https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-effect-of-fashion Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Thu, 23 Apr 2026 01:19:42 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-effect-of-fashion/page/2#post-597489 Tue, 17 Apr 2012 00:18:32 +0000 Aida 597489@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ginny, I'm sorry to hear of your husband's health issues and hoping for the best for him, you, and your family! Your post was very insightful; it is indeed amazing how something like fashion gives us a sense of control, and even a little bit of extra composure can go a long way in many (sometimes unexpected) directions. Sending you the warmest wishes! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-effect-of-fashion/page/2#post-597089 Mon, 16 Apr 2012 15:13:42 +0000 Ginny 597089@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you so much Ladies for all the positive energy and well wishes, they are greatly appreciated. It felt good to share and helped me to jot this down. And everyones kind words gives me a extra boost!!<br /> @Alaskagirl- this was a sudden thing that occurred thank you for well wishes, We are getting ready for a bumpy ride<br /> @Nancylee- I appreciate you, your insight is spot on, the most difficult thing to do is not be able to fix all this and just be there. I hope all is better with your hubs too, bless your heart<br /> @more than beige- very well put, You are right I felt armoured and ready for the days events<br /> @velvetychocalate- thanks for the insight, it is amazing what it conveys to others, so glad your mom is better, that is my plan, now to get there, </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-effect-of-fashion/page/2#post-594879 Fri, 13 Apr 2012 01:13:32 +0000 Sunita 594879@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ginny,</p> <p>Sending positive thoughts your way and hoping for a quick recovery!</p> <p>So glad that YLF and dressing well is helping both you and your husband through this tough time. Sometimes when I am feeling down, I make an extra effort to put on a Kick-a$$ outfit! It really helps.</p> <p>All the best to both of you,<br /> Sunita </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-effect-of-fashion/page/2#post-594872 Fri, 13 Apr 2012 01:09:45 +0000 Jenava 594872@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Very insightful and not something I had thought about before. I think this idea could be true in a lot of difficult life situations, including the unfortunately one you are in. I'm so sorry Ginny. Chin up! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-effect-of-fashion#post-594834 Fri, 13 Apr 2012 00:29:35 +0000 Jonesy 594834@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ginny, I am so sorry you are going through this! I completely get how what we wear can help us to feel "human" and in control somehow. I will be thinking about you and hoping for the best. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-effect-of-fashion#post-594810 Thu, 12 Apr 2012 23:49:29 +0000 Tanya 594810@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So sorry to hear about your husband. Sending you hugs and positive energy. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-effect-of-fashion#post-594729 Thu, 12 Apr 2012 21:47:23 +0000 Meredith1953 594729@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ginny,<br /> I am so sorry that you and your husband are dealing with such a crisis. Your post was insightful You make an excellent point about how looking put together helps people believe that you are handing things well and I am sure this was comforting to your husband. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your husband. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-effect-of-fashion#post-594652 Thu, 12 Apr 2012 19:48:02 +0000 RoseandJoan 594652@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have been thinking of your post all day Ginny, hoping that wise word may strike but I decided I could be waiting a ....long time for that to happen. I am happy your husband is home where he belongs and having control of your clothing helped amongst all of the uncertainty. Lastly it is great to have you on forum whenever you have the time and the inclination. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-effect-of-fashion#post-594619 Thu, 12 Apr 2012 19:21:58 +0000 krishnidoux 594619@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hugs to you both! Hope your DH feels better soon. What a great, poignant testimony you wrote. I am sending my prayers your way. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-effect-of-fashion#post-594342 Thu, 12 Apr 2012 14:53:07 +0000 rachylou 594342@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hugs to you Ginny! And a good recovery for your husband. The *little things* count a lot in these situations, they really do. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-effect-of-fashion#post-594309 Thu, 12 Apr 2012 14:12:31 +0000 Ana 594309@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm sending positive thoughts and good wishes to you and your husband. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-effect-of-fashion#post-594275 Thu, 12 Apr 2012 13:42:33 +0000 ButterflyLady 594275@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sending lots of love and prayers for your husband, and you, Ginny. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-effect-of-fashion#post-594247 Thu, 12 Apr 2012 13:07:16 +0000 Jjsloane 594247@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hugs to you and sending healing thoughts to your hubby. What a horrible thing to experience, but you have given us a very thoughtful post which sadly may come in handy for one or more of us. It is great to hear that controlling one thing that you can (your fashion choices) help you conquer those you can't (yours and husband's feelings about situation). </p> <p>Please keep us posted and keep on feeling fab. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-effect-of-fashion#post-594234 Thu, 12 Apr 2012 12:49:21 +0000 velvetychocolate 594234@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>How scary! I remember reading something about your husband going for tests awhile back. I'm sending along tons of positive thoughts and good wishes for speedy healing and that everything turns out beautifully from here on out. </p> <p>I loved your message about how fashion really does have an effect, even in times like these. </p> <p>Last summer, I had to rush home on an emergency basis due to my Mom experiencing a very serious health event. I didn't really have time to fuss with outfits because I was in Dallas on business. It was go home, throw one suitcase into a corner (only partially unpacked), grab another suitcase and throw some stuff in it and get on the next flight the next morning. As it happened, I had more dressy items than I would normally take with me for a visit with my parents, and ...I totally get what you're saying when you explain that this gives you confidence, and that it *also* gives others confidence in us. My stepdad was pretty nervous and scared, and of course, my Mom was too. </p> <p>In hindsight (and I know this sounds weird), I feel that being a bit dressed up, and a bit more 'put together' sent a message. The message was that I expected things to go well. </p> <p>And they did. My Mom is in good shape now, and in better health than ever. </p> <p>I'm so inspired by your post - I loved reading about how your little bit of extra effort to get dressed in the mornings gave your husband confidence and helped him feel that you're both 'keeping it together." </p> <p>Best wishes for good health and healing, and I'm looking forward to hearing from you whenever you feel like posting. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-effect-of-fashion#post-594147 Thu, 12 Apr 2012 08:34:54 +0000 ManidipaM 594147@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ginny, wishing you rest and strength, and a quick, uneventful recovery for your husband.</p> <p>So insightful and thoughtful of you to write out this post. Indeed, a crisis feels less like a crisis when you're in control of yourself in even small ways, or looking like you are still unfazed --- doesn't it? And the obverse, looking like you're in an out-of-control 'crisis' space in your head actually gives people around their cue to believe things are worse, or that you're falling apart on them etc. </p> <p>So very glad you felt your fashion sense didn't let you down, and far from frivolous, actually made a positive difference in a difficult time. </p> <p>Hope to see more of you soon, when you're worry-free and feeling much more relaxed and confident of your husband's health. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-effect-of-fashion#post-594116 Thu, 12 Apr 2012 06:25:05 +0000 soobee 594116@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>There's obviously so much more going on here than "frivolity". Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this and many, many HUGS to you and your hubs. Take care of you both </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-effect-of-fashion#post-594103 Thu, 12 Apr 2012 05:39:33 +0000 fashionista 594103@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh sorry to hear so much is going on in your life. My hugs with you. May your husband recover sooner than expected.<br /> And its good that you put yourself together before meeting your husband because the way you described, this cheerfulness in you will help your husband smile and help recover sooner. A smile and confidence booster will go a long way.<br /> Best of luck for future. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-effect-of-fashion#post-594074 Thu, 12 Apr 2012 04:59:13 +0000 Anonymous 594074@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ginny, I'm so sorry that you and DH had to go through this. It sounds like you were as prepared as possible with comfortable, cheerful and in-charge outfits to deal with every possible scenario. It never ceases to amaze me how a *frivolous* thing like fashion can give a person so much confidence. I hope your husband improves quickly and that you get your normal back, asap. Sending thoughts and prayers your way. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-effect-of-fashion#post-593675 Wed, 11 Apr 2012 21:04:53 +0000 Aziraphale 593675@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so sorry to hear your news. I hope your husband is improving. In the meantime, I'm glad that you are finding some comfort in fashion and YLF. Sending positive thoughts your way. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-effect-of-fashion#post-593670 Wed, 11 Apr 2012 21:02:38 +0000 cciele 593670@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ginny, sending healing thoughts your husband's way. Glad to hear that your outfits have been a source of positive energy instead of stress, for both you and your husband. Hang in there! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-effect-of-fashion#post-593665 Wed, 11 Apr 2012 20:54:36 +0000 morethanbeige 593665@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ginny, I am sending love and prayers for your husband's recovery. I could relate to your feelings about *dressing* in these kinds of situations, because I have that same feeling. For me, it feels like I am showing up to the deal, fully present to do what I need to do...support, advocate, question, whatever...</p> <p>Big hugs for you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-effect-of-fashion#post-593660 Wed, 11 Apr 2012 20:47:53 +0000 MsMary 593660@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Big hugs to you and your sweet husband, Ginny! So happy YLF was able to make it the tiniest bit easier for you! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-effect-of-fashion#post-593656 Wed, 11 Apr 2012 20:37:39 +0000 Inge 593656@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ginny, I have tears in my eyes here. I am so glad that your outfit formulas helped make your days in hospital a little easier, and helped cheer up your husband to boot.<br /> I'm sending positive vibes your way and wish you and your husband all the best. Hang in there, and we are always here if you want to talk or need a bit of distraction. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-effect-of-fashion#post-593651 Wed, 11 Apr 2012 20:29:06 +0000 nancylee 593651@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ginny, I am so sorry to hear of your husband's health problems. I don't know the nature of what you are facing, but my heart goes out to you. I know firsthand how stressful it is to sit by and watch someone you love go through a medical struggle, as my husband is now in his 5th week in the hospital. It is so scary, but you're right that dressing well can help you feel a little better and in control of what is largely an uncontrollable situation. And it does help you feel more put together when dealing with the parade of doctors, specialists, and guests. Being in the hospital is a strangely "social" experience. </p> <p>Sending you a big hug filled with strength and compassion as you move forward. Feel free to pm me at any time. I'll be thinking of you...... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-effect-of-fashion#post-593644 Wed, 11 Apr 2012 20:23:01 +0000 Transcona Shannon 593644@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So glad to hear from you Ginny! Hope your husband is doing better.</p> <p>It was interesting to read how fashion and style had a positive effect on BOTH of you during a very difficult time. It would be wonderful if those who think it is frivalous could realize the actual difference it can make. </p> <p>Don't put any pressure on yourself to be on YLF more than you are able - we know you'll be back when you can. In the meantime, hugs for you and hubby! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-effect-of-fashion#post-593635 Wed, 11 Apr 2012 20:11:06 +0000 catgirl 593635@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>OMG, Ginny, did I miss a post somewhere? What was going on? I am glad things are well enough that you are able to take some brain-resting time on girly matters. It is a definite comfort to know that when the big picture dominates, the little things like looking put together can take care of themselves. Hugs and good vibes to you both. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-effect-of-fashion#post-593631 Wed, 11 Apr 2012 20:02:05 +0000 harmonica 593631@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>All my love and support to you, your hubs and your dearest &amp; nearest! You put it all down in such a conscious, thoughtful and really nice way. Thank you so much for sharing. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-effect-of-fashion#post-593617 Wed, 11 Apr 2012 19:50:54 +0000 HelenInCanada 593617@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so sorry you've been going through this challenging time with DH. What a wonderful way to frame it, though - very hopeful. The need to look and feel pulled together doesn't disappear with a life crisis - as you so wisely say, this is something you can control in a seemingly uncontrollable situation. And you associate it with the support you get from YLFers. If it makes your husband smile too - awesome. Wishing you both all the best. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-effect-of-fashion#post-593594 Wed, 11 Apr 2012 19:17:47 +0000 JennyAnne 593594@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It's nice to have a diversion, and if it cheers him up, even better! I'm thinking positive thoughts for your husband. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-effect-of-fashion#post-593591 Wed, 11 Apr 2012 19:13:39 +0000 christieanne 593591@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ginny, your message strikes at the heart of things - how do you feel a bit in control when something you can't control at all is swirling around you. I think your thoughtfulness about how your husband's perceptions are spot on. Also, I wonder if the medical staff didn't step up when they saw how put together you were (or at least not dismiss you mentally)? </p> <p>I hope things continue on a positive and healthy path for your husband! Take care and thank you for sharing your enlightening thoughts on this with us </p>