https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sorry-for-my-scarcity Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Fri, 24 Apr 2026 15:45:47 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sorry-for-my-scarcity#post-1497447 Thu, 28 May 2015 00:46:07 +0000 MTBGirl 1497447@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well I'm new around here but I'm glad you're back! Food is fuel, for our bodies and our lives and I'm glad to hear you're on the right track with it. Everything changed for me when I had cancer and after ten years of despair, doom and gloom, I decided that I had to be the one to get myself back. Kudos to you for your dedication to yourself and for yourself. You are an inspiration and your "there has been such a sense of quietness in my spirit. Every action has been purposeful and calm, and truly joyful." is really a joy to hear and something for which I still aim for. Thank you so much for sharing, you have brightened my day! : ) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sorry-for-my-scarcity#post-1497396 Wed, 27 May 2015 21:25:49 +0000 Marley 1497396@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh I've missed you around here Sarah! &nbsp;And, am glad that you are back! &nbsp;I totally understand your need to back-off of interaction for awhile to give you some space in your brain and in your heart to listen to what's going on with you - and then figuring out how to re-adjust, change, etc. to accommodate the new/different you. &nbsp;I'm over 60 and it still happens to me at times - in fact, I'm pretty much in that kind of stage right now! &nbsp;Life! &nbsp;;-) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sorry-for-my-scarcity#post-1497071 Wed, 27 May 2015 04:50:55 +0000 karymk 1497071@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You had the same exercise epiphany as I did: exercise only to feel good and voila! Clothes also look and fit better. &nbsp;Smiles for you.... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sorry-for-my-scarcity#post-1495695 Sun, 24 May 2015 15:49:14 +0000 rachylou 1495695@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I completely empathise. Esp. about looking *too young.* I <i>want </i>to be called *ma'am* not asked out on dates by jail bait (!)</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sorry-for-my-scarcity#post-1495652 Sun, 24 May 2015 13:03:22 +0000 Summer 1495652@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sometimes we need to step back from our lives, Sarah. &nbsp;It's good to re-evaluate from time to time in all areas, including our wardrobes.<br />I'm glad you are feeling more content now, and wish you luck with any new directions you might be considering. &nbsp;Thanks for sharing your thoughts. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sorry-for-my-scarcity#post-1495547 Sat, 23 May 2015 23:49:42 +0000 Caro in Oz 1495547@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Glad to hear your positive steps are paying off, I missed you too Sarah.&nbsp;I think simplicity in a wardrobe can be very therapeutic, it can also let us know where we need to go next. </p> <p>&nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;<br />I know what you mean about looking younger than your years; I had that "problem" well into my 40s. My 65 yo self now thinks just enjoy it while you can :)</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sorry-for-my-scarcity#post-1495499 Sat, 23 May 2015 21:11:20 +0000 Sal 1495499@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>No apology is needed, it can be so positive to regroup and refocus. It sounds like you have been doing exactly that.</p> <p>Look forward to seeing your style evolution at some time and well done on the healthy lifestyle:) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sorry-for-my-scarcity#post-1495483 Sat, 23 May 2015 19:57:39 +0000 SarahTheWhite 1495483@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you so much guys! </p> <p>I am completely hearing what you say about food, Angie. That is truly how I want to approach it. The biggest revelation for me was realizing that the good food is fun to fix and delicious. I just didn't think about that before. I'm not sure why... I had to just wrap my mind around it and think of it as good and enjoyable instead of work. (And that you for the sweet compliments.)</p> <p>Thank you for the encouragement Crutcher! That means a lot...</p> <p>Una, you make 50 (or nearly 50) look amazing! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sorry-for-my-scarcity#post-1495473 Sat, 23 May 2015 19:27:00 +0000 catgirl 1495473@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have missed you but I know that real life can take charge sometimes!&nbsp; You sound like you've been doing some hard work and seeing results physically and emotionally.&nbsp; And girl, 42 is YOUNG!&nbsp; I'm staring down 50 and making the best of it!&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sorry-for-my-scarcity#post-1495465 Sat, 23 May 2015 19:14:05 +0000 Angie 1495465@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>(GREAT to have you back. I missed you very much).</p> <p>I soooo enjoyed reading your musings, Sarah. You are eloquent, earnest and down to earth.&nbsp;</p> <p>*applause*</p> <p>Our health and nutrition is very important. Good job for you making it a priority. I did that about 15 years ago - after my Mama died of Cancer - and have felt much better about that aspect of our lives. Food and cooking is also a hobby of mine, so I enjoy it extra because of that. Our eating plan is a way of life, and we take what we eat <b>very</b> seriously. Everything in moderation, lots of plants, lots of protein, lots of healthy carbs, REAL food, the very best ingredients, and a very diverse set of flavours and cuisines. No banning of anything unhealthy - simply having it in moderation works well too.&nbsp;</p> <p>I'm excited to hear more about your the new leg of your style journey. I support dressing your age - <i>whatever that means to you </i>- no need to look younger or older than your age. Just what you are and how you feel right now. Much love to you, Sarah.&nbsp;</p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sorry-for-my-scarcity#post-1495440 Sat, 23 May 2015 17:23:32 +0000 crutcher 1495440@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I enjoyed your post...Walking the struggles and concerns of other women helps me to understand myself...I hope the eating plan helps...I know you will feel happier and more positive with the proper nutrition...Meanwhile, enjoy the moment...All of the big bad wolves of live will remain there...You have the power to work around them...Best... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sorry-for-my-scarcity#post-1495430 Sat, 23 May 2015 17:04:16 +0000 SarahTheWhite 1495430@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm sorry I haven't been involved in this site in recent months. I have been hibernating. But I've missed you all! I go through periods of time when even virtual social interaction is too much, and this year so far has been a long stint. Work was intense in the beginning part of the year - I even pulled a number of all nighters. I've also been focusing a lot on health. I started noticing a number of age-related concerns. Nothing serious, but perimenapausal stuff earlier than I expected, and aches, pains, etc. I've always been one to find it easy to adapt and become content with my circumstances, whether excess weight or signs of aging, but I finally snapped out of it and realized that while I don't have to be upset about getting older, I also don't need to just give up and wait for death. This prompted a whole lot of soul searching and planning, and finally springing into action. I had gained back most of the recent weight that I had lost, so I set to work and re-lost it, along with a few extra pounds. I'm now focusing on healthy eating and exercise. I'm finally looking at food an exercise as more of a means to feel better than a way for clothing to look better. This shift in focus has really made the process so much more enjoyable for me, and it certainly doesn't hurt that as a bonus, clothing does fit better. I've experienced so much joy and peace in the process, even while some of it has been difficult. This time everything just feels better. There has been such a sense of quietness in my spirit. Every action has been purposeful and calm, and truly joyful. </p> <p>In the midst of all of this, I have also continued to scrutinize my style preferences and take stock of what I have and what direction I would like to go. I would say over the past couple years of being on this forum, I have been consciously trying to ease out of my former more youthful look. While I don't buy into the whole idea of age appropriate dressing (for the most part) it has been an issue for me because of being constantly mistaken for someone MUCH younger. I have been asked if I was my boss's daughter (or told that I look like I could be) when she is 45 and I am 42. (This made for some rather uncomfortable moments with my boss, who was in ear shot...). Believe me, I am vain enough to appreciate the compliment on a certain level, but I have also earned these 42 years of experience through more than my share of blood, sweat, and tears, and I do sometimes wish to be taken a little more seriously. That being said, even with the gradual evolution, I have recently felt a stronger shift coming on. I don't expect this to last forever, but in a sort of grand scale gesture of monumental change, I am transitioning my wardrobe into an almost exclusively neutral state - black, white, grey, navy, a little animal print, with blush and muted blues/blue greens being the only hints of color, and other than stripes, very little pattern. There are some things that I am not quite ready to get rid of, but I am removing them from my closet and trying to see what is left that I love. I'm so excited about just trying this for a time and seeing what may come after a period of sort of "cleansing the palate".</p> <p>So that's where things have been for me lately. I have missed being part of the forum, but I did need a period away to just crawl inside my own head for a time. I look forward to catching up on some things that I've missed and continuing to be inspired by the amazing style and strength of this wonderful group. </p>