https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/otylf-greed Style Advice for Fashion Lovers en-US Wed, 22 Apr 2026 23:03:04 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/search.php https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/otylf-greed/page/2#post-599332 Thu, 19 Apr 2012 17:27:32 +0000 morethanbeige 599332@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Big hugs for you and please take care! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/otylf-greed/page/2#post-599323 Thu, 19 Apr 2012 17:07:05 +0000 rachylou 599323@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh buggrit and millennium hand shrimp! Make those in-laws work!</p> <p>Ok. Yeah, I know. But a girl can dream... Feel better soon! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/otylf-greed/page/2#post-599226 Thu, 19 Apr 2012 14:29:23 +0000 JennyAnne 599226@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Just relax and recuperate. We'll be here when you're feeling all better. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/otylf-greed/page/2#post-599217 Thu, 19 Apr 2012 14:13:02 +0000 Ana 599217@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sona, I hope you feel better very soon. Take care! I'm sending positive vibes your way. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/otylf-greed/page/2#post-599214 Thu, 19 Apr 2012 14:09:09 +0000 cheryl 599214@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sona, I am so sorry that you aren't feeling well. You take care of yourself and get plenty of rest. Big hugs! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/otylf-greed/page/2#post-599211 Thu, 19 Apr 2012 14:04:08 +0000 kimlee 599211@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>First off, I am sending you huge hugs. I am sorry that you are having to deal with such difficulties. Second, healing thoughts and prayers are going up for you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/otylf-greed/page/2#post-599206 Thu, 19 Apr 2012 14:01:57 +0000 mscooks 599206@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Awwww hope you feel better soon Sona!! (((hugs))) Ignore your husband'a aunt since she ignores you and let him deal with her, you just focus on taking it easy and doing only the things you want to do as long as it doesn't make you too tired... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/otylf-greed/page/2#post-599103 Thu, 19 Apr 2012 04:45:04 +0000 Scarlet 599103@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sona, please take it easy on yourself! You need to rest and be taken care of. I hope you feel better as soon as possible.</p> <p>VC, under similar circumstances, my stepdad did the same thing with the dishwasher. He also broke the washing machine by overloading it, b ut he got the hang of it Really even mr. Manly men can learn to step it up. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/otylf-greed/page/2#post-599102 Thu, 19 Apr 2012 04:44:49 +0000 anne 599102@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sona, I am praying that you will get better soon. My sister gets anaemic and she just loves having transfusions!<br /> Please don't feel any guilt about not commenting on posts! Just concentrate on getting through this. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/otylf-greed/page/2#post-599093 Thu, 19 Apr 2012 04:23:52 +0000 christieanne 599093@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Adding my feel better soon vibes for you Sona! I hope this anemia can be treated successfully and you can rest a day or so before back to work. Dr. must first heal thyself before she can heal others!<br /> Can Auntie be sent on the town with DH and DD so you can just kick your feet up and rest?<br /> Sorry that is adding to your unease. </p> <p>My DH was anemic following an internal injury and he was exhausted for months - please take care of yourself! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/otylf-greed/page/2#post-599089 Thu, 19 Apr 2012 04:09:05 +0000 Fruitful 599089@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>VelvetyChocolate, I love your post. I know in my head I need to learn this lesson but I haven't been good at practicing it. I love your dishwasher story too ^_^ </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/otylf-greed#post-599087 Thu, 19 Apr 2012 03:53:58 +0000 Janet 599087@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Aw Sona, get better soon! Hugs to you. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/otylf-greed#post-599081 Thu, 19 Apr 2012 03:42:06 +0000 lyn* 599081@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Aww Take care of yourself - hopefully you can catch a nap while you get transfused. Do they give you cookies after? The patients here look forward to it :)</p> <p>*squishy hugs* </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/otylf-greed#post-599066 Thu, 19 Apr 2012 02:33:29 +0000 sarah 599066@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sona, I'm so sorry. Please try to take care of yourself first, and your MIL second : (. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/otylf-greed#post-599056 Thu, 19 Apr 2012 02:20:30 +0000 Suz 599056@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sona, I am so sorry to hear this! I wish we could be there to give you some comfort in person. This is horrible. Please rest and relax as much as you possibly can, and keep us posted when you are able. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/otylf-greed#post-599041 Thu, 19 Apr 2012 02:00:20 +0000 Anonymous 599041@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>OMG Sona, a blood transfusion? Do you need anything? I should hop on a plane right now and give you some of mine! I sure hope your relatives aren't implying that you're *faking* tiredness and giving you a hard time for not living up to their expectations! I'd have a word or two with them, that's for sure. *humph* Then I'd go to the store and get you a big stack of glossy fashion magazines to read, stop by your favorite restaurant for take-out and bring it back to you. Then I'd make you some tea, just the way you like it and plump up your pillows. Oh, and I'd bring you my hot water bottle. It's so comforting! There, there dear. Now you just rest a little while. &lt;&lt;&lt;&lt;&lt;virtual hugs&gt;&gt;&gt;&gt;&gt;Nighty night! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/otylf-greed#post-599038 Thu, 19 Apr 2012 01:58:16 +0000 velvetychocolate 599038@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>No need to reply unless you just happen to pop in here - but did I misread and your appt. isn't until Monday? </p> <p>If that's the case - as far as I'm concerned - it's "The Weekend" and your MIL, husband's aunt and your husand will just have to take up the slack. It might not be perfect, and you might feel a bit funny - but I think it's really important that you just rest up, and put yourself first. </p> <p>I don't know if this helps at all, but I do a ton of cooking, cleaning, all kinds of stuff during the week, but when the weekend rolls around, it's almost like I go 'on strike'. It's not that I'm purposely dropping everything - it's just that I have other work to do on weekends, and my husband steps in and takes over and does all of the cooking, basic cleaning and errands. </p> <p>Don't laugh, but last summer when my Mom was quite sick with a serious health issue, I was up there helping - and I ended up literally ordering my stepdad to do the dishes. He did it. </p> <p>Unfortunately, he did not know how to do dishes properly and somehow ended up putting regular dish detergent in the dishwasher instead of the proper dishwasher soap...hilarious! </p> <p>All of a sudden, there were mountains of foamy suds coming out of the dishwasher and onto the floor. Thing is? He was *determined* to do his part. I guess I'm just saying that husbands/Dads do come through. Even people who don't know how or who try to kind of escape the whole thing - they can and will come through if you insist. </p> <p>My stepdad was very glad to be able to help - he jumped right in and did the dishes, the laundry, asked me what groceries to get and so on. Started cooking and trying out recipes. He wanted and needed to feel useful, especially when his wife (my Mom) was sick. He learned how to do a whole bunch of stuff and I'm convinced that this made him feel a thousand times more effective at managing the crisis at the time. </p> <p>I guess I'm just saying that it's not a bad thing to rely on others, even if it's not the norm. I strongly suspect that your family (your husband's aunt, your MIL and your husband) would *love* to help and feel useful. It's just that we all get stuck in our routines and habits, and sometimes people feel funny stepping outside their usual role/routine. Having said that, I still maintain that everyone really and truly wants to help. You just have to give them the chance, the opportunity. </p> <p>Sometimes, you have to ask. </p> <p>Ask for help. It might be that there will be soap suds all over the kitchen floor and you might have a burned grilled cheese sandwich delivered to your room, but it's a *good thing* for everyone involved. Sometimes people just don't know what to do when everything's gone haywire, and yet - they do want to help out. </p> <p>Just some (probably burned and ruined) food for thought. </p> <p>Hang in there!</p> <p>PS - editing to add: I hope I'm not saying too much here, but in my experience, sometimes people feel a bit panicky and even a little bit paralyzed when things go wrong. Nobody wants to step up for fear of saying the wrong thing, making the wrong move, or possibly stepping on someone's toes. </p> <p>I can pretty much promise you that if you ask - you will be pleasantly (and even humourously) surprised. Your loved ones will step up and take care of you. It may be that they just don't quite know what to 'do' in the situation, and don't want to do the wrong thing. </p> <p>Having said that, be prepared for some really great times - and some fun stories to reflect on later when you feel better. I'm *still* teasing my stepdad about the time he put regular Palmolive dish detergent in the dishwasher. He was all alarmed about it at the time, but in the end, it lightened up everyone's mood. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/otylf-greed#post-599025 Thu, 19 Apr 2012 01:38:40 +0000 Meredith1953 599025@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Beautiful Sonia,<br /> Take care of yourself first and don't divert energy needed for getting well over to YLF unless you think it will HELP you heal. The statement you made about being the "by the way daughter" just really made feel wonder how terrible you must be feeling. Be well soon and we are here and waiting. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/otylf-greed#post-599019 Thu, 19 Apr 2012 01:30:18 +0000 Jonesy 599019@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sona!! My goodness, anemic *again,* meaning you have had this happen before?! How terrible for you! I was anemic after the birth of my first kid, so I know how drained and exhausted you feel. I am crossing my fingers for a swift recovery, and hoping that it doesn't re-occur. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/otylf-greed#post-599002 Thu, 19 Apr 2012 01:09:13 +0000 Deborah 599002@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh Sona, I have never been quite so bad that I needed a transfusion (close tho) but I have struggled with anemia most of my adult life. Do what you have to to look after yourself. This is one of the times where it is ok to put yourself first. We will still be here when you get back:) </p> <p>Just for the record, you have been and are a wonderful cheerleader, crackpot humorist and therapist, definitely a wiseowl and a great friend on YLF.</p> <p>You will be in my prayers that this issue is dealt with quickly. For your little one's sake, you need to make your health and wellbeing your number 1 priority at this time.</p> <p>Sending hugs. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/otylf-greed#post-598980 Thu, 19 Apr 2012 00:37:04 +0000 Jaime 598980@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Please save your strength for your family and patients (more your daughter than your aunt, frankly). You should not even think about cooking right now. My goodness. I hope you manage to get some rest and take care of yourself until (and after) the transfusion. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/otylf-greed#post-598945 Wed, 18 Apr 2012 23:58:52 +0000 Aida 598945@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Ohhh Sona I hope your anemia is resolved quickly! Please take care of yourself first and foremost, no offense to your hubby's Aunt (EDIT: OK a little offense!) but your health is more important than home cooking. As Una said, no guilt! Take all the time you need to recover, we'll be thinking of you and looking forward to when you can slip some time in. *BIG HUGS* </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/otylf-greed#post-598907 Wed, 18 Apr 2012 22:38:18 +0000 missvee 598907@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sorry to hear that you are struggling again with your health. My mom suffered from anaemia for years after she had her family and I know it's no fun at all. Back then they gave her shots of Vitamin B and told her to eat lots of liver (yuck). Sounds like the treatment has improved since then! Try to take go easy on yourself and let the family get on with things without you for a bit - they may surprise you with their resourcefulness. We'll look forward to seeing your flowered pants...they sound very interesting... </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/otylf-greed#post-598870 Wed, 18 Apr 2012 21:47:19 +0000 velvetychocolate 598870@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Oh my goodness! This does sound really tough. I'm sorry you're having to deal with visits from in-laws at a time like this, not to mention feeling like you're expected to still be the perfect hostess. Personally, I think Dominos pizza is a nice lunch for your guests. </p> <p>Ok - it's Wednesday afternoon/early evening, so you only have one more full day until Friday. Please take the rest of today and all day tomorrow "off", same with any time spent waiting until your appt. on Friday. Take to your room - comfy lounge clothes, sleep and rest. </p> <p>Hmm...too bad you're not nearby - I just made a double batch of really good stew - it's in the crockpot, and has been simmering all day. That, some tea and a handy-dandy tablet computer in your room should do the trick, don't you think? Oh, and a pile of the latest fashion magazines too. </p> <p>Do not try and push yourself - just head to your room and get some rest. It'll be ok. Your husband's aunt and your MIL can manage. Really. Oh, and take some snacks to your room too. Just camp out there as much as you can until Friday. </p> <p>Hang in there and here's to feeling much better in a matter of hours now, instead of days or weeks. Friday's not far off now. </p> <p>Looking forward to seeing your outfit post, but not until after you get this sorted and are feeling much better. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/otylf-greed#post-598852 Wed, 18 Apr 2012 21:29:24 +0000 celia 598852@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sona, so sorry that you are not feeling good. Give auntie all the junk food possible, there are times for being a good daughter in law and others to be sick.<br /> Hope you feel better soon.Keep us posted. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/otylf-greed#post-598842 Wed, 18 Apr 2012 21:17:58 +0000 Fruitful 598842@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I hope you get better quickly Sona - feeling like that must be awful, also, you need your strength to be cheeky to that aunt! </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/otylf-greed#post-598829 Wed, 18 Apr 2012 20:46:46 +0000 Louise 598829@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>(((hugs))) x </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/otylf-greed#post-598803 Wed, 18 Apr 2012 20:08:02 +0000 Sara L. 598803@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Wow! That sounds pretty serious! Take care of yourself and we'll all still be here when you get back. I hope you start feeling better soon. I was anemic (although I'm sure it was nothing like what you're experiencing) when I was pregnant and I remember how frustrating it was to feel so tired and drained all the time </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/otylf-greed#post-598801 Wed, 18 Apr 2012 20:05:38 +0000 krishnidoux 598801@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>Sona, hugs to you. You must rest and take forces. I am sorry for what you are going through. </p> https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/topic/otylf-greed#post-598790 Wed, 18 Apr 2012 19:50:02 +0000 Anonymous 598790@https://youlookfab.com/welookfab/ <p>I am really sorry you are not feeling well. Hang in there. As far as posting, I am going thru a stretch now where I don't have much to say, it just happens.<br /> ... Domino's sounds yummy.... Cooking, heck no! Give her the takeout menus:) </p>