https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/returning-my-imaginary-lifestyle Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Thu, 07 May 2026 18:19:43 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/returning-my-imaginary-lifestyle#post-721334 Fri, 14 Sep 2012 17:08:06 +0000 Jonesy 721334@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What a fab realization! Footwear can really be a danger zone, can't it? It's so hard to be rational in the heat of the moment, but you did it! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/returning-my-imaginary-lifestyle#post-721288 Fri, 14 Sep 2012 16:16:50 +0000 shiny 721288@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This is where thrifting/consignment shopping is ideal. I love the look of towering platform pumps, but they just aren't practical to walk and stand in for very long. Then I found a pair in black suede platforms, looked like never been worn, on consignment for a song, and they earned a spot in my closet. Even if the reality is I will probably only wear them a few times a year -- to formal events that involve a lot of sitting. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/returning-my-imaginary-lifestyle#post-721279 Fri, 14 Sep 2012 16:05:16 +0000 K. Period. 721279@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Denise, I totally agree! I have several items that I've bought at different times that were a bit of an indulgence, but were right enough that they made themselves keepers. I have a lovely Ted Baker jacket that I bought on impulse with no rational need for, but which I wore into the ground, so I know that they are out there. Thank you for playing devil's advocate. Balance will be my mantra!</p> <p>I think that at the end of the day what made these a no-go was that when I started making the calculation, I could list two reasons to keep them (Pretty! Make me feel cool!) and I could list many, many more reasons why they wouldn't work, the most important of which was that they were just too darned high and I really began to wonder if the back of them was so curved that they would give me blisters. I will keep what you said in mind, though. I definitely don't want to miss the occasional leap the brings me something fantastic. Sometimes you have to trust that you can make your imaginary lifestyle work for you, at least occasionally! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/returning-my-imaginary-lifestyle#post-721040 Fri, 14 Sep 2012 08:00:50 +0000 Deborah 721040@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think you are a wise woman:). And I also agree with Denise, a little indulgence. Ow and then can be ok:) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/returning-my-imaginary-lifestyle#post-721010 Fri, 14 Sep 2012 06:33:25 +0000 CocoLion 721010@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I can relate as I think everyone here can too! Good job parting with something that doesn't suit your lifestyle.</p> <p>Now, I'm going to play devils advocate. Last year I purchased, then returned a beautiful pair of Italian-made burgundy leather booties from LD Tuttle. They had the perfect heel height and fit beautifully. The problem is they had a very fragile tie at the back that didn't fit my lifestyle at all. However, I still think about those booties because I want them. I regret returning them. If you really love something, you have to make it yours. Not very often, but every once in a while, I believe it's OK to indulge yourself this way. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/returning-my-imaginary-lifestyle#post-721007 Fri, 14 Sep 2012 06:25:35 +0000 Ingunn 721007@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This has happened to me many times, too, but I've note been as wise as you are, so my money were poorly spent. Thanks for pointing this out! A very good decision. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/returning-my-imaginary-lifestyle#post-720978 Fri, 14 Sep 2012 04:48:04 +0000 jayne 720978@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>A wise woman indeed. Angie is so right about this imaginary life. I would have fallen for those too. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/returning-my-imaginary-lifestyle#post-720865 Fri, 14 Sep 2012 01:13:12 +0000 JAileen 720865@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I love the title of your thread!</p> <p>It must feel great knowing the difference between your real and imaginary lives. I never thought about it in those terms. Months after buying something I'll just realize it didn't work out. And by then I usully can't return it. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/returning-my-imaginary-lifestyle#post-720839 Fri, 14 Sep 2012 00:41:55 +0000 Anonymous 720839@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Dressing your truth always feels (AND LOOKS) fabulous! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/returning-my-imaginary-lifestyle#post-720755 Thu, 13 Sep 2012 23:28:58 +0000 Transcona Shannon 720755@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Smart decision! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/returning-my-imaginary-lifestyle#post-720692 Thu, 13 Sep 2012 22:50:14 +0000 Caro in Oz 720692@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What a great realization. Well done. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/returning-my-imaginary-lifestyle#post-720672 Thu, 13 Sep 2012 22:33:23 +0000 JulieJohn 720672@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Congratulations!!! What a realization that is, and you have grown in knowing yourself, which is a great goal for sentient beings everywhere. My hat is off to ya! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/returning-my-imaginary-lifestyle#post-720666 Thu, 13 Sep 2012 22:29:23 +0000 Glory 720666@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Good for you! They are beautiful but not working for your lifestyle. Yeah that you could find the receipt and still return them. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/returning-my-imaginary-lifestyle#post-720647 Thu, 13 Sep 2012 22:03:04 +0000 Mo 720647@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So smart on your part! And hard to do. Good for you!<br /> I have more heels now than I'll ever need, so it's under 2" for me from here on out. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/returning-my-imaginary-lifestyle#post-720646 Thu, 13 Sep 2012 22:02:39 +0000 Anonymous 720646@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You are very wise! *applause* </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/returning-my-imaginary-lifestyle#post-720630 Thu, 13 Sep 2012 21:41:48 +0000 texstyle 720630@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So glad you were able to return them. I sometimes get almost obsessed over some item I think I *must* have. I think I forget to really rationalize the "who, what, when, where" thing: Who am I really?, What will I wear it for?, When will I wear it? and Where will I wear it? I've gotten much better over the past year and also thank YLF for this. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/returning-my-imaginary-lifestyle#post-720593 Thu, 13 Sep 2012 21:20:02 +0000 JR 720593@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Good for you. And thanks for pointing it out. It makes me that much more aware. I often lust after things I would wear only rarely. I'm going to try to let my closet tell me when it's time to buy new things. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/returning-my-imaginary-lifestyle#post-720589 Thu, 13 Sep 2012 21:17:25 +0000 san 720589@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>They are very attractive shoes but the heel is too high. I use to think I should learn to walk in high heels but after YLF I think my shoes should work for me. Shoes should be a slave to me rather than the other way around. I think you made a good decision. I've also learned to appreciate some things on other people when they don't work for me. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/returning-my-imaginary-lifestyle#post-720583 Thu, 13 Sep 2012 21:14:47 +0000 Suz 720583@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>They are great shoes, but you are doing the right thing. And now you have more money for shoes that you WILL wear. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/returning-my-imaginary-lifestyle#post-720581 Thu, 13 Sep 2012 21:14:04 +0000 catgirl 720581@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I can't tell you how many times this has happened to me. And occasionally still does. I DO have a couple of items I've hoarded just for the times when I can go to Hawai'i or NY or someplace else warm - that way I have something special to make my lame warm weather capsule better. </p> <p>Sending a big pat on the back! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/returning-my-imaginary-lifestyle#post-720577 Thu, 13 Sep 2012 21:12:04 +0000 annagybe 720577@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>They're beautiful, but what a smart realization. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/returning-my-imaginary-lifestyle#post-720575 Thu, 13 Sep 2012 21:09:55 +0000 K. Period. 720575@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I feel like I took a real step forward today. I'd bought these shoes about a month ago. I was in love with the style. I'd tried them on earlier, at nearly full price, and almost bought them. Then I'd gone back and they were gone. I kept thinking about them. Then I found them when I was visiting a friend out of state and they were 70% off. I grabbed them without a thought. Everyone on the forum loved them. All around hooray! </p> <p>But then as the elation faded, I started really thinking about what to wear them with. Several things came to mind, but I never broke them out. Yesterday I realized it was because I was buying for an imaginary lifestyle. </p> <p>I love how caged heels look on others here on the forum. I long for how they make every simple outfit look super cool. I love their edginess. But... They are a weekend shoe, not a work shoe for me. I have two little kids to chase around. The heel is too high. I could wear them for a date night, but they aren't really my core style, so I doubt I'll get the wear over time that I need for them. They'd never be my go-to. And I live in Portland, Oregon, so I could only wear them in the summer. All this came crashing home and I realized that they had to go back. </p> <p>So I'm celebrating! I'm really glad that I realized what I was doing while I could still return them. Yeah forum and Angie for this perspective! </p>