https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/overcoming-your-complexes Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Tue, 28 Apr 2026 15:51:08 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/overcoming-your-complexes/page/2#post-358184 Sun, 29 May 2011 23:28:54 +0000 Barbara 358184@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Isabella, you are so beautiful! Your ears look fine to me.</p> <p>I was a very skinny kid who grew into a flat-chested gawky teen, teased daily by the junior high mean girls. *Shudder* Those were some rough years. </p> <p>I just read all the comments and was touched by everyone's honesty. I don't really like my legs - the shape is nice - but they are pale and I have more than a few spider veins. I NEVER wear shorts and have just recently started wearing knee-length dresses and skirts.</p> <p>Everyone who posts on YLF is beautiful in her own unique way. I am very honored to be here! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/overcoming-your-complexes#post-358183 Sun, 29 May 2011 23:24:16 +0000 Astrid 358183@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I'm really small busted and have wide hips, a round bottom and big thighs. I'm a real pear. In my teens I hated my small boobs and they made me hate my big thighs and bottom even more, because I always had the feeling to just look like my body was made of two halves that weren't meant to be together. And I really hated my hair, because it was wavy, frizzy and did what it wanted. I wore only long skirts because I didn't want to show my legs and only padded bras. I cut my hair short because I didn't know what to do with it and I didn't like myself with the short hair at all.<br /> That only changed maybe two years ago. I have accepted my boobs, thanks to a proper bra fitting wich helped so much. I was really surprised to see myself having real curves in a non-padded bra (in the right size!), even if they are still small. I learned to dress more with my body shape instead of fighting against it and discovered that I could like myself again. I let my hair grow out and learned how to care for curls and left the blow-dryer and brush behind. Now my wild hair is one of the things I like best about me. And the most mind-boggling thing is, I gained 15 pounds (most in my tighs and bottom!) and like myself much better than before. I have so much more confidence, even if I still struggle with myself. I still have to really work on feeling comfortable with my legs showing and on some days I still feel totally unbalanced and think of my two halves that won't go together. But I'm getting better.<br /> My friends help me the most, because they are really the best. They are totally body positive and I before I met them I couldn't imagine such a thing. At the time all the negative talk was totally acceptable and even cultivated, but not with them! They really succeed in making me feel beautiful (and I so want to hug them for it). </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/overcoming-your-complexes#post-358163 Sun, 29 May 2011 21:14:14 +0000 cheryle (Dianthus) 358163@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I just read through this whole thread and find it both sad and interesting how hard we are on ourselves.</p> <p>I often joke about how I am turning into a bird in my old age - chicken legs, wings for arms (you know the upper arm wave thing), and turkey neck. Although there is some truth to it all, I am joking when I say it.</p> <p>When I was four years old, my family was in a serious car accident and my mother was propelled through the windshield. The flying glass hit the right side of my face and went through from my lip to my temple. Luckily I still had baby teeth because they were all knocked out. It was a Sunday night so the ER wasn't prepared for the "business". The resulting scar was pretty bad. They tried to jag it to prevent pulling at the mouth but this left a few lumpy spots and the scar was red. I got teased about it a bit but it was probably better that I was young enough to not have much of a memory of a time without it. Strangely enough, I think I was more self- conscious about my long skinny feet after a friend commented "OMG I didn't realize you had such big feet" when I was about 15 than about the scar on my face.</p> <p>Seven years ago, I had major abdominal surgery and have a scar that my doctor described as sternum to hip bone. It never bothered me much and I still wore a two piece bathing suit. A good friend had a liver transplant the following year and no longer wears her bikinis. I suggested she wear her scar with pride as it was a sign that she was a survivor but she didn't buy it. It's too bad because she has a body that many 30 year olds would be happy to have.</p> <p>I guess I rambled a bit too much when I was just thinking to say that your ears look cute to me Isabella and Krishnidoux, I was amazed to see such a beautiful woman at the end of your post. It just confirms that others do not see us as we do.</p> <p>You are all beautiful women. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/overcoming-your-complexes#post-358052 Sun, 29 May 2011 16:40:52 +0000 rute 358052@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You are gorgeous! No problem at all with your years! I had the opposite problem I became a woman so young and hated my boobs, it's hard to put a bikini and almost impossible to wear a dress with no straps but that was never a major complex, I just learned how to minimize the problem and I'm always proud when I go to a lingerie shop and they never guess what size I'm without measuring! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/overcoming-your-complexes#post-357947 Sun, 29 May 2011 05:57:06 +0000 sophiespal 357947@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I had a painful childhood and teenage-hood. I know lots of people do, but I was extremely shy and loathed myself for much of my teens. I was (still am) very small busted and that hit me hard as a 13 year old girl when everyone was getting a bra and I didn't need one. I also had a gap between my two front teeth that I hated (I did get it fixed when I was 17 and I must say that did help). I have had issues with the following: my cheekbones (too flat), chest (too small), toes (crooked), hair (too flat).</p> <p>It has gotten easier (and this forum has really helped) but it is a struggle. I work hard to care for myself and dress nicely as it really does support my self esteem. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/overcoming-your-complexes#post-357945 Sun, 29 May 2011 04:55:51 +0000 Maya 357945@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>When I was a preteen, I was bullied and teased relentlessly for anything and everything--things that I didn't even realize COULD be unattractive were criticized, every single day. I had major body dysmorphia issues for about a decade after that, and to some extent I still have a lot of inner demons that come out occasionally. Luckily I have learned how to silence them, but it was a very long and difficult journey getting here.</p> <p>The thing that really turned things around for me was going on a study abroad to France. I was surrounded by people who had never seen or known me before, who didn't know what I was like 10 years before, or even 2 months before, and I was getting compliments virtually every day (somehow, the people there were a lot more comfortable handing out a kind word). But, the American students I was with were just as generous with their comments. And I realized it couldn't just be out of pity or insincerity when this many disparate groups of people were saying nice things about me.</p> <p>In my day to day life, I'm pretty satisfied...but yes, there are things that bother me, and I think I will always have some scars from all the cruel words poured on me as a child. But over time, I have learned to be more objective (and any old school YLFers who knew me when I first signed up can attest to that). How I dress played a huge role in that healing. It's funny--once I started really dressing to express myself when I was 16, no one ever bothered me or made fun of me again. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/overcoming-your-complexes#post-357942 Sun, 29 May 2011 04:46:40 +0000 inkstainedwriter 357942@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>This is fascinating. Teasing is a big part of things we struggle with. My biggest weakness is my belly/love handles. I can deal with the rest, but I always feel like there is a big sign on my shirts that says "FAT HERE!" </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/overcoming-your-complexes#post-357452 Sat, 28 May 2011 12:44:29 +0000 Lisa 357452@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I figure I can either live my life loving myself or hating myself. The former is just easier and less exhausting. Plus, the feature we tend to hate most, is often the feature coveted by others. For example, my round bum is my least like part on me. Yet I have a coworker that went out and got implants FOR their bum to make it rounder! Go figure! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/overcoming-your-complexes#post-357417 Sat, 28 May 2011 11:14:04 +0000 Lynne 357417@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>:) I love this thread! Such wisdom from the great gals here....what better therapy could you find?</p> <p>Joy, my neighbour, aged 7, has Aspergers and is a VERY honest little boy. He arrived in my doorway one day, glanced around, and shouted in his best 911 voice, "Lynne! You forgot to clean your house!" </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/overcoming-your-complexes#post-357415 Sat, 28 May 2011 10:59:55 +0000 Irene 357415@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>No, but I actually got a compliment on my KNEES. It was very weird hearing my friend say 'I love your knees!', I thought all knees looked the same, but it seems they don't? </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/overcoming-your-complexes#post-357359 Sat, 28 May 2011 04:03:40 +0000 Anonymous 357359@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Has anyone else ever been told that their knees look like bags of walnuts? Fascinating thread. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/overcoming-your-complexes#post-357238 Sat, 28 May 2011 00:29:42 +0000 krishnidoux 357238@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Isabella, I chime in to say your ears are just like you: so pretty. Your smile is great painter material! </p> <p>How about me? I am physically the opposite from you. </p> <p>Outside, see picture below. </p> <p>Inside, I have always obsessed over my thighs, which I identified as the culprit of all my life woes. Oh, how I longed for lean chicken legs! I always found mine too voluminous. I have muscular thighs on short legs, which, in my eye, makes them look even shorter. It doesn't help that these short legs are positioned under a rather long-waisted inverted triangle body, and are forever pasty white. To add insult to the injury, these whales pour out of very narrow hips. All I wanted to be was the Sophia Laurenesque hourglass, which I could of course never be. </p> <p>Meanwhile I achieved some nice things in life, intellectually, artistically... but inside, I felt incomplete because of how my body looked. I felt perpetually deformed. </p> <p>I was so obsessed that for a while, I drove myself sick. I thought the problem was that there was too much of me. So I starved. I exercised. Too much. And off went the weight. Every time I'd look in the mirror, it was with the impossible hope that, miraculously, "me" would have melted away and underneath, Sophia Lauren's hip and thighs would reveal themselves. But alas,I was setting myself up for failure. Every time I looked, what I saw was me. </p> <p>This obsession was eating my life away, literally. It influenced choices I made at crucial moments. It sucked my energy away. Now I look back and I know that if I had felt more confident, I would have made better career choices. I didn't completely screw up my life, but I know I didn't go as far as I could have. How come an intelligent girl like me let this complex decide for me? Well, life isn't over and now 40 is the new 20 they say.</p> <p>I am fine now, I am proud to say. It took time. I know what my body looks like, thank you very much, and I appreciate it. </p> <p>I still have body related insecurities sometimes, only much, much fainter, and much less often. I deal with them by focusing on taking care of my body instead of fueling destructive hatred into it. And it works. The less I hate myself, the smaller the offending issue becomes. The more I love myself, the more my body pays back with health, energy, feeling of happiness inside.</p> <p>Learning to love yourself and your "offending bit" is not a passive affair. You must work at it, and find something that works for you. Taking pictures of yourself from different angles, decorating you ears with jewellery, exploring sassy haircuts such as this one <a href="http://vanessajackman.blogspot.com/2011/05/violaine.html" rel="nofollow">http://vanessajackman.blogspot.....laine.html</a> (link posted on alreadypretty)... and eventually learn to forget about them. </p> <p>I am sorry, another long post. Couldn't help myself: your question called me. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/overcoming-your-complexes#post-357229 Sat, 28 May 2011 00:10:17 +0000 Marigold 357229@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>*blushing* Ladies, you are hilarious! Tessera, especially you made me almost spit out my coffee at the screen, yes, hairy face and a sticking out tongue would make a lovely face in addition to those ears!<br /> It always amazes me that so many beautiful women have so many insecurities, usually they come from just that: a blurted out comment at the wrong moment (Anne - how terrible of the photographer at the wedding pictures!), a snotty remarks made by kids, even sadder, my friend for the longest avoided skirts and shorts because her mother (mother!) always was pointing out her athletic calves, she got over it but it took long time.<br /> Suzanne- you were such a sweet cute little girl, I wouldn't think twice about your ears - mine looked the same, but then my head grew I guess :)<br /> Sally- if I could afford one procedure, that would probably be my ears! Or maybe a lasik for eyes? Hmmmm, tough choice (I'm extremely short-sighted lol so it should be an easy one ;)). There was a time when I hated my c-section scar as well, it's never healed nicely and it's very noticable. But I grew to think of it as a 'won battle scar' (my daughter was a preemie and probably wouldn't have survived the birth) and a sign of how strong she turned out to be and how it ultimately made me that special person in her life :). So, in the perspective of the other greater things, what's so bad about a little pooch here or there, or sticking out ears... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/overcoming-your-complexes#post-357138 Fri, 27 May 2011 21:31:46 +0000 Sally 357138@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>.....interesting....everyone's ears look fine. I used to have sticking out ears but had them fixed at 16. They were really sticking out.....but thinking about it many years later, I wonder if they would still have bothered me or I would have just learned to accept them. When I see photos of me as a child, I dont think it made me look any less attractive.<br /> And I have shifted on to other things I am self-conscious about....in my adult life it has been my sticking out stomach and since having a baby the flabby tummy and untoned skin from the c-section and pregnancy. Everytime I dress it is the first thing I look at to check its not showing. One lady in a group I used to meet with had a tummy tuck (sounded really painful and expensive), but for a moment I was tempted. But then I thought...no it'll be just be something else before long and so I have to just learn to like it and dress for my body type. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/overcoming-your-complexes#post-356791 Fri, 27 May 2011 13:57:56 +0000 Lynne 356791@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>:D Isabella, I'm wondering how you're going to action Tessera's comments! </p> <p>I too, covered my ears for years (rhymes with tears for fears - how appropriate!). Then DH gave me some lovely diamond studs for my 40th, and guess which body part goes on show now? All these 'imperfections' are part of the big package that is us. </p> <p>Do you know someone who could be considered attractive physically, yet because of their attitude/nature/personality you do not consider attractive at all? I am sure we all do! And conversely, we all have wonderful friends with unique features that, to a stranger looking at a photo, might not appear beautiful, but who IRL we are drawn to because the whole package is so lovely?</p> <p>Team pin your hair up, and show your ears, Isabelle! Thx for posting And for reading if you got this far in my SA! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/overcoming-your-complexes#post-356782 Fri, 27 May 2011 13:46:03 +0000 anne 356782@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Like Elisabeth, I have a very gummy smile which I became aware of on my wedding day when the photographer asked me to smile differently. Talk about bad timing! I felt self conscious in all my official wedding photos and only really like some spontaneous snapshots taken by guests. It isn't something that bothers me now though - I haven't thought about it for, possibly, years. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/overcoming-your-complexes#post-356738 Fri, 27 May 2011 11:43:09 +0000 suzanne 356738@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Phew... I read about your complexes, do a double take look at your photos and wonder where on earth you got so misinformed about yourselves. Ladies, you're beautiful. Uniquely stunning. Isabella, this is especially for you - I'm posting a photo of myself, aged about two.(sorry, I can’t get the photo I want to show on its own, it’s the one in the bottom right corner) Let's compare ears! (I think I win this round!) </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/overcoming-your-complexes#post-356599 Fri, 27 May 2011 01:10:09 +0000 Janet 356599@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>How funny that I started this! I certainly have my share of complexes -- most of them are in the area from my hips down to my knees -- but I am finding some peace with the legs I've complained about since I was a teenager. </p> <p>It's slow going. Running is doing a tremendous amount of good -- not only do I feel better because of what my legs can *do* but they're also looking better than they have in a long while! </p> <p>Let's see, I am also aware of my biggish nose, my very asymmetrical body, my jawline, and my upper arms. But I try not to dwell on any of it, and rather enjoy the parts of me I like.</p> <p>Isabella, I see absolutely nothing wrong with your ears! You are beautiful! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/overcoming-your-complexes#post-356556 Thu, 26 May 2011 23:10:19 +0000 san 356556@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Tessera, you made me laugh.<br /> Hmm, Isabella, you have very nice looking ears. I don't think anyone could look past your gorgeous smile and face to even notice your ears. I would never ever have thought that you would have a complex about them and I'm sorry that you were teased which caused you to have the complex. Some kids just don't develope a censor on what they say until later. Also kids that are teased at home are probably more likely to go out in the world and tease others.<br /> Before YLF I had several complexes, one being the old age spots on my legs, also my big ears and a few other things. One time Angie made a remark that spotted legs were always welcome, and my hair stylist told me that sometimes it's good to have unusual ears when you have a short haircut because it adds pizzaz to the look. My anxieties went out the window and I never looked back.<br /> Through Angie and this YLF group I have learned to appreciate the differences, including mine. It's very liberating. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/overcoming-your-complexes#post-356524 Thu, 26 May 2011 22:35:34 +0000 Tessera 356524@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I took a look at your ears and yes, they stand out from your head, but I would be a lot more concerned about the facial hair and the tongue hanging out... wait... wrong photo - that's your avatar...</p> <p>Seriously, I see your ears and I think... nothing. Then I think: pretty eyes/smile. But I know what you mean - I covered my mouth with my hand for years when laughing or smiling as a kid because of my very crooked teeth. Even after they were straightened it took time to break the habit.</p> <p>P.S. Your pup is very cute. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/overcoming-your-complexes#post-356484 Thu, 26 May 2011 21:44:47 +0000 Irene 356484@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I had a pretty harsh childhood and teenagehood, and along with that came numerous complexes like eyes, skin, thunder thighs (yeah, I don't think I've ever had that but I though I did at the time), big boobs, flat butt... I think I feel better about myself now though. Way better. It also helped that I lost quite a lot of weight and therefore, boob fat, although because I have a slimmer waist now it's even harder to find nice bras. All of them -except for the stupid thighs thing- have happened due to bullie's comments or even friend's comments -I don't know why the last thing happened, maybe they were trying to help? Feel better about themselves? I mean, the one saying I had a flat but happened to have quite a big butt which she doesn't like at all, but anyways-. And, you know, some things you can change more or less easily, like lose weight or get blond hair, but when you have weird unequal eyes and one of them even moves on its own when you move your jaw because the nerves are wrongly connected, you just put up with that because there's no fixing (I have Paris Hilton's weird eye, only I got it from birth, not because I am a silly posh girl willing to get blue eyes duh). Sometimes I feel uncomfortable, like when I eat, because I've had bad experiences of teenagers making fun of me because of that, but after the first minutes, I realize those people don't even notice, they don't make funny faces, and if they DO notice, they are polite adults and won't say anything anyways because they are not perfect either. And that's basically how you cope with complexes that have no fixing. It's that or stay at home and cry your life away.</p> <p>PD: What's helped me a lot too -unconsciously- was my self-portraiture era, while I was trying to figure out how to use a camera and modeled for myself. Sure, when you have 100 photos of yourself you realize you have lots of defects, but you can also see your nice features. And seeing myself on the webcam while speaking with friends on the internet helped as well. I saw for the first time that I had a beautiful smile, which I try to show everybody as much as I can now </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/overcoming-your-complexes#post-356470 Thu, 26 May 2011 21:22:57 +0000 Aziraphale 356470@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well, if we're sharing....I used to have a complex about my gums. (Another very small body part!). I've always liked my smile, but when I was in my late twenties I had to get my front teeth capped and the process of doing so temporarily injures the tissue around the tooth....so I suddenly became aware how much of my gum shows when I smile. It's WAY more than on most people. (You know Sal from Already Pretty? My gums look like that). So I sort of developed a complex about my big gums that took about five years to get over!</p> <p>Your ears look totally fine, by the way. It's amazing what one negative comment early on can do to your self image. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/overcoming-your-complexes#post-356438 Thu, 26 May 2011 20:42:12 +0000 rae 356438@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Shocked to hear you hid your ears for so long... they look completely normal! I have pitted chicken pox scars, a big forehead, and issues with my thighs. Like you, this started with being teased. I do have some very supportive people in my life, but the phenomenal thing about YLF is that the sheer *concentration* of supportive voices can really get through in a quick way. You just can't discount 25 supportive comments as "just being polite" or being "out of pity" like I used to shrug off compliments received in person. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/overcoming-your-complexes#post-356424 Thu, 26 May 2011 20:12:49 +0000 Louise 356424@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Your ears look perfectly normal to me. I had a major complex about my hips and thighsThanks to a bit of YLF support and knowledge I know how to dress them and now rather like my curves x </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/overcoming-your-complexes#post-356418 Thu, 26 May 2011 20:03:25 +0000 Anonymous 356418@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Isabella, yesterday a girlfriend of mine told me about her complex: TO SMALL ears :-). I have known the women for 15 years and I have never notices anything about her ears. After she said it, I have looked carefully and yes, her ears are small. Smaler then mines. Just NORMALLY small. Complexes could be really funny. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/overcoming-your-complexes#post-356417 Thu, 26 May 2011 19:59:47 +0000 rosee 356417@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I have several complexes about my body parts, but as I've gotten older, it bothers me much less. Right now, I'm 60 pounds overweight so I am not enjoying this stage of getting dressed, but even so, I bought some pretty cool clothes thrifting the other day, getting some other stuff on ebay. Still gotta look good.</p> <p>Your ears look fine, can't see what's "wrong". My ears, on the other hand, are 2 different shapes b/c 1 is deformed, but I still wear my hair up to show off my good ear! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/overcoming-your-complexes#post-356416 Thu, 26 May 2011 19:58:02 +0000 Anonymous 356416@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>For me, it was hilarous to read melissa's post few days ago 'What I'm wearing that scares me: tucking plus belt!' I am new to the forum so I hardly know how you all look. So I started to read Melissas post, the long intro about her horrible tights, big butt, unsuccessful attempts to tack... poor girl... At the end of the post came pictures and it made me burst into loud laughter - there was a slim and good looking woman on the picture.</p> <p>I think this forum is a perfect place to find out what is beautiful and what is not so attractive on our bodies. And when there is something unattractive we get directly a suggestion how to MAKE it attractive and beautiful with right styling. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/overcoming-your-complexes#post-356415 Thu, 26 May 2011 19:53:41 +0000 Di 356415@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Kids are such little jerks (which I can laugh about, at 31, but it sure stinks while you're one of them).</p> <p>*I* think your ears are really sweet. Wouldn't have noticed if you hadn't pointed them out, but now that you have, they seem completely charming.</p> <p>It's funny-- what I'm self-conscious about changes depending on the company I'm in. Sometimes I'm self-conscious about being an hourglass, other times I'm uncomfortable being skinny, and I'm generally not thrilled with having such a plain face. I notice, though, that when I'm feeling good about myself in other ways, I don't care at all about what other people might think are flaws. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/overcoming-your-complexes#post-356396 Thu, 26 May 2011 19:35:06 +0000 catgirl 356396@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Isabella! Your name suits you completely. Not only would I have never noticed your ears, but even now that you have pointed them out, I still can't see the problem! You are absolutely beautiful. And I'm not just saying that because it's what you're "supposed" to say in response.</p> <p>I know exactly what you mean about complexes though. My poochy belly is mine, and I've had it even when I was under 100 pounds and very unhealthy, as well as when I was in marathon shape. </p> <p>I too had a chicken leg complex forever, which YLF has helped me to overcome!</p> <p>And finally, I was seriously disproportionate in the boob area. That created issues of self-consciousness and body hatred that I wish I could erase. At least it was not just a complex in my mind; my insurance paid for my breast reduction surgery because of the physical problems I had.</p> <p>I won't get into the cultural issues of beauty here, except to say that some of my extended family in India could be quite harsh about looks (calling someone too dark, too fat, too thin, pretty except for their nose/ears/eyebrows etc).</p> <p>Interesting topic! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/overcoming-your-complexes#post-356392 Thu, 26 May 2011 19:30:18 +0000 modgrl 356392@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I know that when we look at ourselves, we see things that no one else notices....<br /> Your ears look totally normal. </p>