https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sorta-ot-do-you-ever-feel-all-dressed-up-with-nowhere-to-go Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Fri, 08 May 2026 09:03:07 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sorta-ot-do-you-ever-feel-all-dressed-up-with-nowhere-to-go/page/2#post-116909 Tue, 12 Jan 2010 22:09:53 +0000 malcontent 116909@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Wearing smart-casual clothing makes me feel like an eccentric, even a misfit, but I cannot bring myself to fit in by looking as slovenly as some of my cohort do. I'm a graduate student and many of my peers seem determined to dress as casually as they possibly can. I was in undergrad about a decade ago, and I have to say that my undergraduate peers often dressed with more care and sophistication than the teaching assistants in graduate school do today. I find it dismaying, especially as my group frequently has the opportunity to meet renowned individuals. Is it not rude to wear gym shorts and a baseball cap to meet someone who has won the Pulitzer Prize, for example? I think so, anyway. </p> <p>I get varying reactions to my look. In general, I'd say that looking groomed, made-up, and alert benefits me. I find that professors, visitors, and other people of that stature are more likely to engage me in conversation than a sloppily dressed peer. However, something as mundane as wearing a daytime dress can elicit questions about where I am going and why I am so "dressed up". I do get compliments from some women, generally the women who put some care into their own dress and presentation. The women who do not see any reason to bother seem to have a "who do you think you are?" attitude though and it doesn't help relations any that dressing in a feminine and groomed manner draws male attention my way.</p> <p>It would be nice if people could make fewer value judgments based on one's style of dress, but I suppose that's not going to happen. I do sometimes feel the victim of reverse snobbery, as if the harder I try to look nice, the more friction I will encounter from people who have long ago decided that almost no occasion is worth bothering over. Oddly, some of these ultra-casual folks are not oblivious to their appearance. They may diet, work out at the gym, get tattoos, or dye their hair. But they certainly have a different sense of appropriate dress than I do. </p> <p>Sometimes I get to feeling so self-conscious that I change into a less attractive outfit or remove a unique piece of jewelry. Or I'm afraid to add some of the more flamboyant accessories that I love. It's always a balance. I know I will get some positive attention for looking nice, but I also know that looking nice alienates those who choose to look as if they just rolled around in a rag bin. I sometimes think it would be easier to get away with my style of dress if I was shorter, straighter, or had mousy coloring. But my natural looks draw the eye anyway, so I do worry about looking vulgar when I wear something that flatters.</p> <p>A little neurotic, huh? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sorta-ot-do-you-ever-feel-all-dressed-up-with-nowhere-to-go/page/2#post-116908 Tue, 12 Jan 2010 22:00:30 +0000 Louise 116908@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My auntie arrived on boxing day in a cocktail dress and sparkly heels and my uncle in a tux complete with bow tie and dress shoes and we'd only gone for smart casual!! I find any excuse to dress up is a good one; meals out, visiting friends or family x </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sorta-ot-do-you-ever-feel-all-dressed-up-with-nowhere-to-go/page/2#post-116899 Tue, 12 Jan 2010 21:26:49 +0000 Kristine 116899@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I love this thread and know how you feel. Outside of work, I don't have that many occasions to dress up, so was I excited when some new friends invited us over for dinner last week. </p> <p>I went back and forth on what to wear. Being new friends I had never been to their house and wasn't sure what to expect. I ended up with casual, but stylish. Good thing I didn't go overboard, because they were in sweatpants! It was nice to feel so welcome and comfortable, but I was a little let down that no one else dressed for dinner. At least I wasn't underdressed!</p> <p>I sometimes wish I was born as some glamorous woman in another era. But then I remember there's nothing stopping me from bringing a bit of glamour into my life, just the way it is now. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sorta-ot-do-you-ever-feel-all-dressed-up-with-nowhere-to-go/page/2#post-116897 Tue, 12 Jan 2010 21:17:53 +0000 Jean Gray 116897@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Tricia: Great Post!<br /> I think even if you feel a little isolated in making the effort just keep enjoying the fun of looking your best and hold your head up...it's part of who you are. And believe me there are other women admiring you. We need other women to raise the bar for us. Even women who usually dress up occasionally have off days and still enjoy seeing other women dressing and living with style.<br /> I love Laura65's post about her husband's grandmother. That is great!<br /> I will always remember my mom telling me " I won't apologize for wanting to look nice."<br /> Also, as a mom of young children myself I feel for you in regards to getting out to socialize. I would encourage you to make it a priority to get 2 or 3 dates of "girl time" on the calendar each month. Sometimes it's just a matter of getting it on the calendar to make it happen. And to make new friends or at least spend time with other women/adults even if you don't know them (yet) get out there to social situations like mothers groups, classes, library lap times, etc. Not that you don't do this already, just an encouragement! It does get more challenging when you're a mom to make friends and get out there and spend time with the ones you have. Just gift yourself with the commitment to make it a priority.<br /> Maybe also try forming/joining a bunco group or something like that!<br /> I'm passionate about this because I've dealt with it myself! Still getting there fashion wise...but I would be sad if the women I admire style wise stopped dressing their best! They (especially the women on YLF) give me something to aspire to! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sorta-ot-do-you-ever-feel-all-dressed-up-with-nowhere-to-go/page/2#post-116880 Tue, 12 Jan 2010 20:16:09 +0000 RoseandJoan 116880@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Alecia, I love your post. I sometimes dress well just for the reaction from DD1. We have been snowed in for the best part of a month and when I come down stairs in the morning her reaction is always oooo red lip, ooo pretty, oooo sparkly. DD2 loves to play with my scarf as I fall asleep.</p> <p>I walk everywhere (when we are not snowed in) and it amazing how many people I will stop and talk to on the way to the park. I sometimes bump into friends and we will take the kids for a biscuit at the cafe. These are valid reasons to dress well on a day to day basis. Don't you agree?</p> <p>Laura, my old boss' auntie turned 100 and when she was interviewed for the local press her adage for a long life was a stiff drink and a young man. She was a thoroughly modern lady who wore her earring everyday without fail. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sorta-ot-do-you-ever-feel-all-dressed-up-with-nowhere-to-go/page/2#post-116815 Tue, 12 Jan 2010 15:45:46 +0000 Alecia 116815@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have those days, too. But I think it's more about what I have going on (or not going on) in my life than a reflection of the question of dressing well. I like dressing well. I like doing it for myself, but I also know it has an impact on those around me. I have seen my husband, coworkers, and friends all make subtle transitions in their wardrobes since I started really working toward a fab style myself. So for me, it's more about wishing I had other activities in my life that I imagine are more exciting. And then I remember I work in politics and am married to a jazz musician. My life isn't all that mundane. And I also remember that I actually love it. And then I sashay out of the house in an outfit that I hope is great to go do my thing. Ha! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sorta-ot-do-you-ever-feel-all-dressed-up-with-nowhere-to-go/page/2#post-116813 Tue, 12 Jan 2010 15:29:28 +0000 chewyspaghetti 116813@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm a Mom on the Go in every sense of the word. I don't have a job that anyone is willing to pay me for (although hubby knows the worth of what I'm doing), but I still get dressed every day- and in my community I am considered "dressed up". I leave the house almost every day, and even if we are just going to run errands, grocery shop, or go to dance class for dd- I am glad that I do. Every time that I run into someone I know when I am out, or someone comes to the door, I say a little mental "Whew! Glad I look cute" to myself. The other day one of the company heads dropped my hubby off at home (hubby had been babysitting his car while he was on a trip in the company jet), and I was coming into the house as they pulled up. When he came in, hubby told me that he appreciated that I look good every day. I don't do it for him, though- I do it for me. It really affects my mental state, so even if nobody saw me I would still want to feel "dressed" every day. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sorta-ot-do-you-ever-feel-all-dressed-up-with-nowhere-to-go/page/2#post-116810 Tue, 12 Jan 2010 15:14:09 +0000 Laura 116810@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This thread is so not OT. It gets to the core of YLF, if you ask me. I am so glad to find a place where other people care about what they wear and what it says!!</p> <p>My husband's grandmother died at 102 three years ago, and she was wise enough not to dole out too much advice, but one thing she always told her daughter (who was 78!) was "never let yourself go." Don't let yourself get too heavy, don't get too sloppy, don't let your hair look awful -- in other words, care about yourself. </p> <p>Never let yourself go. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sorta-ot-do-you-ever-feel-all-dressed-up-with-nowhere-to-go/page/2#post-116805 Tue, 12 Jan 2010 14:53:32 +0000 Angie 116805@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That's more like it, Tricia. Keep up the spirit!</p> <p>Big hugs to Lena. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sorta-ot-do-you-ever-feel-all-dressed-up-with-nowhere-to-go/page/2#post-116804 Tue, 12 Jan 2010 14:52:45 +0000 Queen Mum 116804@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>haha- Kristin I went to WW once in my yoga pants with short running pants on underneath, SO THAT I could strip my yoga pants off if I needed to for the weigh it. Every ounce counted that day! And as I recall, the trick worked :-)</p> <p>This thread had me thinking alot. I think this is why I really like to concentrate my wardrobe on casual items. The MOTG formulas are brilliant and keep me feeling put together without being "dressed up"</p> <p>I'm also curious what you guys are calling "dressed up." I call dressed up anything in the upper range of smart casual or more. To me, the lower end of smart casual is just dressing nice and presentable, which is what I aim for. </p> <p>I do not dress the same on 'housecleaning Monday' as I would to go to a Dr. appointment or for church. Nor do I dress "up" on Wednesdays when I babysit for a friends 10 month old, but I aim to keep all my clothes in good condition and fitting well so that whatever I am wearing I don't feel frumpy.</p> <p>Now if you'll excuse me, I must go don my yoga pants to run my son to school (don't worry... I don't even get out of the car) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sorta-ot-do-you-ever-feel-all-dressed-up-with-nowhere-to-go#post-116803 Tue, 12 Jan 2010 14:49:14 +0000 Tricia 116803@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This turned into a great thread! Thanks for all your input, everyone!</p> <p>I wanted to clarify that I don't wear yoga pants out of the house unless I'm going for a run! I do take off my "office" clothes when I get home so the kids (they're 1.5 and 3.5) don't get them dirty, and I often put on my loungewear then, but that's it. I'm home with them on Fridays and I always at least wear a more casual MOTG outfit if we're going anywhere at all.</p> <p>And I am enjoying dressing up for work in the mornings - it's fun!</p> <p>I really like Shiny's point about dressing for the life you want someday, not necessarily for the one you have right now. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sorta-ot-do-you-ever-feel-all-dressed-up-with-nowhere-to-go#post-116776 Tue, 12 Jan 2010 12:58:48 +0000 yublocka 116776@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hmmm I totally get where you guys are coming from with this thread. As I tend toward the more casual end of the dressing spectrum I often feel a bit slobby. And like Tanya, work is where I spend most of my time. And truly no-one cares what I wear there except me, so I try to make it something that makes me happy. I do think its kinda sad that the most dressed up I get is to work, instead of going out, but it is what it is!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sorta-ot-do-you-ever-feel-all-dressed-up-with-nowhere-to-go#post-116771 Tue, 12 Jan 2010 12:31:34 +0000 Kristen 116771@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>In my office, people tend to dress very frumpily, so when I started stepping it up and wearing dresses and more stylish clothes I felt very out-of-place and I couldn't see much purpose to it since all I did was sit in my cube all day. Then I started getting lots of attention for it, some good and some bad, but I also started to notice that OTHER people were also starting to look nicer and try new things themselves. </p> <p>Now I do it mostly for me; it's a lot of fun creatively for me in the mornings, and I simply LIKE when I feel good about myself. My job is still the same and I still spend most of my day tucked away in my cube with no one to really appreciate the work I put into my outfit, but I don't care. I get recognition for it on my blog, here at YLF, and from my husband, and most importantly, dressing nicely pleases and satisfies ME.</p> <p>I think about wearing gear and yoga pants and whatnot to the grocery store as the modern equivalent of wearing curlers and a housecoat. When I was a kid, my grandmother ALWAYS changed out of those before we went to run errands; if she saw someone still wearing curlers at the store, she would tsk to me, "What, they have someplace special to be later?" It just wasn't done, and people who did so were considered to be tacky, and a little low-class. That snobby New England thing has stayed with me even now; I can't even go to my 8am Saturday-morning Weight Watchers class in my yoga pants! I did it once because I was going to the gym after, and I felt self-conscious and lazy the whole time. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sorta-ot-do-you-ever-feel-all-dressed-up-with-nowhere-to-go#post-116753 Tue, 12 Jan 2010 09:53:48 +0000 Louise 116753@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hugs to everyone. I'm with rute i dress for me to make myself feel good. And believe me ladies the kids DO notice. Just the other day a little girl at work said to me ' when i grow up i want to dress just like you. I want a pink dress like you had on yesterday' To take it in context this child really struggles with learning so for her to have recalled what i wore yesterday is a BIG achievement. I think as well it will teach kids to have a pride in their appearence who knows they might one day be president and you'd hate for them to wear sloppy clothes and say 'well this is normal isn't it this is how my mum dresses' x </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sorta-ot-do-you-ever-feel-all-dressed-up-with-nowhere-to-go#post-116750 Tue, 12 Jan 2010 09:28:20 +0000 rute 116750@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>oh.. I'm sorry you feel that way! Dress for yourselve not to be seen, even if no one sees it, you will always feel good! You can also take a small walk during lunch hour, see the sites, the people, the stores and then you have your family and believe me even you kids (who seem not to noticed) love to see their new mom! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sorta-ot-do-you-ever-feel-all-dressed-up-with-nowhere-to-go#post-116749 Tue, 12 Jan 2010 07:38:15 +0000 Lena 116749@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I live in a casual town and I used to feel like this often. Still do. </p> <p>Carole, high five! I dress up to go to Costco all the time. In fact, I've heard through the grapevine that some people who work there kind of expect it now ;-)</p> <p>Shiny, you make an excellent point!</p> <p>Maya, I've been there, and I totally understand how you feel. Hang in there.</p> <p>Hee, sometimes I think my closet is forcing me to actively seek opportunities for socializing and dressing up! And this is no small feat because I'm an introvert :)</p> <p>On a more serious note, recently I've been dealing with something with my extended family and I go to a medical center on a weekly basis. Let me tell you, it's a very old building and a grim place all around. Plus the architecture and interior design are criminally depressing. I dress smart casual most of the time, and yet I stick out a lot. I also make sure I always look approachable, even if I don't feel like it inside. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sorta-ot-do-you-ever-feel-all-dressed-up-with-nowhere-to-go#post-116746 Tue, 12 Jan 2010 07:05:46 +0000 Angie 116746@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I see things differently. We ALL have places to go and dressing daily should be a fun routine. If you don't pay attention to how you dress daily, where will it all end? You'll be in lounge wear 24/7 before you know it. Do not over think this situation. It's not complicated :0) </p> <p>BLESS YOU CAROLE. You look killer in that outfit and you win the next YLF award for being extra fabulous. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sorta-ot-do-you-ever-feel-all-dressed-up-with-nowhere-to-go#post-116723 Tue, 12 Jan 2010 05:39:32 +0000 stylemama 116723@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Very interesting topic. I definitely know this feeling. About a year and a half ago I started a part-time job at a retail clothing store. Before that I had been a SAHM for 3 years. One of the things I loved most about working at the store was that I had a reason to dress up. I wore skirts, dresses, nice trousers etc. for most of my shifts. It was so much fun to play with style and be noticed for it. And to help others do the same. It just never seemed appropriate to wear those outfits in the rest of my life. These days my work outfits are often a bit more casual and more closely match what I wear on-the-go because I've stepped up the outside work style. I still struggle with the super casual at home clothes - much like Marlene, I don't want to spend ANY money on those. Yet I notice that what won't pass for me at home passes for many people in the library, the grocery store, etc. in my town. VERY casual. Still, I'm with most of you - I feel better when I look good, so I keep making the effort. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sorta-ot-do-you-ever-feel-all-dressed-up-with-nowhere-to-go#post-116705 Tue, 12 Jan 2010 04:53:11 +0000 MNsara 116705@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Great thread with a lot of insightful ideas being expressed. </p> <p>I think most of my thoughts were voiced by others here, so I know I am not alone. Remember Angie's recent blog on why people choose to dress stylishly? It seems to me its bundled up with our respect for ourselves and our respect for others.</p> <p>agrace - your grandparents practice is charming. Makes me wonder if today's pace would even allow someone that sort of mid-day routine. . .</p> <p>carole - your outfit is awesome and inspiring!</p> <p>maya - (((hugs))) to you from a mother who sees what a tough time this is for young people. I'm so glad you got your internship and hope it can provide an outlet for you in multiple ways. Keep dressing yourself well, it's an important part of taking care of yourself.</p> <p>(((hugs))) to each of you who wonder 'why bother'. There is very little encouragement these days for dressing nicely and very few places where we couldn't just wear any old jeans and Tshirt. We need to encourage each other and I really believe it makes our own little world more aesthetically pleasing.</p> <p>Sara R. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sorta-ot-do-you-ever-feel-all-dressed-up-with-nowhere-to-go#post-116698 Tue, 12 Jan 2010 04:22:55 +0000 cyan45 116698@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>wow, this is a great topic! although i do have a private teaching job, my day usually doesn't start until ~1pm. until then, it's tempting to wear pajama/yoga-ish clothes...especially when helping out with my sister's 2 young children!</p> <p>i agree with others that it helps boost confidence (even when no one is looking)...i assume you mean people you have relationships with, vs. perfect strangers?</p> <p>like others have said, i guess it is a way to respect oneself and others, especially when doing business (even if it's the grocery store!)...also, i have noticed that people treat me a little differently as a result.</p> <p>case in point: i had my first facial last week (thanks to a gift certificate), and although it was in the morning, decided to dress smart casual despite my later work schedule...i always feel a little nervous meeting anyone for the first time anyway. the owner commented how nice i looked, since many of her clients show up in sweats.</p> <p>perhaps due to my very limited budget, dressing nicely (and buying smart) gives me the confidence that a large account might otherwise provide. of course this is superficial, but i confess it has worked for me </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sorta-ot-do-you-ever-feel-all-dressed-up-with-nowhere-to-go#post-116696 Tue, 12 Jan 2010 04:16:31 +0000 Carole 116696@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Shiny, good point! I tell my kids and anyone else who is looking for work or just beginning their career path, to "dress for the job you WANT" not necessarily the one you have. </p> <p>Agrace- you make another great point-anything goes and is acceptable anymore, we could wear jeans everywhere for every occasion and it's perfectly acceptable. That is certainly easy, but it is very boring and not very creative. I spend lots of time trying to make my home look nice, decorating, painting accessorizing and it makes such a difference in how much you enjoy your home, or your yard or your patio, etc. I do the same with meals and table settings, lighting candles and using beautiful plates and glasses. Why wouldn't we want to do the same for ourselves? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sorta-ot-do-you-ever-feel-all-dressed-up-with-nowhere-to-go#post-116688 Tue, 12 Jan 2010 03:41:10 +0000 shiny 116688@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Carole, I adore your outfit! What a great cardigan.</p> <p>Okay, I have a different viewpoint on this - and it's a topic I have thought about A LOT. My kids are teens, yes I'm a MOTG but I'm beyond that age where I can only wear washable, practical stuff. And, I work nearly 100% from home, so I don't even have that excuse to get dressed. And yet still, I do. </p> <p>My view is this: how you dress - the clothing that you gravitate towards - is a hint about what you want your life to be like someday. It's about where you are going, if you allow yourself to embrace it. Yes, if you have 4 year old children or you're young and just starting out with not much clothing budget, you can't quite drop everything and live that life tomorrow. But it's a clue to the path your life might take some day, if you allow yourself to follow it. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sorta-ot-do-you-ever-feel-all-dressed-up-with-nowhere-to-go#post-116684 Tue, 12 Jan 2010 03:13:02 +0000 Anonymous 116684@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>On another thread, I expressed my frustration with the casual portion of my wardrobe. I tend to dress in my MOTG outfits for most of my activities...running errands, teaching classes, meetings, church etc. But I also spend a big part of my day in "casual" mode and up until now, I have neglected it terribly. I'm finding that the casual portion of the wardrobe has been my most challenging to figure out. I DONT want to look like I am a) heading to a yoga class or b) just back from hiking from my hut in the mountains or c) wearing my husband's free t-shirt from the blood drive. When I dress in the frumpy stuff I have for that portion of my life, I feel very bad about myself. But after reflection...that part of my life IS important. Yes, maybe I don't have anywhere to go, but I do interact with many, many people and they look at me while I am in my casual clothes. I actually do most of my informal socializing during that period when I walk to the kids school and mingle with the other moms. Neighbors do knock on my door when I am at home doing my chores. I do see people when I dashing over to the mailbox. </p> <p>So what is my point? Dressing for yourself is important. Knowing you are put together, even in casual mode, you will feel better about yourself. When I am dressed, I feel more confident when chatting with the teachers as we pass in the hallway. I feel more confident when yakking with the other moms about the daisy scout meeting. I want to do it for ME. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sorta-ot-do-you-ever-feel-all-dressed-up-with-nowhere-to-go#post-116682 Tue, 12 Jan 2010 03:10:24 +0000 taylor 116682@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Maya...I could write a page on the struggles of your generation. You are smack in the age of my children . My 26 yr. old son has gone through a very similar experience as you...he lost a business that he had since he was 21 and a house he bought at 23, he lost it all:(...needless to say, like you he is a high achiever, and set high goals. And he was always able to achieve them.</p> <p>Anyway ...you could never be a burden to your parents, they may not say it, but I was secretly glad to have him home for awhile again:) You are struggling because you *set that bar high* and this economy is the worst your generation has ever seen, you are not able to utilize your education.....hang in there, no one blames you. Things will get better eventually :)</p> <p>If dressing up each day makes you feel better and more confident....continue to do so, whether people notice or not....") </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sorta-ot-do-you-ever-feel-all-dressed-up-with-nowhere-to-go#post-116666 Tue, 12 Jan 2010 02:48:13 +0000 agrace 116666@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>ps. Maya, you are so hard on yourself! You are doing so many things to get to where you want to be professionally....which says so much! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sorta-ot-do-you-ever-feel-all-dressed-up-with-nowhere-to-go#post-116663 Tue, 12 Jan 2010 02:46:54 +0000 shana 116663@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I feel like that often. But then again, I used to feel worse when I was dressing all shlumpy like the other people I see around town. Even if I'm just dressing up to go to the grocery store, at least it makes me feel good about myself. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sorta-ot-do-you-ever-feel-all-dressed-up-with-nowhere-to-go#post-116661 Tue, 12 Jan 2010 02:45:25 +0000 agrace 116661@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I actually think this is a very interesting topic that one could really go into a lot of detail about...it used to be that people dressed up 'just to do housework' or go to the market. Not so very long ago, you were looked at strange if you went to the grocery store in anything less. Now, I feel often times the American culture is so slovenly that one feels they must apologize for merely being presentable. Last week, I wore a simple black sheath to a pediatric appointment with a turtleneck underneath and tall boots, and I felt fine. I didn't feel overly dressed but the thought occurred to me that I probably could have worn yoga clothes and it would have been fine. I for one would love to see a bit more formality enter back into our everyday lives. Something my grandparents have always done that left an impression on me is that they always, always dress for dinner. They might have spent the day at home together all day (they both worked from home as business owners) but they would make a point at the end of the day to shower, dress up and then have a drink and appetizer somewhere pleasant outside (weather permitting) or inside by a nice fire. They did this simply for themselves. I think there is much to be said for that (or at least I tell myself that!) </p> <p>I would really like to hear what Angie thinks about this too! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sorta-ot-do-you-ever-feel-all-dressed-up-with-nowhere-to-go#post-116659 Tue, 12 Jan 2010 02:43:56 +0000 Tanya 116659@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I also feel like this all the time. a lot of things Maya said could be applied to me as well.</p> <p>The only place where I go to is the my lab for crazy hours every day, and nobody really cares how I look there ( or anywhere else for the matter). So I do dress up for it, although it is usually just casual/smart casual, nothing really fancy, I already stand out a lot as it is. I do use every rare opportunity of doing something friends/going to dinner etc to dress up as much as the occasion will allow without feeling silly.</p> <p>At the end of the day, I do it for myself, beacuse I feel the best that way.</p> <p>Carole, I love your Costco outfit! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sorta-ot-do-you-ever-feel-all-dressed-up-with-nowhere-to-go#post-116658 Tue, 12 Jan 2010 02:42:52 +0000 Mellllls 116658@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have those days too...I think everyone does. But it will be worth it when you have the perfect outfit for the occasional date night, big work meeting, or holiday gathering. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sorta-ot-do-you-ever-feel-all-dressed-up-with-nowhere-to-go#post-116656 Tue, 12 Jan 2010 02:40:09 +0000 JennyK (NC) 116656@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Big (((HUGS))) to both Tricia and Maya (and anyone else who needs it!). </p> <p>For me it's particularly important that I get dressed when I'm feeling down. Even if I can't even manage to get to the market, the act of getting dressed, doing my hair and putting on makeup helps keep me from dropping farther into the hole. </p>