https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sort-of-lost-sad Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Mon, 27 Apr 2026 08:15:09 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sort-of-lost-sad/page/4#post-1198407 Tue, 18 Mar 2014 19:25:55 +0000 Mochi 1198407@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Again, hugs, Sona. I think of you and our time in Boston all the time. We are all wishing everything the best for you, and please feel you're absolutely deserving of it. xoxoxo </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sort-of-lost-sad/page/4#post-1198347 Tue, 18 Mar 2014 17:45:51 +0000 Sona 1198347@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>checking in. I posted on Una's thread. I took an FMLA day today. Just unable to work- the thought frightens me. So I am trying to read a romance, wrapping myself in a soft shawl, trying to have a 'me' day when I don't even know if there is a me?</p> <p>Anyway, an hour at a time.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sort-of-lost-sad/page/4#post-1197995 Tue, 18 Mar 2014 08:04:37 +0000 Neel 1197995@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I missed your update. &nbsp;Hang in there Sona .. we are all rooting for you. &nbsp;I think Rachylou has great advice there. &nbsp;Hope it helps you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sort-of-lost-sad/page/4#post-1196912 Mon, 17 Mar 2014 01:44:19 +0000 Transcona Shannon 1196912@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Just letting you know I'm thinking of you Sona </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sort-of-lost-sad/page/4#post-1196813 Sun, 16 Mar 2014 23:14:54 +0000 Jules 1196813@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It's so interesting that you mentioned colouring Ornella - I was recently in a sometimes stressful vacation cabin scenario and we had brought along a giant colour-in poster for the kids. I ended up spending A LOT of time colouring, probably more than all the kids put together. I found it so relaxing and soothing, and also style-related in that I got to think about pattern and colour and make choices without shopping/stressing over fit etc.<br /> Really hoping you are improving, Sona. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sort-of-lost-sad/page/4#post-1196561 Sun, 16 Mar 2014 19:12:25 +0000 Eliza 1196561@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sending warm thoughts your way, Sona. Thanks for checking in and sorry for what you are going through. I have a friend who called her anhedonia a "pause" button; it helped her to think of it that way. She knew that with help, she could again hit the "play" button. Somehow the idea of a pause relieved her of some pressures. I offer it in case that resonates for you. All the best. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sort-of-lost-sad/page/4#post-1196533 Sun, 16 Mar 2014 18:27:13 +0000 catgirl 1196533@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Could you do&nbsp;me/us a favor and just post something short here daily?&nbsp; Just a "hi, still the same" or "talked to a friend" or "going to therapist" or whatever.... It would be one way to keep a toehold on life outside of what you're going through, and I would feel better having you check in.&nbsp; Hugs. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sort-of-lost-sad/page/4#post-1196210 Sun, 16 Mar 2014 06:20:57 +0000 Jeanie 1196210@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hi Sona, sending some healing thoughts your way. &nbsp;Nature is very soothing when you&nbsp;are feeling this way. &nbsp;I also find being arounds dogs, yoga, touch therapy and exercise effective. &nbsp;Sometimes you have to force yourself to do these things when you are dealing with&nbsp;anhedonia but any little bit of relief you find can prove to give hope. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sort-of-lost-sad/page/4#post-1195481 Sat, 15 Mar 2014 12:37:55 +0000 Karie 1195481@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sona, I just saw this - I haven't been in the "off topic" section in a while.&nbsp;You have a lot of friends here on YLF, which is truly a great community. Thank you for reaching out to us, as we want to help in whatever way we can.&nbsp;I'm sending healing thoughts and prayers your way right now.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sort-of-lost-sad/page/4#post-1195393 Sat, 15 Mar 2014 09:05:33 +0000 Ornella 1195393@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Dear Sona, I think of you all the time.&nbsp;Do you have anyone you're close with where you live? Anyone but husband and bebe? I find that I miss terribly my&nbsp;close friends. I do have social life and know a lot of people, but those moments that you share with a friend who simply knows you, accepts you unconditionally, yet is not family and therefore somewhat detached from your everyday life can offer so much comfort, a fresh perspective&nbsp;and a stepping stone. I rarely have that nowadays because the relationships here must be nurtured to reach that point and some show potential, but it can't be forced.&nbsp;But, a visit from an old friend last week made it crystal clear - AND it made me be easier on myself.&nbsp;Just a thought. It may not be relevant, but I hope it offers some relief knowing that when we have to deal with things alone and don't want to burden our dear ones&nbsp;it is so, so&nbsp;much harder.</p> <p>I second that doing things <i>from the&nbsp;outside</i> can provide a lot of comfort in some cases. Last summer I started running because I felt the next thing for me was either that or losing it under the pressure. I'm not a sporty type, but it was an insightful experience. And I try to make things with my hands. I find it so helpful. Little things. When I can't leave house I do mandalas colouring - it's been a saver so many times. I don't know much about it, but figured out that focused&nbsp;hand movement&nbsp;has to have something to do with how I feel.&nbsp;All I need are colouring pencils and paper.&nbsp;<a rel="nofollow" href="http://coloringmandalas.blogspot.de/">http://coloringmandalas.blogspot.de/</a>&nbsp;I hope it makes some sense.</p> <p>Please keep chiming in. Sending love and light. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sort-of-lost-sad/page/4#post-1195322 Sat, 15 Mar 2014 04:20:23 +0000 velvetychocolate 1195322@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I had to look up "anhedonia" - to understand what it was - but even before I looked it up, I felt that rachylou was onto something, and that doing something physical might help - much more than you might think. </p> <p>Whenever there is something "going on" that is mind-spirit related, it's pretty tough to try and heal from the inside out. There is all this stuff out there about changing the way you think or the way you perceive things, and yet - I really believe that sometimes working from the 'outside in' is more effective and works faster than trying to change your thoughts from the inside-out. </p> <p>Not sure I'm making sense here, but what I'm suggesting is that while things like cognitive behavioral therapy are excellent and work well over the longer term - when things are really bad - <i>sometimes it's actually better to work from the outside-in.</i> Really good food, long walks, taking 'action' in areas of your life that are bothering you and so on. </p> <p>Instead of trying to hurry up and 'fix your thoughts' - you might find it faster and easier to take care of yourself from the outside in. More exercise, more fresh air, more time spent listening to your friends yak at you about their problems. You might even want to take some sort of decisive action toward a problem in your own life that has been bothering you. </p> <p>The 'physical' thing? At the very least - you will feel more grounded and more at peace if you are able to sort of burn off some of the goings-on that are making your head an uncomfortable place to be.&nbsp; </p> <p>While I definitely think counseling and therapy will help a whole lot, I also think that when things are really bad - this can take too long, and sometimes "outside in" is better than "inside out". </p> <p>You want to do both - but don't discount how effective 'outside-in' can be while working on the 'inside-out' part via counseling and so forth. Pull out all the stops - it'll take awhile for counseling to work it's magic. In the meantime - listen to rachylou.... a really good way to help heal the mind is to engage your body. </p> <p>Hang in there Sona - never mind frightful thoughts of hospitals or what have you - it's going to work out. You just need to find a good counselor that you like and trust, and in the meantime - you want to look after yourself as if you'd just come through some serious surgery or other illness. &nbsp; </p> <p>Thinking of you, and hoping that this weekend brings a bit of a turnaround. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sort-of-lost-sad/page/4#post-1195290 Sat, 15 Mar 2014 03:32:44 +0000 Parsley 1195290@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, sweet Sona, I'm so sorry you're going through this!<br />I hope you're back to enjoying life again soon. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sort-of-lost-sad/page/4#post-1195215 Sat, 15 Mar 2014 01:46:45 +0000 missvee 1195215@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So glad to see you are posting, even though you're not at your best. It must be very frustrating to deal with this illness, but it sounds like you are doing your best. You know we are always here to listen. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sort-of-lost-sad/page/4#post-1195118 Sat, 15 Mar 2014 00:16:18 +0000 Angie 1195118@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks for checking in, Sona. We are thinking of you, and wishing you strength through this challenging time. Lots of love. xo </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sort-of-lost-sad/page/4#post-1195022 Fri, 14 Mar 2014 21:54:14 +0000 Isabel 1195022@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Glad to see you checking in. Thinking of you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sort-of-lost-sad/page/4#post-1194928 Fri, 14 Mar 2014 20:29:45 +0000 LACeleste 1194928@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hi Sona,</p> <p>Glad you checked in.</p> <p>Sorry about the anhedonia and feeling shaky.</p> <p>Sending you caring thoughts.</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sort-of-lost-sad/page/4#post-1194845 Fri, 14 Mar 2014 18:47:31 +0000 rachylou 1194845@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Odd thought, Sona, prompted by your saying "anhedonia"... have you ever thought about work that engages your body? I'm a technical writer and you know, while it's a "mental profession," it's a total physical - and thus mental - shutdown doing it. An hour at the gym, little walks, etc. are completely insufficient to counteract that. I am coming to suspect my "blue collar" baking job is direct life support. It's pretty much the only time I'm awake. Sad, but true. Because I love being a writer. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sort-of-lost-sad/page/4#post-1194771 Fri, 14 Mar 2014 17:31:31 +0000 Sona 1194771@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hanging in there..by a thread..</p> <p>At work currently...was afraid I would seize this am..not sure why. I gave my partner my husband's number to call in case I really did seize.So far some shakes and loss of hearing/feeling like I am in a trance but no seizure.</p> <p>I have been down the 911 route and you end up chained&nbsp; to a hospital bed until a harried psychiatrist comes in&nbsp;the next morning and tells you to follow up with your own doc and or gives you information about outpatient programs. <br />That is the most demeaning exerpience ever.Anxiety attack&nbsp;is one thing but thinking of self harm<b> gets you chained</b>. Your leg chained. I cannot tell you how deeply I never want that experience again.</p> <p>Mostly I have anhedonia. No desire to do anything. Bebe/hubby are not able to ground me as it were. Floating....</p> <p>...but here. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sort-of-lost-sad/page/4#post-1194267 Fri, 14 Mar 2014 05:00:50 +0000 deb 1194267@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I heard from her today. Not many words but she is hanging in there. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sort-of-lost-sad/page/4#post-1194242 Fri, 14 Mar 2014 04:03:43 +0000 Anonymous 1194242@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hi Sona, I hope that you are on the mend. Don't feel discouraged over the episode. I am about 4 years post my first anxiety attack and I still struggle from time to time. Once the mind fractures, it will remember that fracture. It is just what it is. Just like a person surviving a heart attack or some other major physical illness, we are the survivors of a chronic illness, plain and simple. You are much further ahead, you have recognized the fracture, that is why you wrote this to start with. You were able to assess the situation, for that moment, as an outsider. That is half the struggle. </p> <p>I know that deep inside of you there is a will to live and there is a will to see bebe grow and become a beautiful and talented woman, just like her mama. Stay strong Sona. You can do this. You exist outside of this illness. Don't hesitate to call 911 if it ever gets too bad. A heart patient wouldn't hesitate, why should we?</p> <p>Sending lots of love and a million hugs... Lina </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sort-of-lost-sad/page/4#post-1194098 Fri, 14 Mar 2014 01:23:40 +0000 Mochi 1194098@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sona, I've been really absent here and just saw this. I'm so concerned also and glad you are seeking help and getting awesome people like Isabel checking in on you. This is such a great community. I wanted to say, not that it means anything here or there, that I'm also struggling with some sadness and distress&nbsp;at the moment (though it's not anything bad, just feelings in my case,&nbsp;and there's no need for worry). But I relate to how hard it must be to stay centered and feel strong.&nbsp;</p> <p>Also I was on Newbury Street today and went inside the Second Time Around where you bought your beautiful black top. It made me miss you a lot! xoxo </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sort-of-lost-sad/page/4#post-1192902 Thu, 13 Mar 2014 00:23:37 +0000 Debbie 1192902@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thinking of you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sort-of-lost-sad/page/3#post-1192810 Wed, 12 Mar 2014 22:45:08 +0000 LACeleste 1192810@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hi Sona,</p> <p>I was just thinking of you. &nbsp;Hope you are feeling a little better with each day. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sort-of-lost-sad/page/3#post-1192240 Wed, 12 Mar 2014 10:46:54 +0000 viva 1192240@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You've really been on my mind, Sona. Please don't apologize, and please do continue to reach out when you are feeling so low and so dark. My sister had a very dark period right before Christmas and she did not reach out ... now, she has hit another low, but she did reach out, and I am heading to visit her this weekend. Although this is a very tough time, I am so, so grateful she took the step to reach out.</p> <p>Depression runs in my family so I am familiar at least with how it manifests itself among us. When it hits really hard, it can be so difficult to let people know. I'm so glad that you did, and that you have returned to this thread just to check in. We all care so much and just want to "hear" your voice occasionally. </p> <p>I hope today feels a little better than yesterday, and that tomorrow will be better than today. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sort-of-lost-sad/page/3#post-1192028 Wed, 12 Mar 2014 01:21:12 +0000 Suz 1192028@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hugs, Sona -- so glad that you are feeling a tiny bit better. You are in all our thoughts.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sort-of-lost-sad/page/3#post-1191770 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 17:53:29 +0000 columbine(erin) 1191770@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am so glad to see Isabel's update. Sona, I'll pray for you. So hope you are feeling better.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sort-of-lost-sad/page/3#post-1191685 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 16:22:54 +0000 Eliza 1191685@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Just saw Isabel's update and appreciate it. Glad that things are moving forward. Sona, we are with you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sort-of-lost-sad/page/3#post-1191683 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 16:19:42 +0000 Eliza 1191683@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sona- just saw this and am sending healing thoughts your way. I am super concerned and hope you have connected with your supports, personal and professional. Your sense of not mattering is the loud voice of depression talking. You need some care to put it in its place. </p> <p>I have a mental health background and hope that there is someone local that you can put your trust in, who would see the urgency here and be sure you have what you need to turn this around. I'd like to lend you hopefulness for your health returning, knowledge that this will get better with appropriate care and the will to seek help. I am so sorry that you have to go through this. There is light. Please let someone help you get to it. We care. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sort-of-lost-sad/page/3#post-1191680 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 16:07:21 +0000 Diana 1191680@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sona, I'm glad to hear things are looking a little better and that you are working on remedying this.&nbsp; I'm thinking of you today and sending you virtual hugs.</p> <p>Thanks for the update, Isabel.&nbsp; You are a sweetie. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sort-of-lost-sad/page/3#post-1191659 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 15:49:28 +0000 LACeleste 1191659@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you Isabel. &nbsp;We care and are grateful for the update. </p>