https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/outfit-axiom-thx-sarah Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Sun, 19 Apr 2026 13:09:55 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/outfit-axiom-thx-sarah#post-1989644 Mon, 07 Jan 2019 22:40:12 +0000 nemosmom 1989644@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Your post really resonated with me (WFH mom, lamenting the opportunity to dress up at a job in the city, fellow overthinker). You make a simple outfit really sing! And you look really happy and confident. </p> <p>Congrats on having a great formula that works, and for not letting your questioning and thinking get stuck in analysis paralysis. </p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/outfit-axiom-thx-sarah#post-1989638 Mon, 07 Jan 2019 22:13:19 +0000 MsLuna 1989638@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>@torontogirl: Haha! As someone who formerly worked in the tech industry, I LOVE the software analogy! But I’m so glad you found a way to work through this and reached out to the Fab community for support! It has been at least 3-4 years since I’ve been active in forums, and I remember how amazing this community has been for myself and for everyone else who is looking to refine their style. </p> <p>And thanks for the reminder about questioning. Now that I’ve come back to the forum, I think I may just do that more often </p> <p>So happy that this journey has been so fruitful for you! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/outfit-axiom-thx-sarah#post-1989633 Mon, 07 Jan 2019 21:59:12 +0000 Helena 1989633@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Carla, I'll bring the camambert and prosciutto! :D</p> <p>MsLuna, basically, I've just repeated and re-learned the same lessons on here so often that I've annoyed everyone and am embarrassed to continue doing so Just kidding; everyone has been more than kind to me always, although I do admit to being a bit embarrassed when I find I am learning the same lesson AGAIN!</p> <p>I wish I had some good advice for you - I've come to accept that this is part of the pre-load software I came with - I can choose how to use it, but I can't really uninstall it. So I just try my best to be aware of it, hold it lightly, laugh at my foibles, thank those whose patience keeps me going, and forge ahead as best I can. A healthy dose of self-compassion goes a long way. Accept mistakes - better yet, celebrate them as evidence of movement, which is the best balm for overthinking. And remember questioning is NOT a bad thing - the world suffers from a overabundance of people who won't question their beliefs, so we add something valuable with our questioning and doubt. But continuing to do, even when the mind spins, keeps a lady from getting too stuck. Hope that helps xx</p> <p> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/outfit-axiom-thx-sarah#post-1989630 Mon, 07 Jan 2019 21:49:20 +0000 Carla 1989630@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Let's go to gryffin's for lunch. I'll bring a baguette! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/outfit-axiom-thx-sarah#post-1989628 Mon, 07 Jan 2019 21:48:03 +0000 MsLuna 1989628@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>It made me laugh a bit when you said “downtown Toronto Girl”. I still get self-conscious that I don’t dress like one too despite living and working very close to downtown. </p> <p>That said, I’m glad you found your axiom/uniform. It’s very polished and you seemed relaxed/confident/happy. Why fix a formula when it works, right?</p> <p>You also mentioned “overthinking” (which I do on a regular basis). How do you deal with this when working on your style axiom? I know - loaded question but as a fellow over thinker, I’d love to see how you work with it. I’m working towards my own “axiom” (yaaay, learned a word today) myself but I’m often second-guessing myself! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/outfit-axiom-thx-sarah#post-1989624 Mon, 07 Jan 2019 21:35:51 +0000 Lesley 1989624@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>good idea! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/outfit-axiom-thx-sarah#post-1989621 Mon, 07 Jan 2019 21:29:29 +0000 Helena 1989621@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Lesley, high five to that ... that is me totally ... always looking for the overhaul, when a tweak is all that's needed! Let's resolve to shift that in 2019 xx </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/outfit-axiom-thx-sarah#post-1989620 Mon, 07 Jan 2019 21:27:59 +0000 Helena 1989620@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Gryffin, you are the sweetest and best, and are kind and patient with me BEYOND. This year is the year of 'fulfill' - not ruminating about it, just living it out. I promise I will <b>live </b>my simple style this year with confidence and happiness. If I stumble, I shall come straight to wherever you are and you can give me the good shaking that I definitely need lol!! xoxoxo, with great, great gratitude. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/outfit-axiom-thx-sarah#post-1989619 Mon, 07 Jan 2019 21:26:54 +0000 Lesley 1989619@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Wow, wisdom in your follow-up comment of self-care maintenance when in need of a style boost! I can relate as I am also a WFHM (is that an acronym?) so my closet is super-casual but I decided long ago to still look put together so that I feel my best. But, for example, I spent a whole bunch of energy a few months back trying to find a new hairstyle or think about color or style change, when if I had just gone for my haircut when I needed it, I would have realized that I like my hair just fine! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/outfit-axiom-thx-sarah#post-1989612 Mon, 07 Jan 2019 21:15:51 +0000 gryffin 1989612@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>TG - Honestly, I'm going to come over and shake you!!&nbsp; You always look wonderful.&nbsp; Think of the simplest most delicious plate - ripe tomatoes, fresh mozarella, basil fragrant out of the garden and a drizzle of balsamic vinegar.&nbsp; Perfect only when each ingredient is perfect and in its simplicity divine, ambrosial, decadent.&nbsp; That is the challenge of minimalist dressing.&nbsp; Best quality color, fit, proportion, ease, elegance.&nbsp; But "simple isn't easy!!"&nbsp; It's easy to hide behind pattern, detail and accessories - the simpler the outfit the more right all the elements must be to make it fabulous.&nbsp; You are masterful at your style.&nbsp; I so wish I could make you see that the way the rest of us do!!&nbsp;&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/outfit-axiom-thx-sarah#post-1989590 Mon, 07 Jan 2019 20:20:12 +0000 Helena 1989590@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Yes Carla! It's a whole new fashion identity when you're at home; you've nailed what it's taken me 13 years to work out lol. </p> <p>I'm actually experimenting with some buying limitations this year, NOT for moral reasons but to push myself to turn first to self-care and maintenance when I'm feeling in need of a style boost - as Angie says, hair, makeup and glasses (which I will need this year) - I'm sure many a bad impulse purchase of mine could have been avoided by taking the time to book an overdue haircut or manicure (or just taking the time to style my hair and swipe on a fresh coat of lippie)! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/outfit-axiom-thx-sarah#post-1989584 Mon, 07 Jan 2019 20:04:46 +0000 Carla 1989584@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ha! I'm getting my retirement wardrobe ideas from the YLF MOTGs and Work From Home women, so this has resonance. With a far smaller wardrobe to maintain, my fashion budget is going towards better quality garments and personal maintenance! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/outfit-axiom-thx-sarah#post-1989579 Mon, 07 Jan 2019 19:47:49 +0000 Anonymous 1989579@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>3 feet of snow, how awful karen13 :(<br /> And torontogirl, your formula looks just right to me! Way more polished than i ever am at home. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/outfit-axiom-thx-sarah#post-1989578 Mon, 07 Jan 2019 19:45:30 +0000 Helena 1989578@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh dear Karen!! I do have one strict rule I abide by - never make any major fashion decisions and self-judgments (or at least don't take them too seriously) in January. It's the WORST month for depressing, cold weather, the gray skies have taken their toll on my mood, and spring is still nowhere in sight ... frankly I could live in jammies and sweatpants for the whole month if I let myself lol! Hope you've managed to dig yourself out! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/outfit-axiom-thx-sarah#post-1989563 Mon, 07 Jan 2019 19:14:15 +0000 karen13 1989563@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>As someone who wore my pajamas all day yesterday (to be fair we got almost 3 feet of snow and the interstate was closed for 18 hours, creating gridlock in our little mountain town), I am reading this with interest. Yes to it happening before 10:30, too!&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/outfit-axiom-thx-sarah#post-1989547 Mon, 07 Jan 2019 17:59:32 +0000 Helena 1989547@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Thanks Suz, Angie and Taylor xx</p> <p>Sarah, what I do early in the day makes all the difference too ... and exercising early works well from a fashion p.o.v. as well as a motivational one! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/outfit-axiom-thx-sarah#post-1989536 Mon, 07 Jan 2019 17:39:01 +0000 Angie 1989536@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>What <b>Suz</b> said. You look happy, and the formula isn't broken. No need to fix it!&nbsp;<b></b> </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/outfit-axiom-thx-sarah#post-1989529 Mon, 07 Jan 2019 17:31:04 +0000 SarahD8 1989529@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Well, predictably, I LOVE this, and am so flattered and touched to have contributed to these excellent insights of yours.</p> <p>Pondering my own axiom further, I think there is an element of <i>time</i> that is not a visible part of my outfit but nevertheless important to how I feel. That is, all of this has to happen before about 10 am. (Especially during busy times, it's all too tempting for me to just dive right into work while still in pajamas or loungewear.) </p> <p>The nice aspect of this is that it provides extra motivation to exercise -- if I go to the pool in the morning, I'm already showered and have dried my hair, and then it's just a matter of putting on the outfit I've (hopefully) planned ahead of time! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/outfit-axiom-thx-sarah#post-1989521 Mon, 07 Jan 2019 17:13:11 +0000 taylor 1989521@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Uniforms really work !<br /> You look polished and lovely!<br /> When I was a stay at home mom my uniform was leggings , ballet flats and an over sized jacket or sweater . In the summer it was all about longer flowey skirts . Of course that was the early eighties and never without shoulder pads then </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/outfit-axiom-thx-sarah#post-1989519 Mon, 07 Jan 2019 17:07:16 +0000 Helena 1989519@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Perfect Suz - that one's going in my journal xx </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/outfit-axiom-thx-sarah#post-1989516 Mon, 07 Jan 2019 17:05:51 +0000 Suz 1989516@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>You look really polished and pretty and it seems like an authentic outfit for you. Do you know what Keats said? "Axioms in philosophy are not axioms at all until we prove them on the pulses." (I.e. the proof is in the practical!)&nbsp; </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/outfit-axiom-thx-sarah#post-1989508 Mon, 07 Jan 2019 16:43:42 +0000 Helena 1989508@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p><a rel="nofollow" href="https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/new-year-new-home-for-my-clothes-anyway-and-thoughts-on-2019">Sarah's post</a> really got me thinking, especially with her comment about finding "the simplest possible outfit that will make me feel polished when working at home".</p> <p>I think part of the reason I lost confidence in my style over the years has to do with my lifestyle - being a stay-home/work-from-home Mom, I just don't have the opportunity to dress up the way I did when I formed my style as a true downtown "Torontogirl". At the same time though, I'm not the type to 'dress up' to stay home - I like dressing for my real life, I'm more productive and active this way, and I invest the right amount of time and money when I dress for the life I have. It just doesn't always result in the most interesting WIWs, which can be hard on the ego at times! (especially when surrounded - gratefully and with joy of course - by the fab and the fabber!!)</p> <p>Thus, I am inspired by Sarah to own my 'outfit axiom' - I guess a uniform really, but with a twist in how I understand it - an axiom being "</p> <p>statement that is taken to be true, to serve as a premise or starting point for further reasoning and arguments." So an outfit axiom is an outfit taken to be correct (for me) - per Sarah's 'simplest possible that makes me feel polished', but which can then serve as the foundation to take on further styling and detail, as life demands.</p> <p>My outfit axiom is: tailored fine-knit sweater or striped tee+polished jean+belt+black boot(winter)+studs/hoops+simple necklace+everyday jewellery (wedding ring, watch, delicate bracelet)+blowdried hair(straightened or curled)+mascara+rosy lippie. I'm setting this as the bar, where previously I've been hard on myself and seen this as coming up short.&nbsp;</p> <p>Over-thinking cap still on; one can't change completely! Thanks for reading, and love for you to share your outfit axiom(s) if you have them! xx<b></b> </p>