https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sometimes-i-confuse-myself Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Mon, 18 May 2026 09:47:42 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sometimes-i-confuse-myself#post-811516 Tue, 08 Jan 2013 05:20:33 +0000 Gaylene 811516@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Most of us have different facets to our lives and personalities, so why shouldn't that be reflected in our clothes. As kids playing "dress up", we all knew that putting on different clothes could magically transform us from cowboys to princesses. Why shouldn't we have some of that fun in our grown-up wardrobes? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sometimes-i-confuse-myself#post-811510 Tue, 08 Jan 2013 05:10:31 +0000 ManidipaM 811510@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think... we've been here before?? </p> <p>:-) I know there has to be a reason I like pencil skirts and dress pants as much as bohemian tunics and tights. It'll all make sense just as soon as I figure out what's common to that!</p> <p>But as for you, Shannon, didn't you already figure it out last year when you drew up that rubric? I think, helpful as rubrics are to dress for (personal stylistic) success, they are also a fab distillation of our preferred elements --- and *that's* what ties your contrasts together. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sometimes-i-confuse-myself#post-811432 Tue, 08 Jan 2013 03:24:20 +0000 Sveta 811432@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What Suz said! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sometimes-i-confuse-myself#post-811426 Tue, 08 Jan 2013 03:16:44 +0000 Beth Ann 811426@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Menswear and Tailored classic/retro both carry their own kind of authority. A menswear look is dressed down, but confident and strong. The more femnine look carries its authority through strong color, confidence and polish. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sometimes-i-confuse-myself#post-811372 Tue, 08 Jan 2013 02:34:28 +0000 Jaime 811372@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Agree with the above that these are two aspects of one thing - I will call that thing Shannon Style and it is fantastic and recognizable in both pencil skirts and slouchy trousers. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sometimes-i-confuse-myself#post-811333 Tue, 08 Jan 2013 02:00:58 +0000 Transcona Shannon 811333@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Fantastic points ladies and much to think about - I always love reading other people's thoughts on MY thoughts - I learn so much that way.</p> <p>Suz - you really hit on something that resonates with me. You mentioned that even when I wear something menswear inspired, I always have a ladylike elements somewhere in either my clutch, red lip, etc. and I've often mentioned that I am very drawn these days to outfits with juxtaposition. So I never go truly "manly" thereby always keep that feminine element that I adore in my dresses and pencil skirts present in my outfit. This ties in with Rae's comments re: points and counterpoints creating interest.</p> <p>Rita - it would indeed be boring if we always looked the same. No fear of that with me though - lol!</p> <p>Tarzy - so you never go full on RATE and I never go full on masculine! and yes, in my world "pulled-togetherness" is a word - lol! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sometimes-i-confuse-myself#post-811230 Tue, 08 Jan 2013 00:42:17 +0000 tarzy 811230@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Very interesting! This discussion has me thinking now about what unifies the conflicting looks I like. Similar to you, I love a tailored blazer, dark wash jeans and sleek boots ... except when I love a slouchy sweater and chunky moto boots, lol. But, as others have pointed out, there IS a connection. Even when I crave a rugged look, I never really go too RATE or rough and tumble. I always try to achieve a certain amount of sophistication &amp; pulled-togetherness (That's a word, right?) I don't like too many different things going on (patterns, colors.) I do like a long, lean line - even in flats (yeah, still working on that one!) </p> <p>Thanks, Shannon! This has been very helpful! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sometimes-i-confuse-myself#post-811218 Tue, 08 Jan 2013 00:29:56 +0000 unfrumped 811218@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think consistency is over-rated, if by that you mean dressing the same way all the time. Instead what you've identified is that there are several "looks" and fits from out of thousands of possible styles that you really like, look good in and feel comfortable in. And somewhere in there are probably unifiying themes of what's in it and what's not such as no puffy sleeves or ruffles or strappy stilettos, but a simpler and more tailored (with a range of fits for tailored, as Angie has been referring to recently).<br /> Also some color and pattern themes.</p> <p>And I think we can have different style personas for different activities, and that doesn't actually mean we have a split personality. It might mean that in certain settings (work vs. fun vs. athletic pursuits) we are able to indulge certain fashion tendencies more or less.</p> <p>Plus you like experimenting with styles and fits so you've identified a direction that you like (for now) and you've posted some other "experiments" that you've decided aren't right for you. You have the ability to identify what is consistent with how you want to look in several different settings. So rock on! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sometimes-i-confuse-myself#post-811213 Tue, 08 Jan 2013 00:18:58 +0000 Deborah 811213@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I see them as similar but different. Clearly both styles share style elements that you relate to and are consistent with your style. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sometimes-i-confuse-myself#post-811119 Mon, 07 Jan 2013 21:52:46 +0000 Nicole D 811119@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>There must be some unifying quality in both of those two looks that appeals to you: both are modern, for example, both have a menswear inspiration as Suz and DayVies mentioned. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sometimes-i-confuse-myself#post-811088 Mon, 07 Jan 2013 21:03:20 +0000 rae 811088@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I like both those looks, and I love mixing them! I think that in a way, points and counterpoints create contrast and interest - sort of the way light and dark colors do. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sometimes-i-confuse-myself#post-811049 Mon, 07 Jan 2013 20:28:19 +0000 Day Vies 811049@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I agree with Suz, I don't see slouchy jeans and men's wear inspired dressing as total opposites. I see them as a continuum of men's wear inspired styling. I certainly love a pencil skirt (tailored) and a slouchy BF jean but both are structured even if they aren't fitted -- if that makes any sense. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sometimes-i-confuse-myself#post-811046 Mon, 07 Jan 2013 20:18:12 +0000 annagybe 811046@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Did you see my two looks on 1/5? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sometimes-i-confuse-myself#post-811044 Mon, 07 Jan 2013 20:15:17 +0000 Anonymous 811044@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You had me at 'confused' lol</p> <p>I thought it was just me because I didn't have my style defined. I like all different styles but I think classic looks best on my shape...or maybe I'm a big chicken to bust out anything else </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sometimes-i-confuse-myself#post-811035 Mon, 07 Jan 2013 19:57:06 +0000 modgrl 811035@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>How boring would we be if we always looked the same </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sometimes-i-confuse-myself#post-811025 Mon, 07 Jan 2013 19:34:16 +0000 Mo 811025@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Um pink and ruffles in one top - leather and zippers on another? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sometimes-i-confuse-myself#post-811024 Mon, 07 Jan 2013 19:33:55 +0000 Suz 811024@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Interesting. To me dresses or pencil skirts with jackets/ booties and menswear inspired are not (necessarily) opposite. Opposite to me might be...say....super bombshell flat-out-intended-to-be-provocative vs. extremely modest and covered up. Or extremely rugged and RATE vs. light, delicate, refined. </p> <p>Okay- I guess those are extremes. </p> <p>But in your example, Shannon, it feels to me like just liking a change of silhouette. The overall style direction can be quite similar. True, if you wear a dress with those pretty green retro pumps, that would feel much more feminine. But even then...your menswear inspired looks usually include ladylike touches, whether a clutch, some jewellery, or even just bright lips! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sometimes-i-confuse-myself#post-811022 Mon, 07 Jan 2013 19:31:51 +0000 rachylou 811022@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm a crazy dresser. I want to be consistent, but I get so bored! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sometimes-i-confuse-myself#post-811021 Mon, 07 Jan 2013 19:31:10 +0000 Aziraphale 811021@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sure, I'd get bored of the same style all the time. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sometimes-i-confuse-myself#post-811016 Mon, 07 Jan 2013 19:27:52 +0000 Glory 811016@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think you are speaking directly to me lol. I just had this same thought while I was at the gym of all places. I love a tailored look but then love a rugged, kind of look as well. So glad to hear I am not alone </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/sometimes-i-confuse-myself#post-811011 Mon, 07 Jan 2013 19:24:07 +0000 Transcona Shannon 811011@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Does anybody else wonder how they can love two totally different styles? </p> <p>I love dresses with tailored jackets and pencil skirts with booties but I also love slouchy menswear inspired looks and Doc Martens. To me these are quite opposite. I'm not complaining or anything like that - I just find it interesting.</p> <p>Anybody else? </p>