https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/restorative-change-vs-change-by-preference Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Mon, 20 Apr 2026 04:30:40 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/restorative-change-vs-change-by-preference/page/2#post-2099116 Fri, 14 Feb 2020 22:10:12 +0000 Anonymous 2099116@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>To quote RuPaul: &nbsp;"If they're not paying your bills, don't pay them no mind." </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/restorative-change-vs-change-by-preference/page/2#post-2098750 Wed, 12 Feb 2020 17:58:42 +0000 Anonymous 2098750@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ditto to what torontogirl said! I'd think the surgery could limit further vision loss down the road too, since the eyelid could become worse without correction. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/restorative-change-vs-change-by-preference#post-2098451 Tue, 11 Feb 2020 13:14:06 +0000 RobinF 2098451@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Wow what an insensitive person! I agree with the other comments, you do what you need to do and ignore those opinions. Good thing you can avoid her.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/restorative-change-vs-change-by-preference#post-2098384 Tue, 11 Feb 2020 04:37:40 +0000 kellygirl 2098384@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That's appalling behavior on her part. Sorry you had to listen to her. I'm constantly amazed at some of the things that people think and say. I'm not perfect, but I at least know when to keep my mouth shut. Good luck on the surgery!&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/restorative-change-vs-change-by-preference#post-2098220 Mon, 10 Feb 2020 14:42:49 +0000 Helena 2098220@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Echoing everyone else here - your health, your body, your choice. Clearly you have health and quality of life issues that you are trying to address, but <i>even if</i> it was (so-called) "vanity" - <b>still</b>, your health, your body, your choice!</p> <p>Clearly this individual has issues of her own that she is projecting onto you; you are 100% right imo to set healthy boundaries when someone's negativity is infecting your life.</p> <p>Hope it all goes well xx</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/restorative-change-vs-change-by-preference#post-2098210 Mon, 10 Feb 2020 14:24:34 +0000 Bijou 2098210@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Glad you posted this, because you are justifiably outraged. She clearly has no idea about this issue. Vision is important. Wishing you a very good outcome on your surgery. If I was in your shoes, I would not hesitate for a second to have the surgery too. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/restorative-change-vs-change-by-preference#post-2098170 Mon, 10 Feb 2020 11:38:20 +0000 Sisi 2098170@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>First of all best wishes for your surgery! The world is full of people who speak without thinking. Sometimes their comments are so&nbsp;foolish that we should just laugh at them. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/restorative-change-vs-change-by-preference#post-2098102 Sun, 09 Feb 2020 19:51:07 +0000 Cardiff girl 2098102@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>people never fail to underestimate just how tiring dealing with a chronic illness is and comments like this from friends do not help.l hope that your surgery is successful and gives you the result that you are after. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/restorative-change-vs-change-by-preference#post-2098094 Sun, 09 Feb 2020 19:05:53 +0000 kkards 2098094@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>people can be so rude...glad you're in remission and hoping that the&nbsp;surgery goes smoothly and provides you with the relief that you are looking for. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/restorative-change-vs-change-by-preference#post-2097986 Sun, 09 Feb 2020 00:33:17 +0000 Style Fan 2097986@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am so sorry you had to experience this.&nbsp; I hope your surgery goes well.&nbsp; You have enough to deal with at this time.&nbsp; Suz is so right about what people with chronic illness experience.&nbsp;&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/restorative-change-vs-change-by-preference#post-2097965 Sat, 08 Feb 2020 20:37:31 +0000 Angie 2097965@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, sweet <b>Andrea</b>. ((((HUGS))).</p> <p>People can be soooo UN-self aware, un-empathetic and insensitive. &nbsp;Shrug it off!</p> <p>IT IS YOUR CHOICE to have surgery, and that's that. You look and are beautiful. Hope the surgery is successful, and that you regain as much vision as possible. Sending healing thoughts, and much love. xo</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/restorative-change-vs-change-by-preference#post-2097949 Sat, 08 Feb 2020 18:03:43 +0000 taylor 2097949@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh , wow! &nbsp;People are so disappointing. :(<br />i fully support anything that makes one feel better about themselves. &nbsp;Until one has suffered an illness such as yours , &nbsp;they cannot possibly understand the toll it can take emotionally.<br />I am wishing you the very best outcome for your surgery and complete remission regarding &nbsp;this condition. &nbsp;Best wishes❤️</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/restorative-change-vs-change-by-preference#post-2097943 Sat, 08 Feb 2020 16:49:37 +0000 Jules 2097943@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>People project their worries... I wonder if she was mentally cataloging all that you have gone through, having a bad reaction to the thought of those treatments, and when you mentioned the eye surgery, her mind went to "well that's cosmetic, I don't have to put THAT in my worry box' and so lashed out (in a totally rude and inappropriate way, to be sure). No excuses though, I would also choose not to engage with that person again. Good luck with your surgery. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/restorative-change-vs-change-by-preference#post-2097939 Sat, 08 Feb 2020 16:25:37 +0000 NancyW 2097939@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So glad you can avoid this person in the future. I can imagine your shock at her ignorant, boundary crossing comment. I had this surgery in November and am so pleased with the results. I do not have Graves, but my lids had become so heavy that they sometimes blocked my field of vision. My close vision and peripheral vision are remarkably improved. Good luck with your surgery. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/restorative-change-vs-change-by-preference#post-2097937 Sat, 08 Feb 2020 16:20:52 +0000 Joyce B 2097937@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I wish you good results with your procedure and an easy recovery.<br /> As far as the commenting woman goes, it is none of her business if someone else is having a medically indicated procedure or is voluntarily going for plastic surgery. It is good that you are not interacting with her any longer. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/restorative-change-vs-change-by-preference#post-2097922 Sat, 08 Feb 2020 13:44:31 +0000 nemosmom 2097922@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What an insensitive woman!&nbsp; No wonder you are upset!&nbsp; I am sorry you are having to go through so much. I hope you have a successful surgery and am sending healing thoughts your way.&nbsp; Keep us posted! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/restorative-change-vs-change-by-preference#post-2097918 Sat, 08 Feb 2020 13:29:21 +0000 Kathie 2097918@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So sorry you had to deal with that! Good vision is such an essential part of quality of life. Hope the surgery goes well and you recover quickly! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/restorative-change-vs-change-by-preference#post-2097889 Sat, 08 Feb 2020 02:54:00 +0000 rachylou 2097889@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I’m outraged for you. People are so bad this way. I wish, as a professional patient, I could say it was because they are ignorant and inexperienced; however, I’ve learned knowledge is no cure. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/restorative-change-vs-change-by-preference#post-2097883 Sat, 08 Feb 2020 02:33:25 +0000 Janet 2097883@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh no, what an insensitive and misguided remark! I’m glad this is someone you can avoid in the future. Sometimes I just don’t understand people.</p> <p>I wish you well with your procedure. I had to google to learn about Graves’ disease, and the eye disorder sounds so unpleasant! I hope you get relief and feel better. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/restorative-change-vs-change-by-preference#post-2097881 Sat, 08 Feb 2020 02:16:36 +0000 smittie 2097881@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What a silly woman.<br /> I had Graves, now in remission.<br /> My eyes were alright, thank goodness.<br /> I’m sorry you have to have this surgery, but it’s a good thing, and I hope you view it as a positive thing for yourself and don’t think of this stupid woman. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/restorative-change-vs-change-by-preference#post-2097875 Sat, 08 Feb 2020 01:41:53 +0000 Sal 2097875@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What a thoughtless incorrect comment. I would be flabbergasted and annoyed too. I wish you all the best for the surgery - sounds like you are in very good hands. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/restorative-change-vs-change-by-preference#post-2097874 Sat, 08 Feb 2020 01:40:31 +0000 slim cat 2097874@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sorry about that unpleasant conversation. I agree with @The Cat who mentioned that health issues not to be shared lightly with some of our friends and acquaintances. Sometimes people have no idea what certain health problems can do to you but ready with their advice and judgment.<br />I hope the surgery will be successful and your vision will improve afterwards. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/restorative-change-vs-change-by-preference#post-2097873 Sat, 08 Feb 2020 01:18:51 +0000 Marilyn 2097873@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><div>Wow!&nbsp; That's very insensitive and completely out of line.</div><div><br /></div><div>I hope the surgery goes well for you.<br /></div> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/restorative-change-vs-change-by-preference#post-2097870 Sat, 08 Feb 2020 01:04:15 +0000 Gigi 2097870@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>As I read this, I yelled, "WHAT?!" out loud at the screen. (I'm not joking.)</p> <p>This really makes my blood boil. I would love to know what course of action she would take if she were in your situation. All you are trying to do is get back to normal, to undo what the disease has done to you. I'm sorry that you had to be on the receiving end of such a comment. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/restorative-change-vs-change-by-preference#post-2097860 Fri, 07 Feb 2020 23:59:56 +0000 Vildy 2097860@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My experience is that people who blurt out this kind of "advice" or admonition to you are frequently talking to someone else who refuses to listen to them. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/restorative-change-vs-change-by-preference#post-2097850 Fri, 07 Feb 2020 22:44:10 +0000 The Cat 2097850@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am sorry to hear that you had to deal with so tactless comments.</p> <p>I agree with what others have said here. Some people are incredibly insensitive to others' serious ailments. </p> <p>I have learnt from experience that I have to consider which information I give to whom regarding my family's and my own health issues. Generally, I don't want to discuss personal health issues with people who are neither health personnel nor close friends of our family. I simply have to protect myself from hurtful remarks and odd advice. Luckily, we have trusted friends who support and encourage us, and I hope you have some, too.</p> <p>I wish you all the best for your surgery. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/restorative-change-vs-change-by-preference#post-2097833 Fri, 07 Feb 2020 21:29:38 +0000 Anonymous 2097833@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It sounds like she has "issues" that she's dealing with. &nbsp;Good idea to discontinue interaction with her as you move toward a better and healthier life. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/restorative-change-vs-change-by-preference#post-2097831 Fri, 07 Feb 2020 21:24:12 +0000 nuancedream 2097831@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Lisa p, she's an acquaintance and I made the decision to discontinue further interaction with her. I just don't need the negativity. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/restorative-change-vs-change-by-preference#post-2097828 Fri, 07 Feb 2020 21:04:39 +0000 Anonymous 2097828@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Good grief. I have almost NO patience nor tolerance for ill-considered comments like that. &nbsp;She cannot be that good of a friend - hope you don't waste another moment's thought on it. You do what you need and want &nbsp;to do </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/restorative-change-vs-change-by-preference#post-2097821 Fri, 07 Feb 2020 20:22:30 +0000 nuancedream 2097821@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Suz, thank you for your insightful and compassionate comment. I am blessed to have a wonderfully skilled and empathetic oculoplastic surgeon who has reassured me that my peripheral vision and appearance of my right eye will be markedly improved after surgery. </p>