https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/please-tell-me-youre-not-doing-this-to-your-shoes Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sat, 25 Apr 2026 14:58:43 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/please-tell-me-youre-not-doing-this-to-your-shoes/page/2#post-1800850 Fri, 21 Apr 2017 18:11:43 +0000 Gaylene 1800850@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Aziraphale, you've articulated my discomfort very well. It's not the look itself--which I don't see as much different than the distressed jean look, frankly--but the tone-deafness of privilege Implied by publicly trashing a item which is out of reach for most people. Even kings and emperors understood the need to restraint themselves from such displays or risk losing their heads. </p> <p>A shoe designed to be worn this way is a different story; like a pair of shredded jeans, I can like it or leave it on the shelf. Same goes for an item which needs to be modified for comfort like cutting the waistband of a pair of expensive jeans to allow a person to keep wearing them during pregnancy. Playing around with less iconic items is also OK in my books--fashion demands, and rewards, that kind of creativity. But I do think there are boundaries when my privileges outpace the majority of people with whom I interact on a daily basis. Flaunting privilege is never fashionable in my books. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/please-tell-me-youre-not-doing-this-to-your-shoes/page/2#post-1800812 Fri, 21 Apr 2017 17:32:24 +0000 Anonymous 1800812@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I don't know -- if someone less-privileged got ahold of pair of Gucci shoes, they might very well wear them with the heels stepped on.&nbsp; I just don't see it as a class thing at all.&nbsp; It's just a way some people like to wear shoes. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/please-tell-me-youre-not-doing-this-to-your-shoes/page/2#post-1800805 Fri, 21 Apr 2017 17:02:00 +0000 Aziraphale 1800805@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>A little more broken-back shoe support! But still an overwhelming no from most of ya.</p> <p>The reason this bugs me so much is that the shoes pictured in that article look really expensive, so the message one sends by wearing them with the backs all stepped on is one of flamboyant privilege. (This is true whether or not they are actually designed to be stepped on). I mentioned this in my initial comment, and Gaylene remarked on it too. It says, "Look, I'm intentionally destroying my lovely Gucci shoes that cost as much as a week's salary for the average joe". I've no problem with people owning Gucci shoes, but ruining them publicly and deliberately shows a sort of tone-deafness with respect to the state of the modern world, in which the divide between the rich and the poor grows ever wider.&nbsp;</p> <p>A kid stepping on the backs of her cheap keds because she's so focused on getting outside to play that she can't be bothered to put them on right, or a woman stepping on the backs of her old house slipper/shoes, is something else altogether. While I wouldn't do it myself, I think it's fine. Though in the case of the kid, her parent will probably tell her off because it's their job to teacher her that you don't treat shoes that way. :-)</p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/please-tell-me-youre-not-doing-this-to-your-shoes/page/2#post-1800790 Fri, 21 Apr 2017 16:32:33 +0000 Lisa 1800790@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Eep! &nbsp;Nope, this is not for me. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/please-tell-me-youre-not-doing-this-to-your-shoes/page/2#post-1800704 Fri, 21 Apr 2017 13:39:51 +0000 Tisa 1800704@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>No, I will not be following this trend. It looks neither elegant nor comfortable in my opinion, so I'm giving it a wide berth. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/please-tell-me-youre-not-doing-this-to-your-shoes/page/2#post-1800702 Fri, 21 Apr 2017 13:32:21 +0000 Nadya 1800702@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I bought a pair of shoes specially designed to be convertible, like the ones in the article. I haven't worn them as mules yet, but now I think I better give it a whirl, just to be contrary </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/please-tell-me-youre-not-doing-this-to-your-shoes/page/2#post-1800665 Fri, 21 Apr 2017 12:23:42 +0000 Jaime 1800665@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I believe this is quite common in some parts of the world and the original babouche house shoe - which I run across regularly - is worn this way intentionally. I don't have a problem with it at all when the shoe is designed to be worn like this, although I wouldn't suggest doing it with stiff shoes.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/please-tell-me-youre-not-doing-this-to-your-shoes/page/2#post-1800623 Fri, 21 Apr 2017 09:37:48 +0000 lyn67 1800623@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hah, maybe it's a great way to recycle my small/not &nbsp;fitting loafers like this!:-) (Oh and OluKai would be the most comfy shoes around the house for my Hubby too-brilliant ideea!!!)</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/please-tell-me-youre-not-doing-this-to-your-shoes/page/2#post-1800589 Fri, 21 Apr 2017 04:49:37 +0000 Maneera 1800589@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yikes! My mum does this though....always has. She finds soft leather shoes and then ruins the backs by wearing them this way. </p> <p>In her defense, mules were NOT easy to find all these years. And she has a medical condition wherein her feet are almost always swollen (actually her leg is from the knee down due to bad circulation) so she finds this comfortable. At least for shoes she wears around the house. Now that mules are easy to find again, I did get her 2 pairs of soft mules she can wear at home. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/please-tell-me-youre-not-doing-this-to-your-shoes/page/2#post-1800564 Fri, 21 Apr 2017 03:14:07 +0000 Anonymous 1800564@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>And apparently I'm way out on left field , according to this blog. &nbsp;As long as I've been an active participant on this forum, I've never seen such a definitive and negative statement made against a certain look/trend. &nbsp;I suppose at some point you will reach the point where the point of view of a blog doesn't jive with yours, &nbsp;and you move on. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/please-tell-me-youre-not-doing-this-to-your-shoes/page/2#post-1800451 Thu, 20 Apr 2017 21:28:34 +0000 Anonymous 1800451@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yup - everyone has , and is entitled to her own opinion &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/please-tell-me-youre-not-doing-this-to-your-shoes/page/2#post-1800428 Thu, 20 Apr 2017 20:23:49 +0000 Jane 1800428@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It's a marmite reaction! This doesn't make sense to me to do this to lovely shoes.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/please-tell-me-youre-not-doing-this-to-your-shoes/page/2#post-1800418 Thu, 20 Apr 2017 20:12:31 +0000 Aziraphale 1800418@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yes, I know that some of these shoes are designed to be folded down, but I bet they still get wrecked really easily. And even if they don't, I still think it's a goofy look. Why not just wear mules?&nbsp; </p> <p>(@LisaP -- yet again we differ in opinion over shoes. I still think my rainbow puke running shoes are the ugliest things ever!) ;-P</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/please-tell-me-youre-not-doing-this-to-your-shoes/page/2#post-1800406 Thu, 20 Apr 2017 20:00:21 +0000 Anonymous 1800406@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I can't believe people do that. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/please-tell-me-youre-not-doing-this-to-your-shoes/page/2#post-1800393 Thu, 20 Apr 2017 19:48:18 +0000 Angie 1800393@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm going to be very succinct about it. I don't find this trend cute, fun or comfortable. Wear a mule instead of ruining the backs of your shoes.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/please-tell-me-youre-not-doing-this-to-your-shoes/page/2#post-1800389 Thu, 20 Apr 2017 19:29:24 +0000 minimalist 1800389@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Or, what Susie said! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/please-tell-me-youre-not-doing-this-to-your-shoes/page/2#post-1800388 Thu, 20 Apr 2017 19:28:53 +0000 minimalist 1800388@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Mr Maximal has these casual house shoes. Despite his initial aversion to the flipped-down option, now wears them both ways.<br /> <a href="http://shop.nordstrom.com/s/olukai-moloa-slip-on-men/3072420?origin=category-personalizedsort&#038;fashioncolor=BLACK%20OLIVE%2F%20SEAL%20BROWN" rel="nofollow">http://shop.nordstrom.com/s/ol.....AL%20BROWN</a></p> <p>Picture won't attach, hmmph. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/please-tell-me-youre-not-doing-this-to-your-shoes/page/2#post-1800387 Thu, 20 Apr 2017 19:24:27 +0000 Susie 1800387@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My husband's favorite&nbsp;casual shoes for summer are Olukai and&nbsp;a lot of their shoes are designed that way so this doesn't look odd to me. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/please-tell-me-youre-not-doing-this-to-your-shoes/page/2#post-1800379 Thu, 20 Apr 2017 18:39:15 +0000 rachylou 1800379@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have babouches from the hipster store. The back is actually SEWN down... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/please-tell-me-youre-not-doing-this-to-your-shoes#post-1800376 Thu, 20 Apr 2017 18:22:32 +0000 Anonymous 1800376@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This makes me laugh - I can imagine it would catch on with the young.<br /> When my kids were in school, they had to wear stiff leather saddle oxfords, and all the girls walked around like that. Then we discovered the secret to softening them up - put 'em in the driveway and drive the car over them a few times.<br /> Hmmmm, I'm thinking of an uncomfortable pair in my closet I should perhaps try that with! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/please-tell-me-youre-not-doing-this-to-your-shoes#post-1800362 Thu, 20 Apr 2017 17:45:23 +0000 Gaylene 1800362@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This reminds me of my reaction to distressed jeans. Still can't get over my feelings of how wrong it is to have someone rip and tear a perfectly good garment before selling it to me at an inflated price. </p> <p>Oddly enough, this shoe thing doesn't evoke that strong a reaction in me. I've seen it around for a while now--and just thought it looked dumb. But I suspect anyone who chooses to do that to a pair of Gucci loafers is sending a rather clear message about how little they care about how the masses might feel about trashing something outside of most people's pricepoint. It's that attitude which I find kind of fascinating. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/please-tell-me-youre-not-doing-this-to-your-shoes#post-1800334 Thu, 20 Apr 2017 16:51:29 +0000 The Cat 1800334@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am not doing this to my shoes. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/please-tell-me-youre-not-doing-this-to-your-shoes#post-1800315 Thu, 20 Apr 2017 16:05:46 +0000 Joyce B 1800315@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I like the Moroccan babouches that LP is showing, in purple of course. If the back of the shoe is thin and supple and made to fold over I don't mind the fold.<br /> I would not ruin fancy shoes by folding them though. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/please-tell-me-youre-not-doing-this-to-your-shoes#post-1800310 Thu, 20 Apr 2017 15:52:17 +0000 K.M. 1800310@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, I had a pair of convertible shoes like this in the 90s!!!!! What moment of nostalgia. I absolutely loved them. They had a wooden sole, were made of brown buttery leather, and had a fold that made the conversion easy. They were comfortable either way and were not ruined or damaged by the fold. The 90s was the time of mules and I loved being able to switch back and forth. </p> <p>Tho I also remember doing this to sneakers because yes, it was the fashion at the time. You'd do it long enough and it wouldn't be uncomfortable. </p> <p>But yes, doing this now to shoes not designed for this purpose--no, no. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/please-tell-me-youre-not-doing-this-to-your-shoes#post-1800307 Thu, 20 Apr 2017 15:47:36 +0000 Christina F. 1800307@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>These are the Sole Society ones. I actually like the look of them, but I wonder about how the back would hold up after being folded down a lot. I also can't imagine this look will have longevity beyond a season or two. So I can't actually see taking the plunge on them. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/please-tell-me-youre-not-doing-this-to-your-shoes#post-1800306 Thu, 20 Apr 2017 15:44:40 +0000 Verdy 1800306@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I suspect it could be a health and safety risk too... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/please-tell-me-youre-not-doing-this-to-your-shoes#post-1800303 Thu, 20 Apr 2017 15:42:08 +0000 Anonymous 1800303@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This looks so uncomfortable. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/please-tell-me-youre-not-doing-this-to-your-shoes#post-1800300 Thu, 20 Apr 2017 15:28:59 +0000 Anonymous 1800300@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It's just another look.&nbsp; People do all kinds of things with their stuff.&nbsp; Why have a fit over it? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/please-tell-me-youre-not-doing-this-to-your-shoes#post-1800297 Thu, 20 Apr 2017 15:24:49 +0000 cindysmith 1800297@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you, LaPedestrienne, I was going to say something about how I've been wanting a pair of babouches from Etsy. Which is weird, because as much as I love the idea of mules (and the look), the reality is that I hate having to use my toes to pinch the shoes so they stay on my feet. But I really really really want a pair of babouches.</p> <p>But I would never smoosh down normal shoes and walk on the backs of them. Only babouches. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/please-tell-me-youre-not-doing-this-to-your-shoes#post-1800274 Thu, 20 Apr 2017 14:55:02 +0000 Angie 1800274@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I had the same reaction, E. Especially when I saw the Gucci shoes. Sacrilege.&nbsp; </p>