https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/shrouded-ulterior-motives-in-posts Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Fri, 24 Apr 2026 09:07:49 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/shrouded-ulterior-motives-in-posts/page/2#post-1117491 Wed, 18 Dec 2013 20:19:08 +0000 Deborah 1117491@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Great post Mo, thanks for starting this,</p> <p>And it never fails to impress me just how generous Angie is. The spam I ignore but I have always felt that it was a little rude for people to gratuitously promote their own blogs here. Particular given we have the facility to post pics here along with the facility we have to link to our own blog (if we have one ) through our profile details. For me the participation is key so I tend to differentiate between those that "participate" and those that just seem to be promoting their wares so to speak. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/shrouded-ulterior-motives-in-posts/page/2#post-1117469 Wed, 18 Dec 2013 19:33:20 +0000 JG 1117469@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>At least the frustration of having wasted my time on spam made me put down my phone and get to my chores. When I came back a few minutes later the posts were gone. Hurray! Thanks, Inge. And thanks, Mo, for the thread that's helping us all clarify what is and isn't ok and how to respond to the latter.<br /> Amy K, I was thinking from Angie's comments yesterday that only veterans could report spam. I really should get my phone surgically detached from my hand and go to my computer to learn more about YLF. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/shrouded-ulterior-motives-in-posts/page/2#post-1117440 Wed, 18 Dec 2013 19:05:05 +0000 Inge 1117440@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>JG, those were definitely spam and I have removed them all. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/shrouded-ulterior-motives-in-posts/page/2#post-1117439 Wed, 18 Dec 2013 18:58:27 +0000 minimalist 1117439@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>JG, clicking on the gear symbol at the bottom right of a post opens a little command box that says "report." </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/shrouded-ulterior-motives-in-posts/page/2#post-1117418 Wed, 18 Dec 2013 18:40:09 +0000 JG 1117418@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The last 4 threads I clicked on were all old posts revived by the same "member" solely to give a link to his or her company. Maddening. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/shrouded-ulterior-motives-in-posts/page/2#post-1117315 Wed, 18 Dec 2013 16:03:17 +0000 ironkurtin 1117315@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Eh, the forum moves so quickly I ignore the opportunistic posts. (Although if it's obviously spam I do mark them.)&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/shrouded-ulterior-motives-in-posts/page/2#post-1117240 Wed, 18 Dec 2013 14:38:32 +0000 Liz A. 1117240@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>at least on my computer, it's obvious which threads are old revived threads.&nbsp; they don't appear highlighted, like they don't appear to have new responses even though they are on page 1.&nbsp; i'm not explaining this well.&nbsp; they're white instead of grey for new responses or pink for urgent.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/shrouded-ulterior-motives-in-posts/page/2#post-1117219 Wed, 18 Dec 2013 14:13:46 +0000 Lisa 1117219@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I don't care for the spammers threads, but unfortunately that's part of society now-a-days.&nbsp; Spam and junk mail.</p> <p>Old threads, sometimes I find them interesting so I don't mind if they are bumped up.&nbsp; </p> <p>Links to other blogs, if the person just puts their blog link somewhere in their post, sort of like an after thought, I don't mind.&nbsp; But if they are actively trying to get others to go to their blog and using the forum as another way to "advertise" I don't care for that.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/shrouded-ulterior-motives-in-posts#post-1117208 Wed, 18 Dec 2013 14:03:12 +0000 Jules 1117208@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I like old threads too! I don't see this as an "asked and answered" type forum. I think&nbsp;those do exist on the internet (discussions are&nbsp;closed, answers are voted on for their helpfulness to the original query, etc), but this is a discussion forum and most of us seem to like discussions - the initial query is but a starting point and the discussion can be picked up again at any point. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/shrouded-ulterior-motives-in-posts#post-1117202 Wed, 18 Dec 2013 13:58:24 +0000 Liz 1117202@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am always amazed at&nbsp;how generous and open Angie is. I admit I am put off by&nbsp;individuals using the space she and Greg have created, merely&nbsp;to drive traffic to their own blogs. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/shrouded-ulterior-motives-in-posts#post-1117186 Wed, 18 Dec 2013 13:32:46 +0000 Claudia 1117186@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I generally&nbsp;enjoy when old posts resurface, for all the reasons AG wrote, and as a long time YLF member it nice to recall&nbsp;and sort of&nbsp;revisit some old forum members that spent time adding to the YLF community but for one reason or another, as is very common in an online forum,&nbsp;have moved on or are just not as active at the current time.&nbsp;</p> <p>There is dating on the bottom of the original post that opens a thread, so I don't see why there should be too&nbsp;much confusion. I wouldn't want to see older threads locked, or worse yet retired. I can think of quite a few&nbsp;years old threads with valuable content that is still useful and instructive.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/shrouded-ulterior-motives-in-posts#post-1117099 Wed, 18 Dec 2013 06:29:38 +0000 Anonymous 1117099@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well, I am sure I am guilty of both gaffes (sucked in by spam &amp; replying on old thread that was referenced in an answer to a post); being new to participating. I will try to be more cognizant in the future. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/shrouded-ulterior-motives-in-posts#post-1117093 Wed, 18 Dec 2013 06:18:33 +0000 Gigi 1117093@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I too have a hard time with the revived posts--there's a bit of an emotional wrenching when you have to suddenly change gears after realizing that the post is old. But sometimes there are good reasons to go back to them. Maybe they could be locked so that no more replies could be made, but if a forum member wants to revive the thread, she could just create a new thread and link to the old one. Then her up-to-date&nbsp;comment will be at the beginning of the thread, which is where it needs to be, not hidden at the end of all the old responses.</p> <p>I don't mind the links to fashion blogs. In the case of people who regularly participate here, I just view it as an alternate type of thread. If they have written something informative on their own blog, there is no need for them to repost it here as a thread if they can just link to it. I think there is a difference between those types of people and spammers. As people have noted, there are those who don't continue to engage in the forum. But the problem is, sometimes you can't tell until some time is passed, because you don't always know from the first post. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/shrouded-ulterior-motives-in-posts#post-1116995 Wed, 18 Dec 2013 03:59:40 +0000 catgirl 1116995@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>IK.P, that makes complete sense.&nbsp; It's happened to me too! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/shrouded-ulterior-motives-in-posts#post-1116988 Wed, 18 Dec 2013 03:51:39 +0000 K. Period. 1116988@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I love the idea of some kind of identifier to let us know at a glance that a post is&nbsp;older!&nbsp;I've been thinking about it and it struck me that the reason I'm frustrated with the revived old posts is that I often don't notice it until I'm deep into a response. &nbsp;I don't have as much time as I'd like to engage with all the fab posters on the forum lately, so I feel very frustrated when I spend 15 minutes typing out a thoughtful reply only to discover the original poster has long since moved on. &nbsp; </p> <p>ETA: @Una: IK.P LOL! I love the variety that's come out with this name.&nbsp;</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/shrouded-ulterior-motives-in-posts#post-1116953 Wed, 18 Dec 2013 03:29:10 +0000 Laurinda 1116953@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Spammers --&nbsp;I have no tolerance for, especially the latest incarnation of "Gee does anyone know where I can find a great "Doojit"?" followed quickly by the "I just found the greatest Doojit site!!!" Fashion blog promotion is ok by me as long as they follow the rules.</p> <p>I find the old threads useful too. Maybe there could be a color/shading or marking of some type to let those posting know it is older than 6 or 12 months or so. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/shrouded-ulterior-motives-in-posts#post-1116930 Wed, 18 Dec 2013 03:15:35 +0000 Gaylene 1116930@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well, it's Angie's site so she gets to set the ground rules and I'm fine with that. Personally, I come to this site for the discussions and the help forum members so generously provide to each other--the recent Zap/Tanya episode being a sterling example :)</p> <p>As for the "drive-by" crowd, I just ignore those threads (and thank-you Angie for reminding me that I can easily block those forum members). The same goes for those thinly veiled pleas to "please visit my blog". </p> <p>But, I have to admit that I've often wished that we had the right to close threads after a year or so. It seems very strange to see a comment left for a forum member who hasn't been around for a couple of years. I think it's fair to leave the threads available for new members to read but, if someone decides to leave the forum, there ought to be some way of closing the thread. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/shrouded-ulterior-motives-in-posts#post-1116918 Wed, 18 Dec 2013 03:09:02 +0000 elpgal 1116918@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My experience, Mo, is that these sort of folk tend to go away when the forum does not engage with them. But I am with you in finding them irritating. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/shrouded-ulterior-motives-in-posts#post-1116873 Wed, 18 Dec 2013 02:27:03 +0000 minimalist 1116873@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Mo for a minute there I thought you were on to my subliminal peddling of Herbamwayvon!</p> <p>I got trigger happy with the report button until inadvertantly hitting it for someone who was.just trying to share a makeup tip citing a specific product. Oops. Now I'm leaving well enough alone. This week.</p> <p>Old threads: I'm trying to get better about searching past threads before opening a new topic. As a reader, it's more convenient to find posts in one place, even if the beginning was from 2009 and then there's a jump to 2011. I'm so far behind the learning curve it's not funny. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/shrouded-ulterior-motives-in-posts#post-1116861 Wed, 18 Dec 2013 02:12:08 +0000 anne 1116861@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>If in doubt, I just report it and let Greg decide!</p> <p>I don't mind the rejevenation of threads if they acknowledge that they are doing it.&nbsp; I always notice how long ago a thread was written anyway. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/shrouded-ulterior-motives-in-posts#post-1116855 Wed, 18 Dec 2013 02:00:04 +0000 Echo 1116855@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I agree that these posts have bothered me, too. I have no objection to an older thread being bumped, but when it is bumped by a spammer or someone only out to generate traffic on another site, then I find it annoying. Because the post wasn't legitimately bumped due to interest, kwim?</p> <p>And I am privately annoyed by posters who ONLY post to link to their blog, but that's my own issue. If Angie is okay with it, then it is okay. I just think it takes advantage to use this forum only to generate traffic on another forum; it's cheating to me. And unfortunately the poster I have in mind sometimes gets more posts than I'd like, so apparently others don't see the pattern I do, or they aren't bothered by it.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/shrouded-ulterior-motives-in-posts#post-1116835 Wed, 18 Dec 2013 01:06:42 +0000 Angie 1116835@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>K. Period, I don't think rejuvenating all threads - a year or two old that is -&nbsp;is problematic for the astute reasons that Una mentions.&nbsp;</p> <p>I do not want fashion bloggers to feel unwelcome to post here&nbsp;when what they are posting about is 100%&nbsp;topical. You are welcome to skip&nbsp;those threads - or block out those posters - if their threads&nbsp;do not interest you.&nbsp;</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/shrouded-ulterior-motives-in-posts#post-1116805 Wed, 18 Dec 2013 00:41:20 +0000 K. Period. 1116805@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>@Una, interesting. I'd never thought of it from that perspective. &nbsp;I was thinking of the functionality of it for the original poster, and not as a way to check in on how I might have developed. &nbsp;A whole new perspective!&nbsp;</p> <p>@Mo, you are much more perceptive than I am! &nbsp;I'd never thought of the difference between those two. &nbsp;Like you,&nbsp;I've never been irritated by someone having a&nbsp;blog when they engage a lot in the forum. &nbsp;I know lots of members have&nbsp;a blog, but are also regular participants in the forum. &nbsp;I'm even less and less irritated by those members who&nbsp;drop in and post to promote their blog, then go with limited (if any)&nbsp;participation in the forum or help to any other member.&nbsp;&nbsp;I'm more and more reconciled to them too. And why?&nbsp;I've been taking your approach without even thinking about it! How funny!&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/shrouded-ulterior-motives-in-posts#post-1116804 Wed, 18 Dec 2013 00:39:28 +0000 Mo 1116804@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Exactly, Diana! &nbsp;And even links to one's blog is better taken (to me) when&nbsp;clearly stated, rather than a question posed that the blogger doesn't care for you to answer, just as a means to get you to their blog. &nbsp;Drives me batty. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/shrouded-ulterior-motives-in-posts#post-1116800 Wed, 18 Dec 2013 00:36:41 +0000 Diana 1116800@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>With the spammy posts, depending on how crabby I am feeling at the time I either get all trigger happy with the "report spam" button or I just ignore. &nbsp;</p> <p>I don't really mind links to personal blogs so long as the poster has something interesting and substantial&nbsp;to say&nbsp;<i>here </i>and it's not just a link to their blog with no other text or pictures<i>. &nbsp;</i> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/shrouded-ulterior-motives-in-posts#post-1116791 Wed, 18 Dec 2013 00:26:34 +0000 catgirl 1116791@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I actually don't mind old posts being revived, for a couple of reasons. One, sometimes the topic is current again. Two, it can be interesting to see if my response today is what it was before. Three, if I were new here I would be reading and having questions on everything. For instance, following a veteran's posts could lead to questions about how that person's style journey evolved from older outfits and processing along the way. Even if the OP is long gone, some of the older discussions are enlightening, at least for me with my slow learning curve! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/shrouded-ulterior-motives-in-posts#post-1116788 Wed, 18 Dec 2013 00:23:50 +0000 Mo 1116788@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>K, I tend to differentiate between the 'blog bombers' and those who actually engage in the forum, but also have a blog. &nbsp;Some only come here to plug their blog and leave, which is fine, but not something I warm to, so I never jump in on those.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/shrouded-ulterior-motives-in-posts#post-1116786 Wed, 18 Dec 2013 00:20:12 +0000 K. Period. 1116786@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It bothers me too! The linking to a forum member's personal fashion blog&nbsp;rubbed me wrong the first few times, but I've gotten used to it and it makes sense. &nbsp;I'm glad to know that Angie is 100% okay with it, because that makes it feel very different to me. &nbsp;But&nbsp;engaging people on the forum with a faux question only to link them to a product? That drives me bonkers.&nbsp;</p> <p>The other thing that has been driving me bonkers lately? People reviving dead forum topics. &nbsp;Not stale ones, but ones that have been dead for a year or more. &nbsp;The long dead undead!&nbsp;I'm not really irritated at the person who does it, because they are usually new to the forum and probably didn't think about it. &nbsp;I'm just irritated to be dragged into it (so general, directionless irritation)&nbsp;only to see that the question asker has long ago left the forum or is long past the need for an answer. &nbsp;I'm hoping Greg will be able to come up with a brilliant way to retire old posts so that they can be viewed, but not responded to! &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/shrouded-ulterior-motives-in-posts#post-1116770 Wed, 18 Dec 2013 00:10:12 +0000 Caro in Oz 1116770@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Not just you. I have never reported them either but will from now on </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/shrouded-ulterior-motives-in-posts#post-1116769 Wed, 18 Dec 2013 00:09:10 +0000 Mo 1116769@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I had a second link I goofed on listing&nbsp;&nbsp;<a rel="nofollow" href="http://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/your-take-on-fashion-trends-in-2013-and-2014#position-17">http://youlookfab.com/welookfa.....osition-17</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;<br />this is posted by the self described 'co-founder' of the website. &nbsp;rubs me wrong, but if it's okay by you . . . </p>