https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/styling-people-is-hard Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Fri, 10 Apr 2026 05:25:16 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/styling-people-is-hard#post-1071305 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 17:57:04 +0000 rachylou 1071305@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It's really a fascinating work, is it not? I don't know how Angie and other stylists keep appointments tight, to a schedule. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/styling-people-is-hard#post-1071274 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 17:37:34 +0000 Alassë 1071274@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Great job, Marlene! I applaud your efforts to "get" her style and loved hearing about the successful shopping trip. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/styling-people-is-hard#post-1071272 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 17:36:03 +0000 Anonymous 1071272@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My hat is off to you.&nbsp; I don't think I could have done it, you are a good friend. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/styling-people-is-hard#post-1071221 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 17:02:38 +0000 Anonymous 1071221@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It is really hard to see someone act and look much older than they are. My SIL has a wonderful husband and a 12-year-old son. I'm sure both of them would want her to look and feel her best. As it is, her whining gets to everyone. I'm not the only one in the family who notices. Everyone else does, too. And we have a very large family! </p> <p>Maybe she doesn't realize that the way we dress can affect the way we feel about ourselves. I'd like to readdress this with her, but need an opportune moment to do it. She'll be coming to visit us for Thanksgiving, so maybe I'll be able to say something. She almost always comments about my weight and clothing, so maybe she's indirectly crying out for help.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/styling-people-is-hard#post-1071164 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 16:04:21 +0000 karymk 1071164@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ruth, I&nbsp;bet if your SIL got a new style groove, her whole attitude would change. &nbsp;She'd feel brighter, slimmer, more energized, powerful, healthy. &nbsp;And then her whining would stop. &nbsp;People would be attracted to her! She could rule the world. &nbsp;Keep trying, I think you should literally make her an offer. You could start with one outfit, or a small capsule, to jumpstart her. &nbsp;Maybe she is waiting for you to take her by the hand. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/styling-people-is-hard#post-1071141 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 15:48:42 +0000 Anonymous 1071141@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>How sweet of you to take time to help her! I'm sure she appreciates it. And what a reminder that style truly is individual. What looks fab, feels right, and appeals to one person doesn't work for another.</p> <p>There's one member of our family I truly wish I could help--my SIL.&nbsp;She says she admires my style, and wonders how I'm able to dress in such a way that I look slimmer than she does. (We're the same height, and almost the same weight; same basic body build, except her shoulders are a bit narrower than mine.) I gave her some of my dress pants because the ones she always wears are too short and frumpy looking. She never wears them. Another family member came right out and told her she dresses like an older woman, and that her style is frumpy. She got really upset, so I know not to say anything to her. With a few small changes to her clothing silouettes and pant lengths, and maybe a new hairstyle (she's had the same hairstyle for the 25+ years I've known her),&nbsp;she could look so much better--and younger. She's stuck in a time warp, and apparently is there to stay.</p> <p>The worst part is that she's about 6 years younger than I, but looks at least 10 years older; and it's all because of what she wears and how she conducts herself. I'm an optimist, while she's a pessimist. I feel younger than I am, so I dress to reflect that. She always whines about how she's getting old and is a hyperchondriac about her health; her mannerisms and lack of style reflect that. I do believe some people age more quickly than others because of how they think about themselves.</p> <p>At any rate, I'm glad your friend came to you for help, and that you were kind enough to oblige. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/styling-people-is-hard#post-1070781 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 04:46:05 +0000 CocoLion 1070781@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Great story thanks for sharing!</p> <p>The only person who asks me to style him is my boyfriend. &nbsp;I think my style is not conservative enough for most people, they are more afraid of looking ridiculous than I am. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/styling-people-is-hard#post-1070764 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 04:19:05 +0000 AJ 1070764@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I've helped friends to shop their closets and it is quite a challenge to hone in on their style and not inject mine.</p> <p>Kudos to you for your spontaneous shopping assistance! I'm sure your friend was so grateful for your help. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/styling-people-is-hard#post-1070763 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 04:18:10 +0000 karymk 1070763@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You did great! I used to personal shop as a business and yes, it is very challenging and tiring at times. &nbsp;But it's so amazing to help other ladies figure out a look or style persona they can really live with. &nbsp;Tell her you would like to take her out again in the spring to select a few new pieces!</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/styling-people-is-hard#post-1070754 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 04:05:18 +0000 Debora 1070754@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What a great post! I have a feeling your friend will want to shop with you again soon. Heck, I want to shop with you! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/styling-people-is-hard#post-1070748 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 03:58:54 +0000 Anonymous 1070748@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Good job! I am sure your YLF knowledge assisted you in giving your friend some helpful advice today </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/styling-people-is-hard#post-1070747 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 03:58:53 +0000 Amy 1070747@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Not everyone is as flexible as you showed yourself to be at working with a style so different from your own. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/styling-people-is-hard#post-1070743 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 03:54:19 +0000 Laura (rhubarbgirl) 1070743@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I just helped a friend shop this weekend and it was really interesting. In a way it's easier not to have preconceptions for other people, because we're less emotional and don't have all the body baggage, usually. But we don't have the practice with fit and figure flattery. I'm glad it was ultimately a worthwhile experience for you and your friend. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/styling-people-is-hard#post-1070705 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 03:22:02 +0000 Jaime 1070705@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sounds like your friend is very happy and you learned something interesting too. I buy my sister most of&nbsp;her clothes - she just has no interest in shopping or style. But I have to take her lifestyle and comfort level into account and it is very different than mine.&nbsp;It is not always easy and I have known her all her life! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/styling-people-is-hard#post-1070701 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 03:15:27 +0000 cheryl 1070701@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What a great friend you are. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/styling-people-is-hard#post-1070641 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 02:23:47 +0000 Firecracker (Sharan) 1070641@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, how funny your tale is about the first part of your shopping trip: "Apparently she hates everything." I was thinking I have met her! Glad it worked out. I love it when I can help someone find something they like, too. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/styling-people-is-hard#post-1070588 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 01:45:52 +0000 Suz 1070588@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What a lovely gift you gave your friend -- your time, attention, creativity. I'm sure she's very grateful. And yes, it must be really tricky at first to get your head around what to look for when the person's particulars are very different from your own.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/styling-people-is-hard#post-1070585 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 01:43:37 +0000 Anonymous 1070585@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You were a good and understanding friend. This may be the first of many shopping trips. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/styling-people-is-hard#post-1070576 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 01:38:24 +0000 Liz A. 1070576@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ha! That sounds fun! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/styling-people-is-hard#post-1070573 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 01:37:34 +0000 Susie 1070573@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My first thought was to agree with Sveta, but I wonder if, in some ways, it might be easier to shop for someone else? I like shopping for my daughters and I've also done well with my sister and my mom. Probably because they are easier to fit than I am and I think everything looks better on them than on me!</p> <p>Marlene, you are a dear friend. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/styling-people-is-hard#post-1070569 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 01:33:31 +0000 TraceyLiz65 1070569@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>How amazing that you were able to take someone who had no clue what she liked and help her define it. &nbsp;A real challenge indeed. &nbsp;A job well done! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/styling-people-is-hard#post-1070559 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 01:27:55 +0000 Sveta 1070559@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You did so well! &nbsp;I have problems shopping for myself - shopping for somebody else must be really daunting. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/styling-people-is-hard#post-1070552 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 01:21:48 +0000 Peri 1070552@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Good job! Plus, it's interesting she would choose to copy you, but in reality was the opposite of you. But that's kind of a compliment too...something about your style looked real to her, but she wanted her version of that feeling. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/styling-people-is-hard#post-1070543 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 01:13:58 +0000 RunswithDolphins 1070543@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh well done!&nbsp; You have indeed done your friend a good service today.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/styling-people-is-hard#post-1070538 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 01:10:24 +0000 minimalist 1070538@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Wow Marlene, what a lot of work -- both in running around, and in empathy. Thanks for being there for her! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/styling-people-is-hard#post-1070536 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 01:09:24 +0000 Caro in Oz 1070536@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yes I agree, so hard but very rewarding. Well done, it will be interesting to see where this takes her&nbsp;:) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/styling-people-is-hard#post-1070523 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 01:01:13 +0000 Marlene 1070523@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So I met a friend at the mall today and over coffee she started lamenting how she was feeling so frumpy and wanted a make-over.&nbsp; I told her she should find a friend who's style she admires and copy one of her outfits.&nbsp; She told me that she thought that would be me.&nbsp; Wow!&nbsp; I was pretty flattered but then decided that I would see if I could help her out. We wandered through a couple stores so I could get a feeling for what she is drawn to.&nbsp; Apparently she hates everything.&nbsp; So picked a couple things for her and she hated all that as well.&nbsp; I was not quite understanding what she was looking for.&nbsp; So I suggested we head to nordstrom because they have helpful SA's that may be able to crack the code.&nbsp; I wanted her to have an outfit that made her happy.&nbsp; We took one step into nordies and a mannequin had a blouse that made her so happy.&nbsp; So I found the blouse on the rack and used that as our base to work from.&nbsp; I found out she is the opposite of me style-wise.&nbsp; She's very classic...I am not.&nbsp; She likes very feminine details.&nbsp; I do not.&nbsp; She looks amazing in blushes and muted tones.&nbsp; I look like death in those colors.&nbsp; She has a large bust...I am barely an A cup.&nbsp; So for me, this shopping trip was a huge exercise in relearning how to shop. But once I figured out what she liked and felt comfortable in, I was able to swoop around the store and grab an armful of options that she could consider.&nbsp; I found lots of options and she liked most of it....I even pegged her size!&nbsp; I was exhausted afterwords but I got a big dose of satisfaction.&nbsp; So my hat is off to Angie and all the stylists of the world.&nbsp; That is a very hard job.&nbsp; I didn't expect to be a psychologist today... </p>