https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/she-wore-blue-velvet Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Wed, 10 Jun 2026 00:32:13 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/she-wore-blue-velvet#post-1167034 Fri, 14 Feb 2014 20:31:43 +0000 Gigi 1167034@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Wow, what an emotional climate to have to dress in. I think you're doing a great job. No one should have to dress to feel safe on a daily basis. How do other people in OK dress, that you stand out? (Now you have me curious.) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/she-wore-blue-velvet#post-1166670 Fri, 14 Feb 2014 15:10:54 +0000 E 1166670@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Awww: that sounds terrible. I'm sorry you have to deal with that. I have no advice, as I've never been in a similar situation (whenever I've felt threatened it's been by men, so I'm saving up to enroll in some self-defense classes as a solution, lol), but lots of commiserations. At least you have the forum now for moral support! Hopefully you can find a way to dress that makes you happy &amp; doesn't get you hostile attention when you're out and about. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/she-wore-blue-velvet#post-1166625 Fri, 14 Feb 2014 14:22:50 +0000 Suz 1166625@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This is lovely on you. I really like the rich textures and colours and the simplicity of your hair. It just works beautifully.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/she-wore-blue-velvet#post-1166618 Fri, 14 Feb 2014 14:14:25 +0000 MuseumGal 1166618@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Haha Gigi, I'm not quite in a burqua today after all. </p> <p>E, the attention is from strangers and quasi-strangers; those who know me are actually used to me dressing far more outrageously than I do know (where "outrageous" just means sort of SF urban hip/granola/boho instead of, well, like an Okie).&nbsp; Then and now the unwanted attention was partly male gaze*, but mainly it is other women checking me out in a way that feels very unfriendly and almost threatening.&nbsp; I've never felt this anywhere but OK, and it's what led me to start dressing so horribly for so many years, and why I'm struggling now to find ways to dress that bring me joy (but make me feel safe).&nbsp; I have had other non-Okies who like to dress nicely tell me they have had similar issues when they came to OK, so I don't think I'm imagining it.&nbsp; (My Hermes loving friend became a hermit for the 2 years she lived here, she felt it so acutely - and it's not like anyone had the faintest idea that she was dressed in designer duds.)</p> <p>The male gaze bothers me far less now than it did when I was younger.&nbsp; Getting old(er) and fat(ter) (and completely failing to meet any OK standards for female pulchritude) has reduced the frequency to the point that when when it does happen I rather get a kick out of it.&nbsp; </p> <p>I could talk about this stuff forever; but I'd better stop now.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/she-wore-blue-velvet#post-1166545 Fri, 14 Feb 2014 12:02:07 +0000 E 1166545@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Love (obviously)! Velvet and waistcoats and fabness oh my. ;)</p> <p>What kind of attention are you getting? From strangers or from people you know? What's bad about it? You've said how much you liked both of the dandy outfits on a personal level, so it seems a shame to not wear them because of others, depending on what type of attention it is. Obviously, comments from your boss are different from strangers in a grocery store. As I sometimes deliberately dress to thwart/avoid the male gaze &amp;&nbsp;send off vibes of primness to be left alone, I'm not saying at all that it's automatically&nbsp;wrong to change your style due to others. And if you don't want to talk about it, that's obviously fine too.&nbsp;Just thought I'd bring it up as you've mentioned it in the last couple of posts!</p> <p>Also, I'm pretty sure wearing a burka in OK&nbsp;would get you even more attention. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/she-wore-blue-velvet#post-1166444 Fri, 14 Feb 2014 05:32:31 +0000 Gigi 1166444@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This is a great outfit! Don't you hate it how those important little details (like the buttons on your booties) don't show up in photos? They're such an important part of the outfit!</p> <p>I look forward to the burqa. Just make sure it's cobalt or teal. :^)&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/she-wore-blue-velvet#post-1166416 Fri, 14 Feb 2014 04:23:52 +0000 rabbit 1166416@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Love how the&nbsp;layers all work together with texture, cut,&nbsp;and color! &nbsp;You look smashing and dapper, and your hairstyle and clip are very lovely and flattering&nbsp;(as are your glasses frames). </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/she-wore-blue-velvet#post-1166407 Fri, 14 Feb 2014 04:08:50 +0000 Beth Ann 1166407@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Atta girl!&nbsp; Velvet dandy is a fab look for you.&nbsp; I like the way the three necklineds echo the v-theme.</p> <p>You are on a roll!&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/she-wore-blue-velvet#post-1166325 Fri, 14 Feb 2014 02:22:54 +0000 carambola 1166325@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Wow, you are on a roll! I love this and also loved your outfit from yesterday, although I didn't get a chance to comment on that one. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/she-wore-blue-velvet#post-1166313 Fri, 14 Feb 2014 02:09:51 +0000 SarahTheWhite 1166313@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I love everything about this... The colors, textures, layers... Velvet! And I really love the silver hair accessory. You look wonderful!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/she-wore-blue-velvet#post-1166311 Fri, 14 Feb 2014 02:08:03 +0000 Jaime 1166311@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I love a good blue velvet jacket and the vest is great&nbsp;on you!&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/she-wore-blue-velvet#post-1166296 Fri, 14 Feb 2014 01:55:44 +0000 MuseumGal 1166296@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks all.&nbsp; Glad the gentlemanly thing is working.<br />Aubergine, I only have one blue velvet blazer.&nbsp; The one from yesterday is teal.&nbsp; But I lurve them both.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/she-wore-blue-velvet#post-1166203 Fri, 14 Feb 2014 00:28:54 +0000 Helena 1166203@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>the color and texture of the velvet are very flattering! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/she-wore-blue-velvet#post-1166201 Fri, 14 Feb 2014 00:26:31 +0000 pil 1166201@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Really, really nice! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/she-wore-blue-velvet#post-1166194 Fri, 14 Feb 2014 00:18:18 +0000 Emily 1166194@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I like how your hair, jewellery and makeup keep this dapper ensemble looking feminine. &nbsp;You look great! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/she-wore-blue-velvet#post-1166181 Fri, 14 Feb 2014 00:03:11 +0000 rachylou 1166181@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I cannot tell you how incredible you look in deep jewel tones, like this blue velvet blazer, Museum Gal. Really beautiful. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/she-wore-blue-velvet#post-1166159 Thu, 13 Feb 2014 23:20:11 +0000 Anonymous 1166159@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Really fun! You look great. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/she-wore-blue-velvet#post-1166150 Thu, 13 Feb 2014 22:56:36 +0000 Anonymous 1166150@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You have <i>two</i> separate blue velvet jackets?!? Serious envy!</p> <p>I really like the jacket&nbsp;with the vest. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/she-wore-blue-velvet#post-1166147 Thu, 13 Feb 2014 22:34:40 +0000 April 1166147@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I can see why you got attention in this, MG -- you're glowing in it! &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/she-wore-blue-velvet#post-1166141 Thu, 13 Feb 2014 22:22:20 +0000 Thistle 1166141@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Woohoo, lovin' that velvet jacket!! So rich and luxurious.&nbsp; I love the lightbulb exploding imagery! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/she-wore-blue-velvet#post-1166134 Thu, 13 Feb 2014 22:17:41 +0000 Ornella 1166134@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Great layering for a&nbsp;great look. I had a good giggle at the lightbulb exploding over your head </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/she-wore-blue-velvet#post-1166133 Thu, 13 Feb 2014 22:17:19 +0000 Nicole D 1166133@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thoughtful and well put together. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/she-wore-blue-velvet#post-1166127 Thu, 13 Feb 2014 22:12:11 +0000 catgirl 1166127@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well this is my favorite look of any you've posted. Fun, flattering, strong style, and VELVET! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/she-wore-blue-velvet#post-1166125 Thu, 13 Feb 2014 22:10:50 +0000 MuseumGal 1166125@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ever since E posted her flâneuse brown velvet jacket, I've been dying to break out this blue velvet ruffled blazer.&nbsp; However it's a bit snug, and so I've had to wait for a day where it could be worn over a very lightweight 1st layer.&nbsp; Now I've always thought of this a very feminine and romantic piece and have tended to wear it with dresses, but E inspired me to give it more masculine styling.&nbsp; And then in one of her posts awhile back Diana mentioned how vests are the perfect layering piece as they don't add bulk to the arms.&nbsp; I'm quite sure a literal light bulb exploded above my head.</p> <p>I started with my most boyish jeans and a long sleeved navy T, then added this grey wool vest (yes I stole it from husband).&nbsp; You can't see them, but my black booties have little Edwardian-ish buttons and totally fit the dandy theme.&nbsp; I wanted a severe yet girly hair style, so I slicked it back into a pony and added the silver holder (which is actually rather ornate, but doesn't show up).&nbsp; For a girly touch I finished it all off with bright lipstick and pearl/fan earrings.&nbsp; I left off a necklace because I thought there were enough vertical lines going on, but now I wish I'd added a small pendant. OOHH - <i>on a velvet ribbon</i>!&nbsp; </p> <p>So I felt quite the dandy in this and really enjoyed wearing it.&nbsp; I'm looking forward to remixing all these pieces and exploring this whole romantic dandy bit along with the east meets wild wild west on the 19th century prairie thing.&nbsp; </p> <p>As a side note, I got rather more attention than I usually do in both this and yesterday's get up, and was reminded why I often purposely dress to blend into the background.&nbsp; Hmmm.&nbsp; After two days of it, tomorrow I'll probably post a WIW with something resembling a burka.</p> <p>Thanks for looking, and I love hearing your comments and suggestions. </p>