https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-for-a-change Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sun, 26 Apr 2026 07:48:14 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-for-a-change#post-1326050 Fri, 08 Aug 2014 12:33:00 +0000 Suz 1326050@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Vivian -- I so understand this. I have just returned from a week long "adventure" with my 89 year old frail and legally blind mother. Who is as irascible at her present age as she always was. :)&nbsp;</p> <p>Hang in there. This time <b>WAS </b>a gift and it is good you can see it this way.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-for-a-change#post-1323839 Tue, 05 Aug 2014 16:51:15 +0000 JenA 1323839@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Vivian,<br />I'm sorry that it was such bittersweet&nbsp;visit for you. I've been thinking about you and wondering how everything is. I find shopping a release as well and perhaps now you can&nbsp;enjoy your new purchases. </p> <p>I'm sending you&nbsp;a big hug!</p> <p>Jen </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-for-a-change#post-1321936 Sun, 03 Aug 2014 02:53:04 +0000 Mary Beth (formerly LBD) 1321936@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Big hugs headed your way! &nbsp; I am so glad that your mom is happy, and that, regardless of the challenges presented by both of your parents, that you had that time with them :)</p> <p>Maybe something you can take away from this is that it's okay sometimes not to plan ahead or do anything, but just to be in the moment :)</p> <p>Now go enjoy your blissful solitude! &nbsp; xoxo</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-for-a-change#post-1321607 Sat, 02 Aug 2014 17:55:54 +0000 Vicki 1321607@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Vivian, you've really articulated what so many of us go through with family issues converging and realizing our own need to stay healthy in the process.</p> <p>Aging parents are certainly a challenge among many others and you have a good handle on knowing that these are fleeting moments in time and you are doing your best. &nbsp;Your quiet days of solitude are right around the corner. &nbsp;Thinking of you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-for-a-change#post-1321577 Sat, 02 Aug 2014 17:13:08 +0000 JAileen 1321577@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>How wonderful (if trying) to spend this time with your parents. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-for-a-change#post-1321461 Sat, 02 Aug 2014 13:27:28 +0000 SarahTheWhite 1321461@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Awwww, such a mixed blessing. I'm glad there was special in with the difficult... I can so identify with needing alone time. There is nothing harder for me than feeling like I'm always "on". I hope you are able to recharge soon and enjoy your new purchases! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-for-a-change#post-1321295 Sat, 02 Aug 2014 01:08:16 +0000 Sal 1321295@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>That has been a hard but important time. You wrote about it eloquently. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-for-a-change#post-1321149 Fri, 01 Aug 2014 22:34:25 +0000 kkards 1321149@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Your post brought tears to my eyes. It's such a struggle isn't it, the pain and frustration of seeing your parents this way, and having to deal with, and yet realizing what's next isn't what you want either. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-for-a-change#post-1321085 Fri, 01 Aug 2014 20:53:23 +0000 April 1321085@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Three weeks with family -- however wonderful -- is a heroic stretch, Viva. &nbsp;You've absolutely earned some solitude and some quiet time. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-for-a-change#post-1321073 Fri, 01 Aug 2014 20:14:50 +0000 Karie 1321073@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hugs to you :)</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-for-a-change#post-1321042 Fri, 01 Aug 2014 19:26:48 +0000 Anonymous 1321042@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You're a great daughter Vivian. You'll soon have some quiet time, but also some precious memories after your parents have gone back home. Hugs. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-for-a-change#post-1321034 Fri, 01 Aug 2014 19:17:48 +0000 Eliza 1321034@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Viva- you have articulated your experience so clearly. &nbsp;I get it. It is a lot of challenges and a huge opportunity. &nbsp;To be able to accept each for what it is the way you do is inspirational to me. &nbsp;Your folks are blessed to have you.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-for-a-change#post-1321011 Fri, 01 Aug 2014 19:01:59 +0000 Neel 1321011@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hugs to you Viva. I have no words of advice except that hang on there girl ... You are a wonderful person inside and out. x </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-for-a-change#post-1320882 Fri, 01 Aug 2014 16:18:29 +0000 Isis 1320882@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Wonderful thoughts, Viva.&nbsp; So glad you were able to enjoy this visit with your parents. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-for-a-change#post-1320830 Fri, 01 Aug 2014 14:52:38 +0000 Vivian 1320830@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Your post left me in tears, I so miss my mom and like your sweet mom she too had Alzheimer's. I remember those wacky yet wonderful visits with her......the good times and the bad. Sending hugs your way Viva, enjoy your time with your folks,you are a wonderful daughter. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-for-a-change#post-1320792 Fri, 01 Aug 2014 13:54:08 +0000 Kimberley 1320792@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Viva, you are a wonderful daughter! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-for-a-change#post-1320629 Fri, 01 Aug 2014 05:34:44 +0000 Lyn D. 1320629@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>A lovely post Viva!<br />This time with your parents is one that you will cherish in years to come.<br />&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-for-a-change#post-1320531 Fri, 01 Aug 2014 03:04:34 +0000 Beth Ann 1320531@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You have given a great gift to your parents, and added to your cup of memories in the process.&nbsp; I'm sure you've needed some sort of outlet and I hope that, at the least, your purchases fit well into your wardrobe!&nbsp; Soon you will have your cup of tea and freedom to roam where you like again! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-for-a-change#post-1320527 Fri, 01 Aug 2014 02:59:55 +0000 Janet 1320527@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hang in there! I'm glad the visit has mostly gone well -- all things considered, it sounds like you have managed very well and enjoyed some good time with your mom. Plan some good alone time activities for when the visit is over! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-for-a-change#post-1320510 Fri, 01 Aug 2014 02:41:25 +0000 Sveta 1320510@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Vivian, I am happy you have an outlet like YLF to ease your challenge. You are a wonderful and caring daughter and it is not always an easy task.<br />Hold on for 2 more days.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-for-a-change#post-1320375 Thu, 31 Jul 2014 23:58:19 +0000 Angie 1320375@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>A cathartic post. I bet your parents love having you there, Vivian. You are a fabulous daughter. And this will make your alone time all the more sweet. xo </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-for-a-change#post-1320372 Thu, 31 Jul 2014 23:54:30 +0000 Deborah 1320372@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Vivian, you are a beautiful lady and it sounds like you are a real blessing to your mum and dad. You don't have to apologise for limited time on the forum, I think we have all been thinking of you as you spent time wig your parents. xxx </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-for-a-change#post-1320339 Thu, 31 Jul 2014 23:33:25 +0000 Caro in Oz 1320339@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It's wonderful you can see this time as the gift it is, glad you are nearly there </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/ready-for-a-change#post-1320282 Thu, 31 Jul 2014 22:22:15 +0000 viva 1320282@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Two more days, and I will have survived my parents' three-week visit. </p> <p>In a nutshell ....</p> <p>- My 85-year-old mother with Alzheimers has been a peach. She is happy, wonderful, easy to care for but a lot of work, and wholly unpredictable. I have been able to plan nothing. I have to just see how she is from minute to minute, which is difficult because I am a planner. I've just had to let that go. I'm also a doer. I've had to let that go too. Sometimes I just sit with her for long stretches. Difficult, really difficult in some ways ... but on the other hand, I love being with her, and this time has been an amazing gift I am lucky to have had.<br />- My 87-year-old father has been a challenge (as he always is). Very loving, but very manipulative, and still worrying us all by spending every waking moment on a business idea he has been trying to get off the ground for 20 years. We have to watch carefully to make sure no more money goes into this pit. Easily the toughest part of the entire visit.<br />- My credit card is groaning, as shopping has been a release. I have returned a lot but have basically spent July's AND August's AND some of September's money this month.</p> <p>As a person who typically spends a lot of time alone, and who really enjoys being alone, I am looking forward to sitting in a silent house and being able to do something -- anything -- on a whim again -- anything other than online shop, which was quite literally the only thing I could do easily since I could not leave my parents on their own, even alone in a room. But I do know that I will also miss them. It's difficult.</p> <p>I'm looking forward to MsMary's Ascetic challenge for August, to embracing style again, and to shopping my closet. Thanks YLF for being a refuge this past few weeks, and I apologize to all for not being a very thoughtful commenter. </p> <p>xxxx Vivian</p>