https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/seder-2023-wiw-and-what-i-realized Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sat, 04 Apr 2026 13:55:39 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/seder-2023-wiw-and-what-i-realized/page/2#post-2317286 Sun, 09 Apr 2023 19:38:18 +0000 CarolS 2317286@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks, <b>Debbie</b>! I take a hair compliment from you very seriously because you yourself have such an amazing mane!!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/seder-2023-wiw-and-what-i-realized/page/2#post-2317267 Sun, 09 Apr 2023 16:53:31 +0000 Debbie 2317267@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Carol first off I think you look fabulous. I do understand what you are seeing though. I think a simple change in topper would have achieved what you were seeing. A textured top would have worked too.</p> <p>I still think you look great and I love your hair! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/seder-2023-wiw-and-what-i-realized/page/2#post-2317248 Sun, 09 Apr 2023 14:52:28 +0000 CarolS 2317248@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks, <b>Angie</b>. Yes, lots of great ideas for future iterations! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/seder-2023-wiw-and-what-i-realized/page/2#post-2317243 Sun, 09 Apr 2023 14:34:29 +0000 Angie 2317243@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>GREAT outfit on you, <b>CarolS</b>! The jewellery adds back some glam :)&nbsp;</p> <p>It's the sneakers and the faded denim jacket that dress down the look most. And since you weren't wearing a ball gown with formal heels and a denim jacket - the resulting visual is CASUAL.</p> <p>Dressier shoes and a dressy jacket would have dressed up the outfit more - and in an easy way with what you already have. Simple switcheroo.&nbsp;</p> <p>That said, know that you looked fab! And now you have plenty of suggestions on how to create a dressier version using similar components.</p> <p>Hope you had a great Passover!&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/seder-2023-wiw-and-what-i-realized/page/2#post-2317236 Sun, 09 Apr 2023 13:50:17 +0000 CarolS 2317236@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>They are FABULOUS! And perfect to combine with that dress and a denim jacket! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/seder-2023-wiw-and-what-i-realized#post-2317235 Sun, 09 Apr 2023 13:42:11 +0000 Janet 2317235@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Carol, thanks! Those boots are sooo old! Probably 18 years old? They have patina for sure. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/seder-2023-wiw-and-what-i-realized#post-2317234 Sun, 09 Apr 2023 13:31:49 +0000 CarolS 2317234@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks, <b>Sal </b>-- What I realized is that I'm really short on transitional pieces -- which makes sense because our transitional seasons can be pretty short. But I still need to find a piece or two that work. Had I kept one or two blouses I had purchased last spring, I probably would have had that slightly dressier top to pull out. Lesson learned - I hope.</p> <p><b>Olive</b> - yes, shoes are my achilles heel, so to speak, because my problematic feet generally put me in shoes that are going to read as casual. My challenge is how to add enough dressiness to an outfit while staying true to my highly pragmatic side. I wouldn't call this outfit a failure, but a learning opportunity. A vest is an interesting ideal I'd have then needed a long sleeved top underneath, but that concept would help with the "too warm" issue. Something else to keep an eye open for!</p> <p><b>Janet</b> -- yes, a bit of play would have made a difference. I knew I wanted to combine the white sneakers with the pinstripe pants. A different top or topper could have taken it into a higher realm. But really all I can think about now is your amazing boots. I really miss wearing cowboy boots.&nbsp;</p> <p><b>Suntiger </b>-- Yes, festive casual is a good descriptor. I think I have less range in my wardrobe than you, and need to find ways to make the same pieces fill multiple roles -- meaning I need the right supporting pieces to help these pants be a wee bit more festive. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/seder-2023-wiw-and-what-i-realized#post-2317211 Sun, 09 Apr 2023 11:57:27 +0000 Anonymous 2317211@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It looks good, and I think the wider pants make it dressier than skinnies would have. This time of year is tricky to dress for for sure! That said, I personally use any excuse I can to dress up- and really don't care about the environmental norms </p> <p>I think of my wardrobe as 2 ranges- more casual to more formal AND more conservative to more festive. So for example my gold Birks and my sari skirt are festive casual ( festival wear), and my silk blouses and velvet skirts are festive but dressier (would wear the church on Christmas). A simple black blazer or black sheath dress would be conservative but more formal (formal business or funeral appropriate). </p> <p>Sounds like the seder would be festive casual-midrange to me. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/seder-2023-wiw-and-what-i-realized#post-2317209 Sun, 09 Apr 2023 11:48:12 +0000 Janet 2317209@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It’s a great outfit, but I understand— I think a little switching out with the jacket and shoes would make all the difference when you want to skew dressier. The yellow is great! </p> <p>Agreed with the suggestions about denim jackets — they do tend to dress down whatever you’re wearing. I wore mine yesterday with this dress from Anthro (with black leggings underneath) for a slightly chilly spring day, to casualize the dress, which I had previously only worn “dressed up.” But when I wear a jeans or casual pants and tee combination, I tend to pair it with a blazer or a more polished jacket. It’s just about finding the right balance or juxtaposition. Either way, you look great! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/seder-2023-wiw-and-what-i-realized#post-2317205 Sun, 09 Apr 2023 11:24:42 +0000 Olive Green 2317205@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I know for me that shoes are very directional, by which I mean that they tell me or the viewer what direction the outfit skews, more or less formal, or sporty, or a sly joke. Same with accessories or a third piece.&nbsp;<br />Would a longish, perhaps arty, vest have helped? They make great ketchup catchers when they have a pattern, and up the game immediately. And different weights can be very useful for varying temperatures, inner and outer.&nbsp;<br />I love the jacket, actually.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/seder-2023-wiw-and-what-i-realized#post-2317204 Sun, 09 Apr 2023 09:36:43 +0000 Sal 2317204@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You look great and it sounds like very appropriate. But I agree sometimes reflecting on your look can help you move forward.</p> <p>I went to a fashion show today and there were some rally great outfits which gave me some inspo for smart casual with my own wardrobe. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/seder-2023-wiw-and-what-i-realized#post-2317197 Sun, 09 Apr 2023 03:59:20 +0000 CarolS 2317197@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you, <b>Brooklyn</b>! I've been hunting, but the prey is elusive! Will keep on it. :-)</p> <p>Thanks, <b>Blue Jay</b>. I felt good wearing the outfit -- was just curious when I realized it read more casual in the photos than it felt while I was in it. So my advice is do a photo test of the outfit before you decide! The denim jacket might be just perfect over a dress. :-)</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/seder-2023-wiw-and-what-i-realized#post-2317193 Sun, 09 Apr 2023 03:24:31 +0000 BlueJay 2317193@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Awww Carol, I think you look great! I love your silver jewellery and how it complements your fabulous silver hair! Lots of ideas for how to make the outfit feel dressier! </p> <p>(I must admit, I am rethinking wearing a denim jacket over a dress for tomorrow's family dinner...!) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/seder-2023-wiw-and-what-i-realized#post-2317189 Sun, 09 Apr 2023 02:07:43 +0000 Brooklyn 2317189@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You look great Carol. I agree with you that the wide leg pants look dressy. (I actually think dark slim pants can skew more casual looking because of the similarity to leggings.) I think you might have felt better in a dressier jacket or top (or both). I’d favour keeping the sneakers because it gives you that hip juxtaposition look.</p> <p>I’d keep an eye out for a metallic top. Or a lace top. Or a mesh top. Or, dare I say sequins? Or a silky wrap top. Or a silky v neck top with a mandarin collar if you don’t care for shirt collars. I don’t think it has to be formal, just something that reads a bit more “night-time”. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/seder-2023-wiw-and-what-i-realized#post-2317185 Sun, 09 Apr 2023 01:01:17 +0000 CarolS 2317185@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks, Jaime! Happy Pesach to you, too!&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/seder-2023-wiw-and-what-i-realized#post-2317179 Sun, 09 Apr 2023 00:46:02 +0000 Jaime 2317179@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Carol you look great to me. Dressed up enough is more a feeling than a fact so I will not comment. My main consideration for seder is comfort, wine stain tolerance, and warmth because we eat our meal outdoors (we sit around the living room until the meal reading the Haggadah). Anyway, happy holidays! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/seder-2023-wiw-and-what-i-realized#post-2317177 Sun, 09 Apr 2023 00:08:11 +0000 CarolS 2317177@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>lol <b>Suz</b> -- Maybe! But yeah, I'm a tee and knits gal from way back. I do have the odd fantasy of a nice crisp button through shirt, but buttoned shirts always feel fussy on me. And they usually gape.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/seder-2023-wiw-and-what-i-realized#post-2317176 Sat, 08 Apr 2023 23:38:59 +0000 Suz 2317176@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Maybe this cousin could help you find the right tops!&nbsp;</p> <p>I do think "dressy" tees are probably the way to go -- woven or knit with special details. But it's always hard to find that kind of stuff when you most need and want it!&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/seder-2023-wiw-and-what-i-realized#post-2317175 Sat, 08 Apr 2023 23:15:08 +0000 CarolS 2317175@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Aww, thanks for the kind hair words, <b>Minaminu</b>! I was trying to branch out from the blazers, but you're right -- it would have helped skew things to the dressier side!</p> <p>Thanks, <b>Suz</b>. The good news is that I didn't feel under dressed during the event itself. Only later upon taking photos of the outfit. There were people there who were both dressier and more casual than I at dinner, so it wasn't that I wasn't appropriately dressed--just that when I saw the photo the outfit read more casual than it had felt.</p> <p>The wide leg pinstripe pants read dressy to me (even if not to anyone else!) -- they make me feel a bit elegant, even in sneakers. </p> <p>I really do need a version of your formula! am always on the lookout for the dressy top or two but never quite land on the "one". I am such a hard fit with a large bust, broad back and thick waist but slender arms, which doesn't help. Have lost count of the number of blouses I have brought home and then ultimately rejected as simply being something I wouldn't get enough wear from -- except for maybe ONE seder!</p> <p>I actually tried on a little silver metallic tee at Anthro today, but while the colour was great, I didn't care for the cut. Went elsewhere and bought a short sleeved tee shirt with a lacy insert to toy around with -- but it's still black, so not sure if it's really moving my agenda forward.</p> <p>LOL -- yes, <b>Rachy</b>, we are who we are!</p> <p>Thanks, <b>Dee</b>. Yes, it's a bit trickier to navigate the casual/dressy realm. This is a good exercise in evaluating the wardrobe holes I need to fill!&nbsp;</p> <p><b>Jenni</b> -- Oh, I'd love to have this cousin's budget and time to pull herself together. (She also sets the most beautiful table in town...) Even when she's super casual she is always somehow just right! I don't feel bad about myself in comparison anymore, but I am certainly aware of wanting to feel somewhere in the ballpark. :-)</p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/seder-2023-wiw-and-what-i-realized#post-2317163 Sat, 08 Apr 2023 19:56:12 +0000 Jenni NZ 2317163@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Carol I hate to mention it but are you actually half wanting to *be* this more dressy cousin? That’s been a trap for me in the past but not for a long time.<br /> As far as does the outfit look casual, to me it does. 3 elements: denim jacket = casual, looser wide pants, sneakers. The outfit otherwise accomplished everything you wanted from it though so that counts as a success.<br /> I am not a casual dresser overall which may partly be why I have never owned a denim jacket. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/seder-2023-wiw-and-what-i-realized#post-2317150 Sat, 08 Apr 2023 18:19:16 +0000 Dee 2317150@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Its a nice casual outfit, but I agree that when you had the yellow patterned scarf on it became more dressier.&nbsp;</p> <p>As others have mentioned, you likely only needed to switch out to one &nbsp;more dressier element to bring it to where you thought it should be.&nbsp;</p> <p>It’s kind of funny that in the old days when everyone dressed up, you kind of knew what to wear but now it can be a bit of a challenge trying to get the right balance when things are so much more casual.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/seder-2023-wiw-and-what-i-realized#post-2317146 Sat, 08 Apr 2023 17:55:02 +0000 rachylou 2317146@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I too say cute outfit, but casual for the occasion because blue denim and white sneakers. My first thought was a coloured sneaker - red or light blue or something. The same for the topper.</p> <p>I have a cousin who I think is quite natty and I admire her style. My parents never agreed with me, lol. She’s just so and I’m titillating tbh. The funny thing is, when we were children, our parents dressed us alike and furnished our rooms with the same furniture. It’s impossible for us to hit the same note even wearing the same thing. Anyways, there’s also this sort of thing to consider. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/seder-2023-wiw-and-what-i-realized#post-2317144 Sat, 08 Apr 2023 17:39:05 +0000 Suz 2317144@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><b>Carol</b> -- love the new necklace! Fun easy bling!&nbsp;</p> <p>I'm sorry you did not feel fab in this outfit in retrospect. Do you think that might have been influenced some by how the other guests looked?&nbsp;</p> <p>Like others, I see it as a fab outfit, albeit what I would consider a very casual one. And you've had great advice for dressing things up in future iterations. I think your own observation that casual-skewing footwear means you can stand to bump up the other elements (tops and toppers) for such occasions is correct.&nbsp;</p> <p>During the pandemic, we hardly ever went anywhere but if we did, it was to a friend's house for a very casual meal. Or we had people over for same. However...there were times when these were semi-celebratory -- holidays, birthdays, etc. Similar to your seder dinner, maybe. (We didn't host or go to one of those this year, but we have in the past.)&nbsp;</p> <p>I felt very lucky in the first year of the pandemic to pick up two tops that really helped with this amorphous capsule. Unlike you, I don't run hot, and our needs and climate are not the same, but the principle I adopted might also work for you.&nbsp; </p> <p>I chose a style that works for me extremely well and has a (to me) casual feel -- for me, this was the button front shirt. For you, it might be a tee type top, like you are wearing -- but with a difference.&nbsp;</p> <p>Anyway, I bought my shirts (on sale) in "fancy" fabrics -- one very dark navy and one in a cobalt. These are machine washable tops, don't need a lot of ironing (just a touch up if anything), and they manage to feel a bit "festive." I would wear these with a pair of navy wide leg crops or (for the navy velvet) with jeans at home -- and this was my "casual dressy" solution. I felt festive and easy. When I needed a jolt of femininity and colour I went with the lace. When I needed a feeling of luxurious ease, I went with the velvet.&nbsp;</p> <p>I own some lovely silk shirts that in theory could have served the same purpose but if I'm cooking and serving (even with an apron) it doesn't feel safe to wear them, and if I'm walking around holding wine etc. it's also potentially a risk. So in your case, you might be looking for rayons or high quality viscose or recycled poly (though I know heat might be an issue with that.)&nbsp;</p> <p>I don't really have anything the fills a similar role in summer, so for hot weather I'm still looking -- but in hot weather I can often wear a dress or skirt, so that fills the "dressy" part of the equation more easily.&nbsp;</p> <p>I will wear a denim jacket with a skirt or dress or very dressy pants to dress those down. But I won't wear it with items I'm trying to dress up -- in that case I'll add a blazer or a tweed jacket.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/seder-2023-wiw-and-what-i-realized#post-2317138 Sat, 08 Apr 2023 17:00:56 +0000 Minaminu 2317138@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Agree that the outfit is fab and maybe next time a blazer could provide more structure / formality. Must say that you hair are gorgeous!!!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/seder-2023-wiw-and-what-i-realized#post-2317133 Sat, 08 Apr 2023 16:35:00 +0000 CarolS 2317133@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You get it, <b>Donna</b>!!! I don't need to spend the evening showing off my red wine spills and gravy dribble!!! I didn't really have another necklace that felt right to add to this, but I agree it would have helped. I actually played with a few strands of faux pearls, but I didn't like the way they were sitting. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/seder-2023-wiw-and-what-i-realized#post-2317131 Sat, 08 Apr 2023 16:30:48 +0000 DonnaF 2317131@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Looks great to me. I might’ve added a neckerchief because I run cold, but maybe you could have added another necklace? The black and denim jacket are great choices when wine might be splattered and spilled. I’m going to a “port and pie” celebration to remember a friend who recently passed away, and have rejected a number of items that might get ruined due to my clumsiness since we will all probably be standing. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/seder-2023-wiw-and-what-i-realized#post-2317123 Sat, 08 Apr 2023 15:50:37 +0000 CarolS 2317123@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks, <b>Roberta </b>and <b>Slim cat </b>-- I suppose I could have used one of my menswear blazers, but I worried they would be too&nbsp; heavy. But, I think you and the others who've commented have pinpointed the problem -- the outfit needed at least one other "dressy" piece to keep from skewing so heavily casual - whether it was more bling, dressier shoes, a dressier top, or a dressier jacket.&nbsp;</p> <p>Because my shoes almost always skew more casual, this suggests I need to bump up my dressier top count to "some". (Hardest category for me to shop for and justify as I need them so seldom, but when I need them, well, I need them....) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/seder-2023-wiw-and-what-i-realized#post-2317118 Sat, 08 Apr 2023 15:12:20 +0000 Roberta 2317118@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>When I read your description I thought, this is exactly what I would have worn. Although, I might have switched the jacket out for something a little more dressy. Maybe a blazer with a little pattern to go with those Fab side stripe pants. (I own a pair just like those.) </p> <p>Or perhaps a jacket with a little drape in a solid color. But all told, I think you look wonderful, especially with the silver jewelry picking up the highlights of your hair. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/seder-2023-wiw-and-what-i-realized#post-2317117 Sat, 08 Apr 2023 15:11:17 +0000 slim cat 2317117@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It works and looks great on you! However tee shirt and denim jacket =casual feel especially with sneakers. I have similar sorta problem dressing for work and trying to look less casual - rayon or any silky tops usually the key for me. Something that reads as a blouse takes the same outfit on another level. Unfortunately finding the right tops are difficult and time consuming.&nbsp;</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/seder-2023-wiw-and-what-i-realized#post-2317116 Sat, 08 Apr 2023 15:08:12 +0000 CarolS 2317116@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks, <b>Carla</b> -- yes, more bling might have helped, too! After wearing virtually NO accessories through the pandemic a necklace and big earrings felt like a LOT -- but I see your point. After I thrifted this necklace, it occurred to me that it would have paired nicely with one I had considered a couple of weeks before that was a bunch of silvery circles. Oh well. I def could not have worn any kind of scarf in that scenario -- the heat factor would have been too much. (I do covet a version of Trinny's long silver scarf, though...)</p> <p> </p>