https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/showing-up-in-the-same-outfit Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sat, 18 Apr 2026 16:37:03 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/showing-up-in-the-same-outfit/page/2#post-2028482 Sun, 19 May 2019 01:05:24 +0000 Jaime 2028482@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I don't think this has ever happened to me, and I wonder if I would even notice if it weren't literally the same item. Agreeing with the above, it is the total impression that I notice before the details. Would it bother me? I think I would be thrilled actually.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/showing-up-in-the-same-outfit/page/2#post-2028478 Sun, 19 May 2019 00:54:20 +0000 DonnaF 2028478@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I LOVE the combo of Breton T/sweater, white crops, and denim jacket! Such a classic look. It wouldn't bother me if I saw my *twin* while wearing classics. I do think I would be bothered if I were wearing a budget busting statement dress and saw my (taller, more slender) twin wearing the same thing at the same Event and knocking it out of the ballpark.</p> <p>I confess that I tend to be a bit oblivious about what other women are wearing other than the woman standing a few foot away from me on public transportation who was wearing the Madewell dress I was contemplating a few months ago. But I DO notice footwear other than sneakers. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/showing-up-in-the-same-outfit/page/2#post-2028474 Sun, 19 May 2019 00:49:05 +0000 Anonymous 2028474@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh I hear you. &nbsp;This is pretty much why I don't wear a striped t/denim jacket and white jeans combo, or a long black TNF puffer, skinny jeans and Blundstones combo &nbsp; - for example. Those ubiquitous looks we see all around us. I go out of my way NOT to dress "like everyone else", but it's not because I think I'm so special ...it's because I start second -guessing the details and wondering if/why my version looks worse than hers. &nbsp;(or vice versa, ha!) &nbsp; And - I find this tribal outfit phenomenon occurs most often at the garden centre, the indie bookstore, and in certain retail stores where women of a certain similarity tend to be.....</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/showing-up-in-the-same-outfit/page/2#post-2028470 Sun, 19 May 2019 00:38:41 +0000 Jenni NZ 2028470@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It doesn’t happen to me. I do occasionally see the same shoes as me on my patients but not usually at the same time ( one pair are too casual for me to wear to work). I usually say I have those as well and compliment the woman. I think my style is not classic enough or trend-driven enough for it to happen. But if it did, I’d feel OK I think? It isn’t that surprising when one is shopping in the same city? I might have a laugh. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/showing-up-in-the-same-outfit#post-2028466 Sun, 19 May 2019 00:32:27 +0000 Sal 2028466@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It depends - there are some pieces that are universal - if I wears black puffer, skinny jeans and black boots or black Nike I would expect to see others wearing the same.</p> <p>And I do recall seeing a group of women (5-6) where all but one had the True Religion Jeans - probably 10 years ago.</p> <p>And I deliberately have different hair styles to my sisters and avoid a label that they both love.... </p> <p>I do try and have an individual style but of course trends play a part of this.... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/showing-up-in-the-same-outfit#post-2028391 Sat, 18 May 2019 20:34:52 +0000 Staysfit 2028391@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Like Janet, I cannot recall having this experience before. </p> <p>If it did happen, I would certainly complement the wearer on her good taste. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/showing-up-in-the-same-outfit#post-2028383 Sat, 18 May 2019 20:17:48 +0000 Stephanie 2028383@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It doesn't bother me either. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/showing-up-in-the-same-outfit#post-2028378 Sat, 18 May 2019 20:11:38 +0000 MsMaven 2028378@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The Cat has the right comment to make. Years ago I bought a two-piece outfit to wear to my son’s college graduation. It had a white silk top and a beautiful blue patterned silk skirt. Then a few weeks later I wore it to a wedding at the local mission. A second marriage for both so not too fancy.</p> <p>The natron of honor wore the same outfit. I was kind of embarrassed. I told her she had excellent taste. Funny thing was most of the men didn’t notice. She was petite and I am tall. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/showing-up-in-the-same-outfit#post-2028371 Sat, 18 May 2019 19:57:14 +0000 taylor 2028371@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>To stearling’s point:<br /> This is where your accessories, shoes and handbag will set you apart ....your statement pieces so to speak. Takes the ordinary to extra ordinary!<br /> Your outfit sounds fabulous. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/showing-up-in-the-same-outfit#post-2028359 Sat, 18 May 2019 18:40:44 +0000 bridgie 2028359@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><div>My comments take a little different direction.:)&nbsp; Last week I was at a b&amp;m store, in check out line.&nbsp; One person in front of me.&nbsp; I could not help but notice that the employee had on a nice looking navy and white polka dot blouse.&nbsp; The customer had on a nice looking navy and white polka dot blouse.&nbsp; Very possible they were identical. Now, I do not remember what I was wearing, but not my navy and white polka dot blouse. Mine is not the same as they were wearing, but I do have a blouse, a sweater, three or four items of clothing with navy and white polka dots, even shoes.</div><div>My thought, polka dots are over saturated.&nbsp; I know I will be less inclined to wear mine now.</div><div>Before this happened I did wear my blouse with gingham pants and a denim vest with denim and tan flats, and a new round (canteen?) bag, very pale pink with tan leather straps.</div><div>However, the fact remains, that I did wear a navy and white polka dot blouse, in spite of the thought that mine looked different.&nbsp; Thanks for reading.&nbsp; Not seeking any advice. :)<br /></div> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/showing-up-in-the-same-outfit#post-2028346 Sat, 18 May 2019 17:24:55 +0000 Janet 2028346@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I can’t remember ever having this happen to me, really. I guess if it did, I’d have a laugh about it. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/showing-up-in-the-same-outfit#post-2028341 Sat, 18 May 2019 17:07:42 +0000 Anonymous 2028341@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sometimes similar outfits only highlight how much people don't look alike, but I think you're describing a conflict with this as a pattern rather than a single event. As an observer, if I even noticed (!) I would think it was interesting but not a definitive assessment of the creativity or individuality of either person!&nbsp;</p> <p>You could try adding true classics in unusual colors or styles that are slightly modified from the true classic version? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/showing-up-in-the-same-outfit#post-2028336 Sat, 18 May 2019 16:57:27 +0000 kellygirl 2028336@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It doesn't bother me much at all although I might be embarrassed if it was exactly the same outfit. It seems there are enough little tweaks that can make something similar slightly less so. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/showing-up-in-the-same-outfit#post-2028331 Sat, 18 May 2019 16:41:25 +0000 Barbara Diane 2028331@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Once I wore the same dressy pantsuit in a different color to a fancy event. I just smiled.<br /> At the open house for my grandmother’s 90th I was just pregnant enough to not fit in my clothes. I bought a fun swingy red dress. It had enough material to fit through the entire pregnancy. I was not small to begin with. My cousin from the other side of the country is quite thin and showed up in a fitted red dress. I was not so happy.</p> <p>Loved the MOG/MOB story. What are the odds! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/showing-up-in-the-same-outfit#post-2028328 Sat, 18 May 2019 16:30:03 +0000 Lesley 2028328@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I was shopping in Anthropologie yesterday and the sales person and I had super similar outfits on, and similar wavy haircuts. She broke the ice saying, "I was just going to say you had a great outfit on, and then I realized we're both kind of wearing the same thing." We laughed about it. I think LaPed and Brooklyn are right on on this one. Some of my outfits are definitely uniquely me, but plenty are plays on what everyone's doing these days. That's okay! My shopping buddy and I bought the same jumpsuit at the Gap yesterday. We will check in with each other before parties, but frankly, we're adults, and we can acknowledge that we shop together and get good ideas from our friends sometimes. I feel like we earn the right as we age to have too much going on to sweat having 100% original outfits. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/showing-up-in-the-same-outfit#post-2028327 Sat, 18 May 2019 16:29:38 +0000 Suz 2028327@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That photo -- and <b>Carla</b>'s story -- are hilarious!&nbsp;</p> <p>I think <b>Toban</b>'s right. The goddess is in the details. Each of us makes it a bit different in how we wear it.&nbsp;</p> <p>I also think when your style is fairly classic, yet current, you're bound to see echoes of your outfit everywhere.&nbsp;</p> <p>The key to feeling it's your style is to develop signatures. Whether it's your haircut, jewellery, bag, footwear -- if you're really intentional in your choices, in time, that shows.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/showing-up-in-the-same-outfit#post-2028325 Sat, 18 May 2019 16:19:41 +0000 rachylou 2028325@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Omg. That pic! Lol.</p> <p>I sorta feel it depends. A room full of jeans and tees, I don’t think that’s terrible. It’s so basic, so classsic. And you get variation in the jeans and tees.</p> <p>But when it’s something really trendy or hip... right, we call a group of hipsters an ‘embarrassment.’ Like a top knot and red buffalo plaid. Actually, the worst is a group of guys all wearing the miniature fedora at the craft brewpub... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/showing-up-in-the-same-outfit#post-2028293 Sat, 18 May 2019 14:55:42 +0000 The Cat 2028293@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>By the way, I very much agree with Brooklyn's comment.</p> <p>I also like kkards' response. And when I have seen someone wearing an item similar to mine, I have usually smiled and said something like, "Nice to see another one with great taste."</p> <p>I guess the photos of the MOG and MOB in identical outfits (related by Runcarla) were gorgeous. I actually think that was a cute idea. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/showing-up-in-the-same-outfit#post-2028282 Sat, 18 May 2019 14:38:26 +0000 The Cat 2028282@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well, those are clothes that MANY people have, so I am not surprised. But how about your footwear and accessories--didn't they set you apart?</p> <p>A few times in my life, I have seen someone in the same dress as me. It doesn't bother me if I feel good in my outfit (and I normally do--otherwise I would be wearing something else ).</p> <p>Personal style/styling is important. So while we might wear some identical items, the styling will usually be different--e.g. with or without a belt, tucked or untucked top, different footwear and different accessories. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/showing-up-in-the-same-outfit#post-2028276 Sat, 18 May 2019 14:18:28 +0000 smittie 2028276@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Haha YES!! I am not embarrassed but I DO feel like I’m uncreative.</p> <p>So what do you do about this? Keep researching and trying to find your own style. Come up with a signature that is your own and give yourself a break: we are social animals and we will tend to like a lot of the same things a lot of the time . </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/showing-up-in-the-same-outfit#post-2028275 Sat, 18 May 2019 14:16:08 +0000 Anonymous 2028275@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I like <b>Toban</b>'s response. &nbsp;The elements might have been similar, but you make it your own statement by adding elements that are uniquely you. &nbsp;I'm sure you looked GREAT. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/showing-up-in-the-same-outfit#post-2028270 Sat, 18 May 2019 14:04:20 +0000 Anonymous 2028270@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>LOL, Runcarla, that would be a nightmare and the photos! This has not happened to me but I don’t think wearing a striped tee with white Capri pants and denim jacket would be unexpected. Wear your version best. Wear sequined shoes.. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/showing-up-in-the-same-outfit#post-2028265 Sat, 18 May 2019 13:51:14 +0000 Liesbeth 2028265@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Omg runcarla, that story!<br /> It’s true: wearing the same statement item is worse. At one point three of my coworkers owned the same olive leopard print cardigan from cks... luckily that’s never happened to me </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/showing-up-in-the-same-outfit#post-2028245 Sat, 18 May 2019 13:03:49 +0000 kkards 2028245@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>nope. doesn't bother me at all....after all i can't help it if so many people want to dress like me! LOL....</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/showing-up-in-the-same-outfit#post-2028234 Sat, 18 May 2019 12:38:39 +0000 Carla 2028234@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This has happened to me before. Especially common with striped mariner tops - same look as another, but different items. I just make eye contact, and say: "Great outfit! You look fab!" There are two other women in my community with red berets like mine. Whenever we cross paths, both wearing the same hat, one of us will say "Nice hat!" </p> <p>True story. In the late '60s my maternal G'ma was MOG. She picked out a lovely pistachio green dress at the local department store of her small town and was quite happy with her choice. The MOB tried and discarded many dresses, and eventually found her dress on a shopping trip to New York City. You guessed it! They showed up at the wedding in identical dresses! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/showing-up-in-the-same-outfit#post-2028228 Sat, 18 May 2019 12:25:00 +0000 Bijou 2028228@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The only thing worse is when you are both wearing the same statement dress. One of the young girls at work has the same mauve dress as me, we just laugh if we are twinning for the day and tell our colleagues that it was planned. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/showing-up-in-the-same-outfit#post-2028205 Sat, 18 May 2019 11:34:24 +0000 LaPed 2028205@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, I totally know this feeling. I really dislike looking like "everyone else", but I also don't want to appear completely out of touch or off in my own world. It's a balancing act, doing your own thing but giving a nod to the zeitgeist. I definitely loved my wide-leg crops more when no one around me was wearing them yet, because they stood out against all the skinnies. I still enjoy them; I just have to style them more creatively.&nbsp;</p> <p>I think Liesbeth is right that developing a palette and knowing your best colours can help. Thirty-somethings especially seem to wear A LOT of neutrals (safe, easy to find, a lot of us are rebuilding professional wardrobes post-kids and don't want anything too crazy), and adding one signature colour to an otherwise neutral look is an easy way to make it your own.&nbsp;&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/showing-up-in-the-same-outfit#post-2028204 Sat, 18 May 2019 11:33:25 +0000 Brooklyn 2028204@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>To me this raises that big question: why do we want to wear what everyone else is wearing (ie trending) but at the same time pride ourselves on looking unique.</p> <p>I don’t know what the answer is, but I try not to worry too much about what others are wearing. If I’m happy with my outfit, for whatever reason (silhouette, colour, vibe etc), whether it’s fashion forward, trending, current, classic, retro or whatever, that’s good enough for me. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/showing-up-in-the-same-outfit#post-2028203 Sat, 18 May 2019 11:25:15 +0000 Anonymous 2028203@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It doesn't happen to me, but classics (aside from lbds) just don't work for my body, coloring, or personality. But, I do share a few of the same things as some of the other fabbers -but I think we all do </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/showing-up-in-the-same-outfit#post-2028201 Sat, 18 May 2019 10:55:53 +0000 Liesbeth 2028201@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hah! Personally, this is what is probably driving me away from neutrals right now and towards some newfound excentricity. I bought a light grey cocoon coat last winter and when I was in the shopping street with my high waisted jeans, white sneakers, grey coat and beanie, I felt I looked completely interchangeable with so many other thirtysomething urbanites :). The same has happened with my plaid flannel per your picture<br /> I’m a difficult person in this regard, I like to look trendy and part of the ‘cool crowd’ (haha) but I get turned off by looking too much like a cliche.<br /> Your outfit sounds very trendy classic so you’ll have to determine yourself if you mind seeing it on others. </p>