https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/pause-in-the-midst-of-chaos Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sun, 19 Apr 2026 18:50:02 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/pause-in-the-midst-of-chaos/page/2#post-2134082 Fri, 17 Jul 2020 20:15:31 +0000 karen13 2134082@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>LeDonna - I am not on YLF much these days, and rarely see off topic - so just saw this. I'm overjoyed to see you post, and so saddened by our shared fear and your additional burdens. I was just wondering how you two are doing. Much love and support to you and your precious unicorn girl. Thank you for sharing your photos and world. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/pause-in-the-midst-of-chaos/page/2#post-2127339 Sun, 14 Jun 2020 03:18:04 +0000 Jennifer 2127339@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>LeDonna! I'm not on here much, but whenever I browse through YLF, I always look for an update from you. I couldn't be more overjoyed, first off, to hear how much mobility Zi has recovered! You two have been through so very much, topped off by the additional heartbreaking upheavals of this year, where each day seems like the worst news day ever! Day after day. Knowing you two are hanging in there makes me feel a whole lot better. BIG squeezy hugs to you both and please keep us posted. xoxoxo </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/pause-in-the-midst-of-chaos/page/2#post-2125730 Sat, 06 Jun 2020 15:23:03 +0000 JAileen 2125730@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I’m sorry you’re going to have to have the talk with your darling little daughter some day. &nbsp;Until cameras in phones became common, and we saw all the videos, we had no idea!!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/pause-in-the-midst-of-chaos/page/2#post-2125510 Fri, 05 Jun 2020 14:51:58 +0000 Anonymous 2125510@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you for all the beautiful photos and your beautifully written post<br />You create such a presence even on this flat page, so kind and full of feeling. You are full of courage and it's a privilege and inspiration to read your words.</p> <p>I love especially number 6, in the others the view is from the photographers perspective, in 6 we are almost there with you and your beautiful brave girl. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/pause-in-the-midst-of-chaos/page/2#post-2125502 Fri, 05 Jun 2020 14:15:52 +0000 Janet 2125502@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am late seeing this thread, but what a relief and joy that Zi’Joy is doing so much better! She is precious and you are a fierce and wonderful mama. </p> <p>The protests have been a long time coming. Real change needs to happen. Any words I summon feel inadequate, and I know that I cannot truly understand all the anguish, but I am working on learning more every day to be a better ally. </p> <p>I want you to be able to take that trip with your daughter some day. I’ve done a very similar trip — almost 10 years ago, solo in a little teardrop trailer, camping and hiking and taking pictures every day, and it was one of the best experiences of my life. I will work and fight and pray for the day when you can do the same, free of fear. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/pause-in-the-midst-of-chaos/page/2#post-2125496 Fri, 05 Jun 2020 13:57:29 +0000 Bijou 2125496@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>LeDonna - I hope the turmoil that we find ourselves in today lead to lasting change where Zi'Joy will never be fearful or discriminated against. Change is achievable. </p> <p>Thankyou for the uplifting post, it is great to see Zi'Joy back on her feet again. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/pause-in-the-midst-of-chaos/page/2#post-2125432 Fri, 05 Jun 2020 03:08:32 +0000 Leslie 2125432@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Love to you and little-but-fierce Zi'Joy. I would wrap you in bubble wrap if I could and if I thought it would help. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/pause-in-the-midst-of-chaos/page/2#post-2125427 Fri, 05 Jun 2020 02:41:01 +0000 Debbie 2125427@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>LeDonna I haven’t read the other comments because I waned to write mine before I did. You continue to amaze me. Covid was not easy to navigate with any special needs person in your life. It added another layer of concern and fear.</p> <p>I have no words to describe the fear I feel for you and all black people right now. I want to be part of the solution not part of the problem. I have talked extensively with my Grandson about what is going on. I encourage him to ask questions and to be aware of what challenges his black friends and classmates face. </p> <p>I hope this world unites and becomes a better place for our children and grandchildren.</p> <p>I also hope my ramblings make some sense. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/pause-in-the-midst-of-chaos/page/2#post-2125407 Thu, 04 Jun 2020 23:14:03 +0000 Barbara Diane 2125407@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So glad to hear from you and about you and Zi’Joy. I’d been thinking about you two. Still shocked about her diagnosis, so pleased about her progress. Stay safe. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/pause-in-the-midst-of-chaos/page/2#post-2125370 Thu, 04 Jun 2020 18:45:18 +0000 Laurie 2125370@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you for sharing the amazing progress your baby is achieving - a real and needed ray of hope. May her recovery continue and be complete.<br />May our country - and this world - right themselves in time for Zi'Joy to have a safe, equal, full life.</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/pause-in-the-midst-of-chaos/page/2#post-2125319 Thu, 04 Jun 2020 13:01:42 +0000 nemosmom 2125319@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You are such an inspiration, LaDonna. Thank you for sharing yourself and sweet Zi with us. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/pause-in-the-midst-of-chaos/page/2#post-2125274 Thu, 04 Jun 2020 02:57:00 +0000 Jaime 2125274@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You are the champions. I hope ZJ grows up in a better world. She deserves it. We all do. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/pause-in-the-midst-of-chaos#post-2125244 Wed, 03 Jun 2020 23:08:40 +0000 Kate 2125244@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It's so good to hear from you, LeDonna. Just today I was thinking of you and Zi'Joy, and checked up on Instagram and the MidLife Melanin Mama's page to see how you were doing. The images of you and Zi'Joy always make me smile, and your fight against AFM has been truly inspiring, as is your little warrior princess.</p> <p>Then I came to off topic, and here you are, checking in with us. I'm heartsick over what is happening in our country, but I am heartened by seeing so many people surging into the streets of my city, Washington, DC, and others across the nation, peacefully protesting. I am hopeful that we will see a new day dawn across America where #blacklivesmatter in truth. When we won't need a hashtag to remind us, when black women and men who live their lives with a constant flicker of fear that others never experience will live to see that flicker extinguished. We all have a role to play in creating that America. Much love to you and Zi'Joy. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/pause-in-the-midst-of-chaos#post-2125185 Wed, 03 Jun 2020 16:05:44 +0000 Synne 2125185@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Happy to hear your little princess is doing so well!! What a blessing. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/pause-in-the-midst-of-chaos#post-2125152 Wed, 03 Jun 2020 13:25:36 +0000 avicennia 2125152@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Dear Donna —<br /> I’m so glad to hear that Zi’Joy is 90%. What a beautiful miracle! I’d been wondering about you two!<br /> It’s unacceptable that you felt more respected and safer in the military than in civilian life. My brother served an African-American general for several years and says the change in how the general was treated in and out of uniform was astounding. #BlackLivesMatter.<br /> As a Latina, I’m not surprised, but nonetheless devastated by how “Rona” has widely revealed the fault lines in our country—with Black, Latino and Native peoples experiencing the brunt of the pandemic.<br /> On another note, you and I have the same dream. I’m a single mom in my 40s with a school-age daughter and would love to camp across the country. As I child I used to camp every summer with my Anglo grandparents. I want my daughter to have the same experience. We are thinking a trained protector dog might be a good companion. Perhaps someday we could make a caravan of single moms and daughters?!<br /> Sending you and Zi’Joy continued thoughts of health and energy! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/pause-in-the-midst-of-chaos#post-2125143 Wed, 03 Jun 2020 12:19:00 +0000 RobinF 2125143@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you for the update, I’m so happy to hear how well Zi’Joy is doing!</p> <p>Regarding the protests, everyone has said it so well but I would just add that it is painful that we are still dealing with this after so many years and so many still refuse to see. I can only imagine how difficult it is for you on a daily basis. You are an example to us of grace and wisdom. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/pause-in-the-midst-of-chaos#post-2125141 Wed, 03 Jun 2020 11:58:32 +0000 Anonymous 2125141@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So happy to see her recovery! What wonderful pics of you two :)<br /> It breaks my heart to think of you living in fear. It breaks my heart that this keeps happening. At least this time the cops have some punishment. Not enough of course. I remember being so angry that the cops were never punished for beating Rodney King. It was just incomprehensable.<br /> Black Lives Matter!!!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/pause-in-the-midst-of-chaos#post-2125137 Wed, 03 Jun 2020 11:06:27 +0000 Sal 2125137@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am pleased you posted - and delighted to Zi’ Joy jumping with her beautiful strong Mama. You are the best role model to her. </p> <p>I am so sad about where the US is right now with treatment of black people. I wish that Black Mums didn’t have to worry about the safety of their children in everyday life. I hope that through courage and commitment this can change. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/pause-in-the-midst-of-chaos#post-2125129 Wed, 03 Jun 2020 08:30:28 +0000 Style Fan 2125129@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have been thinking about you Donna and sweet Zi'Joy.&nbsp; What is happening is beyond words.&nbsp; Horrifying.&nbsp; It is wonderful to hear that Zi'Joy is making such an amazing recovery. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/pause-in-the-midst-of-chaos#post-2125125 Wed, 03 Jun 2020 07:30:42 +0000 Jenni NZ 2125125@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you Donna for checking in, I was thinking of you recently. Zi’Joy looks so well! What a blessing.<br /> What is happening in your country is so sad to watch, I don’t know what to say. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/pause-in-the-midst-of-chaos#post-2125124 Wed, 03 Jun 2020 06:04:58 +0000 Zaeobi 2125124@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The pictures you posted of the empty streets remind me of what's happening here in Hong Kong too - first with the protests, then with the virus, &amp; now back to the protests again. </p> <p>Just wanted to say we stand with you &amp; what is happening in your country - even if our political situations are different, &amp; my fear is not the same as yours, I still recognise your turmoil. I'm glad to see you &amp; your daughter standing strong &amp; refusing to let this best you either - I know it's overwhelming to not give in to the fear, but if we do then there will be no one left to fight it. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/pause-in-the-midst-of-chaos#post-2125115 Wed, 03 Jun 2020 03:08:19 +0000 ClaraT 2125115@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The photos of you two lift my heart. She is very very lucky to have a strong mama like you. I very much value your perspective—always, but especially in these tough times. Thank you for posting. It’s nice to hear your voice </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/pause-in-the-midst-of-chaos#post-2125096 Wed, 03 Jun 2020 00:39:38 +0000 DonnaF 2125096@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So pleased to hear from you and that Zi'Joy is doing so well. Thanks for posting all those pics. Zi'Joy is getting so big! Seems like yesterday that you were preggers. I hope to meet you both some day as it looks like my DD has settled in CHI. But who know when it will be safe for medically fragile DH to travel. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/pause-in-the-midst-of-chaos#post-2125092 Wed, 03 Jun 2020 00:14:44 +0000 Carla 2125092@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you for sharing yourself and your daughter. &nbsp;You both are bright lights in dark days.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/pause-in-the-midst-of-chaos#post-2125088 Tue, 02 Jun 2020 23:47:21 +0000 Belladogga 2125088@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It is wonderful to see Zi's ongoing recovery and the joy of your family. <br />I am not American but I am black and I am riveted to the screen, heart heavy, as we watch what is happening in the US... but so hopeful that this might be a tipping point towards significant changes. Oh! We dream and pray that the fear you feel will be but a memory as ZiJoy grows into strong, black womanhood. &nbsp; &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/pause-in-the-midst-of-chaos#post-2125082 Tue, 02 Jun 2020 23:04:30 +0000 Cardiff girl 2125082@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am so glad that your daughter is making such a good recovery but I am so sorry that you feel that you&nbsp;are living in fear.No one should feel like that. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/pause-in-the-midst-of-chaos#post-2125078 Tue, 02 Jun 2020 22:34:40 +0000 Helena 2125078@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You are grace beyond, LeDonna. I'm so grateful you're part of this space and that you share yourself so freely and honestly, and thank you for having me as part of your MidLife Mamas community. So much love to you and Zi'Joy. xx </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/pause-in-the-midst-of-chaos#post-2125076 Tue, 02 Jun 2020 22:08:03 +0000 unfrumped 2125076@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So great to read your post and get the updates and photos. What an difficult time and heartwarming recovery&nbsp; you and your daughter hadwith the AFM--so unusual that most people could not comprehend what you have been through. I pray Zion Joy continues to grow and develop so wonderfully. And yes, then there is Rona and now more senseless violence that no one should have to experience or live in fear of. Thank you for your inspiring words. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/pause-in-the-midst-of-chaos#post-2125067 Tue, 02 Jun 2020 21:24:09 +0000 The Cat 2125067@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have been thinking of you and your daughter. Thank you for checking in. Good to see Zi'Joy jump and laugh.</p> <p>So sorry for all the stress and worries you have had and still are having. When I read your post, I came to think of favourite magazine of mine which recently featured the timely subject of finding relief from stress. Here is the link:<br /> <a href="https://www.jw.org/en/library/magazines/awake-no1-2020-mar-apr/" rel="nofollow">https://www.jw.org/en/library/.....0-mar-apr/</a><br /> It is my sincere hope that the articles will be of help to you, as they have been to me and many others. </p> <p>As you probably know, the Bible provides a secure hope of a happy future with peace between all humans. Our loving Creator is a reliable Source of comfort and strength. As Psalm 46:1, 2 says, "God is our refuge and strength, a help that is readily found in times of distress. That is why we will not fear, though the earth undergoes change."</p> <p>Sending you warm thoughts and my best wishes. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/pause-in-the-midst-of-chaos#post-2125065 Tue, 02 Jun 2020 20:44:37 +0000 slim cat 2125065@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm so happy to see your baby girl doing all those things: swimming, jumping, walking with you, celebrating Happy Birthday!&nbsp;<br />Beautiful pictures - love your matching outfits in #9-11.<br />Stay strong and healthy! Hugs. </p>