https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/spending-on-fashion Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Mon, 18 May 2026 13:16:26 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/spending-on-fashion#post-294426 Tue, 08 Feb 2011 19:36:10 +0000 rae 294426@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>First, kudos to you and your hubby for working it out on a single income.</p> <p>I love how others have referred to it as "teamwork." I don't have children but, growing up, that was never a guiding theme in our lives -- even though both of my parents worked, they always seemed to be pitted against one another as the Spender and the Saver.</p> <p>I wonder if a part of your daughter's anxiety is also the ever-present pressure to be like everyone else? Or, rather, the idea that something is amiss if your family isn't like all the others? When I was very young, I remember wondering what was wrong that my mom "had to" work, while other moms didn't. I didn't understand that it was a choice my parents made until later. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/spending-on-fashion#post-294416 Tue, 08 Feb 2011 19:10:41 +0000 Isabel 294416@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>MJP - yes, when I thought about it, I realized that she is definitely getting vibes that things are tough for many people we know. We think that they don't get things, but the are really clued in. I hope that I reassured her too. I also explained that so much of what we have is "gravy", things we don't really need to survive. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/spending-on-fashion#post-294409 Tue, 08 Feb 2011 19:01:45 +0000 Mamapicklejuice 294409@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Poor thing - she must be worried about money because of her friends' situations. Good for her for being cognizant that THINGS COST MONEY. My five year old is pretty good about that already...some of the time! I hope you were able to reassure her. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/spending-on-fashion#post-294405 Tue, 08 Feb 2011 18:57:48 +0000 Isabel 294405@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Lynne - that is one of those "step back" moments, as I call them. It is really interesting to see how kids view this whole thing. When my girl was about 5, I mentioned, " when mommy worked", she literally shrieked, her eyes got wide, and she said, " you used to DO something ? " </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/spending-on-fashion#post-294397 Tue, 08 Feb 2011 18:51:08 +0000 Lynne 294397@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Isabel, too cute!</p> <p>Deb, that little boy sounds like he's already a Mum!</p> <p>Have been having an ongoing conversation with my kids on why they need to help with household chores when I am a SAHM, and 'it's your JOB, Mum!!"......... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/spending-on-fashion#post-294395 Tue, 08 Feb 2011 18:49:19 +0000 Isabel 294395@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>kh - I try really hard to never refer to the car I drive as "mine", for exactly the reason that R&amp;J said, that it is about "teamwork" - that is a great concept !</p> <p>Patty - I am soooo with you. My kids attend public school. I have a hard enough time with homework. I really admire the women who home school.</p> <p>Deb - that is, I think, one of the funniest stories I have ever heard about a little guy ! I can't wait to tell my husband.</p> <p>MumtoJ&amp;L - Yeah, we don't separate out our money either. When I first stopped working, I was really overcome with guilt ( I also help take care of my disabled sister and parents ) - like I wasn't bringing anything in ( monetarily ). Then it struck me that the reason my husband can do the job he does and travel and work late into the night, and on weekends, is because I don't work outside the home.</p> <p>( Pictures coming soon ! ) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/spending-on-fashion#post-294258 Tue, 08 Feb 2011 09:01:39 +0000 LoP 294258@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This is a cute story, Isabel. Thank you for sharing. She must be hearing it at school as well. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/spending-on-fashion#post-294113 Tue, 08 Feb 2011 02:20:22 +0000 taylor 294113@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, the little darlings! Enjoy your new goodies. </p> <p>I was only 1 of 3 SAHM in the 80's in my kids kindergarten class..It is a privilege for sure </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/spending-on-fashion#post-294096 Tue, 08 Feb 2011 02:00:22 +0000 mumtojessandluke 294096@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>OMG LOL!!!<br /> So funny! wowser.<br /> I think I'd be so stunned if my kids came out with anything like that. I'd like to think that my kids know I make a valuable contribution to the house hold, both looking after them and DH, and earning a little bit too teaching. DH has a business, so I do 'work' almost every day, but it isn't paid- LOL. Amazing that your kids know that there is a 'daddy's' money and 'mummies' money. Our money is all together. My kids aren't that old yet, I've so much to look forward too! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/spending-on-fashion#post-294076 Tue, 08 Feb 2011 01:30:35 +0000 Barbara 294076@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Isabel, how precious! </p> <p>And brutally honest, as children are. I am laughing so hard right now I may injure myself.<br /> Your daughter is SCARY smart! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/spending-on-fashion#post-293874 Mon, 07 Feb 2011 19:49:57 +0000 RoseandJoan 293874@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ah bless and it seems like a good age to introduce the concepts of 'team work' and budgets to your daughter. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/spending-on-fashion#post-293860 Mon, 07 Feb 2011 19:33:06 +0000 Deb 293860@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That is too funny - keep it handy for when she wants a car someday ... ;-)</p> <p>Another funny kid story I heard today from our office manager, who works as a mother's helper on weekends: The 6-yr-old boy was helping her in the kitchen on Saturday morning when his Dad passed through, on his way to shovel snow. The little boy stopped what he was doing and demanded, "Are you wearing that jacket outside?" The Dad said yes, and went on his way. As soon as the door was closed, the boy asked the woman, "Are you ever going to get married?" She said maybe... and he responded, "Well, if you do, make sure you *never* marry a man who dresses like *that*!"</p> <p>:-O</p> <p>When I heard this story, I immediately flashed to The Satorialist - the kid's got a future! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/spending-on-fashion#post-293842 Mon, 07 Feb 2011 18:59:02 +0000 Patty 293842@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That's the life my oldest son wants--homework on the couch in PJs and a drink with a little umbrella.<br /> I am SAHM also but the kids go to public school---I give you home school moms big props!!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/spending-on-fashion#post-293810 Mon, 07 Feb 2011 18:35:34 +0000 kh 293810@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, my 7 yr old son made a comment last week. I said something about "my" van and he says, "It's not really your van because it's Daddy's money." Oh boy, did we have a talk! It was more like a lecture, poor kid. </p> <p>I also home school and there are days I tell my boys that they should pay me for letting them do their lessons while wearing pjs on the couch. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/spending-on-fashion#post-293807 Mon, 07 Feb 2011 18:30:50 +0000 Queen Mum 293807@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>too funny!<br /> I remind my boys that I work darned hard around here for a pittance wage. Kim... I homeschooled for years as well... a TON of work! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/spending-on-fashion#post-293801 Mon, 07 Feb 2011 18:25:42 +0000 Kim 293801@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Pictures? (Of the outfits...LOL)</p> <p>I was a SAHM for 15 years and my kids wondered out loud too why I didn't "work"?? Working would have been less work than homeschooling! LOL </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/spending-on-fashion#post-293775 Mon, 07 Feb 2011 17:52:51 +0000 Isabel 293775@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Kids are funny...I think that she is having some anxiety over the economy. I am only 1 of 2 SAHM who have not gotten jobs ( that we know ) as the economy tanks. She has been hearing many people say, " We can't afford that." She must wonder why that hasn't changed for us. We are very lucky and privileged. So I have been taking care of different children as their moms settle into new jobs and get their schedules straightened out.....and this must be affecting her but she doesn't have the words for it. So we talked about that too and what it means.</p> <p>Michelle, just let me know when you want her ! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/spending-on-fashion#post-293771 Mon, 07 Feb 2011 17:47:27 +0000 biscuitsmom 293771@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Good for you! Just because you dont work outside the home doesnt mean you dont have much more than a full-time job already! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/spending-on-fashion#post-293769 Mon, 07 Feb 2011 17:46:56 +0000 Michelle 293769@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Haqha! Great story. Can I borrow your daughter to be my voice of reason sometimes? :)<br /> Seriously though, great opportunity to have that conversation. You'll have fun reminding her of this one in 10 or 15 years! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/spending-on-fashion#post-293761 Mon, 07 Feb 2011 17:36:47 +0000 Isabel 293761@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>After my six month hiatus ( SYC ), I went a litttttle, crazy during the holidays and the post holiday sales. BTW, I am a stay at home mom.</p> <p>My daughter ( 7 ) noticed I had on some new boots yesterday and said, " Don't you think it is time you get a job ? "</p> <p>We had a budget talk and how daddy's money wasn't just "his"...also reminded her that she gets stuff all the time with "his" money ! </p>