https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/should-i-care-if-someone-hates-my-outfit Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sun, 26 Apr 2026 22:37:25 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/should-i-care-if-someone-hates-my-outfit/page/2#post-419168 Fri, 09 Sep 2011 14:26:44 +0000 Anonymous 419168@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Una, I don't have much time these days, but stopped by to tell you the outfit was awesome, in the off-duty model way. You looked very long-legged and young. It's ok to be annoyed by a co-worker comment. I had co-workers who discussed my outfit behind my back, and that stung a lot. What can I say, the mirror and the pictures are a girl's best friends. And they show clearly the awesomeness of the outfit. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/should-i-care-if-someone-hates-my-outfit/page/2#post-419105 Fri, 09 Sep 2011 10:03:37 +0000 rute 419105@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You are hilarious!<br /> It depends on the person, I respect my mother opinion (she has a great eye for the fit and for what flatters), my hubby (he has excelent taste) and YLF opinion (you ladies are the best and I always count on your honest opinion)!<br /> If someone with questionable style has a different opinion, I say thanks for your opinion but I don't take that in consideration.. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/should-i-care-if-someone-hates-my-outfit/page/2#post-419094 Fri, 09 Sep 2011 08:22:48 +0000 Deborah 419094@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I care what my lovely YLF sisters think! But that's because you are stylish, have good taste and if you think something doesn't work then there is a good chance you are correct. In keeping with that line of thinking I respect the opinions of people I think are stylish but I really don't mind what the general population thinks. For the most part if I like the way I look and feel, then Im pretty happy. Hubby gets special consideration tho, but then for a completely non-fashionable person, he actually has quite a good eye. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/should-i-care-if-someone-hates-my-outfit/page/2#post-419091 Fri, 09 Sep 2011 07:54:03 +0000 Aunty 419091@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh yes I care very much, but there are some people you just KNOW are talking rot!!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/should-i-care-if-someone-hates-my-outfit/page/2#post-419051 Fri, 09 Sep 2011 04:40:32 +0000 Aziraphale 419051@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It's true. Una, you start the funniest threads (and come up with some very apt labels/phrases).</p> <p>Hm, well, I'd by lying if I said I didn't care what people think of the way I dress...but honestly I don't think I've ever had someone come out and say 'I don't like your outfit' to my face. (No idea what they might be thinking it behind my back...). </p> <p>I might care less about some opinions than others, however. If a middle-aged redneck offered criticism on my outfit, I don't think I'd be too bothered. As it seems you are not. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/should-i-care-if-someone-hates-my-outfit/page/2#post-419050 Fri, 09 Sep 2011 04:37:48 +0000 Kate 419050@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>For the first 15ish years of my like I refused to wear anything brown. Because brown is the color of dirt and poop, and so it's ugly.</p> <p>Now almost a third of my clothes/accessories/shoes are brown. And another quarter are tan. I wear something brown or brownish almost every single day. 14 year old me would be shocked and appalled! So given that I don't care that me ten years ago would have hated most of my outfits, I have a hard time worrying too much if people with weird color/style hangups or simply limited exposure doesn't dig what I'm wearing.</p> <p>On the other hand, I will never take things as far as the man repeller does. Though I have to say that either my eyes have adjusted significantly or she can't dress as crazy in the summer because she can't wear a ton of layers (I'm thinking it's the latter), because she looks a whole lot better (or at least not as absurd) in these recent posts than the ones I saw last winter. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/should-i-care-if-someone-hates-my-outfit/page/2#post-419028 Fri, 09 Sep 2011 04:05:09 +0000 Debbie 419028@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Jean-I think you are right and I may not have explained myself well. I do post here for the feedback so I can improve. I recently took back two pieces the forum showed me how they weren't working. I trust the forum to help me expand my horizons. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/should-i-care-if-someone-hates-my-outfit/page/2#post-419027 Fri, 09 Sep 2011 04:04:17 +0000 Jenava 419027@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Una, that outfit is HOT. I especially love the color of the boots. I can see why your co-workered didn't "get" it. At least he's honest...LOL! So, do you give HIM outfit feedback? (-; After all, what comes around goes around! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/should-i-care-if-someone-hates-my-outfit/page/2#post-419026 Fri, 09 Sep 2011 04:01:51 +0000 lpr200 419026@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh right, the only thing wrong with that outfits are the boots...please give them to me! Where's the sword? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/should-i-care-if-someone-hates-my-outfit/page/2#post-419022 Fri, 09 Sep 2011 03:57:55 +0000 catgirl 419022@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>lpr, it's here: </p> <p><a href="http://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/wiw-those-boots-with-skinnies-and-as-sweater" rel="nofollow">http://youlookfab.com/welookfa.....as-sweater</a> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/should-i-care-if-someone-hates-my-outfit/page/2#post-419021 Fri, 09 Sep 2011 03:56:17 +0000 Jenava 419021@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Of course, one of the fun things about posting here is to get people's reaction!</p> <p>And, I do think that both on the forum and IRL we have to be ourselves and know what criticism to pay attention to and what to ignore (i.e. Una's co-worker and Glamour's silly article that showed Angie's outfit.</p> <p>It seemed like, by using the same phrase, Jean was directly discounting Anna's response but I don't think that is fair. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/should-i-care-if-someone-hates-my-outfit/page/2#post-419019 Fri, 09 Sep 2011 03:55:06 +0000 lpr200 419019@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I can't find the WIW- is it UWP? Stake him with your son's plastic sword, Princess! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/should-i-care-if-someone-hates-my-outfit/page/2#post-419018 Fri, 09 Sep 2011 03:54:42 +0000 taylor 419018@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>We just can't please everyone:(<br /> He will likely keep his opinions to himself in the future:) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/should-i-care-if-someone-hates-my-outfit/page/2#post-419012 Fri, 09 Sep 2011 03:48:50 +0000 catgirl 419012@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Believe me, he OWNS it - he considers it a compliment! ETA: Oh, and we're the same age. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/should-i-care-if-someone-hates-my-outfit/page/2#post-419010 Fri, 09 Sep 2011 03:47:30 +0000 taylor 419010@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Jean, I totally agree with you!!</p> <p>I care alot bout what people think...and WE all seemed to care when Angie was insulted..!!</p> <p>Una did you really call Your co-worker a middle aged red-neck?...OUCH! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/should-i-care-if-someone-hates-my-outfit#post-418971 Fri, 09 Sep 2011 03:16:40 +0000 greenglove 418971@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Jeneva,<br /> I do not think anyone has ever given me "advice" that I have not asked for specifically but they have offered opinions which I do consider. I guess I feel that Angie and others offer valuable input and when I am asking if something works or which outfit would be better for an event, I would very much take the opinions of others seriously. </p> <p>I do not think it is a reason not to post but if you are asking for input and then just take others ideas with a grain of salt...I do not get it.<br /> Posting to showcase an outfit with no desired feedback is another thing and I guess i see no reason not to post.<br /> I just felt that others ideas on this forum are worthy of consideration and wanted to offer my opinion about that which others can take with a grain of salt. (I do not know where that expression came from.) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/should-i-care-if-someone-hates-my-outfit#post-418962 Fri, 09 Sep 2011 03:08:48 +0000 catgirl 418962@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well, if I really love something that I know people will hate here, I debate whether to post it, but I often do, if only to give people a better sense of who I am. I feel that gets me better feedback in general. </p> <p>As far as my paralegal, I wasn't insulted or offended at all - believe me, he has far more to fear from me than wrath over his fashion sense. But it is interesting, because he works for me and he is at our front desk, so I expect him to look professional and presentable even when I come into the office looking post-apocalyptic. If he were a woman it would probably drive him crazy, but because he's a guy he's content to roll his eyes and be thankful he married a wonderful woman who dresses the way he likes. :)</p> <p>I don't tend to care what people think as long as I love what I'm wearing, but I do want to pass YLF standards which I feel are more about getting it right, whatever "it" is, than having a particular style. That's why I post even my dreadful outfits - so people can get a sense of "me" and my quirks! And I love seeing all of yours, of course. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/should-i-care-if-someone-hates-my-outfit#post-418954 Fri, 09 Sep 2011 03:00:04 +0000 Jenava 418954@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Greenglove, I have to say that I also take "advice" from here with a grain of salt. Don't you? </p> <p>I mean, ppl can't see you IRL, and often the lighting and angle of photos don't give the right impression. </p> <p>I sometimes post when I'm particularly pleased with an outfit, and when that is the case I really don't care if someone on the forum doesn't like it. (sorry!) In that case, I'm posting it to share, like, "isn't this cool"? Rather than "What do you think" and maybe people don't get that. But in that case I really do ignore negative or "advice" type comments. I don't think that is a reason to NOT post, don't you? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/should-i-care-if-someone-hates-my-outfit#post-418932 Fri, 09 Sep 2011 02:23:29 +0000 MsMary 418932@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Team Kyle. Word for word!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/should-i-care-if-someone-hates-my-outfit#post-418921 Fri, 09 Sep 2011 02:06:38 +0000 Kyle 418921@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Absolutely do not care what the middle age Alaskan red neck paralegal channeling Mr. Blackwell thinks. In fact, his non-approval is probably a good sign. I do care about honest feedback received from people I consider stylish and knowledgeable about fashion. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/should-i-care-if-someone-hates-my-outfit#post-418919 Fri, 09 Sep 2011 01:52:15 +0000 RandomThoughts (Andrea) 418919@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Modgrl, I think everyone has a different idea of what beauty is and what looks good. When I was a youngster I was a TOTAL punk rocker. Combat boots, black leather, huge bleach blonde mohawk. Wendy O'Williams could eat her heart out! I loved my look and, in my personal aesthetic, I looked GREAT! I had the look I wanted.</p> <p>I was asked many times why I purposely made myself ugly. Answer was: I didn't! I purposely questioned 'what is beauty' and flaunted the ideals set forth by society. I dressed my best. I looked good. Just what was "good" to me was not necessarily what others thought looked good or pretty. I really like the MR blog and find her hilarious. Would I dress like her? No. That's okay. I love Angie's style but I don't dress like her either.</p> <p>As for if I care what others think... Yes and no. I would be lying if I said bad feed back didn't hurt. I'm very self-conscious (part of the reason for completely going against the norm as a young woman - Can't beat 'em? Change the rules!) and I would love it if others thought I was pretty, well dressed, etc. But ultimately you can't please everyone all the time. I dress for me. If other people like it, great! If not, oh well.</p> <p>Does Paralegal dress for you? No? So he can jump in a lake! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/should-i-care-if-someone-hates-my-outfit#post-418888 Fri, 09 Sep 2011 01:12:40 +0000 nicoleb 418888@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>People give me crap about what i wear all the time. I realize i have a style that can be....not what everyone is used to seeing. So.......most of the time i don't care. Actually scratch that, I usually look at what the commenter is wearing and then decide how much i care. XD </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/should-i-care-if-someone-hates-my-outfit#post-418868 Fri, 09 Sep 2011 00:35:04 +0000 greenglove 418868@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Of course I care!. I think everyone probably would like to be dressed in a way that was pleasant, interesting, inspiring and expressive for others. Why bother putting an effort into choosing things that suit us? That does not mean that trying to please everyone will ever be the goal. I would not change a thing if someone that is not into style at all voices a negative opinion but if it was someone I respected in a fashion way, I would listen and think about the criticism. If it was valid , I may change something. We often learn from how others see our outfits.</p> <p>I do not understand why anyone would post here if the opinions given were taken with a grain of salt. Unless no feedback was wanted in which case, I suppose I can understand.</p> <p>I respect all of your insights.<br /> Una, you are in a league of your own and your style will never be mainstream enough to please everyone- I am in the same boat.</p> <p>Sounds like you have a good relationship with your coworker and he probably realizes that he is not about to become your stylist. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/should-i-care-if-someone-hates-my-outfit#post-418858 Fri, 09 Sep 2011 00:18:29 +0000 Sona 418858@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>lets set up your paralegal with my 'recycle bin' nurse. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/should-i-care-if-someone-hates-my-outfit#post-418853 Fri, 09 Sep 2011 00:16:19 +0000 Vildy 418853@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I didn't see the outfit yet but I was wondering. You mentioned before that your required work look is at odds with what you'd love to wear. Because you didn't have to see anyone today, is it possible your outfit was closer to what you'd rather wear and when it was criticized it felt more like a personal rejection than a rejection of a buncha clothes? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/should-i-care-if-someone-hates-my-outfit#post-418818 Thu, 08 Sep 2011 23:21:15 +0000 Jonesy 418818@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Una, that doesn't look like a Man Repeller outfit to me at all! You look conventionally good-looking in it--your paralegal is just wacked. </p> <p>And I'm another fan of the MR blog. Rita, to her (and to lots of readers, myself included) her clothes *do* look good :), not bad at all! Sort of like Susie from the Style Bubble blog. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/should-i-care-if-someone-hates-my-outfit#post-418798 Thu, 08 Sep 2011 22:41:19 +0000 cciele 418798@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Also a fan of Man Repeller. There's someone who is really having fun with fashion. And so are you Uma!</p> <p>I usually don't care what other people think about my outfits. I typically might get a few comments each week about outfits, but they are all positive (thanks to YLF!). I'll take into consideration the opinion of people I care about or trust (boyfriend, you guys, for example) but if I like it, I'm going to wear it </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/should-i-care-if-someone-hates-my-outfit#post-418770 Thu, 08 Sep 2011 21:42:56 +0000 Debbie 418770@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Do you love the outfit? That is the most important point. The rule here is have fun.<br /> When I took those new shoes out of the box last night I could tell my husband was questioning my sanity. I love them and therefore I'm keeping them.<br /> The outfit you had on today is stunning in my opinion and you should keep wearing it.<br /> By the way I'm jealous that you can wear boots now. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/should-i-care-if-someone-hates-my-outfit#post-418754 Thu, 08 Sep 2011 21:08:51 +0000 Kat 418754@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I love the humor in the Man Repeller site (sarcasm is one of my languages and I don't think the snark is directed at a person, but rather pointedly at an attitude toward fashion and the fact that some women dress to look cool to other women, without regard for what appeals to themselves). That said, my husband is a member of the khakis and hawaiian shirts brigade, so I appreciate when he appreciates an outfit, but don't get too upset when he doesn't "get" it. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/should-i-care-if-someone-hates-my-outfit#post-418749 Thu, 08 Sep 2011 20:59:18 +0000 rachylou 418749@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Man Repeller is brilliant. It's just hilarious. High Fashion is totally man-repellent and more effective than the pill. You can't wear anything styled for the runway on the street without being taken for a cast member of the next Tim Burton movie. </p>