https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thanks-for-everything Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sat, 25 Apr 2026 14:48:41 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thanks-for-everything/page/2#post-1411792 Tue, 16 Dec 2014 13:32:34 +0000 ManidipaM 1411792@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Heavens, I have been gone so long... But this really made me sad. IK was one of my fashion heroes here ::sniff:: also one of the people who helped me define and indeed understand my own style preferences ::sniff, sniff:: </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thanks-for-everything#post-1410442 Sat, 13 Dec 2014 17:17:46 +0000 Jeanie 1410442@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Bummer! &nbsp;I am reading this late so I don't know if you will see it. &nbsp;You bring up such interesting discussion points and have a unique fashion aesthetic and you crack me up!!! &nbsp;I admire your writing so do let us know if you are blogging somewhere in internet-space. &nbsp;&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thanks-for-everything#post-1407689 Mon, 08 Dec 2014 20:45:38 +0000 gryffin 1407689@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>IK - As I said on your thread - &nbsp;"IK - I just wanted to say, I really enjoy reading what you have to say, on any subject. You are articulate, intelligent, interesting and authentic. I admire and respect your opinion because you follow your own path. You are an original and I always look forward to reading your pov. I hope you will stay, selfishly I might add, because this community would be diminished by your loss and certainly I would miss having a kindred style spirit - one of the few - on the forum!! It would be lonely without you!! You can't please everyone all the time, even if you were to try, but especially when you seek to find your own path and are not looking to conform to group expectations. But it's that view point that makes your words, to me, so powerful and provocative. So I hope you'll reconsider and stay. But whatever you choose, I really admire you. Hugs."&nbsp; As always where ever you are, I wish you the very best in everything.&nbsp;&nbsp; But I still hope, that&nbsp;I get to hear your thoughts again soon.&nbsp; I'll miss you!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thanks-for-everything#post-1407463 Mon, 08 Dec 2014 12:46:31 +0000 Neel 1407463@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Good luck IK. You will clearly be missed. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thanks-for-everything#post-1407462 Mon, 08 Dec 2014 12:46:17 +0000 approprio 1407462@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>IK, as a longtime lurker on YLF&nbsp;and&nbsp;newcomer to the forum I'm very sorry to see you leave. You were one of the people I'd pegged as someone I wanted to hear more from.</p> <p>I don't know, but I strongly suspect your frustration is more with the way fashion is going at the moment rather than with YLF in particular, which strikes&nbsp;me as a very diverse and masterfully moderated safe space for intelligent discussion on fashion.</p> <p>But the blogosphere? well, I personally&nbsp;think that's in trouble. A lot of the first generation are abandoning their posts right now, and it seems to me that the newcomers don't have half the originality of that first crop. I think there's a whole slew of reasons for this, but Cathy Horyn summed it up for me in her post <a rel="nofollow" href="http://tmagazine.blogs.nytimes.com/2014/08/18/commercialization-of-high-fashion-hedi-slimane-ysl-nicolas-ghesquiere-louis-vuitton/">Sign of the Times</a>.</p> <p>I really hope you'll reconsider. I think we need critical discussion about this important topic more than ever, which is why I finally decided to engage. This is really&nbsp;not a bad place to have that discussion.&nbsp;</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thanks-for-everything#post-1407209 Mon, 08 Dec 2014 00:29:05 +0000 Alassë 1407209@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I hope you find what you're looking for. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thanks-for-everything#post-1407165 Sun, 07 Dec 2014 23:36:57 +0000 milehighstyle (Linda) 1407165@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I will miss you as well. I really enjoy your observations and getting discussions going on differing viewpoints is interesting to me. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thanks-for-everything#post-1407037 Sun, 07 Dec 2014 19:58:43 +0000 shedev 1407037@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You'll be missed, IK. I get what it's like to love clothes yet not love the clothes everyone else does. I hope you find what you are looking for. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thanks-for-everything#post-1407009 Sun, 07 Dec 2014 19:12:58 +0000 Angie 1407009@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>IK, I will miss your directness and cerebral approach to topics.&nbsp;</p> <p>Echo really nailed it. She expressed a big part of&nbsp;what I was concerned about.&nbsp;</p> <p>I wish you the very best IK, and know that you are always welcome on YLF. xo</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thanks-for-everything#post-1406993 Sun, 07 Dec 2014 18:44:10 +0000 Anonymous 1406993@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I echo Echo. &nbsp;:) &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thanks-for-everything#post-1406942 Sun, 07 Dec 2014 17:14:08 +0000 Echo 1406942@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I agree with Una and Peri. I thought the goal was for us NOT to always agree. That's how we hear other points of view and broaden our horizons. I think Angie just wants us to be careful about copying blog photos here and criticizing them&nbsp;because that could give her site a bad name for being gossipy or unkind. That's entirely reasonable, IMO. Simply find a department store photo that shows a similar look and then have at it.<br />We all have different aesthetics, and that's a GOOD thing, IMO.&nbsp;</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thanks-for-everything#post-1406937 Sun, 07 Dec 2014 17:11:03 +0000 Diana 1406937@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'll miss you here. Hope you find what you are looking for. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thanks-for-everything#post-1406926 Sun, 07 Dec 2014 17:02:12 +0000 Peri 1406926@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm sorry, I'm confused too. It doesn't make sense. You are leaving because you don't agree with some aesthetic you see here&nbsp;and yet it now seems like you are unhappy that a few&nbsp;people didn't agree with yours? You want people to express honest opinions and think when everyone has the same opinion it is not an open discussion, but you are leaving to find a place&nbsp;where people share your aesthetic and so presumably all have the same opinion?&nbsp;</p> <p>I don't know why you were worried&nbsp;you were offending anyone. I saw no sign of anything getting tense on your other thread. I thought it was exactly the kind of discussion you claim to want.&nbsp;</p> <p>I hope you find what you are looking for. I don't like people leaving but you must do what makes you happy. I'm sorry to see you go.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thanks-for-everything#post-1406909 Sun, 07 Dec 2014 16:06:00 +0000 Deb 1406909@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You have great style IK and in my opinion you are high up on the YLF ladder with your taste and I am often surprised by how close you are to my personal style. I love a strong woman who doesn't need to follow but who has her own voice, opinion and sense of style. When I read your posts, I have often thought I'd love to know this woman IRL. I like the way you say it like it is. Right now, you've got to do what you've got to do and if YLF isn't broad enough for you, I fully understand, feel your sentiment and respect your point of view. Once you have reflected, I hope you are okay with your decision and not unhappy that you were impulsive. Somehow I doubt that the latter is likely. Just want to wish you all the very best. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thanks-for-everything#post-1406815 Sun, 07 Dec 2014 07:23:10 +0000 Sal 1406815@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I agree with Alaska Girl, and she put it so well. &nbsp;I would be sorry to see you go as I like hearing from a variety of forum members in a variety of ways...I don't want us to all dress as clones, or communicate in the same way.</p> <p>I wish you all the best whatever happens.</p> <p>FWIW I like one of the cognac boots looks. &nbsp;I find one of them a mismatched look with not much cohesion, and black boots would have been more stylish and intentional. &nbsp;</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thanks-for-everything#post-1406747 Sun, 07 Dec 2014 04:30:44 +0000 Eliza 1406747@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I hope that your search is fruitful; I will miss you here. I don't do many forums, yet have been appreciative of the cordial, but often frank discussions here. I appreciate hearing diverse points of view, a variety of fashion preferences and like variations in how people respond. Your voice will be missed. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thanks-for-everything#post-1406702 Sun, 07 Dec 2014 03:14:16 +0000 catgirl 1406702@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Dana, I'm a bit stunned and confused.&nbsp; Obviously you don't owe any explanation for leaving, but since you're a valued and outspoken&nbsp;longtime member, I'd like to ask what specifically triggered this decision.&nbsp; What aesthetic turn do you feel the forum has taken exactly?&nbsp; And since you, like many of us here, are interested in discussion as well as feedback, how has that aspect changed?&nbsp; </p> <p>I certainly&nbsp;don't always agree with everyone's opinions or style choices here, but the critical yet&nbsp;civil discussions and resulting expanding of my horizons keeps me engaged.&nbsp; The more diversity we have here, the better.&nbsp; Leaving only diminishes that diversity.&nbsp; Where else would people not only accept but understand and embrace my UWP self despite being as far from it as possible themselves?&nbsp; And I feel you've gotten&nbsp;the same acceptance - people get and admire&nbsp;that you have your own defined preferences, and even know them,&nbsp;to the point where I can see an item and think immediately of you. </p> <p>Surely brown shoes with black tights can't be SO polarizing?&nbsp; It looks like even people who sport the look responded very cordially to you - I can't find any comments claiming offense.&nbsp;&nbsp; You don't hesitate to express strong opinions, and I appreciate you and others doing so - understanding that it's all in the name of having fun with fashion.&nbsp; We're talking legwear, after all.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thanks-for-everything#post-1406700 Sun, 07 Dec 2014 03:13:20 +0000 Deborah 1406700@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Dana, &nbsp;I will miss you. &nbsp;I hear what you are saying and at times there can appear to not be enough diversity in thought here, but in keeping it the safe and polite place that it is, I honestly believe these conversations can be had. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thanks-for-everything#post-1406683 Sun, 07 Dec 2014 02:55:35 +0000 Gigi 1406683@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I hope you find what you are looking for, IK. But I will miss your posts. I hope you can eventually find your way back here! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thanks-for-everything#post-1406588 Sun, 07 Dec 2014 00:38:36 +0000 Gaylene 1406588@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'll miss you, Dana. I've always appreciated your being so forthright in expressing your thoughts. It's a rare quality, and not always appreciated by everyone, so I do understand why you might feel constrained by the YLF norms. Just know that the forum will be a little less entertaining for some of us without your presence. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thanks-for-everything#post-1406550 Sat, 06 Dec 2014 23:37:01 +0000 Style Fan 1406550@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am sad to hear this.&nbsp; I loved your insights.&nbsp; You rock IK!!!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thanks-for-everything#post-1406546 Sat, 06 Dec 2014 23:30:56 +0000 Traci 1406546@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This makes me think of the previous long thread we had about how constructive, tactful criticism can be taken harshly even if that is not the intent. &nbsp;Sometimes, even with all the tact in the world, someone's buttons can be pushed, whether it is about their personal style or their written style.</p> <p>You'll be missed, IK. &nbsp;I hope you find what you're looking for!</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thanks-for-everything#post-1406507 Sat, 06 Dec 2014 22:30:13 +0000 Caro in Oz 1406507@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'll really miss you &amp; your insights too IK. I agree with Janet there is a way to talk about these things -&nbsp;I don't think you were being chided for your opinions&nbsp;as such, I see it more as a gentle reminder that kindness is always appropriate even when we have extreme poison eye :)&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thanks-for-everything#post-1406464 Sat, 06 Dec 2014 21:33:28 +0000 Aziraphale 1406464@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Aw, that's too bad. I enjoy your threads. You say it how it is and therefore sometimes your comments come off as a bit brusque, but for what it's worth, I've never been offended by them (although&nbsp;I'm always up for a debate if I disagree with you!).&nbsp;</p> <p>Best wishes, and I look forward to hearing from you again if or when you decide to pop back in.&nbsp;</p> <p>(BTW, I have an intractable 'poison eye' for certain things too...did you ever hear me ranting about how ugly I think the colour magenta is? I'm sure I've done that). </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thanks-for-everything#post-1406434 Sat, 06 Dec 2014 21:00:12 +0000 Janet 1406434@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm with jackiec. I always click on your threads. This forum needs diversity of opinion and style preference. I hope you come back.&nbsp; </p> <p></p> <p>ETA: I would sincerely love to know how you feel differently from what you think the prevailing forum preferences are. I bet you're not the only one who feels like you're zigging while others are zagging. I think there is a way to talk about these things without anyone feeling attacked. Just MHO. If you want to PM me, I'd like to know more.&nbsp;</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thanks-for-everything#post-1406432 Sat, 06 Dec 2014 20:59:20 +0000 Lyn D. 1406432@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You will be missed!<br />I feel there is space for honest feedback here, and always enjoy your part of the more lively conversations. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thanks-for-everything#post-1406423 Sat, 06 Dec 2014 20:50:11 +0000 jackiec 1406423@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm sorry to read this. I'll miss your candour. Hope you come back. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thanks-for-everything#post-1406408 Sat, 06 Dec 2014 20:34:30 +0000 Suz 1406408@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Dana, we will miss you! I hope you find what you want. I've enjoyed your contributions.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thanks-for-everything#post-1406398 Sat, 06 Dec 2014 20:11:27 +0000 calmwave 1406398@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm a lurker mostly, and have enjoyed your many and varied contributions, IronKurtin.&nbsp; Thanks for sharing your time, insight and musings with us. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/thanks-for-everything#post-1406397 Sat, 06 Dec 2014 20:09:31 +0000 Astrid 1406397@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm sorry you feel that way. I don't get it, but you have to do what you think is right for you. </p>