https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/so-i-have-accepted-that-statement-necklaces-will-be-my-third-piece Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Wed, 22 Apr 2026 12:39:38 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/so-i-have-accepted-that-statement-necklaces-will-be-my-third-piece/page/3#post-1848520 Tue, 26 Sep 2017 20:26:13 +0000 Anonymous 1848520@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><b>TexStyle</b> -- what a great post. &nbsp;I <u>definitely agree</u> that&nbsp;silhouette, colors, and attention to hair,&nbsp;makeup and details such as shoe choice and handbag choice are very much a part of the "third piece" analogy. &nbsp;</p> <p>Just from reading all these wonderful posts, I came to learn that that elusive third piece can be a combination of <u>so many different things</u>. &nbsp;It doesn't have to a formula. &nbsp;In fact, it would probably be better if it wasn't a formula. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/so-i-have-accepted-that-statement-necklaces-will-be-my-third-piece/page/3#post-1848513 Tue, 26 Sep 2017 20:05:35 +0000 texstyle 1848513@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sterling - Third piece afterthought (I'll try to make it the last, lol) <br />So today I found myself totally not wanting or "needing" a necklace aka third piece.<br /> I choose a simple navy tunic with fitted sleeves and a not quite boat<br /> neckline (envelope?), cropped straight jeans in a light wash, nude<br /> sandals (match my hair) and a navy handbag. I wore a slightly brighter<br /> lipcolor than my natural lips. My hair was in good shape from a good<br /> conditioning yesterday. I wore very minimal other makeup, a little<br /> foundation, a very light application of blush, brow color and mascara.</p> <p>And you know what? I felt totally pulled together.</p> <p>So it got me thinking that silhouette, colors, and attention to hair,<br /> makeup and details such as shoe choice and handbag choice are<br /> definitely very much a part of the "third piece" analogy for me.</p> <p>I wonder if the same feels true for you or if you always feel you are missing the "third piece"?</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/so-i-have-accepted-that-statement-necklaces-will-be-my-third-piece/page/3#post-1848433 Tue, 26 Sep 2017 14:37:27 +0000 texstyle 1848433@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sterling - yes "statement" or "signature" mean different things I guess. But this very simple inexpensive necklace (which I love to wear) has gotten a lot of attention so it feels like it meets both descriptions. Funny how that happens. I guess it was a "wild card" for me. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/so-i-have-accepted-that-statement-necklaces-will-be-my-third-piece/page/3#post-1848412 Tue, 26 Sep 2017 13:27:19 +0000 Anonymous 1848412@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hey, Sterling!<br /> I second the suggestion that you might want to try a Rocksbox subscription for a time. Even if you don't end up liking any of the pieces enough to keep them, it could be an efficient way to try out a variety of styles/lengths/colors of necklaces ( also earrings and bracelets). Perhaps it would be easier to start to narrow down what you do and don't prefer by wearing the pieces out and about for a day or two, instead of just trying them on briefly in a store. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/so-i-have-accepted-that-statement-necklaces-will-be-my-third-piece/page/3#post-1848364 Tue, 26 Sep 2017 08:53:03 +0000 Anonymous 1848364@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Since posting this, and reading all the responses, I have learned a lot about signature pieces (replacing the word "statement"). &nbsp;I erroneously thought statement meant BIG and FOREFRONT. &nbsp;I had been considering all the wrong types of necklaces <u>for me</u> and that was the reason I could never bring myself to buy. &nbsp;None of them said my name because we both knew we were wrong for each other. &nbsp;</p> <p>I still think a third piece is an "outfit completer." &nbsp;I want very much to update my accessory game. &nbsp;<u>It doesn't necessarily have to be a necklace though</u>. &nbsp;Although right now I am really assessing every single necklace I come across. &nbsp;</p> <p>I actually looked into taking a beginning jewelry making class at the local university. &nbsp;They have one in October at a very reasonable price. &nbsp;I haven't committed to it though. &nbsp;I think I need to do more research into what I like and what I don't like. &nbsp;</p> <p>THANK YOU to all the Forum Members that linked to different ideas. &nbsp;I have thoroughly enjoyed browsing the links for ideas. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/so-i-have-accepted-that-statement-necklaces-will-be-my-third-piece/page/3#post-1848329 Tue, 26 Sep 2017 04:25:51 +0000 Gigi 1848329@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><b>Jenn,&nbsp;</b>that's a really interesting way to look at the situation. Maybe a handful of statement accessories would be the way to go. Definitely something to think about. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/so-i-have-accepted-that-statement-necklaces-will-be-my-third-piece/page/3#post-1848270 Mon, 25 Sep 2017 22:17:36 +0000 Emily K 1848270@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think a bag does not qualify as a third piece because one is viewed without it in a majority of situations. &nbsp;Then again...that puts some jackets into limbo (in case you leave them habitually at your desk) and ups the ante for creating a polished look sans jacket. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/so-i-have-accepted-that-statement-necklaces-will-be-my-third-piece/page/3#post-1848258 Mon, 25 Sep 2017 19:30:10 +0000 Kathleen 1848258@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have been following this thread with interest as I've often thought I should try statement necklaces but I can never get them to work on me. &nbsp;I seem to mostly wear either white peals, grey pearls, or a rhodium (sort of a brushed silver) long link necklace these days if I'm wearing a necklace. &nbsp;I'm still looking for a few more options, but I know at this point that the big statement style bib necklaces are just not me.</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/so-i-have-accepted-that-statement-necklaces-will-be-my-third-piece/page/3#post-1848255 Mon, 25 Sep 2017 18:49:14 +0000 Jenn 1848255@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am fascinated by the plot arc of this thread, Sterling. FWIW, I used to be an avid "statement necklace" person and, somewhere along the way, they really fell out of favor for me. I do still wear necklaces, but they're more often simple pendants or geometric shapes than large statements.&nbsp;</p> <p>Perhaps what you're looking for, rather than a statement item or a "third piece" is a focal point for your outfits? That can be different for different outfits. I have a small library of these types of pieces... an interesting belt, a hat, a few necklaces, scarves, a bold tote, a cuff, a unique pair of shoes, a kimono topper, etc. These are heart pieces rather than head pieces. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/so-i-have-accepted-that-statement-necklaces-will-be-my-third-piece/page/3#post-1848210 Mon, 25 Sep 2017 14:43:00 +0000 JAileen 1848210@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I took a jewelry class at the local community college a few years ago, and made several pins. My original thought was putting them on coats, but I started wearing them on sweaters, too. I used sterling silver so they're good quality. I really enjoy wearing them. Have you thought about pins rather than necklaces? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/so-i-have-accepted-that-statement-necklaces-will-be-my-third-piece/page/3#post-1848161 Mon, 25 Sep 2017 12:25:13 +0000 Janet 1848161@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I almost feel like there is some tendency to overthink details like this. Adding something to your usual outfits may indeed feel a little odd at first, but if you're using something that truly appeals to your eye and you find it beautiful or interesting, I bet you will quickly get used to seeing it on yourself. </p> <p>Does it have to be a necklace? Would you be more comfortable with some other piece of jewelry? Statement ring? A really fabulous watch? Earrings? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/so-i-have-accepted-that-statement-necklaces-will-be-my-third-piece/page/3#post-1848149 Mon, 25 Sep 2017 11:43:06 +0000 Staysfit 1848149@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My rule about jewelryis that it has to have some meaning to me in order for me to wear it. Everything I wear is from someone I care about, reminds me of someplace I have been or done, or reminds me of an important person. I think that is the statement more that anything. People frequently ask me about my jewelry and give me complements on my selections. It seems to be an effective rule. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/so-i-have-accepted-that-statement-necklaces-will-be-my-third-piece/page/2#post-1848093 Mon, 25 Sep 2017 04:27:19 +0000 Suz 1848093@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have only skimmed the comments and plan to come back to read more when I am able. But I did want to pop in and say I empathize with your situation here, as I am another who feels a bit helpless in the face of jewellery (especially necklaces) and frustrated at how others seem to "get it" so effortlessly.&nbsp;</p> <p>Like you, I had at one time an idea that a necklace might become my "third piece" especially in summer -- but alas, that was not to be and I finally had to acknowledge it. First, I haven't got a clue about how to pick them, and the reason is, I don't truly enjoy wearing most of them! Like you, I'd rip them off the minute I got in the door.&nbsp;</p> <p>Ironically, the minute I accepted that, I started finding necklaces I like!! I'm not joking. I now have a lovely and distinctive, minimalist choker style necklace that works inside a shirt collar type top. (An anniversary gift from Mr. Suz). I also have a slightly more elaborate necklace with turquoise stones that is adjustable at several shorter lengths. Add a &nbsp;couple of pendants of various sizes on longer and shorter chains -- including my latest "fitness monitor," which is called a <a rel="nofollow" href="https://webshop.bellabeat.com/pages/leaf-features">Bellabeat </a>Leaf Urban,&nbsp;and can be worn as a necklace, clip, or bracelet. (I mostly wear it as a clip and sometimes inside my clothing so it is invisible -- but it is nice to have an option). Finally, I added big blingy thing full of sparkles for when I need to go out. </p> <p>All of these are lovely. All are my favoured silver tone metal (some with additional stoens.) and I truly enjoy wearing them. <b>ON OCCASION.&nbsp;</p> <p></b>But they cannot be my reliable "third piece." Nor are they my "signature" jewellery. Signature jewellery means earrings (which never make me feel unlike myself), my watch, a bracelet, and sometimes a belt. Also a substantial ring.&nbsp;</p> <p>Like Gaylene, I love scarves. i wear those pretty easily. But a necklace is another thing entirely and it is not for me.&nbsp;</p> <p>Why can't your fabulous bags be your "third piece"?&nbsp;</p> <p><b><br /></b><b><br /></b> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/so-i-have-accepted-that-statement-necklaces-will-be-my-third-piece/page/2#post-1848035 Mon, 25 Sep 2017 00:28:11 +0000 Laura G 1848035@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I agree that a distinctive belt can be your third piece. Don't know if you wear belts, though. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/so-i-have-accepted-that-statement-necklaces-will-be-my-third-piece/page/2#post-1847992 Sun, 24 Sep 2017 20:16:17 +0000 Liz 1847992@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>@Lisap, what you wrote about what you've observed in magazines about this minimal look is so interesting. I'd love to see some photos of the women you're thinking of -- especially what the <br />"strongly swept back hair" looks like. (maybe in a different thread if it's interesting enough to you to start a new one.) I think you've put words to something I've been thinking about but don't have the ability to picture for myself. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/so-i-have-accepted-that-statement-necklaces-will-be-my-third-piece/page/2#post-1847988 Sun, 24 Sep 2017 20:05:48 +0000 Anonymous 1847988@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Whoops, I see that is was Emily K who used those words, not you. Sorry. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/so-i-have-accepted-that-statement-necklaces-will-be-my-third-piece/page/2#post-1847986 Sun, 24 Sep 2017 20:05:08 +0000 Anonymous 1847986@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm jumping back in here - this is an interesting thread - because you've said something that struck a chord with me. &nbsp;You used the words "bare and unfinished" , describing how you felt when wearing a plain top and plain bottom. &nbsp;You know, I love a minimal aesthetic, and one thing I've noticed from years of reading fashion &nbsp;magazines and studying editorial shoots and looking at photos of stylishly and minimally dressed women is that they use hair and makeup to make a statement that SUPPORTS their minimalism and creates further definition to their look.....thereby taking away that "bare" look. The ones who do it best often have bolder brows, maybe a bolder lip, and &nbsp;carefully cut and coloured hair that works with this pared-back look. &nbsp;I wish I had the kind of hair that could support this look - you know, strongly -swept back and richly coloured .....Then you can get away with wearing just a turtleneck, pants and loafers and not &nbsp;look like you didn't finish getting dressed. &nbsp;Sorry for rambling - maybe this was more for my own entertainment than yours - lol.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/so-i-have-accepted-that-statement-necklaces-will-be-my-third-piece/page/2#post-1847981 Sun, 24 Sep 2017 19:57:16 +0000 Nomad 1847981@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Maybe consider some varying lengths (and maybe colors) of pearl strands to layer together, depending on the shape and neckline of your top? Stacking a few simpler necklaces can be a statement, too, and gives you options to go sleek or complex depending on outfit and mood. </p> <p>Just did an Etsy search for "long pearl necklace" and there are lots of options, including some that mix leather or other materials for some interesting and different effects. I kind of like this one, which can be worn long or wrapped around twice to make it shorter (or five times around the wrist as a bracelet):</p> <p> <a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.etsy.com/listing/252843087/pearls-on-leather-lariat-leather-long">https://www.etsy.com/listing/2.....ather-long</a> <p><a rel="nofollow" href="https://www.etsy.com/listing/252843087/pearls-on-leather-lariat-leather-lo"></a></p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/so-i-have-accepted-that-statement-necklaces-will-be-my-third-piece/page/2#post-1847978 Sun, 24 Sep 2017 19:53:11 +0000 Anonymous 1847978@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks Smittie. &nbsp;I agree with you. &nbsp;I do wear pearls. &nbsp;I own beautiful sets of pearls. &nbsp;But I do need to start adding in some sort of third element.&nbsp;</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/so-i-have-accepted-that-statement-necklaces-will-be-my-third-piece/page/2#post-1847975 Sun, 24 Sep 2017 19:42:14 +0000 Anonymous 1847975@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Do you wear any necklace at all?<br /> Maybe start small, like a small strand of pearls and see how you feel about it.</p> <p>Do you wear rings?<br /> A belt? There was a blogger who wore a red belt every day as her signature item.</p> <p>You could also make a print a your statement. Like a leopard print belt or watch or shoes. If you keep it small, it won't feel too loud.</p> <p>But yes, you need to add something to your outfits, IMO. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/so-i-have-accepted-that-statement-necklaces-will-be-my-third-piece/page/2#post-1847942 Sun, 24 Sep 2017 18:05:14 +0000 Anonymous 1847942@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks <b>LBD</b>. &nbsp;The cheat sheet will come in handy. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/so-i-have-accepted-that-statement-necklaces-will-be-my-third-piece/page/2#post-1847939 Sun, 24 Sep 2017 18:03:29 +0000 Mary Beth (formerly LBD) 1847939@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This is the link that necklace photo came from, on Pinterest. I haven't really looked at the website, I don't know if it's a legit blog or one of those sketchy sales sites. I think the site was using someone else's photo. </p> <p><a href="http://luxuria-jewellery.blogspot.com/2016/09/make-statement-without-opening-your.html" rel="nofollow">http://luxuria-jewellery.blogs.....-your.html</a></p> <p>ETA: looks like a legit blog. I'm always skeptical about Pinterest. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/so-i-have-accepted-that-statement-necklaces-will-be-my-third-piece/page/2#post-1847922 Sun, 24 Sep 2017 17:15:28 +0000 jill58 1847922@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think I like scarves because they can be thrown on casually and removed easily. A necklace seems like more of a commitment. I wear toppers frequently but &nbsp;also like the additional pattern/texture possibilities of scarves since I don't wear a lot of patterned clothing. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/so-i-have-accepted-that-statement-necklaces-will-be-my-third-piece/page/2#post-1847906 Sun, 24 Sep 2017 16:13:52 +0000 karen13 1847906@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What you and Emily K said really resonates with me. I feel like I am making progress on the basics, but need more finish. Yet in my very casual life, necklaces and scarves often feel fussy. Angie's point about needing to get used to accessories is a good one too. Lots of great ideas in this thread - thank you to all for their thoughts! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/so-i-have-accepted-that-statement-necklaces-will-be-my-third-piece/page/2#post-1847897 Sun, 24 Sep 2017 15:47:18 +0000 Anonymous 1847897@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I didn't think of that <b>TexStyle</b>. &nbsp;What a good idea. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/so-i-have-accepted-that-statement-necklaces-will-be-my-third-piece/page/2#post-1847893 Sun, 24 Sep 2017 15:32:20 +0000 texstyle 1847893@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Maybe someone has already suggested this but I wonder if you've gone to Finds here on YLF and just looked at necklaces to see if any of those strike your fancy? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/so-i-have-accepted-that-statement-necklaces-will-be-my-third-piece/page/2#post-1847881 Sun, 24 Sep 2017 14:59:48 +0000 Anonymous 1847881@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><b>LBD?</b> &nbsp;Did you include the necklace link? &nbsp;</p> <p>The first scarf link is genius. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/so-i-have-accepted-that-statement-necklaces-will-be-my-third-piece/page/2#post-1847829 Sun, 24 Sep 2017 12:40:26 +0000 Mary Beth (formerly LBD) 1847829@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I pinned this necklace guide eons ago - although I haven't worn necklaces much in the past year or so.</p> <p>I also found this older post recently, on how to wear a scarf as a statement necklace in warmer weather. I wish I had found this back in May!<br /> <a href="http://www.maitaispicturebook.com/2011/08/collier-knot-cool-knot-for-high.html" rel="nofollow">http://www.maitaispicturebook......-high.html</a></p> <p>More scarves as necklaces on Maitai: <a href="http://www.maitaispicturebook.com/search/label/Scarves%20as%20necklaces" rel="nofollow">http://www.maitaispicturebook......0necklaces</a> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/so-i-have-accepted-that-statement-necklaces-will-be-my-third-piece/page/2#post-1847815 Sun, 24 Sep 2017 09:34:28 +0000 Anonymous 1847815@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><b>Emily</b> wrote: &nbsp;<i>I'm all about sort-of functional minimalism and I don't tolerate fussiness at all. On the flip side, I feel like my outfits look a little bare or unfinished, so I've been considering adding another piece.&nbsp;</p> <p></i><i></i><b>I</b> am all about functional minimalist (although I didn't know that term until just this moment)!!!! &nbsp;<b>I </b>can't tolerate fussiness AT ALL!!!!! &nbsp;&nbsp;</p> <p>When we were all doing that 30 x 30 challenge, I hesitated to post WIWs because I was always wearing one simple top and one nondescript bottom. &nbsp;No third piece (a topper would have been out of the question and earrings didn't seem to function as a third piece). &nbsp;<u><b>I</b> felt bare and unfinished</u>. &nbsp;I was honestly embarrassed. &nbsp;But I couldn't exactly put my finger on the problem. &nbsp;</p> <p>Then when I was in Atlanta I saw women using amazing necklaces to finish their ensembles!! &nbsp;It was all so obvious to me that all I needed was a necklace to "finish" my ensembles. &nbsp;</p> <p>I should note that the women I was researching were in a significantly different financial class in comparison to me. &nbsp;Their necklaces stood out as unique, fascinating, and one-of-kind. &nbsp;When I say "statement" I don't necessarily mean big. &nbsp;I think I mean "WOW." &nbsp;</p> <p>So the next step in my style journey is <u>to learn to finish my outfits</u>. &nbsp;I like the idea of a necklace i<u>n concept</u>, but I seem to be having trouble implementing the idea. &nbsp;I am not sure what the problem is. &nbsp;I certainly love necklaces on other women and I have certainly browsed necklaces in stores and the internet, yet I consistently walk away. &nbsp;I walk away because nothing says my name. &nbsp;Nothing speaks to me. &nbsp;</p> <p>This is going to be an ongoing process. &nbsp;I am happy with my wardrobe. Now I want to consciously add a third piece. &nbsp;As the weather cools down, I can experiment with scarfs. &nbsp;I can start playing with some of the necklaces I currently own to see what works and what doesn't work. &nbsp;I am going to consider this more "data gathering" than anything else. &nbsp;I don't have to buy anything I just have to experiment and seek formulas. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/so-i-have-accepted-that-statement-necklaces-will-be-my-third-piece/page/2#post-1847792 Sun, 24 Sep 2017 07:22:42 +0000 Barbara Diane 1847792@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yes, I don't like the ones that a lot of the stores seem to be showing-sort of large fake gems. But there are many others available, and, as mentioned before, multiple strands also work well. Sounds like you are starting to figure out what you like.</p> <p>&nbsp; </p>