie, I'm inviting you along to my yoga studio in Madison Park. I go 4 to 5 times a week, so come on over! The instructors will take care of you - and I'd be happy to recommend the classes and teachers that I think you might enjoy most as you get into the swing of it.&nbsp;</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-fight-back-begins/page/2#post-1632202 Sat, 19 Mar 2016 20:35:33 +0000 Anonymous 1632202@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Bravo! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-fight-back-begins/page/2#post-1632198 Sat, 19 Mar 2016 20:29:21 +0000 Sal 1632198@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I love your attitude to tough times. I think we are all in your corner. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-fight-back-begins/page/2#post-1632185 Sat, 19 Mar 2016 20:10:24 +0000 annagybe 1632185@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Jules-<br />You've already show great resilience with all you've been through. I'm very glad you see a way forward, that's often the hardest part.<br />You are thought of fondly on here, virtual support isn't quite tactile but still it's nice to know that there are people around the world that care. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-fight-back-begins/page/2#post-1632184 Sat, 19 Mar 2016 20:08:59 +0000 Sheila 1632184@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This post is so timely, for I started to spiral downward when my mother died in 2012. Her death made me dwell on many negative things, including my own mortality. It took me until last summer (2015) to really WANT to live, and live with exuberance and joy. But baby, I'm back now, and with a vengeance and energy that is totally refreshing and live-giving. I really can empathize with you, Jules, and I believe you will do just great! Thanks to everyone who has shared their own story in this thread. You are inspiring us all. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-fight-back-begins/page/2#post-1632175 Sat, 19 Mar 2016 19:57:09 +0000 Glory 1632175@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What a wonderful post! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-fight-back-begins/page/2#post-1632172 Sat, 19 Mar 2016 19:50:18 +0000 Firecracker (Sharan) 1632172@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What a great spirit! Thanks for posting. It's an inspiration. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-fight-back-begins/page/2#post-1632171 Sat, 19 Mar 2016 19:47:25 +0000 RoseandJoan 1632171@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Janet, let's march together, a little company on a journey is never a bad thing.</p> <p>Angie, you know you hold a unique spot in my heart, we have never met and yet you aided me through Teah's diagnosis in a way even my friends and family couldn't comprehend. Plus, I will look into yoga, I just need to find a class which works with my schedule.</p> <p>Gigi, I am sorry to hear of your health issues, I love that your inner style voice has become stronger over this time. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-fight-back-begins#post-1632149 Sat, 19 Mar 2016 19:24:47 +0000 Kari 1632149@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Jules, I will always be willing to hold your hand. I'm so glad that you are here and are courageously challenging yourself after such a rough time. But don't beat yourself up if you need to sit back and process and feel sad from time to time, either. That's part of healing. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-fight-back-begins#post-1632147 Sat, 19 Mar 2016 19:22:31 +0000 Kari 1632147@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Angie, I'm so glad that practicing yoga has helped you work through grief and restore your strength. </p> <p>That reminds me, my grandma began practicing yoga (I think in her late 50's or early 60's) after recuperating from aggressive treatment for breast cancer. It was a therapeutic/restorative yoga with ability to adapt or use supportive postures for those who need it. It was very healing for her. She was a big believer in meditation. </p> <p>I would love to find a studio like that. I like yoga but got turned off by so many in the area that focus on competition/pushing yourself. I'm always going to be one of the heavier and less flexible class members, even when I was at a much lower weight, and often felt unwelcome in some classes because instructors wanted students with a competitive mindset (the crossfit/spin type.) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-fight-back-begins#post-1632145 Sat, 19 Mar 2016 19:19:20 +0000 Anonymous 1632145@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That's a heck of a lot to deal with Jules.&nbsp;I really admire your spirit and positivity. Here's to the future! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-fight-back-begins#post-1632144 Sat, 19 Mar 2016 19:19:16 +0000 Gigi 1632144@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That is one wonderful attitude! I have had a lot of severe health problems for the past several years, and I have found that doing what I *feel* like doing in fashion has been a big emotional booster for me. I wear what I want to wear (I am 42), and I enjoy it! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-fight-back-begins#post-1632134 Sat, 19 Mar 2016 18:58:39 +0000 Angie 1632134@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>p.s. I will never forget how you've supported me and YLF either.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-fight-back-begins#post-1632133 Sat, 19 Mar 2016 18:57:11 +0000 Angie 1632133@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>MUSIC to my ears, Jules. You've been through <i>a lot </i>in the last 4 years, and I've always admired your strength, selfless, level headed and positive approach to the obstacles that lie ahead of you. And through all of this you support others with grace, humour and integrity. You're a role model to us all.&nbsp;I'm cheering you on all the way, with lots of love.&nbsp;</p> <p>(P.s. FWIW, I HIGHLY recommend that you get into yoga for your aches, pains, and state of mind. It's strength building both emotionally and physically. I began yoga as a way to cope with my own grief, and it has helped me more than I can express into words).&nbsp;</p> <p> </p>