https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/readjusting-my-mental-attitude Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Mon, 20 Apr 2026 12:12:29 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/readjusting-my-mental-attitude/page/2#post-1710087 Mon, 08 Aug 2016 02:04:41 +0000 judy 1710087@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Anna, I never met you in person, but just want to echo Angie's sentiments that fashion is from the inside out. &nbsp;You have always seemed very forward thinking about fashion, that I've seen here. &nbsp;And it's a way of being. &nbsp;</p> <p>I have had my own life changes...no longer in Seattle...and so haven't been on the forum much this summer and I don't know all the family challenges refereed to in this thread that you have gone through. &nbsp;But just wanted to add my vote for confidence in you....wishing you all the best!</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/readjusting-my-mental-attitude/page/2#post-1710058 Mon, 08 Aug 2016 00:55:26 +0000 tulle 1710058@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hang in there, Anna. Your avant-garde sensibilities can bring originality to the most basic clothes.&nbsp; I hope you will be your own designer, and fool around with things that fit until they project the inner you.&nbsp; </p> <p>A note to Beth Ann:&nbsp; I can recommend the Halogen Cascade jacket--my single NAS purchase, and a steal at $70--as a quiet, graceful and authoritative piece.&nbsp; Herringbone weave in ivory/black or navy/black. Both regular &amp; petites go up to 16.</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/readjusting-my-mental-attitude/page/2#post-1709680 Sun, 07 Aug 2016 03:47:46 +0000 crazyone 1709680@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>sorry that you're dealing with a lot these days. &nbsp;I hope you get some lucky/exciting fashion finds. &nbsp;&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/readjusting-my-mental-attitude/page/2#post-1709671 Sun, 07 Aug 2016 03:20:40 +0000 Jaime 1709671@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yes, adjusting style glasses to focus on shoes, sunnies, hats, and so on, while you search out designers that make clothes that work for you makes sense. It is so stupid that designers don't include a wider range of sizes. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/readjusting-my-mental-attitude/page/2#post-1709413 Sat, 06 Aug 2016 18:45:48 +0000 Greyscale 1709413@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I had no idea Rachel Comey patterns were available! Thanks for that link.</p> <p>Anna, you're hoeing a tough row with everything going on. But your sense of style is pretty unstoppable, and I really hope you find some inspiring clothes. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/readjusting-my-mental-attitude#post-1709385 Sat, 06 Aug 2016 17:26:01 +0000 rachylou 1709385@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So do I, Firecracker. I think it's because I feel a dearth of appealing high design just all together. I'm on the lookout for a brilliant find. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/readjusting-my-mental-attitude#post-1709382 Sat, 06 Aug 2016 17:22:50 +0000 Firecracker (Sharan) 1709382@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I've been coming back to this thread, not really having anything to add. Now I recall some long-ago post of yours about shoes making such a difference in how you feel about an outfit. (I feel this way, too.) I think if you find some sources where you are somewhat inspired (if not moreso) and you can reliably find a good fit, your amazing shoe collection will enable you to continue putting your very individual, ahead-of-the-curve style stamp on what you wear. I'm also always admiring your sunglasses (and how gorgeous you look in them), your hair, and your makeup. Those cannot be discounted, either, in thinking about an overall style and amazing look. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/readjusting-my-mental-attitude#post-1709376 Sat, 06 Aug 2016 17:09:38 +0000 rachylou 1709376@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><a href="https://carmakoma.com/en/new-in/aw16.html" rel="nofollow">https://carmakoma.com/en/new-in/aw16.html</a></p> <p>I like some of the things on this site. I wonder about their quality.</p> <p>And darn it, I want this Dolce Vita dress: <a href="http://www.annascholz.com/online-store/rose-jacquard-jersey-roll-neck-swing-dress-red.html" rel="nofollow">http://www.annascholz.com/onli.....s-red.html</a> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/readjusting-my-mental-attitude#post-1709288 Sat, 06 Aug 2016 13:03:05 +0000 kkards 1709288@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>anna, thought of you when i read this -<br /><a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.nytimes.com/2016/08/04/fashion/mccalls-pattern-company-sewing-do-it-yourself.html?_r=0">http://www.nytimes.com/2016/08......html?_r=0</a><br />(from the article)<br />The New York designer <a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.nytimes.com/2013/11/14/fashion/rachel-comey-aims-for-a-bigger-slice-of-fashions-pie.html">Rachel Comey</a>&nbsp;has licensed her patterns to McCall since 2010, where they appear under the Vogue Patterns brand. She didn’t do it for the money. “I just like the tradition of it,” Ms. Comey said. “Sewing is a great craft. It’s exciting and confidence building. I wanted to support it.”</p> <p>another way to get the designer fashions you want.... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/readjusting-my-mental-attitude#post-1709151 Sat, 06 Aug 2016 04:38:40 +0000 BrieN 1709151@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have so been there- a closet of clothes and nothing to wear that fits! Hoping you find some newer labels/designers that are interesting enough to earn a place in your stylish closet! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/readjusting-my-mental-attitude#post-1708943 Fri, 05 Aug 2016 23:52:53 +0000 DonnaF 1708943@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So sorry about your frustrations, Anna.&nbsp; You know that stress messes with hormones, right?&nbsp; So as long as you have all this stress in your life your body feels like it needs to hunker down and hold onto every last ounce because The Famine/Calamity/Ice Age is coming.&nbsp; Or just the November elections?</p> <p>Your dazzling footwear and legs will have us forgetting or ignoring whatever else you're wearing or not. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/readjusting-my-mental-attitude#post-1708884 Fri, 05 Aug 2016 22:37:33 +0000 Beth Ann 1708884@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yes, it is definitely more work to create a great wardrobe over size 10. &nbsp;If you're trying to save money (like me) or enjoy cutting edge fashion (like you), it's even harder.</p> <p>I'm longing for a jacket or to with great shaping, but also with real ease. &nbsp;Oh, and I'd like it for less than $150, OK?</p> <p>For all these difficulties, there are bargains, and awesome garments to be had --- and Angie and the Forum are a great resource, too! &nbsp;</p> <p>Of to check Violetta and COS........</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/readjusting-my-mental-attitude#post-1708840 Fri, 05 Aug 2016 21:31:12 +0000 Aida 1708840@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>*more hugs* It sounds like you've got an idea for what would get you the furthest while life is chaotic. Love the idea to find a couple opera dresses (that might be where custom would help most) and a killer pair of jeans (because, come on). Plenty of jackets will pop up as fall stuff comes through. I'd vote maybe also look a few dressier pieces to play along with your sporty stuff. That should be enough to get you through life while life demands time away from yourself. And YES <i>definitely</i> show those legs off!!</p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/readjusting-my-mental-attitude#post-1708775 Fri, 05 Aug 2016 20:35:22 +0000 Diana 1708775@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm sorry everything seems to be hitting the fan all at once, Anna.&nbsp; *hugs*</p> <p>I like the idea of custom or semi-custom made.&nbsp; I wonder if Etsy might be a good place to look for more unique stuff/statement pieces, although there is obviously a ton of stuff to wade through there.&nbsp; </p> <p>(And I think I probably introduced the term "floordrobe" although I cannot take credit for inventing it.&nbsp; My friend Paula came up with it!) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/readjusting-my-mental-attitude#post-1708736 Fri, 05 Aug 2016 19:29:13 +0000 rachylou 1708736@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>1. I like the Navabi stuff, gosh. Good colours. </p> <p>2. Whoa to the Laundry Saga! Here's one for you: my old neighbors had their laundry stuck in a machine in our communal laundry for a week! The laundry ate clothes, I swear.</p> <p>3. The designer scene is DOA anyways. You know, my Nordstrom I noticed added Madewell. I think this is all wrong, especially because Madewell has a shop next door. What is the point?</p> <p>4. Which, 3, is kinda interesting. Personal styling is everything now. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/readjusting-my-mental-attitude#post-1708661 Fri, 05 Aug 2016 17:15:37 +0000 Amy 1708661@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Anna, your future is not a bleak one. It may seem that way right now, but you've got a lot of great friends (if I don't say so myself) who will be around to celebrate the good things in life and support you through the hard things. I can't tell you how grateful I've been for your friendship during these past couple of years when everything seemed terrible to me, but you and others kept me going and things look better now.</p> <p>If you want a new hobby, I can teach you to sew! :)</p> <p>Love you, girl!</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/readjusting-my-mental-attitude#post-1708465 Fri, 05 Aug 2016 11:38:45 +0000 Style Fan 1708465@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Anna I have always loved your style.&nbsp; You have a great fashion sense.&nbsp; I am sorry to hear about the laundry accident.&nbsp; How awful.&nbsp; You have so much to deal with right now.&nbsp; Clothing is such a great creative outlet and now it is causing frustration.&nbsp; <br />Lots of suggestions here.&nbsp; Have you considered having clothing made?&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/readjusting-my-mental-attitude#post-1708444 Fri, 05 Aug 2016 10:56:10 +0000 Inge 1708444@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Anna, I've no doubt you'll find those pieces you mentioned above. It may take a bit longer than usual, but you'll get there (and please shout if you need help looking).<br />Your legs are KILLER, and so is the rest of you, really!!! (and yes, life is complicated enough already to let the extra weight get you down - *hugs*).</p> <p>And oh boy, so sorry to hear about that laundry accident, grrrrmmbbl -(( </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/readjusting-my-mental-attitude#post-1708439 Fri, 05 Aug 2016 10:45:43 +0000 Ledonna N. 1708439@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hey Anna, I hear you I was a size 8 for most of my military career and because of the way muscle mass formed on my body. I was still considered overweight. I had to maintain that size and get measured and taped to show I had very little body fat.</p> <p>Leaving the service. I gained weight went from a 8 to an 18. Where I currently am. My body does so much for me. I know you like high end items or specific looks. Have you considered having items custom made.?</p> <p>My Wadrobe is expanding with them. I see a piece I like then I have it made. Well now. Just a thought. I'm sorry to hear about your laundry. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/readjusting-my-mental-attitude#post-1708392 Fri, 05 Aug 2016 05:41:43 +0000 Gigi 1708392@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so sorry that you're going through this, Anna. You get such joy out of wearing clothing that really expresses your style. It must feel like starting from scratch if most of your wardrobe isn't fitting and you can't find what you need at your favorite labels.</p> <p>Whatever you do find, make sure you get something that shows off those legs. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/readjusting-my-mental-attitude#post-1708385 Fri, 05 Aug 2016 04:50:56 +0000 Jenava 1708385@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Laundry saga: &nbsp;Anna was without a washer and dryer for faaaar too long, and at one point recently, she accidentally left a load of tops in the washer at the laundrymat. &nbsp;I guess the people there dried them for her on low, but most of it shrank. &nbsp;This is what I've surmised....she can fill in the specifics. &nbsp;Oh, and she finally has a washer and dryer....she purchased a new set back in May, finally has it installed just now! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/readjusting-my-mental-attitude#post-1708364 Fri, 05 Aug 2016 03:07:05 +0000 Bijou 1708364@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Anna you style and wit shines through in everything that you do. YLF always. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/readjusting-my-mental-attitude#post-1708334 Fri, 05 Aug 2016 02:18:30 +0000 Sara L. 1708334@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You've received some good advice here and I hope you find some interesting fun pieces soon. &nbsp;Did any of your tops survive? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/readjusting-my-mental-attitude#post-1708306 Fri, 05 Aug 2016 01:18:34 +0000 Angie 1708306@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>(I missed the laundry saga. What happened?)</p> <p>Anna, I've seen you recently, and you are no less stylish than before. In fact, I think you're more jolly and smiley than I have ever seen you!<b>&nbsp;</b><b>I LOVE THAT</b>. Remember that style is from the inside out, and you have that covered. You have also been blessed with a positive body image. ROCK ON.</p> <p>Practically, I'd like to offer an extra thumbs up for COS, Violetta, Navabi, and ordering online. </p> <p>My yoga invitation is an open one, and I hope that steroid injection has kicked in. Much love to you. &nbsp;&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/readjusting-my-mental-attitude#post-1708301 Fri, 05 Aug 2016 01:07:56 +0000 Suz 1708301@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Anna, I am totally on Gaylene's page with this. She hit it on the head. I'm so sorry you are dealing with this on top of other family crap. I believe Violeta etc. might be a good source for essentials and simple backbone stuff. But I just know you'll find your statement pieces elsewhere, I hope from great designers up to the challenge of creating beautiful clothes for all bodies. And DKNY is brilliant, too.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/readjusting-my-mental-attitude#post-1708282 Fri, 05 Aug 2016 00:30:17 +0000 annagybe 1708282@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I've been trolling through many many sites, including the ones listed in your roundup Inge.<br /> I really don't want a whole lot as my social life isn't what it once was and the future is bleak. A few dresses for the opera, etc. probably two would suffice. I'd love something like that Coach dress I posted a while back, but haven't found anything.<br /> Maybe a pair of jeans.<br /> I do need more tops after the great laundry saga of summer 2016.<br /> And a few jackets. All my leather motos are too small.<br /> I'm honestly trying to not beat myself up over the weight, because of everything that is going on in my life. I'm still a true hourglass, just fluffier. I still have awesome legs.<br /> DKNY fit me pretty well at this size back in 2008, hopefully fit will be similar. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/readjusting-my-mental-attitude#post-1708239 Thu, 04 Aug 2016 22:19:50 +0000 Inge 1708239@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>ETA: I'm also keeping an eye on the brands &amp; websites I collected for Link Love last week:<br /><a href="http://youlookfab.com/2016/07/28/link-love-in-between-plus-sizes-in-2016/" rel="nofollow">http://youlookfab.com/2016/07/.....s-in-2016/</a> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/readjusting-my-mental-attitude#post-1708237 Thu, 04 Aug 2016 22:17:28 +0000 chewyspaghetti 1708237@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have lived right on that cusp my whole life....literally since high school. Even when I had lost 70 pounds and was at my skinniest I was sized out of a lot of brands. Now I'm sized out of the plus size lines that worked for me when I was a little heavier. It's frustrating that this is the most common size range for American women, but it's the most under represented in manufacturing. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/readjusting-my-mental-attitude#post-1708236 Thu, 04 Aug 2016 22:16:26 +0000 Inge 1708236@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I hear you, Anna, and I completely understand as I'm in the same boat (highest weight I've ever been, and mostly size 14 now (sometimes 16), so sized out of stuff I love pretty often too). I know it's even harder for you to find what you want as your style is more avant-garde and experimental than mine.</p> <p>I like what Gaylene says, it will take more time and effort, but will be worth it because you like one-of-a-kind items.</p> <p>More "mainstream", in addition to Asos Curve and Violeta, I've just looked at some sites and searched for sizes 12, 14, XL... I didn't really filter on styles, brands etc. because I just wanted to see what they have in these sizes ... so you will see a lot of stuff that is definitely not you, but there are some interesting things on all these websites, so I think they are still worth checking out regularly to see what they come up with.</p> <p>- <a href="http://www.allsaints.com/women/dresses/allsaints-lin-dress/?colour=5&amp;category=490" rel="nofollow">All Saints</a><br />- <a href="http://us.topshop.com/en/tsus/category/clothing-70483/xl/12/14/N-azcZdvkZdv4Zdv6Zdgm?Nrpp=20&amp;siteId=%2F13052&amp;No=0" rel="nofollow">Topshop</a><br />- <a href="http://www.barneys.com/barneys-new-york/women/clothing#prefn1=productAccess&amp;prefn2=size&amp;sz=1323&amp;prefv1=isPublic&amp;prefv2=14%20US&amp;pageviewchange=true" rel="nofollow">Barneys</a><br />- <a href="http://www.bergdorfgoodman.com/Categories/Shop-All-Designer/cat441206_cat000009_cat000002/c.cat#userConstrainedResults=true&amp;refinements=4294966680,4294965120,4294947234,4294947137&amp;page=1&amp;pageSize=120&amp;sort=PCS_SORT&amp;definitionPath=/nm/commerce/pagedef_rwd/template/EndecaDriven&amp;onlineOnly=instore&amp;allStoresInput=false&amp;rwd=true&amp;catalogId=cat441206&amp;selectedRecentSize=&amp;activeFavoriteSizesCount=4&amp;activeInteraction=true" rel="nofollow">Bergdorf Goodman</a><br />- <a href="http://www.matchesfashion.com/us/womens/shop/clothing?q=%3A%3AclothesSize%3A10006" rel="nofollow">Matches Fashion</a><br />- <a href="http://www.neimanmarcus.com/All-Apparel/cat58290731_cat17740747_cat000001/c.cat#userConstrainedResults=true&amp;refinements=4294966032,4294965940,4294965753,4294965632&amp;page=1&amp;pageSize=120&amp;sort=PCS_SORT&amp;definitionPath=/nm/commerce/pagedef_rwd/template/EndecaDrivenHome&amp;locationInput=&amp;radiusInput=100&amp;onlineOnly=instore&amp;allStoresInput=false&amp;rwd=true&amp;catalogId=cat58290731&amp;selectedRecentSize=&amp;activeFavoriteSizesCount=0&amp;activeInteraction=true" rel="nofollow">Neiman Marcus</a><br />- <a href="https://www.net-a-porter.com/us/en/d/Shop/Clothing/All?pn=1&amp;npp=60&amp;image_view=product&amp;sizefilter=00007_XL_Sport;00007_XL_Lingerie;00007_XL_Clothing;00008_XXL_Clothing" rel="nofollow">Net-a-Porter</a><br />- <a href="https://www.shopbop.com/clothing/br/v=1/2534374302155112.htm" rel="nofollow">Shopbop</a><br />- <a href="http://www.thecorner.com/be/women/clothing/#{%22ytosQuery%22:%22true%22,%22department%22:%22tcreadytowearw%22,%22gender%22:%22D%22,%22brand%22:%22%22,%22macro%22:%22%22,%22micro%22:%22%22,%22site%22:%22%22,%22season%22:%22%22,%22section%22:%22%22,%22color%22:%22%22,%22size%22:[%226%22,%227%22],%22yurirulename%22:%22searchwithdepartment%22,%22productsPerPage%22:%2260%22,%22textSearch%22:%22%22,%22page%22:1,%22sortRule%22:%22%22,%22totalPages%22:%2219%22}" rel="nofollow">The Corner</a><br />- <a href="http://www1.bloomingdales.com/shop/womens-apparel/sweaters/Rtw_clothing_size_t,Productsperpage/14%252C%20L|16%252C%20XL,180?id=12374" rel="nofollow">Bloomingdale's</a><br />- <a href="http://www.whistles.com/women/clothing/#prefn1=size&amp;prefv1=14" rel="nofollow">Whistles</a><br />- <a href="http://www.selfridges.com/US/en/cat/womens/clothing/size-14/size-16/size-l2dxl/size-xl/?browsing_country=US&amp;currency=USD&amp;language=en&amp;pn=1&amp;ppp=180" rel="nofollow">Selfridges</a><br />- <a href="http://www.saksfifthavenue.com/Women-s-Apparel/shop/_/N-52flogZ1z12p09Z1z12p4cZ1z12p6wZ1z12p62/Ne-6lvnb5?FOLDER%3C%3Efolder_id=2534374306418048" rel="nofollow">Saks Fifth Avenue</a><br />- <a href="https://www.theoutnet.com/en-US/Shop/Clothing?clothingSizeFilter=128;256" rel="nofollow">The Outnet</a><br />- <a href="http://www.dkny.com/clothing/women/view-all/#prefn1=size&amp;prefv1=14" rel="nofollow">DKNY</a><br />- <a href="http://www.yoox.com/us/women/clothing/shoponline#/dept=clothingwomen&amp;gender=D&amp;page=1&amp;size=6,7&amp;season=X" rel="nofollow">Yoox</a></p> <p>Oh, and <a href="http://www.cosstores.com/us/" rel="nofollow">COS</a>. You can't filter on sizes, but there are many styles that would fit a US size 12-14 well.</p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/readjusting-my-mental-attitude#post-1708234 Thu, 04 Aug 2016 22:07:03 +0000 unfrumped 1708234@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think the idea of a personal seamstress/ boutique us fab. Sure, it woulc be fewer, but better. Some kind of strategic use. What items can be support acts and found in regular retailers, and what items could be seen to order as the outfit- makers? Blouses, jackets, vests, trousers each night be found.<br /> Another thing is that a fairly ordinary style of something-- a simple top in a conventionally flattering style- could be very striking in a special fabric, either luxe, of quirky, or unexpected, or with unusual button or trim treatments, which would never be offered at regukar retail.<br /> Perhaps our YLF sewists could comment. </p>