https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sometimes-theres-too-much-honesty Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Wed, 22 Apr 2026 10:48:21 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sometimes-theres-too-much-honesty/page/2#post-1933095 Sun, 01 Jul 2018 18:24:54 +0000 CocoLion 1933095@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Your husband has a great sense of humor! &nbsp;I actually like the dress but can guess it was problematic because it was hiding your long legs.</p> <p>Male honesty is a tricky thing. &nbsp;A customer told me on Friday night that I look really tired, and asked me "have you been running ragged?" &nbsp;I told my male college student busboy not to ever tell a woman she looks tired! &nbsp;I am trying to find moments to school him on women skills wherever I can, figuring I am making for a better future for millennial women.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sometimes-theres-too-much-honesty#post-1933082 Sun, 01 Jul 2018 17:19:10 +0000 Anonymous 1933082@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm laughing so hard at these posts!&nbsp; I wonder how men formulate their fashion opinions?&nbsp; On second thought, there is probably no formulation at all, just gut reactions.</p> <p>Mr. Xtabay minces no words when delivering his fashion edicts, whether they be thumbs-up or -down.&nbsp; He does have a good eye, and his opinion does matter to me, but sometimes I just have to go with what I like, and hope he'll get on board eventually.&nbsp; He always asks my opinion on things he buys, and never shops without me, so I guess we're even-steven on the fashion input.&nbsp; So we're good. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sometimes-theres-too-much-honesty#post-1933013 Sun, 01 Jul 2018 04:02:11 +0000 3style 1933013@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thistle, I’m seconding giving consideration to what Thea just said. I’m trying to imagine how a dress with rouching which goes above the kneecap on one side in a sexy deep teal color can end up looking matronly. Perhaps it’s too long or baggy. I just bought a couple varieties of slips for dresses, and I found an old dress that I’d started to hate for that baggy feeling suddenly looked right again. What I’m trying to say is that in some cases the right shapewear shapes the dress (adds structure to the fabric) rather than aims to shape your body in a modern conventional way. For example, one of the slips which I bought has a minimizer on top which layers over a regular bra, and makes it look like a minimizing bra. This does wonders for dresses where the sleeve ends at mid bust height, and also for helping empire waist dresses to be looking more streamlined. A minimizer on top could give this types of dress more of a 1920’s slim chest and dropped waist feeling, which I think is somewhat what this dress is trying to evoke, and I think it’s also what Janet was trying to describe. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sometimes-theres-too-much-honesty#post-1933012 Sun, 01 Jul 2018 03:34:39 +0000 Beth Ann 1933012@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Buahaha! Perhaps husband eyes need some time to adjust? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sometimes-theres-too-much-honesty#post-1933004 Sun, 01 Jul 2018 02:41:44 +0000 Peri 1933004@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well, it goes both ways. This week I told my husband something he wanted to wear looked like a hospital orderly uniform or the ice cream truck man. We don't have to just take it, ladies! :)&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sometimes-theres-too-much-honesty#post-1932962 Sat, 30 Jun 2018 23:16:16 +0000 Jenni NZ 1932962@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>A bit too much honesty from him, n'est ce pas? I now ask my husband very specific questions like "are these earrings OK with this outfit?". Your response was awesome, very quick. I'm sorry you will be disappointed as I know you thought you were all done summer shopping.<br /> Sometimes we should stick to our guns if WE like something on us even if other halves or friends don't. Depends how strong our own opinion is. Best wishes. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sometimes-theres-too-much-honesty#post-1932956 Sat, 30 Jun 2018 21:57:19 +0000 Thea 1932956@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I love his response! :-)<br />I actually bought the Geneva dress (and posted in here about it). Haven't worn it yet but am taking it on vacation this week to steamy hot NJ. It's a different shape than I am used too, but with my recent weight gain nothing looks right, and I wanted something that did not wrap my waist/stomach area..&nbsp;<br />From what I recall of your past posts, you looked great in separates. Maybe look at styles that have a waist, and are more structured?&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sometimes-theres-too-much-honesty#post-1932948 Sat, 30 Jun 2018 21:32:15 +0000 Janet 1932948@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The dress is a pretty color, but that style looks difficult to wear, IMHO, unless you have a very IT or rectangle shape and a small chest. </p> <p>I’m laughing at your husband’s remark because I’ve definitely seen some dresses/skirts lately that look a little “escapee from the compound” but this didn’t strike me that way. Usually those are stiff and shapeless woven cotton or denim. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sometimes-theres-too-much-honesty#post-1932946 Sat, 30 Jun 2018 21:30:05 +0000 danskogirl 1932946@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ha! That's too funny.</p> <p>As for the Geneva dress -- if you're willing to give it another try, maybe try one size down? I tried the Geneva in what is ostensibly my size at the Universal Standard showroom -- but that size looked like a sack on me. Then I tried one size down -- and voila! -- it looked fantastic. Night and day difference.&nbsp;</p> <p>(Also I find interesting the comments about it looking like it might fit better on an IT/rectangle shape. I am an IT and it does fit well on me -- so maybe there's something to that. But I was initially concerned because some of the reviews -- and <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.google.com/search?biw=1483&amp;bih=768&amp;tbm=isch&amp;sa=1&amp;ei=-fg3W43OF5m80PEPyrSeuAQ&amp;q=universal+standard+geneva+&amp;oq=universal+standard+geneva+&amp;gs_l=img.3..0l2j0i30k1.5428.5428.0.5651.1.1.0.0.0.0.61.61.1.1.0....0...1c.1.64.img..0.1.61....0.q-essWKjTtY">photos I saw for it</a>&nbsp;--said it worked better on pear-shaped and curvy women.)</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sometimes-theres-too-much-honesty#post-1932939 Sat, 30 Jun 2018 21:21:55 +0000 Jane 1932939@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I feel disappointment for you because I think you were hoping the dress would be a hit. As Suz says. Next.&nbsp;</p> <p>The colour of the dress is super though. How was the colour - good? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sometimes-theres-too-much-honesty#post-1932938 Sat, 30 Jun 2018 21:19:48 +0000 Cardiff girl 1932938@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ah yes you gotta love them really haven’t you. I ask my husbands opinion on clothing just for fun,It amuses me to see the panic in his eyes . </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sometimes-theres-too-much-honesty#post-1932928 Sat, 30 Jun 2018 20:26:21 +0000 Katerina 1932928@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This is a fun and interesting thread, thank you for sharing this Thistle! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sometimes-theres-too-much-honesty#post-1932926 Sat, 30 Jun 2018 20:21:47 +0000 3style 1932926@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I try to only ask my DH opinion questionsquestions with yes or no answers, like asking if something is too big or too worn out. Open ended questions just end up with him trying to figure out how to agree with me. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sometimes-theres-too-much-honesty#post-1932913 Sat, 30 Jun 2018 18:52:39 +0000 Joyce B 1932913@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Husbands can be helpful with fashion once you figure out what their strengths are. My husband does not follow fashion at all but he is the one who tells me when a blazer does not fit me right or when pants crease like crazy in the back of my thighs. He has saved me from having a lot of orphan pieces in my closet.<br /> Buying dresses is hard but you will find something good if you keep on looking. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sometimes-theres-too-much-honesty#post-1932904 Sat, 30 Jun 2018 18:23:01 +0000 Becky 1932904@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am still trying to teach DH to say things like, "It's not the most flattering look on you." He would totally have said what your husband did. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sometimes-theres-too-much-honesty#post-1932896 Sat, 30 Jun 2018 17:59:07 +0000 bj1111 1932896@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>At least he has a sense of humor with his honesty. And he won’t let you dress like a sister wife. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sometimes-theres-too-much-honesty#post-1932869 Sat, 30 Jun 2018 16:17:23 +0000 Anonymous 1932869@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That made me laugh. The colour *is* what the wives on the Handmaid's Tale wear, so maybe that's where he got his information . &nbsp;I don't ask my husband's opinion, nor does he offer it . &nbsp;It's proven an unsatisfactory and unnecessary exchange so we don't get into it anymore. &nbsp;I also don't care what he thinks anyways ;)&nbsp;</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sometimes-theres-too-much-honesty#post-1932865 Sat, 30 Jun 2018 16:09:45 +0000 Christina F. 1932865@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Haha! My husband is more tactful than this. He usually just says he has no opinion, or occasionally that something doesn’t seem like me if it’s too plain and not in a kind of crazy pattern. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sometimes-theres-too-much-honesty#post-1932864 Sat, 30 Jun 2018 16:06:16 +0000 Barbara Diane 1932864@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have to drag opinions out of my husband but he has a good eye. LOVE the color but would have to see it on you to have an opinion, </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sometimes-theres-too-much-honesty#post-1932819 Sat, 30 Jun 2018 11:41:58 +0000 unfrumped 1932819@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hahaha!<br /> Yes, perhaps too imaginative an opinion, but I agree, sounds like he was well- meaning in the camp of, “ don’t settle “.<br /> I think the color was a big draw, appropriately, and as I’ve said before, I have to be really careful not to bite on something based on color alone. </p> <p>“Next”! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sometimes-theres-too-much-honesty#post-1932812 Sat, 30 Jun 2018 11:11:59 +0000 ChrisM 1932812@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What Suz said: takes my mister time to get used to a different silhouette , although I don’t think he’ll ever really like dresses without waist definition on me. (“Are you going to wear a belt with that?”) My waist has been MIA for several years now - </p> <p>I’m jealous of so many dress successes here on the forum!! Dresses are not big players in my closet - that may need to change.</p> <p>The color is magnificent, although even a rectangle might struggle with that draping. Agreed - NEXT! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sometimes-theres-too-much-honesty#post-1932777 Sat, 30 Jun 2018 01:39:02 +0000 Suz 1932777@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh dear.&nbsp;</p> <p>My husband is similarly blunt and I don't even have to *ask* him. When he saw me trying on that J. Crew tiered silk dress, he said, "Ugh!!! That's a return, right?" :)</p> <p>But he's also the type who needs time to get used to a new style so I try not to let it influence me too much except with clothing I might be choosing for outings especially with him.&nbsp;</p> <p>I was nodding with Donna -- this dress looks great for an IT or rectangle. Fit and flare or two piece looks might be better on you. I would see what Kari buys from this maker. Your shapes are not identical but you're both curvy with waist definition. That colour would be gorgeous on you in another item.&nbsp;</p> <p>Next!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sometimes-theres-too-much-honesty#post-1932774 Sat, 30 Jun 2018 01:29:19 +0000 DonnaF 1932774@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It looks like a really difficult dress to wear if one wants reasonable flattery. I guess I'm thinking of your fit'n'flare dresses which look fabulous on you.</p> <p>I am also amazed by the difference the correct size can make in how a garment looks, particularly dresses since there are both horizontal and vertical fits.</p> <p>Next!!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sometimes-theres-too-much-honesty#post-1932773 Sat, 30 Jun 2018 01:18:21 +0000 Toban 1932773@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ha! Love your response. I am also a different size on top than bottom (an inverted triangle). Dresses can be difficult. I find I often don’t fill the hips out enough to drape right and what is shapely on some ends up looking like a sack on me when I have the right size to fit my chest. Sorry this dress didn’t work, lovely color and shape on the model. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sometimes-theres-too-much-honesty#post-1932770 Sat, 30 Jun 2018 00:58:55 +0000 JAileen 1932770@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hahahahaha! That sounds like something my husband would say. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sometimes-theres-too-much-honesty#post-1932767 Sat, 30 Jun 2018 00:46:33 +0000 Anonymous 1932767@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think it's kind of sweet actually. I mean, you asked him, because you weren't sure and he confirmed that you could do better.</p> <p>As for the cult thing, my husband's phone feeds him crazy stuff all the time. He asked me if it was true women are turned off by chest hair.</p> <p>Because I'm the official spokesperson for "women"&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sometimes-theres-too-much-honesty#post-1932762 Sat, 30 Jun 2018 00:21:50 +0000 cindysmith 1932762@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Your husband sounds like mine! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sometimes-theres-too-much-honesty#post-1932759 Sat, 30 Jun 2018 00:16:05 +0000 Anonymous 1932759@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I really like the look of the dress, but those shapes can be tricky. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sometimes-theres-too-much-honesty#post-1932754 Sat, 30 Jun 2018 00:00:40 +0000 rachylou 1932754@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Lololol! ...unless, god forbid, he grew up in a cult... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sometimes-theres-too-much-honesty#post-1932752 Fri, 29 Jun 2018 23:38:09 +0000 delurked 1932752@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>HA. you know how you ask for their opinion and then are annoyed when they actually give it to you? I understand. But he was confirming your initial thought anyway. Except the cult part was an add on. </p>