https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-age-issue-identy-crisis Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Mon, 20 Apr 2026 22:13:42 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-age-issue-identy-crisis/page/2#post-1965446 Mon, 15 Oct 2018 19:48:16 +0000 texstyle 1965446@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Janet, DH had something similar happen not long ago - we laughed but of course it does make you think.&nbsp; </p> <p>Deb - We have a lot of older friends - many just ten or so years ahead of us, but some in their 80's who may not be the picture of health, but still get out and DO things, which I think is so important. And to have friends of various ages - younger and older - is good I think as well.&nbsp; </p> <p>The thing that probably bothers me most is unnecessary medical tests and procedures that are "hard sold" to many of the older friends we know. They feel like they have to nearly fight it out at the doc's office just to avoid getting one more invasive procedure or test done.</p> <p></p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-age-issue-identy-crisis/page/2#post-1961050 Wed, 03 Oct 2018 07:08:24 +0000 rachylou 1961050@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Janet, when we were out doing father-daughter things, people used to think I was my father’s wife! That was creepy. Like it would be ok for an old man to have a child bride? Creepy! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-age-issue-identy-crisis/page/2#post-1960904 Tue, 02 Oct 2018 13:23:25 +0000 Janet 1960904@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>By the way, my husband had an experience over the weekend that punched him in the gut, age-wise. He was at some friends' house for a birthday party for their young daughter. I think our friends are in their late 30s. One of the party guests asked if my husband was his friend's DAD. (I know the feeling -- last year a waitress asked if our 29-year-old friend was my daughter, and while she's a gorgeous woman and in some sense I was flattered, I was also dismayed I was no longer passing for a sister to a near-30-year-old.) </p> <p>But my husband took the realization as permission to just BE. We are getting older, there is no way around it. To *try* to be younger is futile and will probably only backfire. Of course we want to take care of ourselves, be active, and present ourselves as well as we can, but to take extreme measures in chasing youth is just wasting time and energy that can be spent actually having fun. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-age-issue-identy-crisis/page/2#post-1960903 Tue, 02 Oct 2018 13:17:00 +0000 Janet 1960903@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I will attest to what MsMary said! She and her wonderful husband put some 20-somethings I know to shame. I look at photos and realize I look every bit of my age these days, but I'm in denial in my head. I'm hoping to dance my way into true old age!&nbsp;</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-age-issue-identy-crisis/page/2#post-1960793 Mon, 01 Oct 2018 18:57:26 +0000 MsMary 1960793@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I just had my 60th and I guess I am in denial because I just can't grasp the fact that I am a 60 year old lady. With a 70 year old husband, no less! But we can still dance up a storm and we still feel young! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-age-issue-identy-crisis/page/2#post-1960677 Mon, 01 Oct 2018 05:13:40 +0000 Anonymous 1960677@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Wise words, bijou. I an now 72 and not looking forward to 80+. A lot depends on your health. But at 70, a lot of medical stuff no one talks about starts to catch up with you. Tomorrow I will have the left eye operated on for cataracts. No one tells you. That you cannot lift over 15 pounds. We are watching those we are close to that are in their 80's. Smokers and the overweight are having major problems and having to move to assisted living. It is use it or lose it. I am so glad we down sized when we did. Please do not leave that task to your children. I had to do that when my parents passed. It is horrible. We are feeling after a long weekend of caring for grandchildren, that we are too old for this although we want to help and love them to pieces. dS2 is depending on our help but it is not easy. For the next 2 weeks I can not lift over 15 pounds or stoop and bend much due to cataract surgery, but feel like I am really needed to help DS 2 while his wife is traveling for her job. He is sleep deprived dealing with a 3-year old and nursing baby. I wish so much I were younger. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-age-issue-identy-crisis/page/2#post-1960193 Fri, 28 Sep 2018 13:26:17 +0000 Bijou 1960193@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Deb, I remember my Grandmother saying to me on the cusp of her 80th birthday, that she just could not see being 80 as anything as being old. I distinctly remember her saying "you just can't say that 80 is young can you?" I remember thinking, as a 20 something, goodness at 79 she still thinks that is young?? </p> <p>The thing was, she was always very youthful. That thinking helped her to stay young, both physically and mentally, well into her 80's.&nbsp;It was a wonderful gift, because for me that is the benchmark. Once I am 80 I am permitted to think of myself as old, anything less, I am young. </p> <p>Of course, when I turn 80, I expect all my YLF friends to make sure that I am a very stylish little old lady.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-age-issue-identy-crisis/page/2#post-1959550 Tue, 25 Sep 2018 15:02:58 +0000 Marilyn 1959550@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><div>I don't generally think about my age that much but birthdays really bug me.&nbsp; And, coincidentally today is my 55th birthday.&nbsp; Ugh!&nbsp; I keep pleading with everyone to just ignore it.&nbsp; I'm down for the cake but other than that I don't want to think about it.&nbsp; LOL</div><div><br /></div><div><b>Suz</b>..........Is a Shopper's senior discount REALLY 55!&nbsp; I guess this is good news, sort of.&nbsp; Like<b> Laurie</b>, my husband is 8 years older than me.&nbsp; He's turning 63 this year and was under the impression that Shopper's was 65.<br /></div></p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-age-issue-identy-crisis/page/2#post-1959392 Tue, 25 Sep 2018 00:15:09 +0000 Carla 1959392@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>LOL! Apparently there is quite the scam going on with 'underage' folks going to the movies and claiming to be seniors for the discount seniority grants. </p> <p>I never minded the milestone age events - it meant that I moved up an age group at competitive events. 40-44, and 45-49 were fiercely competitive however participants thinned out over 50, My friends teased that I was the only person they knew who looked forward to turning 50. I'll be 58 in 6 weeks, and I'm already 'in training' for 60. No races in the future, but what I want to look like, how I want to feel, and what I want to do to celebrate! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-age-issue-identy-crisis/page/2#post-1959361 Mon, 24 Sep 2018 22:06:35 +0000 deb 1959361@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Janet, I agree with you. I have been honest with my age and started getting carded again trying to get my senior discounts. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-age-issue-identy-crisis/page/2#post-1958573 Fri, 21 Sep 2018 12:54:44 +0000 Janet 1958573@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I never understood lying about one's age -- I'd hate to tell someone I'm 45 and have them inwardly saying, "oh, honey, you're looking rough for 45." I'd almost rather round up a few years and have them think, "girl looks awesome for 55!" :-D&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-age-issue-identy-crisis/page/2#post-1957996 Wed, 19 Sep 2018 20:20:32 +0000 Anonymous 1957996@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>50 was hard for me and for almost 10 years I avoided telling anyone my true age. I always let them guess and they usually guessed younger. That made me feel good. Once I turned 60 I did not care anymore. I just turned 62 and I speak my mind though I am careful not to insult or hurt anyone. I still feel like a kid at times and remember my mom always saying that age is just a number; it is how you feel inside that matters.</p> <p>PS. If I don't get that AARP discount I always ask for a AAA discount. One of those usually works. Plus I use the AARP discount for eye exams and eyeglass discounts. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-age-issue-identy-crisis/page/2#post-1957917 Wed, 19 Sep 2018 14:42:22 +0000 Laurie 1957917@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I had a horrible terrible awful time with 50.&nbsp; &nbsp;Guess what? I wish I could be 50 again.&nbsp; &nbsp;I am probably also going to hate 60.&nbsp; My family has never dealt well with aging gracefully so I did not learn how to do that when I was younger, I guess.&nbsp;</p> <p>My husband is 8 years older than I am.&nbsp; I actually had a hard time with him turning 65 this year, but he was just fine.</p> <p>Senior discount at Marriott usually serves up the best rates - better than AAA and most corporate rates.&nbsp; So there's that! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-age-issue-identy-crisis/page/2#post-1957131 Mon, 17 Sep 2018 04:20:52 +0000 Stagiaire Fash 1957131@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Joy, I think you’re going to be like my grandma, who went to play piano for people in the old folks’ home regularly, well into her 80s. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-age-issue-identy-crisis/page/2#post-1957109 Mon, 17 Sep 2018 01:50:52 +0000 ladypainter 1957109@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Deb,<br /> It IS weird what small things will bother us about aging. Right before my 50th, the AARP sent me a bill. No sales pitch about how wonderful they were, or all the marvelous advantages of joining—just a bill. &gt;:-(<br /> Now, get out there &amp; start stealing sugar and ketchup packets! :-)) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-age-issue-identy-crisis/page/2#post-1957100 Mon, 17 Sep 2018 00:28:52 +0000 Anonymous 1957100@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Barbara Diane, I also find the birthday after a milestone a hard one. So far 51 and 71 were hard. None of the milestone celebration, just getting older. It is a gift to still be here. Very wise. We have some slightly older friends with serious medical problems that affect quality of life. We wonder if that will be us in a couple of years. I am becoming more understanding of older people and the challenges they face. Some of the quirks are starting to make sense. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-age-issue-identy-crisis#post-1956949 Sun, 16 Sep 2018 11:50:33 +0000 Barbara Diane 1956949@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I both freak out a bit and realize it is a gift to still be here. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-age-issue-identy-crisis#post-1956904 Sun, 16 Sep 2018 04:18:21 +0000 deb 1956904@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Joy, I am not looking forward to that discussion. lol </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-age-issue-identy-crisis#post-1956898 Sun, 16 Sep 2018 03:34:22 +0000 Anonymous 1956898@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The time it gets really serious is when someone tells you that you probably have 5-10 good years left and they are being generous. Use it or lose it becomes more real. You look great. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-age-issue-identy-crisis#post-1956783 Sat, 15 Sep 2018 17:42:42 +0000 Cardiff girl 1956783@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Whilst not wishing to sound holier than thou,after working in a hospital and seeing things happen to people younger than myself I try and regard each passing year as a triumph against the pale rider.No I don’t like the physical decline but emotionally I m so much more at peace with myself and who I am ,I hope that you are too. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-age-issue-identy-crisis#post-1956576 Sat, 15 Sep 2018 00:12:51 +0000 Janet 1956576@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I haven't been truly freaked out by any milestone birthdays yet. Even 50 was like, ok, here we are. I get a little freaked out by the changes in my skin that get more pronounced each year, but otherwise I'm living in a state of denial!&nbsp;</p> <p>I also don't remember ever getting anything from AARP, but many of my friends have. I need to find out if any pharmacies/grocery stores in the states have those great deals for 55+ in the next couple of years!&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-age-issue-identy-crisis#post-1956555 Fri, 14 Sep 2018 22:08:53 +0000 Barbara Diane 1956555@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I usually freak out a bit on my birthday one year ahead of a milestone. On the other hand I love the discounts. :)<br /> Mostly avoiding the mortality aspect. Yes, I know that I’m in denial. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-age-issue-identy-crisis#post-1956537 Fri, 14 Sep 2018 21:04:24 +0000 Stagiaire Fash 1956537@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>For me it’s not the birthdays—it’s the years, and knowing who I’m up against for jobs. I don’t have the work experience a person my age could/ should have; I have as much as a young person. I’ll have to find a way to make up the chipper deficit. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-age-issue-identy-crisis#post-1956446 Fri, 14 Sep 2018 16:44:14 +0000 Suz 1956446@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Echoing <b>Lisa P</b>. I had a moment of righteous indignation and insulted pride at Shopper's until I realized that the age of "seniors" there is 55, not 60 or 65. And then I figured out how much I was saving on makeup and face cream and now I save my list for discount days!&nbsp;</p> <p><b>Deb</b>, you look exceptionally young in your photos. Not to mention, beautiful. But I know what you are saying -- some of those birthdays hit us harder than others. In my experience, you just have to live through the feelings and they go away as you adjust to the new identity.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-age-issue-identy-crisis#post-1956434 Fri, 14 Sep 2018 16:03:42 +0000 chouette22 1956434@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>In your last bootcut post, you looked absolutely freaking amazing! If you feel as good as you look, then there is nothing stopping you from enjoying the many years to come. The number is not important, it's how you feel.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-age-issue-identy-crisis#post-1956377 Fri, 14 Sep 2018 13:47:37 +0000 rachylou 1956377@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Denny’s is Number One, but you can and should totally do it everywhere, anywhere, all the time! And Yes to other products! My mother keeps us well stocked with ketchup packs from Burger King. No one tell her I have started throwing them out...</p> <p>Anyone ever been to a Luby’s? It’s like a giganto beige school cafeteria! Very exciting to push a fiberglass tray along miles of metal track! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-age-issue-identy-crisis#post-1956332 Fri, 14 Sep 2018 09:09:18 +0000 Staysfit 1956332@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Rachy, why only Denny’s? The elder set make the rounds here and get the little jam packs at the pancake houses also! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-age-issue-identy-crisis#post-1956280 Fri, 14 Sep 2018 02:22:36 +0000 Anonymous 1956280@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You're <i>older,&nbsp;</i>yes, and job well done, keep up the good work! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-age-issue-identy-crisis#post-1956277 Fri, 14 Sep 2018 01:33:49 +0000 Anonymous 1956277@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>65 is the new 55 I wouldn't worry about the card in your wallet, only the doctors office/pharmacist sees it. Medicare exists and thats a good thing!</p> <p> i thought turning 40 would bother me more, but it really didn't. No midlife cri....hang on...thats my new Harley being delivered!<br /> The number doesn't bother me, but some workouts like Mondays spin class, remind me im technically middle aged. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/the-age-issue-identy-crisis#post-1956267 Fri, 14 Sep 2018 00:15:27 +0000 Carla 1956267@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm with you lisa p. The pharmacy also carries a locally made premium ice cream that is to die for, but spendy - however, at 20% off, becomes an affordable treat. </p>