https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/purging-and-shopping Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sat, 09 May 2026 16:35:43 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/purging-and-shopping#post-653606 Mon, 25 Jun 2012 03:20:54 +0000 Deborah 653606@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Jayne everything here looks like you. Well done. You must have quite a sense of accomplishment with your wardrobe success. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/purging-and-shopping#post-653310 Sun, 24 Jun 2012 15:54:16 +0000 mrseccentric 653310@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>i agree with AJ: "But when you spend months purging and retrying and hacking to make those 'good enough' purchases work, you really realize what a waste it was to accept them in the first place."</p> <p>hard learned wisdom. But once you learn it, the fun begins!</p> <p>re: people getting the clothing thing 'figured out' and moving onto other pursuits. This definitely happens. However, there are others of us out there who have been fascinated, intrigued, obsessed by personal style and how to cultivate an impeccable wardrobe for decades. I continue to find the topic fascinating and still learn new things constantly. I've even learned enough that from time to time i can help others out with my knowledge :)</p> <p>your new pieces are drop dead gorgeous! oh, that belt!! that blouse!!! sigh. enjoy your pieces, even more enjoy knowing more about yourself. Thank you for posting such interesting and wise thoughts!!! steph </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/purging-and-shopping#post-653146 Sun, 24 Jun 2012 06:53:23 +0000 jayne 653146@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks ladies You all are helping cement that this the right way to do it. Which I admit, is like dieting and keeping the weight off, the fear that you won't be able to keep it up when daily life interferes. So I don't feel I can 'relax' yet. Gotta keep working, studying, analyzing, and so on. I see that people who really get comfortable with their styles, tend to fade off from YLF, which must mean that the comfort level gets high enough that don't need their daily dose of support. I assume that will happen to me one day. But I know have have serious mistakes hiding in my closet that I have not posted here. that happens when I don't make myself take a round around the mall before paying. If I walk out of the store, and still want the piece after seeing other stores, then I buy. I even go so far as to take days to decide. Things that haunt me, I go back for. It is risky, but it is much more risky to buy in Norway, where we are not allowed to return things. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/purging-and-shopping#post-653126 Sun, 24 Jun 2012 05:01:47 +0000 AJ 653126@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This is so inspiring! </p> <p>"But when you spend months purging and retrying and hacking to make those 'good enough' purchases work, you really realize what a waste it was to accept them in the first place."</p> <p>Wow! THAT is a big epiphany! </p> <p>Kudos to you for all your wardrobe observations, purging, and discipline! You had a wonderful shopping spree! Thanks so much for sharing. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/purging-and-shopping#post-653120 Sun, 24 Jun 2012 04:47:32 +0000 Anonymous 653120@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Fantastic job, Jayne! You have such good taste. I know you will wear and wear these items and love every minute of it. All those months of SYC really helped you define what it was that you *really* wanted. Good job! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/purging-and-shopping#post-653112 Sun, 24 Jun 2012 04:25:53 +0000 Anonymous 653112@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You are a great inspiration to me!! I'm at the point where I should be holding out for the perfect piece, saving up for the good stuff. I need your discipline. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/purging-and-shopping#post-653043 Sun, 24 Jun 2012 02:04:31 +0000 Transcona Shannon 653043@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What a fantastic accomplishment Jayne! Your new pieces look fab and I look forward to seeing the outfits in action. I'm hoping to get to the point you're at where I no longer buy pieces that don't make my heart sing. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/purging-and-shopping#post-653042 Sun, 24 Jun 2012 02:01:58 +0000 Suz 653042@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Wow, Jayne, this is SO inspiring. You are setting my happiness meter ringing!!! What a wonderful story and such a great testament to the power of YLF. </p> <p>I LOVE these beautiful pieces you have bought and can't wait to see you wear them. </p> <p>I have not yet reached this state of shopping nirvana (the plan continues to elude me) but I will get there! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/purging-and-shopping#post-653017 Sun, 24 Jun 2012 01:10:37 +0000 Mo 653017@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Nice haul! And I can Soooo relate to having half a dozen great pieces in place of 100 meh ones. Isn't it wonderful? Good for you!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/purging-and-shopping#post-653015 Sun, 24 Jun 2012 01:04:32 +0000 DonnaF 653015@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am oooohing and ahhhhhhing over your purchases, esp. the belt. Reminder to self: Cheap belts cannot hold a candle to nice ones; spend more. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/purging-and-shopping#post-653012 Sun, 24 Jun 2012 00:57:51 +0000 Jaime 653012@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I think each and every one of your purchases look great and your focus and clarity is inspiring. I hope you will model them soon! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/purging-and-shopping#post-652942 Sat, 23 Jun 2012 22:23:05 +0000 Tanya 652942@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What an awesome loot! Thank you for taking pictures. The sneakers are not my style, but everything else is, very much so, and I adore all those pieces! You better be careful or I will come steal them at night </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/purging-and-shopping#post-652939 Sat, 23 Jun 2012 22:21:09 +0000 harmonica 652939@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I love the things you've bought! Yes too short summers, but the last years the weather has been very good whereever we have been. Lucky us! My mother says that we are the ones that bring sunshine and warmer temperature, so I hope she is right </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/purging-and-shopping#post-652930 Sat, 23 Jun 2012 22:10:03 +0000 Nadya 652930@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You are an inspiration! What great pieces - I can see you wearing them a LOT. I especially love the belt and the moto jacket. Enjoy your newfound wardrobe wisdom! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/purging-and-shopping#post-652928 Sat, 23 Jun 2012 22:05:25 +0000 Keix 652928@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This is so inspiring! I'm not at the point where I can follow your example yet, but I hope to continually become a more discerning shopper through YLF. I definitely run up against the "good enough" perspective when it comes to shoes, thanks to fussy feet and an uncommon size. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/purging-and-shopping#post-652916 Sat, 23 Jun 2012 21:54:47 +0000 jayne 652916@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hey Tanya, lookee at that tux jacket. reminded me of the #2 you posted without the leather lapels! he he, great minds....</p> <p>No modelling tonight. Bedtime here but I will eventually post them as outfits for fall. Except the shoes, none of these fit into summer time for me and I need to get some use out of the summer clothes I have. Summer is too short here, huh Harmonica!?!? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/purging-and-shopping#post-652909 Sat, 23 Jun 2012 21:51:02 +0000 Tanya 652909@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This is incredibly inspiring and impressive! What a great job had you done. I can't wait to see your new purchases modeled </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/purging-and-shopping#post-652908 Sat, 23 Jun 2012 21:50:29 +0000 jayne 652908@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>pics now added! Color is not good, they are from the phone! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/purging-and-shopping#post-652905 Sat, 23 Jun 2012 21:47:51 +0000 harmonica 652905@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Impressive! You have done an immense job on working your closet, figuring out a wish list, finding out what works for you and why, spotting wardrobe holes AND saving money for a shopping budget! Wow - I am impressed and so happy on your behalf!! Kudos and let's see some pics! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/purging-and-shopping#post-652904 Sat, 23 Jun 2012 21:47:35 +0000 Meredith1953 652904@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I absolutely can't wait to see your new purchases! It's a wonderful feeling to really "love" what you buy and not be just settling. I definitely walk around with a mental "budget" in my head. I kind of go into sticker shock over some of the prices I see. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/purging-and-shopping#post-652898 Sat, 23 Jun 2012 21:37:01 +0000 jayne 652898@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Since I lost weight in 2009 and had to purge and buy, I started tracking my clothes in Excel. So now I can quickly see that in the last year (well 6 months really on YLF), I have purged over 150 items. And these are clothes, nothing small, and nothing like jewelry (which I only recently started tracking)</p> <p>Since March I have really really been trying to use what I own and if it doesn't work one way, alter it to try it another. This with all the regular photo taking, and floor length mirror, have given me a new perspective on what I should be wearing and buying. </p> <p>I have been writing a list for these months and trying very very hard to stick to it, plus with a May SYC, I have kept myself pretty to the list and under control. The super plus was that I accumulated a huge budget from nearly 4 months of 'barely' shopping. Today I got a real chance to use it. My girls were at an amusement park and I was able to shop for about 3 hours. </p> <p>It was a little revolution. First, I have never ever actually had so much money to spend on just clothes. Most of the time, when I do shop, it is with a mental budget but more a feeling of guilt that I really couldn't afford the expensive stuff, so I stuck to cheaper and get quantity over quality.</p> <p>Also, I have always accepted 'here and now' over 'perfect'. You know, I'll take what I find that is close enough, rather than waiting and not finding anything. But when you spend months purging and retrying and hacking to make those 'good enough' purchases work, you really realize what a waste it was to accept them in the first place.</p> <p>So I felt like a new person today. Not only did I buy two jackets that each cost over $300 without batting an eye (well within budget), but I passed by 4-5 things that were nearly good enough. It was hard, it was disciplined, but it was soooooo wonderful!</p> <p>I am sure these two jackets, one perfect white crisp shirt, one fall black bag and a fun belt, will be used and loved for many years. There are no doubts and alterations in my mind for how to make them work. The one jacket, a long tux type, is already styled into 4 fab outfits for fall! It can do no wrong. The others, white shirt and a soft black leather jacket, will easily fall into taking over for other, less fab picks from the past.</p> <p>On Tanya's question on what I wanted for fall, oh yes, I knew because it is on my list. and I know that I have crossed off 4 things that I didn't have to write about, because they are mine already! I am not shopping impulsively, I have a plan, a vision, ad I know what is in my closet and how I might fit in my new babies. Oh it feels soooo good. THanks Angie and all you supportive ladies. I couldn't have done it without you. </p> <p>Just had to share...pictures coming ... (the shoes were a semi impulse.. have been trying to find summer shoes like loafers and such but couldn't decide what I needed, so I fell in love instead with the flowers on these Ed Hardy 'chucks')</p> <p>PS..I actually have nearly 200 left in my budget. But it might just have to accumulate into next month since nothing I found today was good enough! yippee! </p>