https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/shoes-for-a-funeral Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Mon, 06 Apr 2026 09:34:37 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/shoes-for-a-funeral#post-670609 Tue, 17 Jul 2012 02:57:33 +0000 Echo 670609@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My mother and I drove there yesterday and the service was today. I need not have worried about shoes. The service was in a beautiful Episcopalian church, but the attire (and shoe styles) were all over the board. Still, it was good to see so many in attendance. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/shoes-for-a-funeral#post-669381 Sun, 15 Jul 2012 20:38:23 +0000 christieanne 669381@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My thoughts are with you and your family - it's hard to see a loved one go through such sadness. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/shoes-for-a-funeral#post-668819 Sat, 14 Jul 2012 22:10:37 +0000 Echo 668819@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you all so much for your replies. My mom and I will be leaving to drive to the location tomorrow and the funeral is at noon on Monday. I barely knew the man, but my heart breaks for my sister. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/shoes-for-a-funeral#post-668618 Sat, 14 Jul 2012 17:20:55 +0000 Sheila 668618@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I agree with all previous posters regarding the sandals. As a former church organist who has played for many funerals, I think the biggest no-no these days are:</p> <p>- cleavage<br /> - mini skirts<br /> - jewelry that is ostentatious or makes a lot of noise, like jangly bracelets<br /> - too much perfume </p> <p>The above excesses are out of place and are noticed by others at a funeral. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/shoes-for-a-funeral#post-668600 Sat, 14 Jul 2012 16:32:18 +0000 Jonesy 668600@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am very sorry. I feel like most people who are sad or grieving don't even notice what people are wearing, truly! Unless it's something outlandish, of course, and I would not put dark sandals in that category, especially on a scorching hot day. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/shoes-for-a-funeral#post-668487 Sat, 14 Jul 2012 14:32:02 +0000 JR 668487@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think the key thing at a funeral is not to look festive or to try to draw attention to yourself. Unless the families involved are hyper-sensitive about protocol, and the kind of people who look for ways to get offended, I don't see anything wrong whatsoever with sandals. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/shoes-for-a-funeral#post-668432 Sat, 14 Jul 2012 12:56:45 +0000 JennyAnne 668432@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So sad. :-(<br /> I think the sandals sound fine. I'm with others that I don't think of sandals as inappropriate at all. As long as they're not Birkenstocks or something, I think a nice sandal can be as dressy as a pump or loafer. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/shoes-for-a-funeral#post-668430 Sat, 14 Jul 2012 12:50:03 +0000 Janet 668430@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think that sounds quite appropriate. I've worn simple black wedge sandals with a black patterned dress for a funeral before, and I felt just fine. </p> <p>I'm sorry for your family's loss. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/shoes-for-a-funeral#post-668405 Sat, 14 Jul 2012 11:10:35 +0000 Deborah 668405@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>In agreement with the others here Echo. Your mum's sandals sound perfectly appropriate. I am sorry for your sister's loss. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/shoes-for-a-funeral#post-668380 Sat, 14 Jul 2012 06:07:50 +0000 Jenava 668380@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think it would be more inappropriate for your mother to be uncomfortable. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/shoes-for-a-funeral#post-668317 Sat, 14 Jul 2012 03:51:49 +0000 Laura (rhubarbgirl) 668317@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think low-heeled dark sandals, given that it's the middle of the summer, as long as the rest of the outfit is appropriate, would be perfectly fine. </p> <p>Sorry for your family's loss. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/shoes-for-a-funeral#post-668247 Sat, 14 Jul 2012 02:36:04 +0000 Kari 668247@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Echo, I'm so sorry for your sister's loss.</p> <p>I think honestly it depends on how formal the funeral is likely to be. I went to a memorial service where the immediate family of the man who passed away were wearing 4" strappy heels. At my grandma's memorial service, which was held in the spring and where it was essentially a life celebration, I wore red shoes. So far, all of the funerals I have been to have been far on the relaxed side and held in a community center or outside, not in a church. </p> <p>I'd think that unless the funeral was going to be in a venue or in a social setting known for its formality, and given the extreme temperatures, low sandals that are dark/muted in color wouldn't be amiss. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/shoes-for-a-funeral#post-668211 Sat, 14 Jul 2012 02:12:44 +0000 Echo 668211@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My sister's SO passed away on Wednesday and the funeral is on Monday. My mother is wondering if it is appropriate to wear sandals. Knowing that it will be almost 100 F degrees, that she is 73, will be wearing black slacks and that her sandals will be low and comfortable (with no bright toenail polish), I said yes. </p> <p>However, I see so many conflicting opinions on various sites about this. Are low-heeled, conservative, dark coloured sandals appropriate for a funeral in 100 F degree weather? Or would closed-toe shoes simply be better? </p>