https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/parents Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Thu, 30 Apr 2026 10:37:12 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/parents#post-809185 Sat, 05 Jan 2013 02:42:59 +0000 lyn* 809185@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have 27 years of first hand experience at being asian, you know </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/parents#post-808811 Fri, 04 Jan 2013 18:30:30 +0000 rachylou 808811@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hahaha! Crying and eating orange slices! </p> <p>That is soooooo funny, Lyn. You're very good at this Asian thing ;&gt; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/parents#post-808679 Fri, 04 Jan 2013 16:45:38 +0000 rae 808679@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, my. I'm both laughing and hurting for you... I agree that it is a cultural thing. My friend and I would always make dark jokes about Asian mom syndrome. Dollars to donuts she also brags about you to lord it over other moms. When you can't hear, of course. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/parents#post-808228 Fri, 04 Jan 2013 01:22:11 +0000 lyn* 808228@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I already play professional level piano ... but I suffer on the tennis court, so I will spend my hours there crying and eating my orange slices </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/parents#post-808166 Thu, 03 Jan 2013 23:58:00 +0000 rachylou 808166@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Lol. Beer belly! The idea of you having one is hilarious!</p> <p>That's an Asian thing for sure. Born to suffer! </p> <p>I would offer to adopt you, but since I'm Asian too, you understand I'd have to shackle you to the piano and hand-cuff you to a tennis racket... ;&gt; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/parents#post-804390 Fri, 28 Dec 2012 20:13:07 +0000 Stuti 804390@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh lyn.<br /> You are beautiful.<br /> I second manidipa (coming from same Indian background)<br /> That Asian parents have to find something to make us strive for better.<br /> There is NO praising effort.<br /> And also as pp said firm stern line can do it.<br /> 5 years out of residency and 2 kids later my mom can still comment on stuff I can and can't do.<br /> And she knows it doesn't matter any more as I have stopped seeking approval.<br /> And I love my mom to death. And she does too. Haha it's complicated. isn't it always.<br /> So take it with grain of salt and disregard.<br /> It's your life and you are BEAUTIFUL </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/parents#post-804386 Fri, 28 Dec 2012 20:10:57 +0000 Stuti 804386@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh lyn.<br /> You are beautiful.<br /> I second manidipa (coming from same Indian background)<br /> That Asian parents have to find something to make us strive for better.<br /> There is NO praising effort.<br /> And also as pp said firm stern line can do it.<br /> 5 years out of residency and 2 kids later my mom can still comment on stuff I can and can't do.<br /> And she knows it doesn't matter any more as I have stopped seeking approval.<br /> And I love my mom to death. And she does too. Haha it's complicated. isn't it always.<br /> So take it with grain of salt and disregard.<br /> It's your life and you are BEAUTIFUL. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/parents#post-804335 Fri, 28 Dec 2012 18:54:19 +0000 Glory 804335@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am sorry to hear about the hurtful comments. It is hard not to let that take up space in your head and your heart. Hugs!! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/parents#post-804096 Fri, 28 Dec 2012 11:22:21 +0000 ManidipaM 804096@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh, Lyn --- Mochi's SO right about the competitiveness of many Asian cultures, and coming from a different one, I suspect also that the older generations from this part of the world are far more leery of bestowing approval than is usual in the Western cultures. It is almost as though they *must* give us something to strive for, some avenue for self-improvement --- or they'd fail in their duty as parents to help us be 'better'.</p> <p>That said, objectively speaking, you do NOT have a beer belly, or *any* untoward belly-age either. And I absolutely second Gaylene's son's strategy --- polite but firm drawing of lines. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/parents#post-804030 Fri, 28 Dec 2012 04:41:24 +0000 lyn* 804030@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yay! Loved :D</p> <p>*squee* </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/parents#post-803985 Fri, 28 Dec 2012 02:51:03 +0000 pil 803985@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Lyn, add me to the list of potential adoptive parents. I think you're pretty fab. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/parents#post-803927 Fri, 28 Dec 2012 01:13:14 +0000 Anonymous 803927@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'll adopt you! My nieces and nephews would love to have such a cool new cousin! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/parents#post-803832 Thu, 27 Dec 2012 23:01:46 +0000 Gaylene 803832@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'll be competing with Caro for the privilege of adopting you. Raising two sons meant a whole lot of testosterone in our house, so that is why I ADORE my DIL. Another female would make my world perfectly balanced! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/parents#post-803809 Thu, 27 Dec 2012 22:18:21 +0000 Caro in Oz 803809@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Absolutely I'll adopt you but I'm sure I'll have lots of competition:)<br /> Your mum is looking for reasons why you aren't living the life she wants for you imo.<br /> Just remember you are perfect the way you are:) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/parents#post-803790 Thu, 27 Dec 2012 21:53:58 +0000 lyn* 803790@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>My mom always has disparaging remarks about my body - it's either fat or too thin; and I'm never good enough for her. </p> <p>I thought she'd stop after I got into/graduated medical school - she used to tell everyone (including the dentist) I was too stupid to get into medicine unlike my smarter cousin (who got in 2 years earlier than me).</p> <p>Thanks ladies - I think it might be an asian family/competitiveness thing; now that my "career" is okay; she is freaking out that I don't have a partner. Oh well. Moms will always freak about one thing or another.</p> <p>Does anyone wanna adopt me </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/parents#post-803779 Thu, 27 Dec 2012 21:27:01 +0000 Irene 803779@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>i'm bigger than you -not that that's a difficult thing since you are a very slim woman- and peple around me always comment on my body being too thin. I've been told to 'eat more' by shop assistants (selling jewelry). It is offensive, in a way.</p> <p>I wish people stopped commenting so much on other people's bodies, at least in a negative way... I mean, even if it's your mom, that's still not ok and I would politely tell her so. I have done that myself. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/parents#post-803645 Thu, 27 Dec 2012 17:52:10 +0000 Inge 803645@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh no!-((( Parents... sigh... sometimes they just drive you bonkers... I'm so sorry this happened beautiful lyn*. Warm hugs and please know that you always look gorgeous! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/parents#post-803571 Thu, 27 Dec 2012 15:32:44 +0000 Mochi 803571@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Not cool, Mom! You are slim and anyways, elegant and beautiful! FWIW, I'm not Asian but I married into that culture and lived there and have heard and personally experienced a lot...and boy are people free about calling anyone who's not like a size 000 "fat". </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/parents#post-803528 Thu, 27 Dec 2012 13:56:45 +0000 Anonymous 803528@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>: ( </p> <p>I'm sorry she said something so dumb! Big hugs. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/parents#post-803498 Thu, 27 Dec 2012 12:52:33 +0000 Anonymous 803498@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ah! What a blow! I'm sorry. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/parents#post-803434 Thu, 27 Dec 2012 04:27:50 +0000 Caro in Oz 803434@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>These things do hurt. Hope you are feeling better:) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/parents#post-803428 Thu, 27 Dec 2012 04:21:51 +0000 Gaylene 803428@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You can use the same line that my son uses on me when I step over the line: "Mom, that was not helpful!" delivered in a stern tone usually makes me back up quite quickly, apologizing all the while. Just remember that we can all say dumb things to each other at times and you, the gorgeous creature that you are, have the grace to forgive her for making such an insensitive remark. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/parents#post-803395 Thu, 27 Dec 2012 03:32:30 +0000 cheryle (Dianthus) 803395@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Pah. Her eyesight must be deteriorating and she sees distortion that is not there. You look gorgeous and always have. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/parents#post-803384 Thu, 27 Dec 2012 03:10:13 +0000 lyn* 803384@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>So I was feeling pretty good about my weight. And what I look like.</p> <p>And my mom told me I had a beer belly.</p> <p>*cry* </p>