https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/schoolyard-conflict---follow-up Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sat, 25 Apr 2026 18:39:11 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/schoolyard-conflict---follow-up#post-1394023 Mon, 10 Nov 2014 16:21:45 +0000 Elle 1394023@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so happy to hear that the teacher was responsive.&nbsp; It sounds like you both will be monitoring the situation carefully - and this care, whether or not the other kid's behavior changes, will make the most difference to your son.&nbsp; </p> <p>Please let us know what happens as the school year progresses. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/schoolyard-conflict---follow-up#post-1393284 Sun, 09 Nov 2014 02:42:57 +0000 Michelle 1393284@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Great news, Ornella. I hope things soon improve for you and your son. And the teacher too, come to think of it. A student like the schoolyard gang leader must be a challenge. I'm glad she didn't take that out on you and gave you a fair hearing.</p> <p>Your reply </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/schoolyard-conflict---follow-up#post-1392173 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 04:59:59 +0000 Eliza 1392173@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Glad to hear you are pleased with the results of your communications with the teacher. Agree that notes that create a timeline are useful. Most teacher care about creating a safe classroom/school experience for their students and they can't connect the dots without all relevant info.</p> <p>I also think it is good for kids to see role models for handling problems and to know that the teacher is aware of their experiences. </p> <p>Best to all going forward. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/schoolyard-conflict---follow-up#post-1391946 Thu, 06 Nov 2014 23:49:57 +0000 shedev 1391946@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm glad there is progress in this tough situation. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/schoolyard-conflict---follow-up#post-1391937 Thu, 06 Nov 2014 23:28:02 +0000 rachylou 1391937@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What a good and capable teacher, Ornella. </p> <p>And I totally agree with you about written logs. They go a long way. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/schoolyard-conflict---follow-up#post-1391902 Thu, 06 Nov 2014 22:29:39 +0000 AJ 1391902@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am so happy to hear that the meeting with the teacher went well.&nbsp; Kudos to you for taking the time to write down the details.&nbsp; I am sure your son feels so loved and supported by you!&nbsp; You're a awesome mom, Ornella! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/schoolyard-conflict---follow-up#post-1391816 Thu, 06 Nov 2014 20:34:05 +0000 Anonymous 1391816@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ornella,<br />Such great news! Thank you so much for sharing your experience and with such detail.&nbsp;I read your post with great interest and every response to it. My oldest is in kindergarten so I am just beginning the journey.&nbsp;I think it can be really hard as a parent (and most likely a teacher)&nbsp;to piece what we hear and see&nbsp;together into a cohesive picture.&nbsp;The individual incidences may not be&nbsp;to concerning but when sewn together can be very alarming.&nbsp;You just taught your son a very valuable lesson. And his teacher most likely will not push what you say under the rug!&nbsp;</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/schoolyard-conflict---follow-up#post-1391802 Thu, 06 Nov 2014 20:20:43 +0000 gryffin 1391802@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ornella - I am so thrilled things went well.&nbsp; I'm glad the teacher was responsive and you felt prepared.&nbsp; Fingers crossed that the resulting intervention has a good result and your son will have a good experience in the end.&nbsp; Kudos to you for being an engaged and responsive mother.&nbsp; The "don't ask, don't tell" scenario is one of the most heartbreaking scenarios I can think of, you've done such a wonderful thing for your son by being present, attentive, engaged and active in securing his safety and well being.&nbsp; That's the gift you can give him!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/schoolyard-conflict---follow-up#post-1391392 Thu, 06 Nov 2014 07:31:54 +0000 Lavinia 1391392@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That's great news, Ornella. Kudos to you and the teacher for taking the matter seriously! &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/schoolyard-conflict---follow-up#post-1391335 Thu, 06 Nov 2014 04:57:55 +0000 Debbie 1391335@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Keep documenting it will help you. Glad it went well. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/schoolyard-conflict---follow-up#post-1391304 Thu, 06 Nov 2014 04:04:09 +0000 Sveta 1391304@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Great news, Ornella! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/schoolyard-conflict---follow-up#post-1391276 Thu, 06 Nov 2014 03:34:19 +0000 TraceyLiz65 1391276@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So glad to hear your felt supported! &nbsp;Hoping the follow through is there for your son... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/schoolyard-conflict---follow-up#post-1391083 Wed, 05 Nov 2014 23:14:07 +0000 Deborah 1391083@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Great news and thank for you for sharing. I was wondering how things were going.&nbsp; And great advice.&nbsp; I tend to email our teacher and that way we both have a copy and I have a record.&nbsp; It's harder to ignore something that has been put in writing. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/schoolyard-conflict---follow-up#post-1391073 Wed, 05 Nov 2014 22:48:46 +0000 Louise 1391073@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So glad things are looking positive x </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/schoolyard-conflict---follow-up#post-1391004 Wed, 05 Nov 2014 21:28:30 +0000 Anonymous 1391004@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I so admire you advocating for your son and it is great you have everything written down in detail. Though we wish the schools would do more it is understandable that they have to follow certain guidelines or risk being sued. </p> <p>My DD went through a tough time when she started high school and I wished the school would have done more, but it was actually the school nurses who helped her tremendously. If ever she felt uncomfortable she stopped in the nurses office and they really sat down and listened to her. I also listened to her and understood what she was going through. By the end if freshman year she found her crowd. She transitioned because of that experience more easily when she went away to college. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/schoolyard-conflict---follow-up#post-1390925 Wed, 05 Nov 2014 19:52:08 +0000 Alassë 1390925@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, good. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/schoolyard-conflict---follow-up#post-1390911 Wed, 05 Nov 2014 19:31:56 +0000 DonnaF 1390911@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So glad the teacher is taking this seriously.&nbsp; Your son is fortunate to have a parent who listens deeply and is willing and able to take action.&nbsp; This will stay with him throughout his life and will make him a better parent in the future. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/schoolyard-conflict---follow-up#post-1390874 Wed, 05 Nov 2014 18:24:20 +0000 Transcona Shannon 1390874@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm just catching up on this now Ornella and this definitely sounds very positive. Good for you! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/schoolyard-conflict---follow-up#post-1390792 Wed, 05 Nov 2014 17:25:32 +0000 Sal 1390792@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well done, sounds like a good result. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/schoolyard-conflict---follow-up#post-1390705 Wed, 05 Nov 2014 15:52:14 +0000 Suz 1390705@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This is great news, Ornella -- so glad!! Keep us posted. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/schoolyard-conflict---follow-up#post-1390626 Wed, 05 Nov 2014 14:55:43 +0000 Neel 1390626@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Great news Ornella! Hopefully things will change for the good now </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/schoolyard-conflict---follow-up#post-1390618 Wed, 05 Nov 2014 14:49:43 +0000 Astrid 1390618@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ornella, I'm so glad to hear that. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/schoolyard-conflict---follow-up#post-1390599 Wed, 05 Nov 2014 14:23:08 +0000 Ornella 1390599@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This is a brief update to <b><a rel="nofollow" href="http://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/schoolyard-conflict---course-of-action">my earlier thread</a></b> in which I expressed concern over some experiences from the school DS was telling me about.&nbsp;</p> <p>Btw,&nbsp;if you don't intend to&nbsp;read any further, I would still like to stress out one thing - always record your findings. If you ever suspect, or even just <i>feel</i> as a mother that things are not right,&nbsp;write everything down. Casual comments may not make any sense and are easily forgotten, but&nbsp;over time, as vague as they seem, they may add up and make larger picture which can be a&nbsp;cause for bigger concern&nbsp;and therefore ground for action.</p> <p>In short, I have good news.</p> <p>Today I went to talk to my son's&nbsp;teacher. I won't go into many details, but the bottom line is that although&nbsp;the teacher took things&nbsp;seriously from the moment I told her why I came, she had really focused once I took the paper with my notes out. I think that fact alone showed that it was not a light matter for me.</p> <p>As I started telling her things in the order as I had learnt them form DS,&nbsp;I could see her adding things up from the behaviour and rumours she noticed in the classroom and it was clear that everything I told her made for the likely scenario of what is happening when the kids are out of the classroom. She had promised to talk with the boy A (the ringleader) and to monitor with the new awareness the dynamics between the kids. She was very supportive and actually said several times that it was by no means premature warning, but it was a good thing I&nbsp;came and talked to her.</p> <p>For now I trust that she will make the first step to end this situation and I hope my son will have breaks to play and relax. We'll catch up in a few weeks to see &nbsp;if he had noticed changes and how he feels.</p> <p>Izzy, my friend whose son was also sometimes targeted by this schoolyard&nbsp;gang, has appointment with the teacher too and will also relay&nbsp;what her son had told her about the events.</p> <p>Thanks again to everyone who was supportive and understanding on my previous thread. Between your advices and talking to close people I was fully prepared for today's conversation and went home&nbsp;with the result&nbsp;I wanted.</p> <p>Onwards and upwards. </p>