https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/parenting-book-recs Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sun, 26 Apr 2026 11:38:36 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/parenting-book-recs#post-1303496 Tue, 15 Jul 2014 01:04:13 +0000 kerry 1303496@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The Conscious Parent by Dr. Shefali Tsabari. Rocks my parenting world with my 4 year old. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/parenting-book-recs#post-1299317 Thu, 10 Jul 2014 04:48:00 +0000 LauraP 1299317@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>The most helpful parenting book I have read so far is ScreamFree Parenting by Hal Runkel-- it's clear, realistic, and actionable. &nbsp;Easy to Love, Difficult To Discipline by Becky Baily also has some good ideas but her framework is sort of overly complicated-- hard to remember a bunch of acronyms when your 3 year old is about to see if ice cream works as hair gel on her baby brother (it does!). &nbsp;But the ideas are good and there is helpful information on different developmental stages. &nbsp;I have listened to Jane Nelson podcasts and found them helpful, and plan to read her book. &nbsp;One last suggestion-- Christine Carter and Rona Renner had a parenting podcast I found really helpful called Childhood Matters. I also really like Christine Carter's book Raising Happiness-- it's not so much about discipline but more about cultivating optimism, gratitude, etc in our families. &nbsp;I'm right there with you-- we have a 2 year old and a 4.5 year old. &nbsp;It's a circus! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/parenting-book-recs#post-1299149 Thu, 10 Jul 2014 01:13:59 +0000 Gaylene 1299149@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm hesitating a bit here because I raised my boys when parent was a noun, not a verb or adjective. My DIL was recently reading a book called <i>Bringing Up Bébé</i> (by Pamela Druckerman) which discusses a different philosophy of child rearing than the child-oriented perspective that is so popular in North America today. She liked the book quite a bit and so did I, maybe because it closely parallels many of my own ideas as a mother of two active boys. Even if you reject the underlying philosophy that children need to learn how to adapt instead of having their needs take priority, it's still an interesting read and it might be a good counterpoint to some of the other books. </p> <p>My son says he totally understands the power of the "owl" eyes. ;)</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/parenting-book-recs#post-1299110 Thu, 10 Jul 2014 00:34:42 +0000 lyn* 1299110@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I don't have kids, so I have limited advice ... my dad read a lot of parenting books and I remember him using the "must" - so when dad says MUST you'd best do it or else he gets all buggy eyed and says MUST.&nbsp;</p> <p>I don't remember my mom doing that ... *scratches head*; sometimes my dad still tries to use must, but we just laugh at him now (we are 28 and 24)&nbsp;and do whatever we want. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/parenting-book-recs#post-1299099 Thu, 10 Jul 2014 00:24:02 +0000 ironkurtin 1299099@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Penelope Leach is very down to earth as well:<br /><a href="http://www.babycentre.co.uk/c539957/penelope-leach-on-toddlers" rel="nofollow">http://www.babycentre.co.uk/c5.....n-toddlers</a></p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/parenting-book-recs#post-1298775 Wed, 09 Jul 2014 18:06:27 +0000 Anonymous 1298775@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I like aha parenting. Some of the aforementioned books are good but I like the ease of clicking my way to the age/issue I am having. </p> <p><a href="http://www.ahaparenting.com" rel="nofollow">http://www.ahaparenting.com</a> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/parenting-book-recs#post-1298702 Wed, 09 Jul 2014 16:55:02 +0000 eds 1298702@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Another thumbs up for "How to Talk..."! &nbsp;Also, the Gesell Institute has a series of books "Your One Year Old", "Your Two Year Old" and so on that are excellent. The language can sound a bit dated as they were written in the 60's but children really haven't changed much as far as development goes and the advice and information are excellent.&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/parenting-book-recs#post-1297853 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 20:04:23 +0000 christy 1297853@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I found the Love and Logic books to be a very helpful read during those years. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/parenting-book-recs#post-1297255 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 02:21:08 +0000 Helena 1297255@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I love the positive discipline books, and also Alyson Schafer has some great advice; she's a Canadian parenting guru. Good luck! Remember, mother knows best </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/parenting-book-recs#post-1297232 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 01:54:07 +0000 pastrygirl 1297232@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have so many books and haven't read a single one... I did intend to read How to Talk... when my son was 2, and now he's 8! (But it turns out he has autism, and we have home behavioral therapy twice a week.)</p> <p>I think I'll read it soon. I'm sure it can only help. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/parenting-book-recs#post-1297210 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 01:38:45 +0000 abc 1297210@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thank you all! I'm on Amazon now looking at all of these books. Phew. Relief is on the way. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/parenting-book-recs#post-1297199 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 01:19:44 +0000 ironkurtin 1297199@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I also like "How to Listen."&nbsp; It works!&nbsp; Even on adults!&nbsp; </p> <p>Also, in my experience, it is important to remember:</p> <p>- You are the boss in all parental situations. This is not a relationship of equals. It is also not a popularity contest. Sometimes kids don't like doing what you tell them, but oh well.&nbsp; My favorite response is "Must."&nbsp; As in, "I don't want to leave now!" "Must." "I'm not brushing my teeth!" "Must." </p> <p>- Discipline is not the same as punishment - setting rules and boundaries and expecting them to be honored and obeyed is good parenting!&nbsp; A well-disciplined child is a joy.&nbsp; A poorly disciplined one makes friends without children congratulate themselves.</p> <p>- There are developmental stages that may be causing friction. Not every kid hits these stages at the same time, but they do all usually go through them.&nbsp; So difficulties you're dealing with now are opportunities to teach for later - but they sometimes mysteriously go away by themselves or turn into new ones with time.&nbsp; And don't be surprised if you have to teach them again when your kid hits another bump in ego development.</p> <p>- If your child is very verbal, different things work than if they are not.&nbsp; Sometimes kids act out at 2-3 because they can't communicate with words as well as they'd like.&nbsp; In those cases you need to be their words, making lists for them or having them do drawings to express their emotions.&nbsp; Also kids this age love to playact. When my daughter was afraid, I'd ask her what a lion did when he was afraid.&nbsp; She said, Roar!&nbsp; So she'd take a deep breath and roar her way through what scared her. Sometimes being playful helps a lot, at least it did with my kiddo.</p> <p>Just wait until they're 10 and know everything. That's fun, too. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/parenting-book-recs#post-1297151 Tue, 08 Jul 2014 00:05:42 +0000 DonnaF 1297151@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I liked "How to Talk...", but I had/have a pretty easy kid so YMMV.&nbsp; My biggest memories from those "Your Child at ___ (age)" books was that their mantra for age three was, "Your child is not your enemy," and "What worked at age two will not work now."&nbsp; </p> <p>My elderly mother is turning into a willful toddler, so what I didn't get with DD I'm getting now.&nbsp; IMHO, toddlers are easier and a whole lot cuter. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/parenting-book-recs#post-1297109 Mon, 07 Jul 2014 23:02:48 +0000 doubleh 1297109@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I will second "How to talk...". &nbsp;It's not too dumbed down and not totally over analytical. &nbsp;I've found that once you find a book you like, it saves a lot of time to just do further research through that author's references. &nbsp;<br />Best of luck- I was in that stage not long ago- and definitely needed outside sources to help!</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/parenting-book-recs#post-1297106 Mon, 07 Jul 2014 23:00:18 +0000 rachylou 1297106@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have to tell you, I really like <a href="http://drray.com/132-2/" rel="nofollow">Dr. Ray</a>. Dr. Ray says when you've got authority, you don't need punishment. I've found that to be true.</p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/parenting-book-recs#post-1297095 Mon, 07 Jul 2014 22:49:55 +0000 goldenpig 1297095@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm not exactly a guru on toddler discipline, as my kids definitely&nbsp;outsmart both of us! But Positive Discipline and How to Talk are good as well as 1-2-3 Magic and Playful Parenting. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/parenting-book-recs#post-1297051 Mon, 07 Jul 2014 22:22:53 +0000 April 1297051@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Jane Nelsen is terrific! &nbsp;(I should stress that the methods she advocates work very well for typically-developing children. &nbsp;A child with special needs will most likely&nbsp;need a more behaviorally-based system of discipline.) &nbsp;</p> <p>I'm also a big fan of How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk, again for typically developing children.</p> <p>When you really need nitty-gritty&nbsp;help with actual naughty behavior, there's also SOS: Help for Parents, which goes step-by-step through how to use time out effectively. &nbsp;I used to use&nbsp;that one a lot&nbsp;in therapy with parents of young children who were oppositional enough to get sent to therapy. &nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/parenting-book-recs#post-1296904 Mon, 07 Jul 2014 19:09:20 +0000 abc 1296904@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Hello,</p> <p>Seeking the collective wisdom of YLF (again).</p> <p>I'm looking for a book on parenting and discipline and alternatives to corporal punishment for toddler ages (2-3).</p> <p>So far I found:<br /><div><span>Positive Discipline: The First Three Years: From Infant to Toddler--Laying the Foundation for Raising a Capable, Confident Child by Jane Nelsen Ed D.</p> <p>Any others that come highly recommended?</p> <p>Thank you!</p> <p></span></div> </p>