https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/setting-style-goals-for-2016 Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sun, 19 Apr 2026 10:23:33 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/setting-style-goals-for-2016/page/2#post-1619539 Tue, 23 Feb 2016 12:02:03 +0000 lyn67 1619539@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanx for the insights, Suz, is always so educational to read how others think and do, &nbsp;&nbsp;am so looking forward to seeing this new leg in &nbsp;your style journey. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/setting-style-goals-for-2016/page/2#post-1619411 Tue, 23 Feb 2016 01:20:35 +0000 Anonymous 1619411@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Suz, I joined last year at the same time you were ramping up your " pretty" look. One of my favorites of yours (and Angie's) was the black and red blouse. I look forward to seeing more WIWs with pretty in mind.<br /> Even if your lifestyle dictates practical clothing, I still feel like if you have the will, you will find a way to do dressed up.</p> <p>Spring is coming, which means great fashion is on the horizon for us Canucks! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/setting-style-goals-for-2016/page/2#post-1619401 Tue, 23 Feb 2016 01:07:13 +0000 Caro in Oz 1619401@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks for sharing - these are some of my favourite posts.<br />Ikwym about that darn lifestyle thingy, it can still trip me up :)<br />Can't wait to see where your style goes from here Suz.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/setting-style-goals-for-2016/page/2#post-1619221 Mon, 22 Feb 2016 19:07:35 +0000 Anonymous 1619221@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This was a fabulous read Suz! You've thought your needs through so well. I know you still have a bit of disconnect between lifestyle needs and how you would love to be able to dress, but I always think you present yourself so perfectly for any and every occasion. I'm loving the sound of the retro touches. 70's glam and 60's are 'made for you' eras. Can't wait to see how 2016 shapes up for you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/setting-style-goals-for-2016/page/2#post-1619192 Mon, 22 Feb 2016 18:35:54 +0000 Transcona Shannon 1619192@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I can only DREAM of having such clarity regarding my style and needs! This is brilliant Suz and I need to read and re-read it several times. I find it's the marrying of our style desires and our practical living situation that can be the most difficult. But you seem to have bridged that gap beautifully. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/setting-style-goals-for-2016#post-1619085 Mon, 22 Feb 2016 14:54:46 +0000 Beth Ann 1619085@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I've been "working on" my style goals for weeks now, and it's nearly time to retire my Deep Winter capsule! &nbsp;Seeing your notes here is inspiring --- thank you!</p> <p>I have noticed &nbsp;the embrace of pretty this year, and it suits you. &nbsp;Aren't feminine blouses -- with a modern, or perhaps slightly retro, flair magical? &nbsp; Even though we don't share body type, we have a similar taste for dressier looks, but very casual "real life" environment. &nbsp;I have found a lot of pleasure in blouses this year, too, often pairing them with dark wash jeans to keep them low key enough.</p> <p>I think I favor a bit more flow and softness in my silhouettes than you do, although my body type sometimes creates the "softness" on its own, lol! I hear you, though, on craving more crisp tailoring. &nbsp;I feel the same. &nbsp;Most of my cardigans have gone untouched this winter, while I wear my few jackets over and over again. &nbsp;I am on the search for unlined jackets (cooler and more amenable to movement), but am finding them to be HEWIs!</p> <p>I'm so glad you've learned to love your own modern classic flair. &nbsp;I think you bring much of yourself into these tried and true silhouettes --- which keeps it every bit as interesting and unique as a more "arty" closet!</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/setting-style-goals-for-2016#post-1619067 Mon, 22 Feb 2016 13:47:03 +0000 Suz 1619067@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Bijou, thank you. That is helpful. I was thinking more about how you prioritize accessories purchases -- i.e. do you just *know* you need or want a bag and go for that, or do you prefer to wander the accessories aisles in general until something pops at you? I am rather hopeless with accessories, as you can probably tell. I think it is an element of style refinement I have yet to reach but perhaps am ready for. You can probably guess from my question that I hardly ever look at accessories so have few opportunities when I might spy and item and think it is "fantastic." Strange, no?&nbsp;</p> <p>I'm in the process, actually, of trying to buy a kind of statement ring -- something I would wear most of the time. I don't wear a lot of jewellery but this is something I know I would enjoy. So I am searching. I agree it is good to deliberate on these purchases.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/setting-style-goals-for-2016#post-1619034 Mon, 22 Feb 2016 07:00:26 +0000 Bijou 1619034@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You asked how do I decide which accessories to purchase? Often I come upon the item and I think it is fantastic, but I question: Is it really me and how do I feel wearing this? &nbsp;When and how would I wear it? I also think would I wear it if I was catching up with (insert name of stylish friend)? If the answer is I feel great and I can think of 5 realistic situations in which I would wear it, then it may have a place in my wardrobe. &nbsp;I do like to think about these purchases rather then make impulse buys. &nbsp;Often I will deliberate for a few days (or weeks) before buying, especially if the item is expensive. &nbsp;Then when I do buy it - I like to wear it - using an item is the best justification of buying it in the first place. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/setting-style-goals-for-2016#post-1618983 Mon, 22 Feb 2016 00:43:37 +0000 Angie 1618983@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm blushing and humbled, Suz. High five to having an inspirational stylish Mum, and wanting to bring her into your own style. (It's very comforting, isn't it). I'm glad that you remember her style well. And I bet you are a stylish inspiration to YOUR DD, even though she might not fully appreciate that right now.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/setting-style-goals-for-2016#post-1618956 Sun, 21 Feb 2016 22:40:08 +0000 Suz 1618956@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><b>Mochi</b>, so great to see you here! And thank you.&nbsp;</p> <p><b>Sally</b>, I like the idea of trying to remember to include something "bold" in each outfit, even the super casual ones. I think that may be helpful going forward. Thank you!&nbsp;</p> <p><b>Adelfa</b>, I had forgotten you also wanted to try avant garde. Interesting that it doesn't work for you, either. I wonder why we are saying no to it, in the end? Some of my very favourite outfits on you have involved pretty elements like the Okalas, a tube skirt, a silky tee. I see you as looking feminine and strong and -- to <b>Angie's</b> point -- I see no contradiction in that whatsoever!&nbsp;</p> <p><b>Angie</b>, thank you. You're my inspiration, pure and simple. </p> <p>Another inspiration is my mother. She loved clothes and pretty things and though she denied herself for many years, there were other years where she allowed herself to have fun with fashion, and those are the years I remember best. She had a very clear sense of what looked good on her. Simple button front shirts, classic trousers. But she loved bold jewellery to go with these rather "mannish" items. Intuitively she seemed to understand that juxtapositions can work. Anyway, having lost her this year I may be trying in some way to bring her closer with my fashion choices. We will see where this goes!&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/setting-style-goals-for-2016#post-1618935 Sun, 21 Feb 2016 20:00:03 +0000 Mochi 1618935@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Suz, it's always great to read your articulate, writerly approach. Even though our body types are quite different, just in terms of your overall goals and thought processes, I'm going to use this post as a template to try and help me approach this topic.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/setting-style-goals-for-2016#post-1618928 Sun, 21 Feb 2016 19:24:48 +0000 Sal 1618928@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks for sharing Suz, as always a well written eloquent and useful post. I have loved your recent WIW with some of your finds.</p> <p>It is fun to evolve your core style, and to try new things. I see drama and avant grade having some cross over or common ground but areas of difference. I use the word bold when thinking about where I want to be, and it might be a colour, a large piece of jewelry, or even wearing a hat when many people will not. That is a little bit similar to drama I think. I don't always get it right though! But maybe this is one way to enjoy basic practical student looks.... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/setting-style-goals-for-2016#post-1618905 Sun, 21 Feb 2016 17:03:15 +0000 Adelfa 1618905@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hi Suz, great to read your post!</p> <p>All I have is empathy. A year or two ago I realized that I aspire to "pretty" after running from it for years (didn't feel girly enough, cute enough, thought it conflicted with my feminism).</p> <p>Also I too wanted avant-garde so badly and had to realize it was not me at all. I do enjoy a touch of 60s/70s hippie, though.</p> <p>I can't wait to see what you put together for this year! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/setting-style-goals-for-2016#post-1618894 Sun, 21 Feb 2016 16:25:30 +0000 Angie 1618894@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>*applause*</p> <p>I have been WAITING for this. And it did not disappoint! </p> <p>OF COURSE, as always you make complete sense. You have a <b>great </b>sense of self, which is at the heart of finding a complementary and authentic personal style. You analyse your needs AND listen to your emotions. You put in the work and reap the reward. The results are Killer, and despite your hectic year last year (((HUGS))) - you have never looked better. You are a wildly inspirational forum member Suz, and you know I adore you.&nbsp;</p> <p>I love that: </p> <ul> <li>you have come full circle with your style.&nbsp;<b>(high five)</b></li> <li>you have similar ideal style sensibilities to me: Modern, Pretty, Retro, Crisp. (Fun!)</li> <li>You regard pretty outfits as a PLUS, and that you <i>can</i> be powerful in a pretty outfit. (At least <i>I feel powerful in a pretty outfit</i>).&nbsp;</li> <li>you will not give up on the classics that never let us down.</li> <li>you tried the avant-garde thing and found out it wasn't for you.</li> </ul> <p>It's like we have come home, Suz. Rock on.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/setting-style-goals-for-2016#post-1618880 Sun, 21 Feb 2016 16:07:50 +0000 olga 1618880@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>good advises, Suz, thank you!<br />i am not that good with accessories but definitely need to improve </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/setting-style-goals-for-2016#post-1618862 Sun, 21 Feb 2016 14:40:07 +0000 Suz 1618862@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks, <b>TG</b> -- I know you fully understand the challenges of dressing for winter weather. And I agree that Anna is awesome at picking muses!</p> <p><b>Olga</b>, I hear what you are saying; you face the same challenge I face in summer dressing, for while our summers here are short, they are hot, and I don't have air conditioning. One of our fellow forum members suggested colour blocked outfits as a partial solution to this and I find it works, along with silk for tops (sleeveless only, of course) and adding a few simple (very simple) accessories. I also tend to use my bag as a statement much more in summer. The trick is to find a "3rd piece" in summer -- it cant be the jacket, as you say, so 't might be a cuff bracelet, an arresting necklace (if you can bear to wear necklaces in summer), a fabulous bag, dangling earrings, a cotton gauze scarf, perhaps even a sunhat.&nbsp;</p> <p><b>Summer,</b> I think you have hit on something key: even if I can't wear my dressier items all that often, I can enjoy them to the fullest when I do!! I am getting much better at that.&nbsp;</p> <p><b>Staysfit,</b> thank you for those kind words. I suspect you can relate to the skin-bearing aspect because we have similar fair, relatively low contrast colouring. I think that baring a little bit of skin (even just the forearms or ankles) can help to "balance" a look for us lighter-toned types, especially when wearing the darker colours in our range. It lightens things up just enough to make the outfit more flattering. I think for you, it helps to emphasize or reinforce the almost etherial and soft quality you naturally project, and for me, the bit of skin with darker neutrals can provide the some subtle drama.&nbsp;</p> <p>I am very, very happy with my recent choice to change my work life and prefer my new situation. I love learning. But my student life does demand clothing that is more casual than I might wish. It's not just a question of bowing to environmental norms; I'm literally on my hands and knees on a dirty floor many days, so nothing but jeans will really work. Fortunately, like you, i truly enjoy wearing my denim! But I'd prefer to wear with a dressy blouse and jacket and what I need is a simple tee! However, I do get a bit more leeway on non-classroom days, and also, next year my classes will involve less crawling around and more sitting. So perhaps I will find that a bit easier to dress for!&nbsp;</p> <p><b>Rachy</b>, SO TRUE!! Funnily enough, I worry less about looking terminally preppy at home...I think the blouses have been a good addition. But you really described my earlier dilemma in a nutshell with that phrase. The "cool" at home wardrobe is the unicorn of fashion indeed.&nbsp;</p> <p><b>Bijou</b>, I like your idea of picking accessories to define your style. How do you decide on which ones you'll pick? I might be getting close to the point where this is possible for me as well. In my wardrobe building days it was impossible -- I simply needed too many things to make it practical.&nbsp;</p> <p><b>Gradfashionista</b>, those items are just items I purchased in the last year that made me happy and got a lot of wear, not necessarily style-definers (though they do represent the style evolution toward a softer, prettier, more feminine look on the whole). I do love Theory and it is not too conservative for me in theory (ha ha) -- it's just that I don't get many opportunities to wear my beautiful blazers these days. I didn't post pictures of that type of item because it wasn't part of my purchasing last year. But here are a few of my jackets etc.&nbsp;</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/setting-style-goals-for-2016#post-1618848 Sun, 21 Feb 2016 12:47:44 +0000 Helena 1618848@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Suz, great analysis and I could sonrelate to everything you said. Looking forward to following your journey in 2016!<br /> Anna the muses you chose for Suz are amazing ... You need to start that as a service to forum members ;)<br /> Rachy, ROFL on the unicorn of fashion comment ... It's funny cuz it's true *sigh* </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/setting-style-goals-for-2016#post-1618841 Sun, 21 Feb 2016 11:40:53 +0000 olga 1618841@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you for this summary, it is kind of self-consciousness that i particularly like. You not only wear items and get dressed but also think about what it is and what it means which is interesting. I believe clothes can make one happy or sad and when you are "happy" with what is on you that day, the day gets better.<br />Just a thought about a climate, i live in very warm climate, we actually have about 4-5 month of autumn-winter-spring, rest is summer with quite high temp. in june-july-august; so for me, while i also like "dressed up" and feminine, it also does not work. I try to put on a top and a jacket but its impossible to wear the jacket except early morning, so it comes off and good-buy "dressed up". Same for shoes, closed shoes is a problem, and with open shoes, dressing up without substantial heels is hard. So i thought: dresses! but hah, very hard to find not lined dress that will look good all day long or at all.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/setting-style-goals-for-2016#post-1618839 Sun, 21 Feb 2016 10:40:20 +0000 Summer 1618839@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Suz, it's always such a pleasure to read your style musings. &nbsp;You have honed your wardrobe so perfectly, even though you still have conflicts regarding style aspiration and lifestyle realities. I have those, too. &nbsp;Much as I'd love to wear my smarter, trendier clothes on a regular basis, my everyday lifestyle demands a far more practical approach, so &nbsp;I relish every opportunity that allows me to dress up a little more.</p> <p>Good luck with your style goals for 2016.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/setting-style-goals-for-2016#post-1618836 Sun, 21 Feb 2016 10:10:09 +0000 Staysfit 1618836@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Suz, you have an amazing ability to express yourself by writing. I'm not sure I have helpful suggestions. I can relate to the skin bearing piece because I'm also like this. I prefer sleeveless dresses and tank tops and would wear them everywhere if I didn't freeze! I tend to roll up my sleeves to 3/4 length as a compromise. Like Joy, higher shaft booties either hurt my ankles or are too wide. I have to wait for warm weather for crops or wear them with tights which defeats their ankle bearing fabness. </p> <p>Angie reminded someone yesterday about how lifestyle dictates and maybe constrains our style choices. Are you feeling conflicted about your lifestyle or the disjunction between your need for practical clothes vs. your personal style? I think there are ways to deal stylishly with the practical issues. You have had so many changes in the past year, plus a major loss. I think change and loss can be a major driving force behind evolution in ones life. The evolution can take many forms, possibly your style, so, with luck you may find more creative power to help solve your dilemma. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/setting-style-goals-for-2016#post-1618829 Sun, 21 Feb 2016 07:42:04 +0000 rachylou 1618829@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>An At Home wardrobe that doesn't feel too relaxed without looking terminally preppy is like the unicorn of fashion. Unless you are an Artiste. I'm pondering this dilemma now that I'm not doing offices... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/setting-style-goals-for-2016#post-1618828 Sun, 21 Feb 2016 06:08:50 +0000 Bijou 1618828@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I find accessories to be a great way to inject style into an otherwise casual outfit. &nbsp;It is interesting how if you wear jeans and a plain sweater what a difference pearls or an Alexander McQueen skull scarf will do - one accessory totally changes the look of the outfit. I am finding that as my wardrobe needs lessen, I can save and buy accessories that help me to elevate my casual looks. I budget for two "indulgent" accessory purchases each year. &nbsp;For me these purchases are probably the most fun ones and take the most time and consideration because it is through these that the direction of my style moniker is realised. &nbsp;My 2016 purchase is a Fendi monster tote bag, so my style moniker for this year is Monster Glam!</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/setting-style-goals-for-2016#post-1618806 Sun, 21 Feb 2016 04:14:56 +0000 gradfashionista 1618806@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Just popping in to say that I enjoyed your assessment of the last year and projection for the upcoming one. I admit that I was surprised by the items you selected. For some reason, I had a style more like Theory in mind, although that might be too conservative of a modern for your tastes. That said, the items you selected seem to work well for your goals, but you had better pounce on that gorgeous Danier before it's too late! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/setting-style-goals-for-2016#post-1618804 Sun, 21 Feb 2016 04:05:56 +0000 Suz 1618804@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks, <b>Anna</b> -- off to peruse -- this should be interesting! I'll report back.&nbsp;</p> <p><b>Lisa,</b> a shadow style is a thought. I do think I need an ink moto. Hoping Danier doesn't go out of business before they produce one that I like. I've never really gravitated to "tough" though. Feels really inauthentic on me. So it will have to be a sort of ladylike punk. :)</p> <p><b>Jaime</b>, funny you should mention Kibbe. I think you're right about drama being wider than avant-garde. His "flamboyant" gamines have a lot of drama (unfortunate word, "flamboyant" but perhaps it fits). You're right that cropped jeans work well for me, although in true winter they are not warm enough, believe it or not! Wind gets up there.....brrrrrrr!!!! But for spring and fall they are terrific.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/setting-style-goals-for-2016#post-1618796 Sun, 21 Feb 2016 03:49:18 +0000 annagybe 1618796@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ok I suggest you look at the street style of Miroslava Duma for the trendy.<br /> Garance Dore for the classic tailored. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/setting-style-goals-for-2016#post-1618792 Sun, 21 Feb 2016 03:40:02 +0000 UmmLila (Lisa) 1618792@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Suz, I wonder if you might get any wear out of a small shadow style capsule that is the tougher off-duty version of you? That avant garde leather-loving poetry-slamming gallerista with the punky pink streaked hair? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/setting-style-goals-for-2016#post-1618791 Sun, 21 Feb 2016 03:37:55 +0000 Jaime 1618791@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Suz it is such a pleasure to read your thoughts. Two things stand out for me. You have reconsidered your attraction to avant garde and reframed your goal as dramatic. I have given some thought to the idea of dramatic dressing ever since one of the older Kibbe threads (Caro's? I don't remember.) Drama seems wider and includes avant garde but also includes other sorts of statements (even quiet ones I think). Anyhow, I am just trying to prompt you to muse a bit more on that for our benefit :).<br />Secondly, there are certain trends that play more easily into your lifestyle and focusing on them might satisfy your need for fun with trends. I think cropped jeans are brilliant for trendiness and slushy road.&nbsp;<br />Looking forward to more! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/setting-style-goals-for-2016#post-1618790 Sun, 21 Feb 2016 03:37:20 +0000 annagybe 1618790@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>For you I'm trying to think of something like a mature Madewell, but not J Crew, which is a whole nother beast.<br /> Hmm, pondering </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/setting-style-goals-for-2016#post-1618777 Sun, 21 Feb 2016 02:55:14 +0000 Suz 1618777@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><b>rabbit,</b> that is a great idea about upgrading indoor footwear. I tend to wear slippers in winter and they are far from stylish (although they offer needed warmth and support). I am definitely going to hunt for something similar in function but better in looks next year.&nbsp;</p> <p>I do have some great hats and scarves, yes. And I love my winter coats, although I'm due for a refresher in that capsule next year and will certainly be investing in new options. It really helps to have great outerwear. No question.&nbsp;</p> <p><b>Joy</b>, I also want to find some ankle strap low wedges for wearing when the weather gets a little better.&nbsp;</p> <p><b>Anne</b>, you are right -- sometimes drapey items work better on a figure that can fill them out.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/setting-style-goals-for-2016#post-1618758 Sun, 21 Feb 2016 01:58:10 +0000 rabbit 1618758@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well thought out, and I was nodding along. &nbsp;One thing I really like about&nbsp;<i>“sharpness” or “boldness” with some “pretty” element(s)&nbsp;</i>is that it's easy for me to feel pulled together and confident in outfits with those descriptors. &nbsp;I also have the balance of wanting to wear dressier clothes than my everyday activities would call for, and I sympathize with the snow vs. footwear and coat situation (we're luckier on Angie's coast). &nbsp;do you have awesome beanies and winter scarves? Although hopefully you won't need those much longer this spring. &nbsp;Are the colors and shapes of your coats and winter boots bringing you joy and/or providing a good foundation?</p> <p>I'm thinking about the possibilities of short chelsea shaped rain boots in bold saturated colors or pastels as a way to inject a little sharp and bold into the rainy doldrums (a bright colored trench helped).</p> <p>I also thought about upgrading the color and shape of my in-house only shoes -- they were chosen for support and ease of slipping on and off, but right now they are a highly distressed mud color with fuzzy pink socks... </p>