https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/stating-the-obvious Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Tue, 21 Apr 2026 22:22:13 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/stating-the-obvious#post-1782089 Sun, 26 Feb 2017 21:06:40 +0000 Suz 1782089@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Beautiful post, Ornella, and I miss you!!&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/stating-the-obvious#post-1781959 Sun, 26 Feb 2017 12:46:20 +0000 Helen11 1781959@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This is a beautiful post, Ornella.&nbsp;<br />I write lots of posts, in my head, too. YLF really is a very special place. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/stating-the-obvious#post-1781671 Sat, 25 Feb 2017 07:49:10 +0000 jenanded 1781671@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ornella you are always fresh, smiling and oh so gracious and here is another beautiful piece. you have always been so kind and thoughtful to me in particular.&nbsp;Enjoy and have a beautiful time. xx </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/stating-the-obvious#post-1781481 Fri, 24 Feb 2017 16:57:42 +0000 Staysfit 1781481@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Very thoughtful and touching! Best wishes always! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/stating-the-obvious#post-1781342 Fri, 24 Feb 2017 05:32:28 +0000 Carla 1781342@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What a nice thing to post, O. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/stating-the-obvious#post-1781338 Fri, 24 Feb 2017 05:03:12 +0000 Diana 1781338@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It's great to see you here again, Ornella! This is such a lovely and touching sentiment, and I couldn't agree more! Xoxoxo </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/stating-the-obvious#post-1781319 Fri, 24 Feb 2017 03:59:08 +0000 rachylou 1781319@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well said, Ornella! And thank You, because you are one of the lovely YLFers that first made YLF such a homey place for me. I have learned so so much from you over the years... and it's so odd to think it's been years now. YLF is bedrock. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/stating-the-obvious#post-1781216 Thu, 23 Feb 2017 20:53:25 +0000 Eliza 1781216@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ornella- such a thoughtful post. Good to see you whenever it works. Great that you are at a place where your wardrobe works for you. Agree that YLF is a special community. All the best! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/stating-the-obvious#post-1781215 Thu, 23 Feb 2017 20:52:29 +0000 Lyn D. 1781215@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Lovely post, and so true </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/stating-the-obvious#post-1781017 Thu, 23 Feb 2017 09:33:40 +0000 harmonica 1781017@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So beautiful and full of warmth and wisdom, Ornella. I've always enjoyed your posts and adore your simple, yet powerful style. You will always be part of the family. Take care and visit when you can. &lt;3 </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/stating-the-obvious#post-1780969 Thu, 23 Feb 2017 03:21:30 +0000 Anonymous 1780969@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That was beautiful, Ornella. Please stop by when you can. Your family adores you and cares. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/stating-the-obvious#post-1780935 Thu, 23 Feb 2017 01:40:58 +0000 Caro in Oz 1780935@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hello lovely&nbsp;Ornella. Keep popping in if possible :)&nbsp;</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/stating-the-obvious#post-1780919 Thu, 23 Feb 2017 01:06:45 +0000 anne 1780919@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ornella, that was lovely! &nbsp;I have fond memories of all your time on YLF and particularly remember your gratitude.</p> <p>This really resonated</p> <p><i>Things happen in my life and I compose threads in my head wanting to share the outfits or life news or dilemmas with you, which then never really get written</i>&nbsp;</p> <p>This is totally me too. Not only that, but I think up long responses to other people's posts that never get written. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/stating-the-obvious#post-1780918 Thu, 23 Feb 2017 01:00:51 +0000 Sal 1780918@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It is lovely Ornella, and beautifully written. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/stating-the-obvious#post-1780910 Thu, 23 Feb 2017 00:19:13 +0000 Barbara Diane 1780910@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That was lovely. Thanks for writing it. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/stating-the-obvious#post-1780900 Wed, 22 Feb 2017 23:54:09 +0000 Marilyn 1780900@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What a lovely post!&nbsp; </p> <p>As someone who has come and gone from several forums I know where you are coming from.&nbsp; Pop in and post whenever it feels right. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/stating-the-obvious#post-1780879 Wed, 22 Feb 2017 23:04:45 +0000 MsMary 1780879@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, Ornella! I am always so happy to see you pop in, and I hope you will continue to do so from time to time! I will never forget the fun we all had doing the video for YLF's fifth anniversary!! Not to mention the lovely gifts you sent me! &lt;3</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/stating-the-obvious#post-1780865 Wed, 22 Feb 2017 22:34:00 +0000 Summer 1780865@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I've always enjoyed your posts, Ornella, and I love your simple, polished style. I hope you will continue to pop in from time to time. &nbsp; &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/stating-the-obvious#post-1780859 Wed, 22 Feb 2017 22:23:45 +0000 Style Fan 1780859@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What a lovely post.&nbsp; I never really got to know you but I am very moved by what you wrote.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/stating-the-obvious#post-1780850 Wed, 22 Feb 2017 21:57:10 +0000 Angie 1780850@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><b>BEAUTIFUL</b> and <b>POETIC</b>, just like you. Miss you, and much love to you, O. xo </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/stating-the-obvious#post-1780829 Wed, 22 Feb 2017 20:52:47 +0000 Anonymous 1780829@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That's a beautiful post.&nbsp; Thanks for sharing your journey!&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/stating-the-obvious#post-1780814 Wed, 22 Feb 2017 20:14:04 +0000 columbine(erin) 1780814@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You were one of the first posters I remember from first joining, Ornella, I"m always pleased to see you post.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/stating-the-obvious#post-1780807 Wed, 22 Feb 2017 19:50:11 +0000 Ornella 1780807@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It is, in fact, a family. Fabulous in every way. Father figure who takes care of everything and makes you feel safe, protected. Strong, loving mother figure who nurtures your strengths, helps you correct your weaknesses in a way that makes you feel empowered, sets the boundaries, challenges you. Then the siblings -- an amazing palette of characters, each beautiful in their uniqueness, each generous in sharing their life wisdom. </p> <p>That family had adopted me some 7 years ago. Since then, in its nurturing embrace, I’ve gone from sheepish to happy dresser, gaining confidence in the area that was an extreme puzzle for me. Like a toddler stumbling while making those first steps and who suddenly had the whole world at the reach of my hands, I went through those early 'years' of trying to play with almost anything; to mastering alphabet and becoming a more skilled reader who could start separating better choices from obviously bad ones; to teenage years and clarification of the right descriptors that could envelope my choices and set path for the future; to an adulthood in which I no longer search for my style identity, but enjoy the process of deepening and refining my choices. </p> <p>This final stage of growing up was not really planned, but it happened as a natural consequence of leaving home, or -- in forum speak -- as my participation significantly slowed down. It’s been obvious for some time, but with this thread I wanted to make it ‘official’ in a way. I did try to pick speed up occasionally, but eventually had to accept that I can not be around as much as before, at least not in the foreseeable future.  But as I went back to work after a long break, and the demands of off-line life were greater than I could have anticipated, three things became apparent.</p> <p>First, most of the time I don’t think too much about what I wear, but all of the time I feel good. I’ve realised that being dressing in basic, simple clothes, is in fact my thing. I enjoy it. Only I know how deliberate those seemingly boring pieces are, and that’s enough for me to feel happy. What excites me is not so much what's trendy or new, but what's fresh or new to my eye.<br /> Second, same as real-life families are ours forever, YLF will be under my skin forever. Things happen in my life and I compose threads in my head wanting to share the outfits or life news or dilemmas with you, which then never really get written - but the impulse, the habit to share with you are as strong as when I was around a lot more. What I mostly do lately is read the blog daily, and forum whenever I can. </p> <p>Last and definitely not the least, my time here has given me tools and knowledge to recognise the joy that other women put in dressing themselves. The streets are one big fashion show, and things inspire me and fill me with joy thanks to my eyes being opened here. When I compliment someone, it always amazes me how quickly surprise of the other person turns to happiness, when their very private form of creativity is acknowledged and admired by a complete stranger.</p> <p>Style conversations aside, there is a very personal reason why I will always feel strong bond with YLF. You are all incredible <b>life mentors</b> and I feel very proud to have found my place amongst you. Part of me has always felt incomplete because my mother did not live to see me as a fully grown up individual. Being accepted by you, a group of incredible women who radiate strong sense of self-fulfilment and know your own purpose in the world, had greatly helped to fill that void. There is absolutely no way I could have come across a community like this in off-line life, and to be able to actually benefit from your wisdom, intelligence and grace, is a privilege and my life is so much richer for knowing you all. My friendships and special moments from here are as real to me as they can be.</p> <p>One more thing… in my random commenting in recent months, there were always lovely messages from the forum members who had known me from my more active period and I wanted to say a big <b>Thank You</b> - for being happy to see me, for not forgetting me. It means a lot. Which is also why I needed to address the fact that I am so rarely around. I still have and want to share a lot with you, and I will find time and way, but it’s a matter of balancing needs and wants. </p> <p>Germans, according to an acquaintance, say that one builds three homes in a lifetime. If that’s the case, knowing that before YLF I’ve only been active in two communities many years ago and that this place had felt like my on-line home more than any other, I’m not going anywhere. Whether to even post a WIW or just report spam, I will be around -- just less visibly active.</p> <p><b>Thank you, once again, Angie and Greg for YLF. </b></p> <p><b>Thank you YLF ladies for your friendship and guidance.</b></p> <p>Love,<br /> O. </p>