https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-ebay-dress-arrived---thoughts-on-shoesaccessories Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Thu, 09 Apr 2026 18:16:27 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-ebay-dress-arrived---thoughts-on-shoesaccessories/page/2#post-1514663 Fri, 03 Jul 2015 17:55:04 +0000 Astrid 1514663@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hi! You need to participate a bit in the forum before you can see pics, that's all. Welcome. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-ebay-dress-arrived---thoughts-on-shoesaccessories/page/2#post-1514662 Fri, 03 Jul 2015 17:53:14 +0000 callie3810 1514662@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hi I am new...it says I have to write 3 forums in order to view photos...I don't understand....? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-ebay-dress-arrived---thoughts-on-shoesaccessories/page/2#post-1514648 Fri, 03 Jul 2015 17:35:23 +0000 Astrid 1514648@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks Cheryl! That one looks lovely. I might try Eileen Fisher one of these days, who knows...</p> <p>Thank you, Viva. They are marked sent as of today. Still keeping my fingers crossed.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-ebay-dress-arrived---thoughts-on-shoesaccessories/page/2#post-1514535 Fri, 03 Jul 2015 12:26:39 +0000 viva 1514535@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I love the shoes you ordered and hope they fit - they will be perfect with the dress. I'm a big, big fan of navy -- it's warmer than black and will be so flattering with your coloring. The overall effect of the dress, shoes, and pixie to me is very Audrey Hepburn-gamine. It's both modern and classic, and gorgeous either way. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-ebay-dress-arrived---thoughts-on-shoesaccessories/page/2#post-1514522 Fri, 03 Jul 2015 11:57:11 +0000 dakotacheryl 1514522@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Astrid, I thought of you when I was looking on eBay at listings for Eileen Fisher in my size. &nbsp;This skirt came up, and I thought it would be a nice addition to your "dressy" capsule. &nbsp;It's a small and you're probably an XS.&nbsp;</p> <p><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.ebay.com/itm/NWT-Eileen-Fisher-Textured-Silk-Georgette-Skirt-Black-Size-Small-/351440283833?pt=LH_DefaultDomain_0&amp;hash=item51d37928b9"><a href="http://www.ebay.com/itm/NWT-Eileen-Fisher-Textured-Silk-Georgette-Skirt-Black-Size-Small-/3514402838" rel="nofollow">http://www.ebay.com/itm/NWT-Ei.....3514402838</a>...</a> </p> <p>edited to add: &nbsp;Small is not the size I look at for me LOL </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-ebay-dress-arrived---thoughts-on-shoesaccessories/page/2#post-1514472 Fri, 03 Jul 2015 06:18:00 +0000 Astrid 1514472@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks Smittie and Alasse!</p> <p>Thanks L'Abeille! Yes the dress is navy. It looks fairly dark in the picture but it's definitely navy IRL. I actually also looked for some dressier oxfords yesterday, but there wasn't anything suitable in the stores. You're right that the dress will look different on me with the short hair (my sister has a bob). I'm definitely going to make an appointment directly beforehand to have it cut.</p> <p>Thanks Tulle! And Michelle Williams? Now that's a compliment. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-ebay-dress-arrived---thoughts-on-shoesaccessories/page/2#post-1514464 Fri, 03 Jul 2015 05:42:41 +0000 tulle 1514464@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Funny--I was just thinking the same thing as Abeille:&nbsp; that a short pixie gives the classic prettiness of a dress like your sister's a bit of edge.&nbsp; I was reminded, looking at your lovely face, of red-carpet photos of the actress Michelle Williams in similarly delicate, ladylike dresses, looking so modern thanks to a short haircut very like yours. Hope the shoes fit, Cinderella! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-ebay-dress-arrived---thoughts-on-shoesaccessories/page/2#post-1514381 Fri, 03 Jul 2015 00:46:57 +0000 L'Abeille 1514381@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>If you are looking for some edge to your look---I totally forgot about your pixie cut. That can tweak a girly looking lace dress into a much edgier style. (We really noticed this when my youngest daughter donated her lovely long hair to Locks or Love and then shaved off the rest...) She has a much different "look" now, and the same garments come off quite differently. (Hair has grown out now but still a very edgy style.)</p> <p>And for what it's worth, to my parents' recent 60th wedding anniversary (a dress-up affair--I wore my sparkly LBD with matching coat, and killer-for-me heels), she wore a belted chiffon tiered black dress, with black sheer tights and shiny black oxfords (and a purple fedora) and looked quite posh.</p> <p>Which brings me to, would you consider getting a pair of dressier black oxfords instead? Also, I was thinking you might tie a colourful (for you--maybe a jewel purple or deep green) ribbon sash, or satin rose, at the waist of that lace dress? (Wait, is it navy rather than black?)<br />Anyway, I love the look of those ballet flats, here's hoping they stay on! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-ebay-dress-arrived---thoughts-on-shoesaccessories/page/2#post-1514130 Thu, 02 Jul 2015 15:21:12 +0000 Alassë 1514130@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I hope you find your shoes soon! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-ebay-dress-arrived---thoughts-on-shoesaccessories/page/2#post-1514126 Thu, 02 Jul 2015 15:17:50 +0000 Anonymous 1514126@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yes, if you're going to spend money on something, it should be either awesome or super-versatile. Good luck with the shoe hunt! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-ebay-dress-arrived---thoughts-on-shoesaccessories/page/2#post-1514120 Thu, 02 Jul 2015 15:16:00 +0000 Astrid 1514120@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks Alasse! :)</p> <p>I know I said a few times that I didn't want ballet flats, but I thought I'd give them one last chance - I just ordered these navy suede ones in a wide width. If the length works out (I sized down as recommended) they might just stay on my feet and be wide enough. And I figure they're classic enough to work with all kind of things, besides the dress. With 50% off they were worth a try, especially because I didn't see anything in the stores today.</p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-ebay-dress-arrived---thoughts-on-shoesaccessories#post-1514106 Thu, 02 Jul 2015 14:29:28 +0000 Alassë 1514106@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think you made the right decision; lukewarm (when you have another option) never sits right in your closet. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-ebay-dress-arrived---thoughts-on-shoesaccessories#post-1514079 Thu, 02 Jul 2015 13:29:47 +0000 Astrid 1514079@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks Maneera and Summer. I didn't find shoes, but I at least managed to rule a few out that looked promising online. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-ebay-dress-arrived---thoughts-on-shoesaccessories#post-1514035 Thu, 02 Jul 2015 11:26:41 +0000 Summer 1514035@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I didn't get to chime in before, Astrid, but I think you have made the right decision. &nbsp;It seems you are going to need dressier shoes whichever dress you choose, so it makes sense borrow your sister's. &nbsp;You can then afford to splash out a bit on the shoes.<br />Good luck with the hunt.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-ebay-dress-arrived---thoughts-on-shoesaccessories#post-1514023 Thu, 02 Jul 2015 10:58:38 +0000 Maneera 1514023@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Happy shopping Astrid. You made the best call </p> <p>I agree, your one dressy dress should look so divine that you forget the price tag and never feel any regrets. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-ebay-dress-arrived---thoughts-on-shoesaccessories#post-1514015 Thu, 02 Jul 2015 10:00:51 +0000 Astrid 1514015@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks Deborah. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-ebay-dress-arrived---thoughts-on-shoesaccessories#post-1514014 Thu, 02 Jul 2015 09:58:09 +0000 Deborah 1514014@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Good choice Astrid. Good luck looking for shoes:) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-ebay-dress-arrived---thoughts-on-shoesaccessories#post-1514012 Thu, 02 Jul 2015 09:45:27 +0000 Astrid 1514012@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Okay, thank you SO much for all of your input! Reading this really helped me feel like I made the right decision. I just had another look in daylight, tried it one again, tried to visualize it with some changes. And I'm not keeping it. Gaylene hit the nail on the head - I'm lukewarm about this dress. And I don't want to feel that way about a special occasion dress! I can live with wearing my sister's dress for one evening, it's pretty enough even if I wouldn't have picked it. But the most important thing is, it's a just pretty enough dress <i>I won't have spent money on</i>. I want my one dressy dress to be so lovely that I forget about the price, know what I mean? I put this one up on Ebay again. </p> <p>I have some freetime today, so I think I'm going to go and look for some shoes this afternoon. And I'll take care to consider how versatile they would be with any future dress I might buy for my dressy capsule.</p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-ebay-dress-arrived---thoughts-on-shoesaccessories#post-1514006 Thu, 02 Jul 2015 09:25:39 +0000 lyn67 1514006@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I would like this dress if you were comfortable in it (if no issues with the armholes and nekline). Would have been curious why Angie doesn't like the sleeves? I love them as they are kinda diagonal sleeves-which I much prefer to the sleeveless dresses (for myself only, of course-you have great and young arms, so don't need to hide them:-)). The color is a bit too safe for your age, but can read even edgy IMO, but needs another shoe... Your sis's dress was also great.&nbsp;</p> <p>See how you decide? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-ebay-dress-arrived---thoughts-on-shoesaccessories#post-1513986 Thu, 02 Jul 2015 06:39:03 +0000 Deborah 1513986@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Astrid it's a pretty dress but given this is a dressy occasion I would wear your sisters dress and buy shoes. It's a dressier dress:). And maybe you purchase shoes that can do double duty, ie, work the wedding and be useful later. I keep a pair of red pumps that generally only get pulled out for formal occasions. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-ebay-dress-arrived---thoughts-on-shoesaccessories#post-1513983 Thu, 02 Jul 2015 06:16:36 +0000 Gaylene 1513983@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I like the dress, but I wonder if it is what you want as a key player in your dressy capsule? Your lukewarm feelings about having to accessorize might be a sign to hold out for a dress that talks on its own--and, more importantly, makes you happy when you see it in your closet. A dressy dress doesn't get worn that much, so you ought to feel special whenever you put it on. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-ebay-dress-arrived---thoughts-on-shoesaccessories#post-1513968 Thu, 02 Jul 2015 04:34:38 +0000 shiny 1513968@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My initial reaction is that I love this dress on you, and the looser breezier fit is just its vibe. The sleeves don't bother me. I also do like the higher waist on you as well. </p> <p>But then I see you say the armholes are too low (which I can't see from the pics) and unfortunately in my petite experience, that may mean an alteration that is --not impossible-- but frequently not worth it. They'd have to take up from the shoulders and often this messes with the entire line of the garment -- it'd mean the waist would hit you even higher, and any bodice seams would also hit higher too. Try pinning the shoulder seams in an inch, and see how it hangs, and you will realize quickly whether this is an alteration that makes any sense. (Often even if I can afford to hike the waist and hemline up an inch or two, it still throws the entire line off at the chest and shoulder, making it an alteration not worthwhile. Which is why I thank my stars for petite lines -- even if I bitch and complain about lack of choice and variety in petites!!!)</p> <p>I know you got it on ebay but is this dress available in a petite version in your size? Because if yes, it's worth your ordering it. I think petite scaled version would be a dream on you, and fit more in line with pic #6. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-ebay-dress-arrived---thoughts-on-shoesaccessories#post-1513953 Thu, 02 Jul 2015 03:34:02 +0000 Anonymous 1513953@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It's pretty and except for the alterations you described I think it fits well. I would like a dressier shoe better, and one with some detail to add interest.<br />It does seem possible that the best bet might be to wear the other dress, which is lovely (!!), and spend your money on shoes. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-ebay-dress-arrived---thoughts-on-shoesaccessories#post-1513947 Thu, 02 Jul 2015 03:24:20 +0000 Maneera 1513947@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hmm...I see your dilemma. I like the dress very much. It's gorgeous on you. </p> <p>However, it does require dressier shoes. I don't see this dress working with oxfords somehow....it deserves to be paired with prettier shoes, especially when worn with that clutch. </p> <p>I think you'll be better off hunting for the shoes first. But if you can stretch your budget a bit, I would suggest you keep the dress too. The alterations do not sound complicated, though it's best to talk to the alterations lady first. I do think you should always have 1 dressy outfit as backup, and this could be the one for you. </p> <p>How about you find the shoes first and wear them with your sister's dress for this event? Then you can get this dress altered later to fit you, and you'll have your own dressy outfit complete? </p> <p>However, if you want to spend on only ONE thing, I think buying new shoes is the better option. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-ebay-dress-arrived---thoughts-on-shoesaccessories#post-1513940 Thu, 02 Jul 2015 03:06:33 +0000 Anonymous 1513940@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>re:</p> <p>Or do you think alterations are worth it to have this dress to wear in general? </p> <p>Well, I guess it depends on how much you like this dress. I like it a lot, and I think it likely quite a bit nicer than the other one, based on the fact that it's silk.&nbsp;But you are the judge of whether it's nice quality or not.&nbsp;</p> <p>&nbsp;I also like the pleating/gathers and the not-quite-black colour.</p> <p>You could wear it with oxfords or fancy shoes - in other words, you could wear it in more scenarios/settings than the other dress. So generally I think it is a more versatile dress.</p> <p>If, on the other hand, you get fancy shoes and wear your sister's dress, then you have a dress that you only like a little bit, and shoes that you can only wear with that dress (unless you have other stuff to wear fancy shoes with). In other words, a less versatile combo.</p> <p>I would *also* try to find a fancier shoe to go with the silk dress, but that's because I like fancy shoes. I think you can pull off oxfords+dress.</p> <p>I don't understand the comments about the sleeves being the wrong length as they look fine to me, but my eyes are untrained compared to others'.</p> <p>Like your haircut by the way! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-ebay-dress-arrived---thoughts-on-shoesaccessories#post-1513933 Thu, 02 Jul 2015 02:48:14 +0000 columbine(erin) 1513933@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I like the new dress on you, and would hate to see you let it go, but admittedly the LBD looks like the right dress for the occasion, so can you find some affordable strappy sandals? I haven't seen you wear strappy sandals but that just seems right for the dress. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-ebay-dress-arrived---thoughts-on-shoesaccessories#post-1513926 Thu, 02 Jul 2015 02:39:04 +0000 Suz 1513926@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Astrid, I like the dress...to a point...but I worry it's not "the one" since it needs so much work to make it fit properly. And the other dress is just SO pretty! If I were going to a special event, the other one is the one I'd wear, and I'd put the money in some pretty shoes with lasting power. Everyone needs one pair of dressy shoes.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-ebay-dress-arrived---thoughts-on-shoesaccessories#post-1513922 Thu, 02 Jul 2015 02:30:07 +0000 tulle 1513922@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, Astrid, sorry about that!&nbsp; Not all THAT easy, then.&nbsp; I just assumed that was you in the dark dress.&nbsp; Well, good luck with the process.&nbsp; I'm sure you'll pull something together as interesting and pretty as the ensemble you wore to their last party. Try to stay lighthearted about it; imagine yourself floating through that luxurious evening, and go with your instincts. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-ebay-dress-arrived---thoughts-on-shoesaccessories#post-1513847 Wed, 01 Jul 2015 22:34:08 +0000 Astrid 1513847@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks Cheryle.</p> <p>Tulle, thanks. Yes I think I know what you mean with the ruching, I'll try that tomorrow. And I will try the dress on again in daylight and see how I feel about it after a good night's sleep. Do you mean the dress in #6 with the LBD (it's navy)? That isn't me wearing the dress in picture #6, it's my sister. The dress would probably fit similar on me, although it would be a tad shorter. The shoes she's wearing are my old dancing shoes, but they don't fit me any longer. Her shoe size is one size smaller than mine. So the dress would work for the occasion, but only if I buy new shoes. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-ebay-dress-arrived---thoughts-on-shoesaccessories#post-1513839 Wed, 01 Jul 2015 22:18:18 +0000 tulle 1513839@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I like the empire waist--always graceful &amp; leg-lengthening.&nbsp; But I agree with Angie about the sleeves:&nbsp; they feel a bit dated &amp; neither-here-nor-there.&nbsp; Rather than trying to alter the dress to sleeveless (often problematic because of armhole depth) maybe ask your seamstress if she can run a gathering&nbsp; line of&nbsp; stitching (a double line might be best) along the top of the shoulder for a ruched effect?&nbsp; To test whether it will look better that way, just gather the shoulders &amp; sleeves with your fingers, and catch the gathers with a long bobby pin or clip over the shoulder seam.&nbsp; You have pretty arms, so I would think this goddess-style could be very nice on you, but if you don't mind the sleeves, you might rather keep the dress as is.</p> <p>I must admit, it's hard for me to get excited about oxfords for a dressy event, but if that's the only choice, I would suggest going to a good ribbon store for some 1" wide silky silver, pewter or bronze sheer organza ribbon (whatever looks best with the dress--pale pink might even be an option.)&nbsp; A meter or so should be enough. Cut the length in half, and twist the ends to points, wrapping the points with cellophane tape. Lace up the shoes with the ribbon, tie the bows, then cut off the ends on a diagonal. </p> <p>But I must say, that black dress looks fantastic on you!&nbsp; To me, there is no question:&nbsp; the LBD is appropriate for the occasion, adds a little sparkle, and fits like it was made for you.&nbsp; To me, it does not look like an ordinary "department store dress."&nbsp; It looks elegant, delicate.&nbsp; And the shoes you're wearing with it look great, too, and the black bag is perfect.&nbsp; Sometimes easiest is best! </p>