https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-to-give-up Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Mon, 20 Apr 2026 03:50:33 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-to-give-up/page/2#post-750437 Wed, 17 Oct 2012 21:35:00 +0000 Mochi 750437@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Don't even worry about it, biscuit. It's our desire to lift each other up here. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-to-give-up/page/2#post-750406 Wed, 17 Oct 2012 20:54:31 +0000 biscuitsmom 750406@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Omg...I cant begin to tell you all how much your support, kindness and warmth means to me! Shortly after I posted this, my computer bit the dust. I started crying when I was reading the first posts and it didnt take long before I was bawling...trying not to sound too melodramatic, but you all helped pull me from the edge, truly. Words can never fully describe my gratitude to each of you who took the time to write....Im not really a religous person, but God Bless every one of you....we just got a new computer and I will be spending as much time as I can the next few days thanking all of you! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-to-give-up/page/2#post-744037 Wed, 10 Oct 2012 01:03:42 +0000 D'Ellen 744037@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Dear Biscuitsmom - hugs to you!!! I originally met you on another forum (you and I had different names then, but I recognize adorable Biscuit), and there - as here - you were never anything but kind, helpful and generous. When that forum became an uncomortable place to be, you pointed me and others to YLF. When I think of you I think of a beautiful person...one who is beautiful for all the right reasons. Please, please don't sell yourself short. You are lovely, loving and deserving! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-to-give-up/page/2#post-743988 Tue, 09 Oct 2012 23:39:06 +0000 Kiwichik 743988@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>BM - I don't know what is going on in your head or in your life right now to make you feel so down but you are part of an online community that thinks you are a very special person. Please be as kind &amp; forgiving &amp; nurturing to yourself as you are to others. It's hard sometimes to get on with life and stay positive and if you are feeling there is only darkness on the horizon maybe some help is needed:<br /> <a href="http://www.depression.org.nz/content/depression" rel="nofollow">http://www.depression.org.nz/content/depression</a><br /> Stay strong, love yourself as you love others - you are worth it and please don't leave all your friends here on the forum. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-to-give-up/page/2#post-743908 Tue, 09 Oct 2012 22:08:37 +0000 san 743908@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Bisquitsmom please don't leave the forum. If you are feeling down you need the support more than ever. We care about each other. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-to-give-up/page/2#post-743859 Tue, 09 Oct 2012 21:07:13 +0000 Sona 743859@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Biscuitsmom: Isabel posted so eloquently many of the reasons you are so worth it. Every word rings true in her post. Testament to your warmth, your kindness, your wonderful giving nature.<br /> Thinking of you, keeping you in my thoughts,sending hugs and leaving you with two of my favorite sayings when I am feeling down: " This too shall pass" and as Scarlett O'Hara so eloquently said " And tomorrow is another day". </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-to-give-up/page/2#post-743631 Tue, 09 Oct 2012 15:44:32 +0000 Isis 743631@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So much good advice and warm words, I don't know what to add. I will echo the thought that you are a valued member of this community. You are part of what makes YLF so unique and wonderful.....THAT is part of your real self! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-to-give-up/page/2#post-743624 Tue, 09 Oct 2012 15:35:33 +0000 Anonymous 743624@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>BM, I loved picking out the bird scarf for you last Christmas for Secret Santa. You are such a warm, generous member of YLF. You are important! Please put on the bird scarf and know that YLF loves you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-to-give-up/page/2#post-743607 Tue, 09 Oct 2012 15:11:30 +0000 Anonymous 743607@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This breaks my heart to read, BM. You need to believe in yourself. Remember you are special! You are beautifully and wonderfully made, and there is only one of you. You have a lot of support from everyone at YLF, and we'll help you through this. Carole said it best when she said we all have our strengths and weaknesses, and that we're all works in progress. I'll be praying for you.</p> <p>Love, Ruth </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-to-give-up/page/2#post-743587 Tue, 09 Oct 2012 14:50:47 +0000 Carole 743587@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Please don't leave, BM, but if you need a break for awhile we will be here when you get back, We will miss you and hopefully there are lots of good things to offer you here. I hope you never give up on yourself...we are all works in progress and all of us have our strengths and weaknesses. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-to-give-up/page/2#post-743566 Tue, 09 Oct 2012 14:28:08 +0000 missvee 743566@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm sorry that you're feeling down on yourself. This is the season that many of us start to feel less than fab. We're losing the light, the days are getting shorter, and it's hard to adjust. You are every bit as fab as any of us and its very sad to me to hear how despondent you are. I think your recent haircut has disappointed you, right? Could that be the straw that broke the camel's back? Try to hang in there and look to something more positive. We would hate to lose your thoughtful comments on the forum. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-to-give-up/page/2#post-743546 Tue, 09 Oct 2012 14:13:20 +0000 Isabel 743546@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>BM, please don't give into that feeling right now. I know that you have been going through hell. This would make anyone weary and beaten down. It seems that we are the last thing to worry about ..but don't give in to that. </p> <p>Even if you feel that it is not worth it..please tell yourself that OTHER people do feel that you are worth it. YOU ARE !!!! Please tell yourself that. Allow yourself some time to feel a little frivolous and kind to yourself. </p> <p>And worth is not measured in looks or clothing. One of my favorite sayings of all times is "fake it til you make it".</p> <p>So frankly, I don't care if you are a "fraud" right now : ) Keep on doing it until you become it. Hey, I look in the mirror and I see my crooked leg and my uneven eyes with one hood really drooping, I see the damage to my skin and the big belly. I see it too. But I still tell my kids that the song " That's what makes you beautiful" by the teenage boy band was written for me ! I know that I am not Cindy Crawford. </p> <p> Sometimes that is all we got ....but you ARE so wonderful and generous and kind and THAT is not FRAUDULENT. Look at your hands and think of all the people ( and dog ) that you have taken care of. Your hands have typed beautiful words here to support women and encourage them. Think of your heart and how it has been open and full for Steve and how supportive and kind you were to me with my cancer battle ( and you don't even KNOW ME ! ) . Think of your ears and how they listen to your sister through cancer. Think of how your imperfect body ( we all have imperfect bodies ) and how it has taken care of and nursed Biscuit through cancer. THAT IS BEAUTIFUL MY FRIEND. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL ! I don't even have to see a picture of you. </p> <p>Please don't go away for long. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-to-give-up/page/2#post-743540 Tue, 09 Oct 2012 14:01:57 +0000 MNsara 743540@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, BM, this does not sound good at all! {{hugs}} You are a wonderful, thoughtful, kind, supportive, fabulous woman - and you deserve to *feel* good about yourself too! Sometimes things get in the way of that, though, and I hope you can figure out what's got you down so low, so you can work on it.</p> <p>You've gotten such incredible, insightful advice here. I hope some of it really resonates with where you are at.</p> <p>I had to go catch up on Mander's thread, and saw your beautiful post to her. Those same words are true when directed at you:<br /> . . . the YLF community being so supportive. I really hope you take their kind words and wisdom to heart, for they speak the truth...I wish you could see what the rest of us see in you! You are a very lovely, brave woman.... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-to-give-up/page/2#post-743504 Tue, 09 Oct 2012 13:18:14 +0000 ButterflyLady 743504@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sending lots of positive thoughts to you, BM.</p> <p>You deserve to feel and look your best because you are the only you there is, completely unique ((hugs)) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-to-give-up/page/2#post-743501 Tue, 09 Oct 2012 13:14:33 +0000 Janet 743501@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, BM, I've felt that way. I'm so sorry you're going through such a rough patch. Please stay with us. This fantastic, supportive community has helped lift my spirits a number of times. I'm sending you lots of good thoughts and virtual hugs. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-to-give-up/page/2#post-743478 Tue, 09 Oct 2012 12:16:05 +0000 April 743478@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>BMom -- what's got you down? I saw the headline of your other thread about your haircut making everything "not work". I know it can feel overwhelming when nothing works -- how can we help? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-to-give-up/page/2#post-743447 Tue, 09 Oct 2012 10:36:34 +0000 rute 743447@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>No, don't give up! Try to understand why do you feel that way. We all have different styles and you cannot compare yourself to others. When we feel that way, there is always a deeper reason (maybe body issues, health problems) and that what you must discover and solve that! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-to-give-up/page/2#post-743441 Tue, 09 Oct 2012 09:26:16 +0000 Mander 743441@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh no, biscuit! I didn't mean to set anyone else off on a downward spiral. :-(</p> <p>Maybe we can work together on improving our outlook? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-to-give-up#post-743403 Tue, 09 Oct 2012 05:26:28 +0000 Jenava 743403@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Come, now, my dear, you are fantastic! We all feel like a sham now and then, but you've got to fake it till you make it! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-to-give-up#post-743397 Tue, 09 Oct 2012 04:26:43 +0000 Caro in Oz 743397@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It sounds like things have been very hard for you lately. Please don't feel that this somehow defines who you are. There is a lot of love &amp; kindness to be had on this forum &amp; I hope you stay around &amp; enjoy some of it but I understand if that's not possible right now. Lots of positive thoughts coming to you from the land down under. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-to-give-up#post-743379 Tue, 09 Oct 2012 03:55:04 +0000 cheryl 743379@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sending big hugs your way. Please stay, we are here for you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-to-give-up#post-743368 Tue, 09 Oct 2012 03:42:50 +0000 Lyn D. 743368@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sending positive energy your way today B.M.<br /> Please stay in touch! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-to-give-up#post-743353 Tue, 09 Oct 2012 03:12:38 +0000 Anonymous 743353@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Biscuitsmom, please don't leave or feel like a fraud. We are each dealing with the cards we were dealt and, with Angie's advice and example as well as our friends here, we try to do better. However, there are times that it seems like it's two steps back for every one we take ahead. Hugs!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-to-give-up#post-743342 Tue, 09 Oct 2012 02:59:49 +0000 Suz 743342@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so sorry that you're feeling so down. It is such a tough place to be. And you deserve some light and happiness. You have been having a very rough go of it lately, and have experienced a lot of stress, and that always makes things seem worse. </p> <p>Please know - you are not a fraud. You are a wonderful member of this community who is very bravely putting doing her best. </p> <p>I hope you have a friend you can talk to, and I hope you will continue to share with us. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-to-give-up#post-743246 Tue, 09 Oct 2012 01:39:48 +0000 Jamie 743246@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Biscuitsmom -- lots of hugs to you. I hope you stick around. I have felt exactly as you do, and many days, I don't feel all that fab. I just keep trying. This community is such a wonderful place. Just know that you aren't alone, and we're all here to help. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-to-give-up#post-743242 Tue, 09 Oct 2012 01:34:53 +0000 Debora 743242@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Biscuitsmom, please do not leave our community!!! You are one of my very favorite posters and I always love it when you (and Biscuit) comment on my posts. This forum is bigger than just fashion - it's also about friendship and the connections we've formed with one another. You are such a valuable part of this! You are always generous with your time and comments and there is nothing fraudulent about that! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-to-give-up#post-743239 Tue, 09 Oct 2012 01:30:17 +0000 catgirl 743239@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>BM just chiming in to say you have us to talk to and we need you here! Please don't be so hard on yourself - it doesn't even have to be about fashion, this is a community and you are very valued and wanted. Don't go! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-to-give-up#post-743220 Tue, 09 Oct 2012 01:04:56 +0000 Angie 743220@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>And more hugs and positive vibes from me. This community cares about you - please know that. </p> <p>Biscuits Mom, I'd love to help you. Post a photo of yourself and I just know that we can change your mind. </p> <p>xoxo </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-to-give-up#post-743213 Tue, 09 Oct 2012 00:58:22 +0000 Jonesy 743213@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I agree with everyone else--don't give up on yourself! Stay connected with people who are caring and care about you :)! BIG HUGS to you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-to-give-up#post-743207 Tue, 09 Oct 2012 00:54:15 +0000 Laurinda 743207@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Big hugs to you! </p>